Baby Steps, but is this progress?

[Jaydee]

Hi all,
As I have posted before, I am still closeted. I have worn plain black panties for several years, but my wife doesn't know about anything else.About a year ago I got up the nerve to openly purchase a pair of pantyhose, and told my wife that I intended to "experiment" with them. She accepted this with some trepidation. She knows I wear them when she is not around, and washes them without comment.
I have tried to get her to talk with me about wearing the panties and pantyhose, but she doesn't want to discuss it.
Last week, she was clearing out her drawers, and she gave me an old pair of pantyhose that did not fit her. Unfortunately, they didn't fit me either.
This week I purchase a pair of nude colored panties. She saw them but didn't say anything. The thing is she still doesn't want to discuss it. How do I gently encourage her to talk with me about it? We have been married over 30 years and I don't want to jeopardize our marriage or make her uncomfortable. Should I give up and go back in the closet or press harder What is the end goal anyway? I could never pass and have no desire to go "out"

Jaydee

[sissystephanie]

Jaydee,

Read my post on the thread "Committment." You need to make your wife understand that your CD activity in no way compromises, or changes, you love for her and that also you are not "gay." If you can, get her to read some of the posts on this Forum that discuss this issue.

If you were a CD when you married, the major problem is that you did not tell her then. I did tell my wife before we were married, and we had 49 1/2 happy years together before she passed away in 2005. And she was totally accepting, to the point of the two of us going out as two girls! Open, honest communication is the key point here. Good luck to you!

Sissy

More Girl than man sometimes

[DonnaT]

It depends on what your real needs are.

If you need more clothes to relieve the trans issues you are feeling, then you're eventually going to aquire them.

Then the question will come up, do you decieve your wife by hiding it, and hope not to get caught, or do you feel honesty is best.

Some people can go for a lifetime and not get caught. But if their need becomes such that they get careless, they eventually get caught.

IMHO, you should just come out to your wife. When you do, know what you are going to say, and be ready with honest answers.

But you know her better than I do, so the choice is yours.