MeraLehanga
09-06-2007, 05:36 PM
I found this amazingly beautiful text in SkirtCafe.org. I felt many a SOs could have benefits and save their marriages or relationships etc, by not being impulsive and rash in their relationships but rather demonstrating a little adjustment and understanding towards your mate. This can lead to a life of bliss................. as the text below is so well explains!! Kudos, to this great writer who has conceptualised the distinctive situation so well(of the CDs). Such writings can enhance this website to a great degree.
"Some random thoughts to put out there both for the partners and the guys themselves:
He loves you very much and is showing trust in you by sharing something that was probably difficult to work up the courage to say. He is telling you because he *doesn't* want to lose you. The man telling you he wears skirts (or would like to) is exactly the same person he was before the news.
It is okay to feel whatever you are feeling. Be mad, angry, incredulous, thrilled, numb...anything. He's had time to think about who he is and what skirts do for him meanwhile this was probably just dumped on you and may have left you reeling. He doesn't have all the answers, you certainly don't have to have them either.
Sometimes a man is so wrapped up in getting the secret off his chest and feeling unburdened that he isn't tuned in to what this means for his partner. It is perfectly okay to tell him you don't know what to think or that you need time to digest the new information.
You might never come to terms with knowing your partner likes to wear skirts and you shouldn't have to. This can break a relationship given that in some ways you may have a harder job. Wearing skirts can make some men feel comfortable meanwhile their partner may be left with the discomfort of being with the guy in the skirt. Not everybody is up for that, you may not be but that doesn't make you a failure. We all have things that would break a relationship and skirts aren't less a valid reason than any other. Don't make hasty decisions though.
If you only found out because some of your own skirts have gone missing, are showing mysterious wear/injury, or you found him in your clothes then gosh darn it yes you can be justifiably angry and confused.
There are so many different reasons the men here wear skirts, don't assume you know why your guy does. Have that conversation with him when you are ready. Knowing the why behind his choice can clear up a lot of fears.
A last thought for now- from what I have seen here men who find skirts suit them tend to be a sweet, gentle, kind, intelligent bunch and those are desirable skills in a mate. Particularly if they have been overlooked before for not being as macho as other men it can leave them very grateful to have you as a lover now. When you accept him as-is he should do the same for you. Either of these can mean a lot of nice things for both of you."
"Some random thoughts to put out there both for the partners and the guys themselves:
He loves you very much and is showing trust in you by sharing something that was probably difficult to work up the courage to say. He is telling you because he *doesn't* want to lose you. The man telling you he wears skirts (or would like to) is exactly the same person he was before the news.
It is okay to feel whatever you are feeling. Be mad, angry, incredulous, thrilled, numb...anything. He's had time to think about who he is and what skirts do for him meanwhile this was probably just dumped on you and may have left you reeling. He doesn't have all the answers, you certainly don't have to have them either.
Sometimes a man is so wrapped up in getting the secret off his chest and feeling unburdened that he isn't tuned in to what this means for his partner. It is perfectly okay to tell him you don't know what to think or that you need time to digest the new information.
You might never come to terms with knowing your partner likes to wear skirts and you shouldn't have to. This can break a relationship given that in some ways you may have a harder job. Wearing skirts can make some men feel comfortable meanwhile their partner may be left with the discomfort of being with the guy in the skirt. Not everybody is up for that, you may not be but that doesn't make you a failure. We all have things that would break a relationship and skirts aren't less a valid reason than any other. Don't make hasty decisions though.
If you only found out because some of your own skirts have gone missing, are showing mysterious wear/injury, or you found him in your clothes then gosh darn it yes you can be justifiably angry and confused.
There are so many different reasons the men here wear skirts, don't assume you know why your guy does. Have that conversation with him when you are ready. Knowing the why behind his choice can clear up a lot of fears.
A last thought for now- from what I have seen here men who find skirts suit them tend to be a sweet, gentle, kind, intelligent bunch and those are desirable skills in a mate. Particularly if they have been overlooked before for not being as macho as other men it can leave them very grateful to have you as a lover now. When you accept him as-is he should do the same for you. Either of these can mean a lot of nice things for both of you."