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Rachaelb64

11-02-2007, 08:58 AM

Karren H

11-02-2007, 09:10 AM

I like myself.. Always have and always will.. And I have no regrets. Don't need any "Do Overs". Just enjoying my life ..... Lives.... As they unfold....

Gurly

11-02-2007, 09:15 AM

You want an honest reply...right? Okay.........here goes. I don't like myself (at all) but for much larger issues, none of which have to do with crossdressing. Would I do things differently if I could go back in time? You better believe it. However, the love from and for my daughter sustains me and that is something I would never change.

Good question, by the way.

Cynthia_0101

11-02-2007, 09:15 AM

When I first discovered I was different I hated myself for what I was.

That hate lasted until I met my wife. She helped me to accept that what I was was not bad, disgusting or wrong.

I have at least learned to accept myself

Shadeauxmarie

11-02-2007, 09:19 AM

I am somewhat of a narcissist. BUT, there are some spots I'd like to do over.

Too many times I hurt my wife. Too many times I hurt family members. They say you always hurt the ones you love.

The time when I was 12 and refused to give up my window seat on the plane. To a man who offered me $1. He was on his way to Vietnam.

I have cried about that one.

GailTulane

11-02-2007, 09:29 AM

Without getting too complicated, I would say that I like myself, regardless of the fact that there are so many things that I can and could have done better.
What I mean is, that when I am unhappy with something in my behavior, I try to fix it, but I don't let it get me down.

Kate Simmons

11-02-2007, 09:32 AM

Well in my case Rachael it doesn't matter much because I'm stuck with myself, like it or lump it. I have improved though. What I like most about myself now is that I have learned to care about others and not just Numero Uno. I have become more accepting of others for who they are as people and respect them as such. I have turned a perceived disadvantage (crossdressing) into something that works for me and is an asset rather than a liability. By understanding myself more, I can understand others better and where they are coming from. My goal is always to do something value added even if it is a small thing.I didn't like myself much in the past but do I like what I've become? I guess but I'm always looking for ways to improve.:happy:

Kris

11-02-2007, 09:34 AM

Somebody asked my this, I automatically said 'yes'. But thinking about there are probably somethings about myself I find less dersirable.

The lying I did for 15yrs to my ex-wife is one. The lying to myself is another. A couple of other things as well.

So as the song goes 'Regrets, I have A few'. If I could go back to when Iwas say 18, with my experence still with me, I would do things differently, be more open and honest for one.

So I suppose my best answer to the question is, 'I'm at peace with myself' :happy:

Rachael,
I love myself, not just like myself. I too have regrets but that is a human thing to do. I think it's important to learn to forgive ourselves and learn from our mistakes. Please don't let being human stand in your way of liking/loving yourself.
We all are human and make mistake but that doesn't mean that we should be punished forever.
:hugs: Kris

Kris

11-02-2007, 09:39 AM

Ladies,
Everyone has things that we would like to do over, that is where, "hind site is 20/20" came from. I am surprised at the responses having so much to do with regrets.

Liking yourself is a positive thing and I thought I would read more about the qualities that we enjoy about ourselves.

I for one love that I am caring, fun, silly, outgoing, and full of beans most of the time. (no not the stinky ones :heehee:)

I like that I am smart, concerned, and try to do the best I can all the time, even if I make a mistake, I do it with the best intentions. I try my hardest to be the best person that I can be.

:hugs: and :love:'s!
Kris

Ðarissa

11-02-2007, 09:40 AM

I like myself but wish I had done some things differently. I did some dumb stuff when I was a kid but I think because of some of that stuff I learned to be a better person.

I like that I have a crazy sense of humor and always try to be friendly and understanding towards other homo sapiens and animals. ;) I like that I'm sensitive and a good listener and not a lot bothers me and when I get mad and pissed off I don't take it out on anybody and will go off by myself to chill out, which usually includes cursing. :p I like that I'm honest, open minded and caring and have a sense of honor...

I don't like that I can be lazy at times but that's no biggie.

