Best friends confession

[yywashington]

How to start,

Not really sure why I'm here but my best friend just confessed to me that he likes to wear women's clothes/shoes. He also has a new baby and his wife is a cheater and wants a divorce.

I'm trying to be supportive and he told me he's gone to counseling about his "issue". I don't really give a damn what he does in the privacy of his own home. He's a kind person and I do not judge him.

I guess I just really want to find out what this is all about and be better able to support my friend.

I appreciate any comments or suggestions to help him cope with this. I know it was very difficult for him to tell me and he feels ashamed.

[susie bear]

You are on hell of a friend. That said, the first thing I could suggest is to let him know that you will support him any way possible. The second thing I would do is get him on this site if he's not already. It will do both of you a world of good.

I think it will help both or you to better understand this and as you will see from all the other folks on here communication is the key for all concerned.

Best of luck.

I admire you for sticking with him.

Sincerly,

Susie Bear

[Chantelle CD]

He most likely told you because he is hurting because of the relationship troubles, and feels very confused about it his little hobbies. I would show him this site, can help him ease his mind seeing that he isnt alone with this, he more than likely, like the rest of us, started doing this since we were very young kids. He is prolly hurt, confused, upset, in turmoil with himself, and why he turned to you and told you. I can understand why he would, you just from what you said in this post, show an above average level of understanding and compation. Treat it like its nothing, let him know how you feel about ever wanting to see him that way or not ect, and he will respect that. Otherwise he is the same friend he has always been and will be.

[DonnaT]

Welcome to the forum.

You might find the following site interesting:

http://www.geocities.com/senorita_cd/menu.htm

[Marcie Sexton]

Obviously he considers you a "trusted" friend. One he can trust with a deep secret...

I suggest support...Be there when he need to talk, support him and help if you feel comfortable in doing so...

Consider yourself lucky, one who is a trusted friend...

[Rosaliy Lynne]

How to start,

Not really sure why I'm here but my best friend just confessed to me that he likes to wear women's clothes/shoes. He also has a new baby and his wife is a cheater and wants a divorce.

I'm trying to be supportive and he told me he's gone to counseling about his "issue". I don't really give a damn what he does in the privacy of his own home. He's a kind person and I do not judge him.

I guess I just really want to find out what this is all about and be better able to support my friend.

I appreciate any comments or suggestions to help him cope with this. I know it was very difficult for him to tell me and he feels ashamed.

And to be so trusted a friend is worth more than diamonds or gold. He need not be ashamed and YOU have the ability to let him know that. Go for it. And point him this way.

[Emily Ann Brown]

Marcie hit it on the head.....he must consider you the dearest and most special of friends. Wish I had a male friend like that.

Emily Ann

[Veronica Fallon]

He's got to be feeling extremely vulnerable & disoriented right now. Bless you for being such a true friend to him!! :thumbup:
With your supportive kindness, he has a good chance of getting beyond his feelings of shame fairly soon. The more educated he gets about TG-ism & CD-ing, the more he'll see that there's nothing wrong about it, & there are millions of us, so he's far from alone.
I admire your open-minded compassion, & his open-hearted bravery! I wish you both the best of luck!!

Hugz,

Veronica

[tammie]

Hi Everyone: YY Wash first let me say U R a good person not to go running for cover. U have earned kudos with our maker for listening and not judging your friend.

I once had a similar situation and I am ashamed to say I dropped the ball and a tragedy followed. U have no idea how much good U have done.

My situation was I was married and a closeted crossdresser. I came home unexpected and found my beautiful young wife going at it with [2] men at once.

I ended up losing her and I was crushed. I won't bore everyone with the horrible details but I was near suicide myself.

A friend of mine was a homosexual and he was closeted and he tried to tell me and I was to preoccupied with my own little
tempest in a teacup to listen to him and let him tell me what he needed to unburden himself..

To my last breath I will deeply regret my insensitivity to his need because he killed himself with a shotgun a few weeks later.

Please listen to your friend and all U need to do is smile and say OK. U don't have to do anything else to save his sanity and be his friend. God Bless U.

[nikki_t]

Hi Everyone: YY Wash first let me say U R a good person not to go running for cover. U have earned kudos with our maker for listening and not judging your friend.

I once had a similar situation and I am ashamed to say I dropped the ball and a tragedy followed. U have no idea how much good U have done.

My situation was I was married and a closeted crossdresser. I came home unexpected and found my beautiful young wife going at it with [2] men at once.

I ended up losing her and I was crushed. I won't bore everyone with the horrible details but I was near suicide myself.

A friend of mine was a homosexual and he was closeted and he tried to tell me and I was to preoccupied with my own little
tempest in a teacup to listen to him and let him tell me what he needed to unburden himself..

To my last breath I will deeply regret my insensitivity to his need because he killed himself with a shotgun a few weeks later.

Please listen to your friend and all U need to do is smile and say OK. U don't have to do anything else to save his sanity and be his friend. God Bless U.

Holy smokes - I'm just about in tears here!

[Veronica53]

Friends like you are truly few and far between,I'm sure with the kind of support you will give him things will be somewhat easier to handle.

Veronica

[trannie T]

Good for you YY. You have chosen to support your friend as he goes through a stressfull time in his life.

[Veronica 1]

You are a dear, dear person for supporting your friend. Be there for him to talk to and do not forget to talk to him. Let him know that no matter what he is not alone and he is still a worthwhile human being. Take the time to learn about his hobby and read on this forum to gain understanding into some of the issues that he might be facing. I know that there are a lot of people out there who would love to have a friend like you, and not just CDers. :hugs:

[Wenda]

The others have said it all. The fact that you have come to this site is a sign that you are a one-of-a-kind friend!! It is unlikely you can truly understand how much your friendship means to him. There are not likely many people that he has shared this with. Sorry to say, but you have accepted a big responsibility.
In bed with two guys??? OK, That is porn quality crap. Your buddy's main focus now needs to be how to get his child out of what could become a miserable situation.
As far as his dressing to escape goes, I think if you do some searches on this forum you will find many threads relating to dressing and depression. My eldsest son and I both dress (never seen each other en femme), and we both take (effective) meds for depression, but we truly believe that there is a relationship.
The best thing you can do right now is listen. Simple. Don't worry to give advice. Don't be judgemental about his ex. Just LISTEN. It doesn't seem like a big thing, but I doubt you understand what a big gift this can be. Thanks for coming here. All the best for your buddy. Please keep us posted. :thumbsup: Wenda

[Mollyanne]

Hi there, first of all there is NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!!!!!!!! As you can see there are alot of us cd'ers here, we do it because of a mirad of reasons, we are perverts or anything close to being abnormal, we do it because we feel good when we do it. Secondly ask your friend to look at this site, I'm sure he will feel better. He(she) can contact me any time!!!!!!


:love: Mollyanne