Sarah Plumber
11-01-2007, 07:15 AM
Some of my problems are already described around the forum but I'd just like to express some of the more positive signs I've been experienceing since the huge battles between my good lady and myself. Some of the small comments being made without erruptions which is the significant part....bearing in mind a year ago the subject was avoided like the plague...
1. I tend to get up well before the rest of the household and sometimes use this time to wear what I like....very carefully ..... I think my wife knows this well enough, but has gone bonkers in the past when she has become suspicious. I now get comments like " been up to no good again this morning?"
2. She has stopped checking my bank account. "It's your money and it's up to you what you do with it"...
3. " I know you have a good look around the ladies section when you at the supermarket when you are on your own". I lost her in one the other day and just happened to find her in the lingerie dept..."no surprise finding you here is it?"...As far as I was concerned it was completely innocent and I had only just walked in!
4. "I bought you earings, why don't you wear them more often? (I have one ear pierced, a throw back from the punk days of the late 1970's).. I have asked about getting the other on done but she said she'd rather I didn't, then bought me three new ones....(singles)
5. "I wish you wouldn't be so girly around me"
6. After years of biting my finger nails I'm trying to quit, but they are very soft and I keep breaking on me....The wife steps in a suggests I wear a strengthening varnish....It's on order and on it's way !!
7. I'm now wearing a Huge T-shirt to bed ... not a nighty....but pretty close...without any comment at all .... except .." as long as you are comfy"..
8. She is redecorating our bedroom and intends to make it a girls room. "but I'm not having a little girls room!".
Not a great leap but do you think these are signs that she is beginning to understand or get used to the idea? The best bit is that she is much more affectionate...no nooky.....but lots of cuddles and hugs ......
1. I tend to get up well before the rest of the household and sometimes use this time to wear what I like....very carefully ..... I think my wife knows this well enough, but has gone bonkers in the past when she has become suspicious. I now get comments like " been up to no good again this morning?"
2. She has stopped checking my bank account. "It's your money and it's up to you what you do with it"...
3. " I know you have a good look around the ladies section when you at the supermarket when you are on your own". I lost her in one the other day and just happened to find her in the lingerie dept..."no surprise finding you here is it?"...As far as I was concerned it was completely innocent and I had only just walked in!
4. "I bought you earings, why don't you wear them more often? (I have one ear pierced, a throw back from the punk days of the late 1970's).. I have asked about getting the other on done but she said she'd rather I didn't, then bought me three new ones....(singles)
5. "I wish you wouldn't be so girly around me"
6. After years of biting my finger nails I'm trying to quit, but they are very soft and I keep breaking on me....The wife steps in a suggests I wear a strengthening varnish....It's on order and on it's way !!
7. I'm now wearing a Huge T-shirt to bed ... not a nighty....but pretty close...without any comment at all .... except .." as long as you are comfy"..
8. She is redecorating our bedroom and intends to make it a girls room. "but I'm not having a little girls room!".
Not a great leap but do you think these are signs that she is beginning to understand or get used to the idea? The best bit is that she is much more affectionate...no nooky.....but lots of cuddles and hugs ......