Hehe Kris is full of beans. :p

Kelly Greene

11-02-2007, 09:56 AM

I don't think I have ever not liked myself , but I have not liked how I feel about my life/crosseressing/going to school and wroking full time/ect
I often have to remind my slef that I am loved and when I life getting to complicated I will talk to God about it while I am driving from place to place.
my car kind of serves a dual functioin transprotation and prayor chamber.

Ashleigh

11-02-2007, 10:09 AM

Sure, I like myself. I wish I had told my wife about my CDing at the beginning of our relationship, but I realize that can't be changed and why beat myself up over something that can't be changed. If I stay upbeat and happy, things go better.

Ashleigh :doll:

GailTulane

11-02-2007, 10:20 AM

christina marie

11-02-2007, 10:21 AM

always liked myself, learned alot more about loving myself after finding you girls( thanks!!!) used to have alot of regrets,but after some serious soul-searching, it dawned on me that i am in a pretty good place in my life, i have a wonderful family, lots of good friends, and enough toys to keep me happy. this was where i lost all my regrets. if anything in my life, or my past, had been different, i might not be where i am today. like Karren said,no regrets, no do-overs, just happy to see the sun come up every morning!

lynn27

11-02-2007, 10:31 AM

yes, i do. i have always thought, 'if you don't like yourself how are others going to like you?'

as for the past, sometimes i cringe when i think of things i have said or done in the past. but you cannot change those things so it makes no sense to dwell on them. everyone would be better off if we did things different but it is a dream.

much better to spend your time today taking little steps to make yourself a better person in the future. work on things you can change and forget about those things in the past that you cannot change.

wow, after i finished writting that I just realized that lately i have been trying to make up [with apologies and other positive gestures] for some of my mistakes of the past. i cannot change the past but i can try to make up for my mistakes one way or another... i find that some things can be mended and others can't...

Daintre

11-02-2007, 10:41 AM

Like myself, honestly , no I do not. Unfortunately, we do not get Do overs and if we choose to carry extra baggage which includes the lies, regrets , woulda shoulda plans, and more.....well the bag gets heavy and we spend way to much time looking back when we should be looking ahead.

I am lucky to have a few close friends and family that show me love and affection and choose to be around me.

This is My opinion.....we only get one shot at this and while life sucks at times, hope is always there for us to grab on to.

glynnis

11-02-2007, 11:06 AM

I like myself as I am.My wife knows and understands.She buys most of my clothes for me.We are going out today and she wants to get me a new blouse and skirt while we are out.She even does my long hair for me,I am a very very lucky man.

mollytyler

11-02-2007, 02:18 PM

Just like myself for pursuing what I had to do with my life...no regrets...no turning back......

RylieCD

11-02-2007, 02:30 PM

Many of you have told me differnetly but it is hard to like myself when I have put my wife throught so much grief and also when I am confussed about everything anyway.

dannie lee

11-02-2007, 02:41 PM

well mayby one. and this is it! if I could go back and do it all over again, as soon as I would have been able to I would have made the big change (and u know what I'm talking about) and not wasted all this time living as a man! luv ya, dannie.

Marla S

11-02-2007, 02:43 PM

Well, it's not a question of liking in the first instance, rather of getting aware of me.
I think I missed to do that for a long time. Now I try to.
Synchronizing thoughts and feelings looks like it could be a lot of fun. I hope to have enough time to get some "grades" there.
Regrets ? Well, I certainly would have done a few things differently, but I didn't know better, hence it's pointless to have regrets.
I would regret not to learn from the past.

Brianna Lovely

11-02-2007, 02:46 PM

I like myself, love who I am and accept being a TG person. I wake up every morning and start a new day, not knowing what's going to happen or who I will meet.

I put a smile on my face and walk out the door. Some days are better than others, but I go to bed with a smile too, wondering what's in store for me tomorrow.

Deborah Jane

11-02-2007, 02:57 PM

I used to dislike myself with a vengeance..I,ve done a lot of things i regret [ not neccesarily c/d related...hanging out in a gang, fighting ,etc]. But i,m slowly coming to terms with who and what i am and realising my good points. I suppose given time i may end up liking myself ..Eventually!!

MarcellaMcNul

11-02-2007, 03:06 PM

"It ain't easy bein' me!" (anonymous quote). 'Nuff said.

11-02-2007, 03:33 PM

wow do i like myself to be honest i would have to say no. but i still have to live with me ... i guess that says it all ...

Angie G

11-02-2007, 08:00 PM

I'm happy with myself :hugs:
Angie

Tamera

11-02-2007, 08:18 PM

Do I like myself is the question.
Well I like my FEM side a whole lot better. I just wish I would have discovered what was going on a LOOONG time ago. Then my MALE side would not be so questioned of "NOT liking myself so much".

If you are lookin for people who feel the same way you, well you found one. And NO, you are not alone, in the way you have lived your life, through your trials and errors.
Hugs,
Tamera

tvbeckytv

11-02-2007, 08:49 PM

I love that i dont love myself.

Kris

11-02-2007, 11:09 PM

I like myself.. Always have and always will.. And I have no regrets. Don't need any "Do Overs". Just enjoying my life ..... Lives.... As they unfold....

GO Karren! I love it...... you are amazing!~

The time when I was 12 and refused to give up my window seat on the plane. To a man who offered me $1. He was on his way to Vietnam.

I have cried about that one.

I gotta say guilt is giving up the hope for a different past... love it can't be done. You did what MANY kids would have done. Please don't beat yourself up for this. It's really okay and you are not a bad person for this. The sadness .. is breathtaking in your post. :hugs:

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I like that I have a crazy sense of humor and always try to be friendly and understanding towards other homo sapiens and animals. ;) I like that I'm sensitive and a good listener and not a lot bothers me and when I get mad and pissed off I don't take it out on anybody and will go off by myself to chill out, which usually includes cursing. :p I like that I'm honest, open minded and caring and have a sense of honor...

I don't like that I can be lazy at times but that's no biggie.

Hehe Kris is full of beans. :p

Yes Ms. Ðarissa Sounds like we are a lot a like.. but I bet money you are full of beans too! At least half the time :tongueout

Kris, I think that your comments are right on. (In general, I enjoy your posts.)
What occurs to me, is that because this forum is the *only* place that so many of the girls here can share, it tends to bring out a bit of the "confessional" side.
Best,
G.

Maybe confessional but... can they be happy confessions? Can we giggle just a bit?

wow do i like myself to be honest i would have to say no. but i still have to live with me ... i guess that says it all ...

MJ... I hope you like yourself. You have got to be fun to live with .. you are silly enough!

I think everyone is likable and need to realize that if we beat ourselves up about the past, we did our holes even deeper to get out.

:hugs: and :love:'s,
Kris

Tasha T

11-03-2007, 12:20 AM

Funny thing...this morning I was thinking about what I loser I turned out to be when I clicked on this website and what was the first thing I saw? Do you like yourself? Wow. What a coincidence.

I've struggled with low self esteem and depression most of my life, but I'm hanging in there. When things are going well for me, especially with my work, I feel fine and glad that I am alive. However, when things are not going well, especially when my work is going poorly like it is now, I generally feel awful and think horrible things about myself.

Fortunately I have faith in God and cross dressing to help me deal with things. Otherwise I'd be screwed.

Cristi

11-03-2007, 12:32 AM

Honestly, I didn't like myself at ALL when I was younger. I put too much faith in what OTHER people thought of me, and since I had a tough time when I was a kid, that message wasn't a good one. Being a crossdresser when I was too young to even know what it MEANT (and thinking I was all alone in the world, this was WAY before the Internet!) didn't help.

As I grew older, I started getting my sense of self worth from the inside, not externally. I know I am a good person.

Now I think that what I went through when I was younger almost helped me (not that I would ever wish the same upon anybody). But it forced me to rely on my SELF for my sense of values and self respect.

So now, I think I am in a really good place. I can't believe how fortunate I've been over the past 20 years or so, in marriage, work and with good friends. So much so that I sometimes get the feeling that SOMETHING bad must be around the corner to balance the scales!

Evelyn Smith

11-03-2007, 12:36 AM

Do I like myself? No, not really, nor do I love myself. And yet, my wife finds plenty about me to like and love. I love her, and I trust her judgment.

There are so many things I would change, given the chance, but the future hangs on such a delicate thread of coincidences that to make one small change would inevitably mean that I would not be where I am right now. I'm happy where I am, and I don't know if I would be happy in that other place.

My wife thinks I am soft-hearted, and I wonder if that is why I still feel such huge guilt over my past foolish choices.

There's more that I should share, but I'm not ready yet.

jennCD

11-03-2007, 12:53 AM

Absolutely!
Other than my huge feet of course....

:)
jenn

crusadergirl

11-03-2007, 01:33 AM

Do i like myself i don't know i guess it depends on which self your talking about. The only thing i don't like about myself which isn't all that bad is that i'm short and thats it. But to anwser your question i do like myself b/c i'm the Goat/ greatest of all times whats not to like.

sexotik

11-03-2007, 09:13 AM

Rite now, I'm caught up in the moment of beginning to like myself ,but there are things I'd like to change, my waist, my legs , i would like to have long hair. Anyway, one of the phrases I like is "Things happen for a reason", we might not know why , but that just the way they are. This doesn't mean sometimes u can't change them.

PS: i also wanna start tryng new things and live new experiences, so that in the future I won't stop to think what if I....

Besos , Abril

Mitch23

11-03-2007, 10:15 AM

I was recently in a Christian Worship Event with about 5000 other people. The question from the front was 'hands up who likes themselves'. only about 20 hands, including mine went up!

Mitch

Rachaelb64

11-03-2007, 01:42 PM

Stephanie Anne

11-03-2007, 05:29 PM

I would say I don't dislike myself. I am upset I let myself get overweight and I am working on softening my appearance but as far as liking the inner me, I love that part... the outer, not so much ;)

Claire3

11-03-2007, 05:43 PM

I like Claire,my one regret is not finding friends through this site earlier

charlie

11-03-2007, 07:38 PM

Somebody asked my this, I automatically said 'yes'. But thinking about there are probably somethings about myself I find less dersirable.

The lying I did for 15yrs to my ex-wife is one. The lying to myself is another. A couple of other things as well.

So as the song goes 'Regrets, I have A few'. If I could go back to when Iwas say 18, with my experence still with me, I would do things differently, be more open and honest for one.

So I suppose my best answer to the question is, 'I'm at peace with myself' :happy:
Rachel, Yes I like myself and am very happy with my life. I do however regret that I have to crossdress on the sly and hope that my business partner does not come in unexpected or my wife finds me. I guess that I really wish that I did not have the urge to buy women's clothes and crossdress at all! However, I am in Phoenix today on business and tonight I'm off to a transgendered bar to strut my stuff. It will be fun, but I wish I could feel good about it.

Mariah

11-03-2007, 08:04 PM

nope, I would kill it but i'm a passivist (plus I hate the site of blood), So I'm working on changeing it instead.

hopes
keris

Melora

11-04-2007, 07:10 AM

We are all too human, Soo it is natural to hate our past, But it is all too human to try to put past that what we regrett and not enjoy the lessons that we have learned from what we have experienced from our experiences and failures.

Rayne

11-04-2007, 08:31 AM

No, don't like myself, but i could't change that.
I want to be like Mystique (http://imdb.com/character/ch0001099/) from X-men movie, or i like to be The Mask from the same name movie. :confused2:
Just imagine all that fun, changing from a heavy weightlifter to a pretty woman, from a president to a begger, but it's impossible. It's just a nice dream.

For me is hard to believe that are people realy happy with their body or life.
If it is possible a simple genetical check at birth, and correct the genes who will lead later to illnesses....nobody will see a doctor in his lifetime.
Who are happy to see a doctor? Answer:none.

But finally, i'm happy, because things could be worse, a lot worse. :heehee:

Amy Hepker

11-04-2007, 08:37 AM

I am a lot happier with myself since I have been wearing Female underwear under my male clothing all the time. I feel so much better about myself.

Michelia

11-04-2007, 08:59 AM

I love myself and always have for the feelings I experience. The tremendous joy I am capable of. The love and understanding I can give. I love how sensitive I am.

These same things that I love so much of myself have also made me feel weak and a loser a lot of my life. I go through some deep depressions at times. I can really hate myself then.

Good thing is I always come back. And as I age I am getting more practical and calmer. It helps. I wish I had held on to more of the money I have made and not let go of certain relationships. But now I have a lovely family and the smartest and supportive SO. I have regrets, but I try not to dwell on them.

