my first trip to the mall enfemm

[KIMBER SAND]

would like to obtain as much info on how to dress for my first trip to the mall en fem never been out before dressed enfem am very nervous any help:love:

[JoAnnDallas]

1. Dress to blend in
2. Don't act nervious
3. Act as you do this everyday.

I found that these three things allow me to go out and enjoy myself.

Hugs,

JoAnn

[Baley]

I have been going out infem lately alot. Found out if you act normal nobody really pays attention. Good luck and have fun:thumbsup:

[BarbaraTalbot]

I am in my infancy this way.

Key is confidence. You have a right to be there, you are doing nothing wrong. I know you know this, but subconsciously?

Confidence is easier if you can feel you blend in. A good wig or if you are not bald like I am, a femme hairstyle. As natural looking as you can afford. Hairstyle at least in the range of the probable for a girl of your age (or at least the age you feel yo can pull of. I for instance am pushing it with my wig. It is synthetic, a little cheaper than I would like, and the length is too long and the style too young. There is a school of thought that since this is supposed to be fun, have fun, whether your choice helps you pass or not. I am starting to lean that way a bit, but I took from your question that you are trying to blend.

Close shave and good make-up/beard cover technique. This takes practice or your own personal make-up artist. A wife/ so GG friend can maybe help. Mall is daylight so go easy on make-up. You have to have enough to cover the beard but go easy on the eyes and lips. I love red lipstick on GG'sbut found it looked cartoonish and made my teeth look yellow, I went natural with a little lip liner.

COMFORTABLE (but ~cute~ of course) shoes. Youneed to be able to move with confidence.

Practice smaller steps and slower than you would as a guy. You know when you need some craftsman tools and you have to weave around those packs of gg's in mall? Slow downto their speed.

Good luck and have fun.

[Gisele]

most folks are way too busy to look around them when they are shopping. My first outing I dressed to look good and to be noticed. Nobody was paying me any attention at all. That was a good sign! Think about it, When you are out shopping/eating or whatever are you looking at eveyone around you?

Like it has been said. Dress to blend. go to WalMart you can wear dresses to Jeans to PJ's (or worse) "Nothing at all" Yes, I did see that as I work there. I for one do NOT recommend this approch!!! You will be noticed.

Beth

[shannonsilk]

I'm sure therre are more experienced girls here. i've beenout around 3 dozen times and still haven't been to an enclosed mall. i've been to some strip malls.
i really like to go to K-Mart as a confidence booster. our k-mart rarely has anyone in it and you can gradually get used to being closer to people. plenty of aisles to duck down if you get nervous.i was, the 1st few times.

of course, all the previous advice is excellent.

[zann]

All the replies have been good. Try to look as much like the other girls in dress and make up as possable. yuo don't want to feel like you stand out. Latter you can explore the range of acceptable, which is wide. Confedence will come with time and then when you feel like you belong others will also treat you that way. Mid town Manhatten is very easy to dress in as most people are not really looking at you and don't care if the did "make" you.
Lastly most people do not look very closely at others unless they look very odd. I often check myself out in a dimly lit merror with my glasses of to get an idea as to how others will percieve me. Enjoy your trip Ann

[Ruth]

A couple of girls have said this and I agree - dress to blend in. Do a scouting trip and see what the GGs are wearing. I was way overdressed the first time I went shopping. You may end up not wearing the things you would most like to be in, but you will find it much easier on the nerves if you keep to a style that most women around you are wearing.

[misscdlee]

Just dress conservative. You dont want to stand out, you want to blend in.


would like to obtain as much info on how to dress for my first trip to the mall en fem never been out before dressed enfem am very nervous any help:love:

[Rosaliy Lynne]

1. Dress to blend in
2. Don't act nervious
3. Act as you do this everyday.

I found that these three things allow me to go out and enjoy myself.

Hugs,

JoAnn

Make sure you look good to you and then step out confidently. In general most poeple will see "what they expect to see." Those who look twice fall into two categories imho.
1: they like what they see. You are flattered and appreciative. You smile.
2: they [mis]judge you. You don't care. You smile, or better yet, break out laughing.
3: if you don't do this everyday, eventually you will. Be kewl with it and all is well.


I have been going out infem lately alot. Found out if you act normal nobody really pays attention. Good luck and have fun:thumbsup:


I am in my infancy this way.

Key is confidence. You have a right to be there, you are doing nothing wrong. I know you know this, but subconsciously?

Confidence is easier if you can feel you blend in. A good wig or if you are not bald like I am, a femme hairstyle. As natural looking as you can afford. Hairstyle at least in the range of the probable for a girl of your age (or at least the age you feel yo can pull of. I for instance am pushing it with my wig. It is synthetic, a little cheaper than I would like, and the length is too long and the style too young. There is a school of thought that since this is supposed to be fun, have fun, whether your choice helps you pass or not. I am starting to lean that way a bit, but I took from your question that you are trying to blend.

