Sedona
09-11-2007, 08:39 PM
Hi,
As you can see, I've been part of the forums for a little while now. Haven't quite hit 1000 posts, but soon. (if you want the brief synopsis of this thread, skip to the very bottom)
Anyways, I've been with the same girlfriend for a little under three years. At about six months, I came out to her. She grew up in a VERY conservative family, concerning sexual politics. She had ZERO interest in registering on this forum, and pretty much had an "if I ignore it, it might go away," philosophy. I got a lot of pointers from members of the forum regarding how to approach this, and how to go slow. Just so you all know, I'm a stay-at-home dresser. I keep hair free only part of the year (my choice). My dressing is pretty much fetishistic, but I'll put women's cycling gear on when I go for bike rides. I really have no desire to go out in public (well, maybe for halloween), and am happy with my guy persona in my professional life.
Here's the short-version breakdown of our progress:
2005 Summer-Came out, met with lots of "are you gay?" questions, and "I hope you don't wear that stuff around me."
2005 Fall-"Well, I suppose you can wear girls undies, and I can see them on occasion when you wear them."
2005 Winter-"I didn't know you wore those all the time, ugh," her reaction to my wearing a thong when I got undressed.
2006 1st half-tried not to let her see me in any women's wear. To be honest, I wear a thong five or six days/week, and dress more fully perhaps five or six times a year.
2006 Summer-We had a talk about marriage, and I let her know that I'd prefer that she saw me in a dress before I'd feel comfortable marrying her.
2006 Fall-One day, she said her underwear was getting old, so I culled about 25 pairs of too-small thongs/bikinis from my huge collection and gave them to her (all very clean of course). To my amazement, she said "thanks" and wears them to this day. Also, she painted my toe nails for the first time.
2007 Winter/Spring-After not spending much time discussing my CDing, decided to broach the subject again. I told her I visited a MAC counter for makeup advice, and bought a few new outfits (I'd previously kept my shopping activities private). Also, as a gift to me, she reorganized my house while I was away on business. She saw all my clothes (even the super-skanky ones), my makeup, my forms, my shoes, and when I came back, it was all neatly organized.
2007-July-told her I wanted to take a few days off this coming fall, get a body wax, and some acrylics, and "femme out" for a bit. She said no problem, it was fine with her.
2007-two weeks ago-I told her I'd bought some new clothes on a business trip out of town. To my amazement she said "I'd love if you'd model them for me. Let's have dress up night!." I said sure, and two weekends ago, I shaved down and tried the whole lot on for her. She seemed to love every minute of it, and ended up asking me to pop in some breast forms, and heels, and, well, after that, let your imagination take over. No makeup, no wigs, but hey, I'm not complaining.
Last week, she said she wanted to have another "dress up night," but some things came up and it didn't happen. We're shooting for this weekend.
No, she's never seen any of my pictures I've posted on this site, but at this point, I don't think she'd mind one bit.
In October, I'm taking those days off from work to wax, get acrylics, dress, take pictures, try on makeup, and my GF wants to be a part of that.
So, the motto of the story is: Tell your significant other, no matter how repulsed you think she might be. I advocate waiting a little while (I waited six months), but if she really digs you, and you don't come on too strong, it'll work its way out.
Yes, I'm saving for a ring.
As you can see, I've been part of the forums for a little while now. Haven't quite hit 1000 posts, but soon. (if you want the brief synopsis of this thread, skip to the very bottom)
Anyways, I've been with the same girlfriend for a little under three years. At about six months, I came out to her. She grew up in a VERY conservative family, concerning sexual politics. She had ZERO interest in registering on this forum, and pretty much had an "if I ignore it, it might go away," philosophy. I got a lot of pointers from members of the forum regarding how to approach this, and how to go slow. Just so you all know, I'm a stay-at-home dresser. I keep hair free only part of the year (my choice). My dressing is pretty much fetishistic, but I'll put women's cycling gear on when I go for bike rides. I really have no desire to go out in public (well, maybe for halloween), and am happy with my guy persona in my professional life.
Here's the short-version breakdown of our progress:
2005 Summer-Came out, met with lots of "are you gay?" questions, and "I hope you don't wear that stuff around me."
2005 Fall-"Well, I suppose you can wear girls undies, and I can see them on occasion when you wear them."
2005 Winter-"I didn't know you wore those all the time, ugh," her reaction to my wearing a thong when I got undressed.
2006 1st half-tried not to let her see me in any women's wear. To be honest, I wear a thong five or six days/week, and dress more fully perhaps five or six times a year.
2006 Summer-We had a talk about marriage, and I let her know that I'd prefer that she saw me in a dress before I'd feel comfortable marrying her.
2006 Fall-One day, she said her underwear was getting old, so I culled about 25 pairs of too-small thongs/bikinis from my huge collection and gave them to her (all very clean of course). To my amazement, she said "thanks" and wears them to this day. Also, she painted my toe nails for the first time.
2007 Winter/Spring-After not spending much time discussing my CDing, decided to broach the subject again. I told her I visited a MAC counter for makeup advice, and bought a few new outfits (I'd previously kept my shopping activities private). Also, as a gift to me, she reorganized my house while I was away on business. She saw all my clothes (even the super-skanky ones), my makeup, my forms, my shoes, and when I came back, it was all neatly organized.
2007-July-told her I wanted to take a few days off this coming fall, get a body wax, and some acrylics, and "femme out" for a bit. She said no problem, it was fine with her.
2007-two weeks ago-I told her I'd bought some new clothes on a business trip out of town. To my amazement she said "I'd love if you'd model them for me. Let's have dress up night!." I said sure, and two weekends ago, I shaved down and tried the whole lot on for her. She seemed to love every minute of it, and ended up asking me to pop in some breast forms, and heels, and, well, after that, let your imagination take over. No makeup, no wigs, but hey, I'm not complaining.
Last week, she said she wanted to have another "dress up night," but some things came up and it didn't happen. We're shooting for this weekend.
No, she's never seen any of my pictures I've posted on this site, but at this point, I don't think she'd mind one bit.
In October, I'm taking those days off from work to wax, get acrylics, dress, take pictures, try on makeup, and my GF wants to be a part of that.
So, the motto of the story is: Tell your significant other, no matter how repulsed you think she might be. I advocate waiting a little while (I waited six months), but if she really digs you, and you don't come on too strong, it'll work its way out.
Yes, I'm saving for a ring.