I wish I had at least one CD friend. This has been very hard for me to establish. I have contacted a few people around where I live and they never show up or stop writing and get lost without a hint or clue. Maybe I am doing something wrong...

Michelia

Ashly

11-04-2007, 09:47 AM

I like myself from shoulders down....;)

Wendy me

11-04-2007, 09:55 AM

lol yes i do like me lol things could be a bit better but hell they could have been a lot worse..... happy with me /us lol..........

Scotty

11-04-2007, 10:01 AM

In this life you must come to love yourself, for you cannot love anyone else until you love yourself...

It took a very long time to get to that point.

Joy Carter

11-04-2007, 11:23 AM

Never was brought up to like myself. In fact I was taught to hate who I was.
I thought the only measure of myself was how hard you worked. Resulting in a workaholic lifestyle.

Until I met my wife I never felt like I was worth much.

That was my first hurdle in self acceptance. The final one was a year and a half ago, when I accepted my trans nature.

I like me now. :D

Veronica E. Scott

11-04-2007, 11:57 AM

In a word YES. Enough said.

Kris

11-04-2007, 12:08 PM

That was my first hurdle in self acceptance. The final one was a year and a half ago, when I accepted my trans nature.

I like me now. :D

GO JOY!!!

I love to hear that kind of growth, it is so empowering to hear!

:hugs: and :love:'s,
Kris

Marla S

11-04-2007, 12:16 PM

That was my first hurdle in self acceptance. The final one was a year and a half ago, when I accepted my trans nature.

I like me now. :D
Interesting. Indeed there seems to be a step beyond self-acceptance. Feels like I made that one too lately.:happy:

Maureen

11-04-2007, 12:32 PM

I'd have to say "no", I don't like myself. I hate my desire to be feminine. I wish I were "normal". The time I've wasted in my life dealing with this issue is gone forever. I wish I was the man my wife thought she was marrying, as she deserved at least that. I'm not trying to offend anyone that has accepted and made peace with themselves over this, but for me this has been a curse.

Ashly

11-04-2007, 02:05 PM

.... I wish I was the man my wife thought she was marrying, as she deserved at least that. ...

I felt that way many times.....In the end I got divorced because I can't change myself. That does not mean I am happier now.

Vaerise

11-04-2007, 09:49 PM

wow do i like myself to be honest i would have to say no. but i still have to live with me ... i guess that says it all ...

Likewise, I hate myself. It is difficult being different, I try to pretend it does not exist to make it more bearable. And it seems to work out so far with occasional bouts of depression.

sissy_she_boy

11-04-2007, 09:56 PM

Somebody asked my this, I automatically said 'yes'. But thinking about there are probably somethings about myself I find less dersirable.

The lying I did for 15yrs to my ex-wife is one. The lying to myself is another. A couple of other things as well.

So as the song goes 'Regrets, I have A few'. If I could go back to when Iwas say 18, with my experence still with me, I would do things differently, be more open and honest for one.

So I suppose my best answer to the question is, 'I'm at peace with myself' :happy:

IMHO, I think almost all of us would do things different if we had the chance to go back and know what we know now. If I were able to go back I know I would have been a totally different person. I would never have dated any GG's for starters. I would have become more feminine early in life had I know I would be where I am now. I would have never gotten married, and I would have dated only men.
That said, I am very happy wtih myself right now. The road I am on now is the one I will stay on for the rest of my life. Sure we are considered different to most of society, but we are who we are and we cannot change that. At least we can't change and be happy. So I will just be happy with who I am.

breanna53

11-04-2007, 10:04 PM

One can't expct others to be happy with them if they are not happy with themselfs. Took me quite a few years to fiure that one out, but part of the key to it is being honest with yourself and to others. learned that i would say the hard way.
:happy:
Bree

shauna 9

11-04-2007, 11:01 PM

I like myself. Always have and always will !

michellebesweet

11-04-2007, 11:24 PM

Yes, I like myself and what I do and stand for in life. If you are not happy with yourself, you need to re-examine yourself.