Close shave and good make-up/beard cover technique. This takes practice or your own personal make-up artist. A wife/ so GG friend can maybe help. Mall is daylight so go easy on make-up. You have to have enough to cover the beard but go easy on the eyes and lips. I love red lipstick on GG'sbut found it looked cartoonish and made my teeth look yellow, I went natural with a little lip liner.

COMFORTABLE (but ~cute~ of course) shoes. Youneed to be able to move with confidence.

Practice smaller steps and slower than you would as a guy. You know when you need some craftsman tools and you have to weave around those packs of gg's in mall? Slow downto their speed.

Good luck and have fun.

Try to be comfortable in what you wear and if you want to blend, don't wear clothes that make you STAND OUT. A majority of women wear slacks or jeans these days in most malls. Having worn pants as a guy all my life I avoid that look. I go with the casual dress or skirt and blouse. If I stand out so be it. When noticed I smile or laugh. Above all I am confident. Trouble is like a wild animal. If it senses fear, you have a problem in the making. And above all, by all means behave the way you are dressed. Nothing says GUY IN A DRESS more loudly than a GUY IN A DRESS ACTING LIKE A DRESS.


most folks are way too busy to look around them when they are shopping. My first outing I dressed to look good and to be noticed. Nobody was paying me any attention at all. That was a good sign! Think about it, When you are out shopping/eating or whatever are you looking at eveyone around you?

Like it has been said. Dress to blend. go to WalMart you can wear dresses to Jeans to PJ's (or worse) "Nothing at all" Yes, I did see that as I work there. I for one do NOT recommend this approch!!! You will be noticed.

Beth

Walmart has been great!!! There is this one black woman I have seen on each of my last two outings to Walmart. She is friendly and greeted me with genuine pleasure. She was so happy to see me each time that the last time I hugged her close as girl friends might do. It was great!!!!!

[JULIE33362]

I Wear Makeup Out Most Day Just Fit In People Dont Look.. To Busy Talking On Cel Phones Have Fun

[noname]

would like to obtain as much info on how to dress for my first trip to the mall en fem never been out before dressed enfem am very nervous any help:love:

One day while feelinga bit cranky and thinking how women wear pants without fear, and what crap it is that any guy should fear wearing a skirt. Determined in my mind I have the same rights women do I wore a skirt to the mall. It was mostly a non-event, and I say again "mostly".

The key is just to dress normal, nothing over the top. Don't wear 5 inch heels with a evening makeup with pink polka dotta dress. In my case my skirt came a few inches above the knee, and was worn with a black and gray t-shirt with messenger bag. A few double takes but I was totally left alone.

I did get one nasty look while I was in the cell phone store waiting in line. This guy was with his kid leaving the store and he stared at me, with a blood red face and hate in his eyes. But you know, that was really his problem not mine.

[jjjjohanne]

I have gone to the mall in a skirt as a man a couple times. Some people noticed. Not all. No one really reacted to me. I heard two young girls working at lady foot locker laughing. Everyone else would see me and look away. I'm sure they watched after I walked by. I know I would have! But people were polite and didn't stare as I came toward them.

Joe

[erickka]

1. Dress to blend in
2. Don't act nervious
3. Act as you do this everyday.

I found that these three things allow me to go out and enjoy myself.

Hugs,

JoAnn

These are the three rules that will get you through without much difficulty. #1 is the most important. If you blend, you probably won't get noticed.

[KimberlyS]

You can not get any simpler than how JoAnn put it:


1. Dress to blend in
2. Don't act nervious
3. Act as you do this everyday.


If you need to, go to the mall in male mode. Check out how others are dressed. I often wear a long jean skirt when out and about. While you may not see many skirts at the mall and mostly jeans and shorts, it is a jean material.

Are you nervous walking in to Sears to buy tools? I would hope not. Picture yourself walking in to a clothes store like you are walking in to buy tools, auto parts or something similar.

Additionally, if you are worried about being spotted by someone you know, maybe you are too close to home. Get out of town if you need to. Being away from those you know does wonders for the nerves and confidence.

And most important enjoy yourself.

[juliek]

In Washington DC I see skirts at the mall all the time. I suspect that NYC is the same, although I am not familiar with Staten Island in particular.

You can be cute, but being too sexy may get you unwanted attention.

Julie.

[Dita_B]

IMHO the most important thing for you is to WALK and MOVE like a woman...

I go to the Malls (all of them in town) 3 days per week. And I have studied and practiced the movements of women before I ventured out. Right now I hardly get a stare, mind you I am taller than 99% of the female population, so a stare as the result of my length is to be expected once in a while...

My advise to you is: Go to the Mall in drab and sit down for an hour and observe how women move... Move their hips, move their feet, move their arms...
You can be dressed to the nine's but at the moment you move like a guy, you will be read immediately, I GUARANTEE it..

Try walking like on a line as the cops would have you do on a suspicion of drinking while driving. Put your feet in front of each other on an imaginary line on the ground. And while you do that, turn your toes slightly inwards. I learned that from a GG and it works. It makes your hips move and it feels good too.

Also swing your arm as women do in the rhythm of your opposite leg. It works especially when you have one of those purses on your other shoulder... Keep that arm kind of lose.

