katrinafltg
03-30-2005, 01:18 AM
From a webpage
"The theory seems to hold that there is an entire class of transsexuals who are in love with the woman they fantasize themselves to be. They are in love with the woman they belive is inside them, or the woman they would be were they women. So, in a sense, we are talking more about a sort of strange narcissism than about a gender dysphoria. And there is no reason why the theory does not apply to cross dressers as well. The difference wold be the degree of infatuation, and the extent to which one was willing to go to bring the love affair to fruition. Autogynephelia is a neat and handy explanation for such phenomena as cross dressers increasing their activity the more frequently they dress, and the sudden switch to transsexualism at a later age. The more one cross dresses the "closer" one becomes to the love object until consummation becomes a necessity. Since the love object canonly be obtained by externalizing it, the person must become the love object. Or something like that."
Another theory postulated by academics to assign a more sinister meaning to tg existence. While I believe the autogynephiliac theory may have some valid insights I do not believe it necessarily indicates a disorder.
Society, of course, tells us that we what is healthy and proper is the heterosexual union. If all hetero unions were the model of balance, health and actualization I would say "you got me." Now, I am not a hetero-basher by any mean but heterosexuality does not imply health. Domestic violence, adultery, date rape, prostitution, all of these plainly indicate that being hetero does not mean one is "healthy."
Homosexuality shares some of those problems and has some that are unique to it. Crossdressing is a form of sexuality and as such I do not believe that it is innately pathological simply because it is not in line with mainstream notions of what "normal" or "healthy" implies.
Indeed the isolation and shame that tg's endure is not a product of their own making but the result of society's prejudice and intolerance. Tg's don't want to stay in their homes or hotel rooms. We don't want to be confined only to tg clubs or tg events like southern comfort. For the most part we just want to live life normally as our chosen gender.
I believe there is a reason why tg's exist. Tg's tend to be fun, life embracing people with good hearts. And if we are narcissistic and self obsessed then so what? That's not going to kill anyone. But really in my experience tg's have been very supportive and generous.
The truth is that love is rare. I see very little of it in real life. Its a cold world out there. There is so much deception, manipulation, superficiality and indifference. So much unhappiness.
I believe there is always an element of jealousy from mainstream society when it comes to those who are gay or transgender or whatnot. It's like they're pissed off because we have an "option" they don't. I'm not antifamily but let's face it; families can be very oppressive. I remember recently reading about a virulently antihomosexual preacher. One of his criticisms was that they had too much income because they didn't have children.
I can appreciate the beauty of children and parenting but we are not simply cattle made for breeding. We can find meaning outside of reproduction. And this is not pathological. Especially when you consider all the people out there who reproduce and then abuse the living hell out of their kids.
In the end my only real point is that "clinicians" are just that; clinical and cold. they don't see the romance or the mystery. The meaning of life goes beyond the artificial notions of "normality" and "health" that are foisted upon us by the media and other institutions. What we are fed as "normal" comes many times from people who are willing to damage our psyches and bodies in any way possible if it will make them money.
Just sharing some thoughts
Love
Katrina
"The theory seems to hold that there is an entire class of transsexuals who are in love with the woman they fantasize themselves to be. They are in love with the woman they belive is inside them, or the woman they would be were they women. So, in a sense, we are talking more about a sort of strange narcissism than about a gender dysphoria. And there is no reason why the theory does not apply to cross dressers as well. The difference wold be the degree of infatuation, and the extent to which one was willing to go to bring the love affair to fruition. Autogynephelia is a neat and handy explanation for such phenomena as cross dressers increasing their activity the more frequently they dress, and the sudden switch to transsexualism at a later age. The more one cross dresses the "closer" one becomes to the love object until consummation becomes a necessity. Since the love object canonly be obtained by externalizing it, the person must become the love object. Or something like that."
Another theory postulated by academics to assign a more sinister meaning to tg existence. While I believe the autogynephiliac theory may have some valid insights I do not believe it necessarily indicates a disorder.
Society, of course, tells us that we what is healthy and proper is the heterosexual union. If all hetero unions were the model of balance, health and actualization I would say "you got me." Now, I am not a hetero-basher by any mean but heterosexuality does not imply health. Domestic violence, adultery, date rape, prostitution, all of these plainly indicate that being hetero does not mean one is "healthy."
Homosexuality shares some of those problems and has some that are unique to it. Crossdressing is a form of sexuality and as such I do not believe that it is innately pathological simply because it is not in line with mainstream notions of what "normal" or "healthy" implies.
Indeed the isolation and shame that tg's endure is not a product of their own making but the result of society's prejudice and intolerance. Tg's don't want to stay in their homes or hotel rooms. We don't want to be confined only to tg clubs or tg events like southern comfort. For the most part we just want to live life normally as our chosen gender.
I believe there is a reason why tg's exist. Tg's tend to be fun, life embracing people with good hearts. And if we are narcissistic and self obsessed then so what? That's not going to kill anyone. But really in my experience tg's have been very supportive and generous.
The truth is that love is rare. I see very little of it in real life. Its a cold world out there. There is so much deception, manipulation, superficiality and indifference. So much unhappiness.
I believe there is always an element of jealousy from mainstream society when it comes to those who are gay or transgender or whatnot. It's like they're pissed off because we have an "option" they don't. I'm not antifamily but let's face it; families can be very oppressive. I remember recently reading about a virulently antihomosexual preacher. One of his criticisms was that they had too much income because they didn't have children.
I can appreciate the beauty of children and parenting but we are not simply cattle made for breeding. We can find meaning outside of reproduction. And this is not pathological. Especially when you consider all the people out there who reproduce and then abuse the living hell out of their kids.
In the end my only real point is that "clinicians" are just that; clinical and cold. they don't see the romance or the mystery. The meaning of life goes beyond the artificial notions of "normality" and "health" that are foisted upon us by the media and other institutions. What we are fed as "normal" comes many times from people who are willing to damage our psyches and bodies in any way possible if it will make them money.
Just sharing some thoughts
Love
Katrina