Kristen Kelly

11-04-2007, 11:28 PM

Do I like myself; yes the person I am is kind, considerate, caring. Ask me if I like the person I see in the mirror and a short while ago I would have said no, when I looked in the mirror I saw him, it was only when I dressed was I truly happy to see who was in the mirror. Over the past 2 years I have slowly changed this, I have let my hair grow out and have highlighted it, pierced my ears and wear small hoops all the time, lost 42 lbs. That was not enough I still saw the man in the mirror so I started HRT, that made my weight loss difficult but I began to see the changes in the mirror, not the obvious breast growth that was not the only reason for HRT, my skin softened, my acne cleared, my hips rounded more. What I see now I am very happy with but it is a work of art still in the works. One thing I have gotten, I am more than happy with is the extreme comfort I have being myself out as Kristen or in as close to male mode as I can get. How far will I go fast-forward but don’t tell me I’m having too much fun

Bridget Fitzgerald

11-05-2007, 12:31 AM

no.

Rachaelb64

11-05-2007, 04:20 PM

Ruth

11-05-2007, 05:14 PM

Liking yourself is good if you can do it, but the work of your life is to know yourself. It's almost a cliche I know, but self-knowledge is the most important knowledge you can get. Also remember God loves you, and that alone should make you feel better about yourself.
BTW, I've learnt a lot about myself through CDing, and I mostly like what I've found.

jasminemichell

11-06-2007, 06:09 AM

Like myself, but so many regrets..............

trannie T

11-07-2007, 02:08 AM

My friends like me, I hate disagreeing with them so I like myself.
I am trying to change a few things about myself but none of us are perfect.

Colleentg

11-07-2007, 02:37 AM

Overall, yes. But I'm also too self-conscious about the flaws I notice more than anyone else. (Now how do I cover/hide that?) 27 yrs ago, I weighed at least 40 lbs less! I don't know what happened, I cant get back to it unless I eat once/week, or become addicted to some illegal drug! That will never happen! I have clothes that are too tight, now, and yet I can't get myself to get rid of them. I'm more happy with myself when the compliments come by, then I think, wow, either they didn't notice or my attributes overcome them.

charllote34

11-07-2007, 02:58 AM

I have always been happy with the person i am but more happier theses last few months after realising what i am and stop deniying it

Katie Ashe

11-07-2007, 02:35 PM

Over all no. But, am learning to live with myself. There is much I don't like about myself, I think God lost a bet:devil:, when I was made. There is much of my past which sucks, and has caused me to be bitter towards life, there seems little hope in dieing happy... :gn:

Jilmac

11-07-2007, 03:09 PM

yes i like myself, but i don't like some of the things i've done.i've never had any regrets about my crossdressing, but many of the methods i used to hide it from others disgust me. and even though i like myself i'm still confused about who i am.----Jill

Hali

11-07-2007, 04:06 PM

Before 2006 i use to hate being a CD, even though i have been "forced" to dress wen i was young, i have been dressing for sometime now, as i was saying yes i use to hate myself till after i come across sites that inform me that CDing is not a sin, is not disgusting, is not a deviant behaviour ..that was wen i had to read a lot about "wat are human beings doin on earth" and other religious and scientific reasons for the purpose of our creation and issues bordering on human desires concerning SEX and so on, after all the research I came to accept myself as a CD, and thats wen my happiness started.

I dont think i can marry cos I havnt settled my personal battles as to who i am... am i a woman (inside) if yes i might not be the "man" a typical woman would want ...am i a woman (transsexual) i might not be the typical woman a typical (straight man) would want so i think i might be happier after sorting these issues or "like myself better"

Melora

11-19-2007, 03:02 AM

It has been interesting to read the reply people have posted.

As I have said before I'm at peace with myself and I suppose I'm learning to like myself a lot better than I have in the past.

As a person I don't think I'm a bad person, I'm kind, I try to be considerate, I'm easy going and have a great sense of humour. I'll put my kids before anyone else and love the both dearly even if they do drive me up the wall at times :happy:

In the past I've felt alone, confussed, depressed and when you feel like it is easy to dislike yourself. Over the years I've realised that I'm not alone and my internal battle has lessened, hence being at peace with myself and I'm starting to like myself better.

