Tadaa or not Tadaa.....

[Julie York]

I was just reading the thread about showing your S.O. yourself dressed up for the first time. It occured to me that it might be better to slowly transform rather than going "Are you ready?" and entering the room as (sort of) a completely different person.

I would think actually getting dressed in front of her would be excrutiatingly embarrassing, so I'm not advocating that. But I mean, for example having her do the make up and then she is sort of mentally half way there before having the shock of her life. (It might also prevent makeup disasters.)

What do you think?

This is for anyone to answer. Even Welsh people.:D

[BarbaraTalbot]

I was just reading the thread about showing your S.O. yourself dressed up for the first time. It occured to me that it might be better to slowly transform rather than going "Are you ready?" and entering the room as (sort of) a completely different person.

I would think actually getting dressed in front of her would be excrutiatingly embarrassing, so I'm not advocating that. But I mean, for example having her do the make up and then she is sort of mentally half way there before having the shock of her life. (It might also prevent makeup disasters.)

In hindsight, my plan was ta-da...and it worked out much better to have her whop with me, assist in the choices etc.

I think bit by bit is the way to go with the actual reveal (dressed). As far as the disclosure itself, though its all or nothing I think. no hinting,no half measures.


Whop=shop, a perfectly natural contraction or womanly-things-shopping.


This is for anyone to answer. Even Welsh people.:D



And as far as "Welsch People" go...THIS (http://books.google.com/books?id=0140enOJkigC&pg=PA775&lpg=PA775&dq=george+eskridge+servant&source=web&ots=x2EQ2RWe3d&sig=Q-Y2ZwXJKkfL2Caii510dUEA8hc) is what happened allegedly to the last member of my family to spend time in Wales, so we've not been back since.

[Kris]

I was just reading the thread about showing your S.O. yourself dressed up for the first time. It occured to me that it might be better to slowly transform rather than going "Are you ready?" and entering the room as (sort of) a completely different person.

I would think actually getting dressed in front of her would be excrutiatingly embarrassing, so I'm not advocating that. But I mean, for example having her do the make up and then she is sort of mentally half way there before having the shock of her life. (It might also prevent makeup disasters.)

What do you think?

This is for anyone to answer. Even Welsh people.:D


I think I would want a TADAA! I would love to see a whole new person step out from behind a door as a whole new feminine person. BUT I hope I meet my next mate DRESSED! LOL

The TADAA then will be male mode.

Kris :hugs:

[Sweet Jane]

I have always been waaayyyyy, waaaaaaayyyyyyy too shy to actually want to dress for my wife.....Its another in a list of hang ups that I have.
I don't know why, but I kinda just want to be the guy around her, even though she does know I dress. Who knows, one day I hope to get the courage to maybe show her a pic of what I look like............it will probably surprise her, I think????

[Dee Talbot]

it worked out much better to have her whop with me.What the heck kind of deviant activity is whopping and when did I ever do or agree to do this whopping with you :kiss:

This actually was a big issue when I found out about Barb. Her plan was to tadaa me, and NO!!!! I did not want to be tadaa'd. I found out on my own, and I am partially glad it happened this way. Barb was out of town and unreachable on a camping trip. This gave me the opportunity to have my own little personal freak out by myself, thereby avoiding hurting her feelings. It also gave me the chance to go online and do a little research beforehand, so that I was in a better place to discuss it when Barb returned.

Even then, when Barb and I finally talked, the words of understanding that I felt I was saying, didn't feel understanding to Barb. When we finally got on the same page though, she understood. And she proceeded to model the entire contents of her wardrobe to me at once. This made one thing very VERY clear to me.

Barb needed some serious shopping help, STAT!!!!!

And so we went from there......

Dee

[PaulaJaneThomas]

This is for anyone to answer. Even Welsh people.:D

A seiniau cara a iawn 'n gall ddrychfeddwl :D

[Kate Simmons]

Well, I did a ta-daa once and only once. The door went-Slam! That was a "Bad Day at Black Rock".:straightface:

[Julie York]

A seiniau cara a iawn 'n gall ddrychfeddwl :D

Surely not?

[Amanda Shaft]

I went for the tadaa thing because I wanted to show myself all dressed and neatly presented. In the end this is all ‘smoke and mirrors’ and to show how much padding goes in here and how much this is squeezed there and what’s tucked where would sort of spoil the magic trick of the transformation! I would love not to have to do all that jiggery pockery but since I do I want it hid because what I’m trying to present is myself en femme, not me in a dress ala padding. I wanted her to see the butterfly not the catapiler!
Amanda x
Ps I actually met a welsh person once!

[Kris]

Well, I did a ta-daa once and only once. The door went-Slam! That was a "Bad Day at Black Rock".:straightface:

I am so sorry to hear that.... How sad for you :sad:

I wish you had a better experience.

Kris :hugs:

Maybe someday we could have a crossdressers.com convention someplace and all the people who are afraid to Ta-Da.. or had awful Ta-Da experiences can rebuild them?? Bad idea?

Kris :hugs:

[Kris]

A seiniau cara a iawn 'n gall ddrychfeddwl :D

I come up with " Clear great many sensible men?"
Is that any place in the ballpark?

Can you translate this please? For all us non-Welsh people?

Kris

[LilSissyStevie]

The first time my wife saw me fully dressed (She'd seen me partially dressed many times before) I did the Tadaa! thing. She busted out laughing. I was sort of expecting a much more negative reaction so I took it as a good thing. Still it made me feel a little silly. Since then I've done it a number of times. Just last night I got all dolled up to show her my newest outfit. I made her stay out of the bedroom until I was ready and then, Tadaa! She giggled at first like she always does and then made me model the outfit for her. She complemented me on my makeup job and how I coordinated everything. Then she gave me a big kiss smearing my lipstick and then....

[Karren H]

I'd say it's better to not even show them and my great grandfather Williams from Cardiff would take offense to your slighting the Welsh!! lol

Karren

[dakota_ann69]

Tadaa.......................................hum me thinks not as this is on the list of don'ts, and very much not on the list of do's!! I would be signing into a local hospital for wounds, and then straight into therapy!!

[PaulaJaneThomas]

Surely not?

Alli 'n weithredol areithia Cymraeg ai ach jyst yn amcanu?

[PaulaJaneThomas]

Can you translate this please? For all us non-Welsh people?

"That sounds like a sensible idea".

[Lisa Golightly]

TBH I did it all ways... Shock and awe... the long boring support yada yada yada and the boy becomes gal shift & shine. My imperical data to add to the melting pot... If her mother is a sex therapist... nada... If she is a possible bi... nada... lol... nooooo... before they start hitting me I have to say I don't think I ever got it right really... Apart from once, and she knew me better than I did :)

[Becca]

I did the TaDaa :happy:sort of thing. I told my wife about my interests, and then suggested that she give me a few moments to change. Then I called her in and she was sort of quiet for awhile. That was 30 years ago. Over the long haul, I have found her to be supportive and tolerant, but "not turned on" by my crossdressing. That's where she is today; she knows I dress every chance I get, but doesn't necessarily want to be a part of it.

[Davinnia]

As it was my thread that this thread is commenting on, I'd better add my bit. I didn't say Tadaa, I knocked on the lounge room door & entered completely dressed to the best of my abilities, looking, feeling & smelling vey fem. My wife didn't faint or burst out laughing, she seemed to accept me quite easily, having seen photos previously.
I certainly would not want her help getting dressed or doing my makeup. I want her to see me as either gender, not somewhere in between.
If your SO knows you're about to appear dressed, I don't think it's neccesary for a Tadaa moment, just an elegant entry into the room. I must add I had 3 glasses of wine while I got ready the first time to steady my nerves ! Walking into that room was one of the best & most memorable moments of my life.

Instead of Tadaa, how about Jaws : Der dum der dum

[switcheralso]

I told my wife when she was going out today that she should be prepared to come home with me 100% dressed. She looked at me and said nothing negative. She has seen me in her panties but not 100%. With no negative feedback I think I will try it when I know I have time. Wish me luck.

[Angela Burke]

"This is for anyone to answer. Even Welsh people."

For the Welsh it would surely be "Yakky Tadaa".
Or, "How green was my eyeshadow".
But it shouldn't be a problem coming out as a CDr
in Wales, after all one of their national emblems
is a DRAG-ON!

To my Welsh sisters, only kidding.

[Darlene-VA]

I went through the whole tadda moment and when I finally made it downstairs my wife said to me what took you so long and that blouse has got to go, that was about it and we finally had a discussion over dinner and a bottle of wine that helped calm the situation