Also when you stand still to look for things, make sure you stand like a girl, legs and knees together and with one knee a little forwards and the one foot your are not standing on a little raised on the heel with the tip on the ground...

When dressed as a girl ACT like a girl and be pretty...

:love:Dita.

[Rosaliy Lynne]

IMHO the most important thing for you is to WALK and MOVE like a woman...

<<snip>>

When dressed as a girl ACT like a girl and be pretty...

:love:Dita.

By all means. I will have to give your advice consideration to improve my own appearnce. Thank you.

[Jodi]

Be sure to smile. women smile all the time. Look people straight in the eye.

Jodi

[Cindi Ann Kelly]

blend in!

cindi

[Adrienne Heels]

Dita and Jodi have provided really good advice.....and go to the mall first so you can see how you should dress. I love to wear jeans and heels or a business pantsuit to look like a working mom. Blends right in.

[Val702]

I am gonna go to another CD's house dressed up for my first time. I think I can look very girly if I work on it.

[Emily Ann Brown]

All I can add is SMILE and don't look down. You don't act shy as a man in a store (okay, MAYBE in a porn shop...giggle giggle) so don't look mousy or guilty as a woman.

Otherwise JoAnn said it all......hey sis, where did you get all that good advice originally? You read it in a textbook?


Emily Ann

[TxKimberly]

1. Dress to blend in
2. Don't act nervious
3. Act as you do this everyday.

I found that these three things allow me to go out and enjoy myself.

Hugs,

JoAnn

What JoAnn said. :-)
Oh, and don't wear those 4 inch heels - no woman in her right mind wears anything higher than 3 shopping, and most wouldn't wear them THAT high.

[Veronica Fallon]

What JoAnn said. :-)
Oh, and don't wear those 4 inch heels - no woman in her right mind wears anything higher than 3 shopping, and most wouldn't wear them THAT high.

Ummm... I dunno Kim,
I was thinking of 5" heels, a hot pink micro-mini, a sequined camisole, big, wild, 80's-style hair, & enough make-up to make a rhino look cute!! :battingeyelashes:
...How long do ya think I'd last?? :roflmao:

Silly Hugz,

Veronica

[Phyliss]

Strange that this topic should come up at this time. The other day I had the chance to have an afternoon with one of our members, (more about that later) and while waiting for our scheduled appointment time, I realized I REALLY had to "P". Not wanting our first meeting to start off with "Hi I'm Phyliss and I have to "P" really bad". I noted a nearby mall and decided that NOW was the time for my first "solo flight" or else I'd "wet myself".
Pulled into the parking lot near the "food court" area, (there's always a rest room in that part). Took a deep breath and, got out. Now I should mention that I was dressed in a simple skirt and blouse, with 3" heels. I hadn't wanted to to be too "over the top" at my first meeting with this "lady".
Walked in like I knew what I was doing, (of course I did, I was headed to the "can") Quickly looked about for the sign, spotted it and went right to it. Did what I had to do and walked out, back through the food court. This time I had the chance to notice who was there, (really didn't pay attention going in, my mind was busy with other thoughts). The area was full of moms with their kids. Every one of the mothers were paying attention to little sally or johnny who was busy gobbling their fries.
Did I "pass"? Don't know, don't care.
Was I noticed? most likely not.
Any comments? None that I heard.
No body pointed and laughed at me, at least, I didn't see or hear them.

Was it a "THRILL" yes. would I have done it under different circumstances, ( not having to go so badly, my back teeth were floating)? Probably not, but now that I have "done it" I'll probably do it again.

[Sally24]

For my first trip out I wouldn't personally have choosen a mall. If you do go to the mall, then go in the middle of a school day when mostly adults are there. Teenagers are an unpredictable lot. I've never had a problem with them but some CDs have.

And yes, I agree with most of what has already been said. Dress very comfortable, very average, very mainstream. You can add a touch of something special, a nice necklace or pin or scarf or something. You want to look "average". Nobody looks twice at an average looking woman. For shoes I would go with either sandals, flats or kitten heels. Save the spikes for evening wear.

And most importantly, amidst the terror.......have fun!

[crusadergirl]

I have made the mistake of not blending in at the mall, really it don't matter what can they say that i don't know already. I go to the mall a few time a month and i see more girls wearing skirts and dresses then ppl would like to say. I like to wear mini skirts so i'm not wearing pants as a girl if want to wear pants i will just go as a guy. Bad thing is thoughs skirts don't have small pockets and i'm not buying a purse i'm not that girl yet. But yeah have fun enjoy your self i always do. I never blend in either way i look i'm not wasting my money on stuff i don't like.

[TxKimberly]

Ummm... I dunno Kim,
I was thinking of 5" heels, a hot pink micro-mini, a sequined camisole, big, wild, 80's-style hair, & enough make-up to make a rhino look cute!! :battingeyelashes:
...How long do ya think I'd last?? :roflmao:

Silly Hugz,

Veronica

Oh, I think your gonna get LOTS of attention! :-)

[RachelX]

Most important of all is to make sure you do it! Congratulations in advance.