And what an AWSOME person that you sound like you ARE! You go girl! Please keep it up, you are probably better than most in this world. And yes, Most of us go through the strife of living,.. Such as depression and confusion, That is to be just, human! You are a strong person as I am sure that we all are on this site, are in soo many ways. We might not even be here if it wasent for the courage within ourselvs!

veronica

11-19-2007, 09:27 AM

NO! But I don't much like anybody so I'm in good company:rolleyes:

remember the old Mac Davis song "OH LORD IT'S HARD TO BE HUMBLE"{ ?:devil:

Amanda Woods

11-19-2007, 09:34 AM

I think it is exremely important to like yourself,cos if you don,t then there is a possibility that nobody else will.Its not being big headed or cocky,its just a good feeling being in tune with your own beliefs and not following the crowd.

Mona

11-19-2007, 11:40 AM

I really do like myself although there are times I didn't, or didn't like what was happening to me or around me. Hopefully that won't happen again, and I have some control over that!

AmandaM

11-19-2007, 11:50 AM

No. Too many regrets. Instead of going in the service to "make me a man" I shoulda just saved some money and moved to Frisco. Etc., etc.

Lanore

11-22-2007, 09:20 PM

Do I like myself? Yes, yes and yes.

Lanore

Dawn Marie

11-23-2007, 12:44 AM

It took a long time before I really liked myself, but that came with age. Now I like the way I am, just wish the wife could see it that way.

Andi

11-27-2007, 01:00 AM

No, I absolutely hate everything about my male self and the older I get the more I hate me. I am coping but it is a daily struggle. :sad:

Denise Barrett

11-27-2007, 01:20 AM

Hi Rachael, :hugs:

For 59 years, no, because who I was trying to be wasn't who I was. For the last 2 1/2 weeks, yes, I've finally accepted who I am.

With all my love and respect,:love:
Denise

Taniawilde

11-27-2007, 04:44 AM

After reading the posts, it appears that the great majority of us are just not all that thrilled with ourselves. It's a sad situation.

I kind of like myself. I think my friends like me better than I do. I think I'm going to ask them...

Rachaelb64

11-27-2007, 05:34 AM

First, I'm amazed how many replied to this thread :D

Second, Its seems that the majority like themselves or are starting to like themselves after a bit of self-acceptance :happy:

Rachael :hugs:

Raychel

11-27-2007, 07:09 AM

I can honestly say that the only real time that I like myself is when I get time to dress up. The rest of the time, No I am not very happy with myself. I have very low opinion of myself. With a whole list of reasons why. All pointing back to some issues when I was a child. :(

So I guess I just have to live with me.

Stacye Rose

11-27-2007, 10:52 AM

Do I like myself? More and more everyday. Like everyone I have regrets. Mostly that I didn't come out of the closet when I was younger (and prettier) but that's all spilled milk under the bridge-can't change it.

Like the song says:

You can't go back, and you can't stand still,
If the thuder don't get you, then the lightnin' will.

Old Irish saying-

Never let on but it's up you're going.

Yesterday is gone, tomorrow hasn't come yet, all we have is today-that's why they call it the present.

In short Ladies. Make the most of what you have because it's all you've got.:2c:

sybercom11

11-27-2007, 12:20 PM

i would have to say yes i really do like myself. i am just being me. and through the years people have liked me for the way i am (well, except the bullies that we all faced in school)

as far as my wife goes, she told me she was attracted to my gentleness, consideration of others, giving of myself to her as far as time and devotion. pretty much i would have to say that i am very lucky that my wife likes my feminine side.

and she thinks it is uncanny that all cats and dogs i come across take a liking to me! then they go to the next person in the room and hiss and growl at them!

oh, and my friends have always called me by my feminine name, which is stevie.

Bethany_Anne_Fae

11-27-2007, 01:21 PM

There are so many really good responses to this query. Its been a long and painful road, but I have finally found the happy medium and am happy with myself these days.
We all make mistakes. We all do what we can to improve our situations and end up banging our proverbial heads against the wall again and again. We pick ourselves up and keep on moving. Its NOT an easy thing to be us or to go through some of the things we do to find that happy place within ourselves.
I know that I suffer from a form of Gender Dysphoria and it took a long time for me to actually admit it. An awful stepfather, a twin sister who felt the same way as I did (that we were in each others bodies by mistake), sexual abuse, physical abuse, mental abuse, 2 failed marriages, financial ruin... and the list goes on.

I used to question daily why I was even on this miserable rock.

When my sister decided she was done fighting her demons I was nearly destroyed....
BUT...
With a new batch of friends, a lot of therapy, a new S/O who thinks Embyrre is the bomb! ...and some love from really good people I was able to not follow my sister to the grave. She is still with me and we keep each other company emotionally. I know its hard to understand and that is what makes me a freak... but I do LIKE me nowadays.
Having an outlet where I can go out and be all girly for a few hours, be loved for what I do in return... has made it all worth while.

Those are my thoughts on this subject ;)

*hugs to all*
Zara

dazzed

11-27-2007, 01:37 PM

I'm too neurotic to be sure whether I do , or just think I do .

Rebecca Jackson

11-27-2007, 11:48 PM

It took a long time to accept my feminine side and to realize I wasn't the only person who felt this way, and that was a big step in being happier. Going through a divorce was rough and I feel like I lost a lot of who I was, and I'm still struggling with trying to figure out who and am and dealing with the parts of myself that I lost. But, I feel like I'm finally moving past the worst of it and getting on with my life. Some days I feel happy with my life, while other days I'm miserable and want to crawl under a rock and hide, but my kids keep me going.

alyssalove56

11-28-2007, 12:32 AM

Hey hang in there, rebecca. We are all who we are. It took me years to put the pieces in place. I don't think I even tried until the nest was empty. God bless.

Stormgirl

11-28-2007, 12:39 AM

Can't say that I do like myself much these days

Hali

01-03-2008, 01:48 PM

Yeah i like maself but Cding makes me really angry sometimes i wish it'll be different.

susanmichelle

01-03-2008, 02:12 PM

Exactually like MJ said. And btw thats a really nice new pic on your avatar MJ

Nicole Erin

01-03-2008, 07:17 PM

As most people, I have done some silly things that I wish I had not. Just little stuff that most dumb youger people do and later feel bad.

Right now, I "wish" all the things as everyone else - wish I had a better job, more money, more this more that...

My CD'ing, I don't really know how I feel about that. It is just there. I don't feel better or worse about myself for it. Maybe I kid myself but I feel like I am better looking as Erin, even if the same person underneath the superficial cover.

So sure yeah I like me. I figure if there are things that REALLY bother me about how I am, I will get off my arse and change them.

docrobbysherry

01-03-2008, 08:41 PM

Yes:
Because I'm successful on my own terms. I've lived my life pretty much the way I've wanted to. I've usually taken the "road less traveled". I have a delightful daughter. I have good health and am financially good. I've always moved forward in lfe, always looking forward to things I haven't done yet.
Rarely looking back, except for my mistakes, which I try not to repeat. I'm not afraid to try new things. IE: Starting crossdressing in my 50's.

No:
Because I am selfcentered and have too much ego. I do not care enough about other people, and few people care about me. I'm too full of myself. Just look at my avatar, that says it better than I can!
RS

Mariah

01-03-2008, 09:15 PM

I'll revise mine.
I accept me for me, I would never think of killing myself. nor would I fight for my life if I was greviesly injured./ someone try to kill me. my life is not worth living. but it is not worth me trying to kill ether.

better?

keris

Jacqui

01-03-2008, 09:24 PM

I generally like myself.

The only times I don't like myself are the times I get on a roller-coaster.

When I initially get on the ride, I don't like myself. As it inches its way to the top, I begin to not like myself even more! Why the f*^k did I get onto this ride? The headlines in tomorrow's paper will be, "Man wearing panties dies in freak roller-coaster mishap."

As the roller-coaster plummets down the track and rounds the turns, I am hating myself! Loathing myself to be more precise!

Finally, the ride is over, my bodily vibrations begin to cease, a quiet calm takes over. I curse myself for getting on the roller- coaster in the first place. I promise myself never to go on it again, and then, if I believe myself, I begin to like myself again...

until the next time I get on the roller-coaster.