Rachel Ann
04-04-2005, 03:55 PM
I am exhilarated but exhausted after last night (Sunday).
I’ve been going to a TGirl club, “I Love It [Girl]” in Fremont, California for about six months now, and it’s been heaven. We change there, we are completely safe, and I have learned a lot.
I didn’t think I was ready, but at the last minute the club was short a backup singer for their act at a fund-raiser, so I was dragooned because I was handy. I might have begged off but I felt that if they thought I was ready, I must at least take the chance.
Luckily, I am comfortable onstage – but I was as jumpy as a hen driving there and getting from the car to the [GLBT] event! A lot of us have started carrying laminated ID cards with a boy pic on one side and a girl pic on the other, just in case you get pulled over and the cop has a problem with the fact that you don’t look like the picture on your drivers’ license. They all know that crossdressing isn’t illegal – just don’t drive drunk!
Once we got inside, a TGirl (whom I had never met) saw how nervous and shy I was, and took me under her wing to put me at ease! Most of the drag queens and some of the more obvious butch lesbians hate us but everyone else was as nice as pie. :) There was a bit of a Waterloo over the use of restrooms (we had to change clothes twice) but the management intervened and reminded the objectors that the sign on the door said “Ladies”, not “Women”. :D
The only really scary part of the evening was on the way back - everyone wanted to stop at a restaurant (Denny’s). All of the patrons gave us (or me, anyway) the hairy eyeball on the way in, but the staff were quite nice to us.
I had to pee too badly to hold it, so I had to use the ladies’ room. :eek: The GG among us said “well, Rachel, you have to learn to manage this sometime. However the most passable and experienced TGirl took pity on me and ran interference for me. Tachycardia time!
She gave me a few valuable tips:
1. On the way in, be looking in your purse for something so that your hair obscures your face.
2. If there's a line, leave and come back later (see #4)
3. DON'T SPEAK
4. On the way out, be sure to look at yourself in the mirror.
In California it's only legal to do this if you have a letter from your doctor stating that you are transitioning, and are 24x7. Even then, Tgirls are arrested sometimes.
Sorry to ramble so much. I am probably making much ado about nothing, but it was an evening that I will never forget! And I will always be ready to go out again (well, maybe not alone - yet).
Love, hugs and kisses :D
I’ve been going to a TGirl club, “I Love It [Girl]” in Fremont, California for about six months now, and it’s been heaven. We change there, we are completely safe, and I have learned a lot.
I didn’t think I was ready, but at the last minute the club was short a backup singer for their act at a fund-raiser, so I was dragooned because I was handy. I might have begged off but I felt that if they thought I was ready, I must at least take the chance.
Luckily, I am comfortable onstage – but I was as jumpy as a hen driving there and getting from the car to the [GLBT] event! A lot of us have started carrying laminated ID cards with a boy pic on one side and a girl pic on the other, just in case you get pulled over and the cop has a problem with the fact that you don’t look like the picture on your drivers’ license. They all know that crossdressing isn’t illegal – just don’t drive drunk!
Once we got inside, a TGirl (whom I had never met) saw how nervous and shy I was, and took me under her wing to put me at ease! Most of the drag queens and some of the more obvious butch lesbians hate us but everyone else was as nice as pie. :) There was a bit of a Waterloo over the use of restrooms (we had to change clothes twice) but the management intervened and reminded the objectors that the sign on the door said “Ladies”, not “Women”. :D
The only really scary part of the evening was on the way back - everyone wanted to stop at a restaurant (Denny’s). All of the patrons gave us (or me, anyway) the hairy eyeball on the way in, but the staff were quite nice to us.
I had to pee too badly to hold it, so I had to use the ladies’ room. :eek: The GG among us said “well, Rachel, you have to learn to manage this sometime. However the most passable and experienced TGirl took pity on me and ran interference for me. Tachycardia time!
She gave me a few valuable tips:
1. On the way in, be looking in your purse for something so that your hair obscures your face.
2. If there's a line, leave and come back later (see #4)
3. DON'T SPEAK
4. On the way out, be sure to look at yourself in the mirror.
In California it's only legal to do this if you have a letter from your doctor stating that you are transitioning, and are 24x7. Even then, Tgirls are arrested sometimes.
Sorry to ramble so much. I am probably making much ado about nothing, but it was an evening that I will never forget! And I will always be ready to go out again (well, maybe not alone - yet).
Love, hugs and kisses :D