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Michelle Ellis
10-06-2007, 04:04 PM
It happened a couple weeks ago when my sister came to visit, it was saturday night, between the hours of 12am and 4am... lots of tears, lots of anxiety. My folks told my sister how depressed I was and she was determined to drag it out of me, bless her, because if she had not been so persistent it probly wouldn't have happened. In fact I never did say... I was so upset and the words were not coming that I finally just took off one of my socks and showed her my painted toe nails (sheesh) but it worked, she's no dummy, she got it right away. She asked all the right questions and I answered them honestly as best as I could. I was amazed at how much she already knows about all this. But she had NO idea about me whatsoever... that surprised me, a lot.

I've been in a daze since that nite, not knowing if I was any better for coming out. I realized a couple of days ago tho that I'm not wishing I were dead every second of every day anymore. Instead I feel so much more at peace, I can't explain it, it wasn't instant, but a gradual thing I realized over time. How can you thank someone for something like that?

So far she's the only one that knows, and it will likely stay that way for a while.

My sis told me that I should come to her place to stay for a while, so I'm leaving next week for several days, my birthday was just last week so were celebrating that too. She has been SO understanding and supportive I can hardly keep from breaking up each time I think of it. My sis used to be a beautician, and is going to help me out with just about everything from makeup to hair to a big shopping trip we've got planned, she even mentioned taking me to Victoria's Secret LOL :o and most importantly we're going to talk, a lot...

I'm to bring all my stuff too... that will be a scary moment for sure when she finally sees me.

So there it is, I finally feel good enough to post this. I want to thank all my friends here for beating it into my head the fact that I needed to come out... you were all so right.

Thanks everyone
M

Marcie Sexton
10-06-2007, 04:10 PM
Its nice to have some one who cares, sounds like your sis does...

Good for you...good for her...

Joy Carter
10-06-2007, 04:31 PM
:<3: I'm really happy for you little sister. :hugs:

Siobhan Marie
10-06-2007, 04:38 PM
Oh honey, I'm so pleased for you, at least someone knows now.

:hugs: Siobhán x

loriannetucson
10-06-2007, 05:17 PM
I'm so happy for you, too, girl! When i came out to my sister a few months ago, she mentioned "Ohhhh, I KNEW something was different since you were little!!! But I've always wanted a little sister, so now I have one!"

It's good to have at least one family member on your side. Just be careful. One of my brothers was hounding me to tell him what had been depressing for so long and why I was so down, I finally told him... now he hasn't talked to me in over 3 months. But my other brother (a retired Army Sergeant, was totally affirming and loving believe it or not. So some may surprise you, and others may hate you. Either way, I'm glad your sister is there!

Lori Anne

Calliope
10-06-2007, 07:21 PM
The way I see it, we can't sway how our families are going to respond - often we can't even predict - but I believe it's always better to be out because hell or high water at least when we're out, that says we, as individuals, are ready to love ourselves. And isn't that the first step, the first nod to the family? So, yay you, sounds like a terrific start.

RachelDenise
10-06-2007, 08:31 PM
You have a wonderful sister who truly loves and cares about you. Enjoy the trip!

Sharon
10-07-2007, 10:47 AM
I'm so happy that you finally had someone to confide in, Michelle. Your sister sounds like a wonderful person. :happy:

GypsyKaren
10-07-2007, 11:42 AM
Ya see, what have I been telling you, the world didn't end, did it? You've taken a huge first step, now keep moving forward, one step at a time.

Karen Starlene

melissaK
10-07-2007, 01:53 PM
A nice thread. A great tale. Gnarly gurl's advice on self esteem is right on, and Gypsy Karen's assurance the world won't end, with the bonus advice of continuing on a step at a time are things I ought to print out and keep on a card in my wallet.

Michelle, A year ago I had allowed my TG support world to narrow down to a wife who'd rather not deal with it. In hind sight, it's no wonder I was in one of the darkest periods I have been in in my life. All kinds of outward milestones of success and inwardly I was drowning in unhappiness. And triple shame on me, I had been there 15 years before, and 15 years before that. You'd think I would learn.

This site and its sense of community have helped. Counselling, and coming out to a very old friend, and slowly stepping out of my closet so as not to scare my wife to death have all helped. I have had starts and stops and recurrent anxiety issues, but all in all, progress at being happier. Telling your sister sounds like your start down such a similar path.

Look forward to future updates.

hugs
'lissa

Michelle Ellis
10-07-2007, 09:19 PM
Thanks everyone... my sis is the most wonderful sister you could ask for. It simply could not have gone better... well, I could have been a lot less stressed out! But for her part I just can't believe it, I love her so much. I feel so lucky she's my sister.

I can hardly wait to go! :)

M

KrazyKat
10-07-2007, 10:41 PM
:hugs:Yeah!!!!!:cheer::cheer::cheer:

Such wonderful news, so joyous a memory, and many more to come!! Sisters can be wonderful!!

Looking forward to all the "dish" on your visit, Michelle!!:hugs: