How do you feel when you are dressed? [Archive] - Crossdressers.com - #1 Community & Forum for Crossdressers, Family and Friends

Kate Simmons

11-20-2007, 04:55 AM

I sometimes wonder how others feel when they dress. I know how I feel. Even though these days I'm somewhat ambiguous about it and have pretty much balanced my feelings, sometimes it's just nice to "pretty up" go out and have fun. We sometimes say we "feel" like a woman. I don't know what that means really, never having been one, even if I do have an idea by observation. I know there's a lot more to it than just dressing and the "glitter" besides the obvious. All I know is how I feel.

Even though I have proven I can have just as much fun as Rich, I've also proven something else to myself. I can express myself in this way and am no longer ashamed or afraid of doing it. By doing this, I have passed "muster" with the most critical judge on the planet--myself. It puts me in touch with my feelings and my own honesty about myself.

The point is, I feel I'm a better person for having had the gumption to address this and deal with it. Many people try to suppress their feelings and as a result have nothing but problems of one kind or another. I lived that way for years in denial of my real feelings. It's much easier to experience them and express them and quite liberating really.

I won't be doing this forever, even now events are shaping up in the background which may make me decide to put Sal on the shelf, perhaps indefinately. Coming "out" greatly affected my life in more ways than one, not all nesessarily for the better. Do I regret it? Not at all because if I hadn't decided to proceed, I never would have truely known myself.

So, what does dressing do for you and how do you really feel when you do it?

Rachaelb64

11-20-2007, 05:48 AM

I'm not quiet sure, to be honest. I feel more relax even happier, but I do have fun as my male self.

I never been outside really as my 'female' self, never really had the need, even though I have throught about it.

Never really done the whole macho thing, always seemed like too much effort, but I never really been effeminate either. Just tried to be a good person in a world full of ars*h**es.

Being dressed is like a realease value for me, helps me cope with my emotions.

Sorry can't be more vauge then that.

Brianna Lovely

11-20-2007, 05:52 AM

So, what does dressing do for you and how do you really feel when you do it?

Hmmm, after spending most of my life, feeling "wrong", I finally became aware of and fully accepted my feminine traits.

So, today I feel "whole", a complete person. Since I don't wear male clothes, anymore, I don't really change how I feel, by what I'm wearing.

It's strange, but I like to say that I feel "more", when I'm priming myself to go out. Every day I feel fem, pretty, confident and at peace, but when I "dress-up" (going out to something special), I feel like all my feminine traits are amplified

Delilah

11-20-2007, 06:01 AM

I feel relaxed, Salandra. Panties, Bra and hose are a great stress reliever.

Delilah

erickka

11-20-2007, 07:38 AM

Salandra, For me, I'm comfortable, relaxed, and most of all, I feel "complete". It is the full expression of the whole "me".

Karren H

11-20-2007, 07:51 AM

I'd really be surprised if anyone said "I feel like sh!t when I dress..." lol If it doesn't feel good then it's time for a different hoby.... knitting or colecting cats..... :D

Karren

carsoncitypanties

11-20-2007, 08:24 AM

I find it calming, it makes the day easier.
I tried to explain it to my wife once, the best I could come up with was it's really hard to be in a bad mood or get pissed off at someone at work, when you are wearing a pair of your wifes bright pink, black and yellow boyshorts.
The added bonus is that, at least for me, it's a huge turn on having the silky material rubbing me all day and the "having a secret" aspect is pretty cool too.

Kate Simmons

11-20-2007, 09:06 AM

I'd really be surprised if anyone said "I feel like sh!t when I dress..." lol If it doesn't feel good then it's time for a different hoby.... knitting or colecting cats..... :D

KarrenMore cats I can do without. The one I have (inherited) is enough (thinks she is a queen). Knitting--maybe when I'm ready for the rocker :heehee:. Mostly I asked the question to share my own feelings and give an idea to everyone else about how we really feel about this. So many times I hear"Just what do you get out of that?"(sometimes with a smirk) Well, here's our chance to let 'em know.:happy:

Edwina

11-20-2007, 09:22 AM

I don't think I can come up with anything definitive here but all I know is that having socialised with my wife and my ex collegues for most of the day at an annual lunch I couldn't wait to get home and put on my bra, breast forms and cotton top for an hour or so. (wife has a two hour appointment with the dentist)
I love to be en femme when ever I can and feel very relaxed and normal.
:love:
Edwina

DAVIDA

11-20-2007, 09:32 AM

Hi Sal!
Let's see, how do I feel? I just feel like me. I know that might sound a little simple, but it doesn't matter what I am wearing, I am me. That doesn't change the fact that I would prefer to be wearing female clothes!

christine722

11-20-2007, 09:45 AM

Bras and panties are my clothes. These are the garments I wear everyday. I feel uncomfortable in male clothes.

jenniferj

11-20-2007, 09:49 AM

I feel like I've just gotten home from a long trip and everything is familiar and the way it should be.

I feel relaxed, happy, and like smiling. And like singing.

I feel 20 years younger.

I feel 20 pounds lighter.

I feel much more attractive.

I feel sexy and hot.

I feel like the sweet girl next door on that TV show with the 4 CalTech nerds.

-jj

joann07

11-20-2007, 10:13 AM

It's hard to describe in words, but I would say that I'm confident, relaxed, more outgoing, and happy.
It's a wonderful sensation that gives me a tingling feeling every time I go out. :heehee:
As soon as I step out the door, I think of that song by Shania Twain "Man! I Feel Like A Woman!". :)

Lissa Stevens

11-20-2007, 10:20 AM

I simply feel like that is how I should dress. It's natural to dress enfemme.

docrobbysherry

11-20-2007, 10:28 AM

I feel relaxed, happy, and like smiling. And like singing.

I feel 20 years younger.

I feel 20 pounds lighter.

I feel much more attractive.

I feel sexy and hot.

I feel like the sweet girl next door on that TV show with the 4 CalTech nerds.

-jj

Except I feel like I'm 18 again, and have a date with that sweet, pretty girl next door! And all the excitement and nervousness that goes with that.

NOT relaxing, but I'm also not preoccupied and thinking of anything else, like I normally am.
RS

www.myspace.com/robertsherry

Stephenie S

11-20-2007, 11:06 AM

I have been 'round and 'round about this many times on this forum.

Sorry girls, but I just feel like me. Just me. My thoughts are that that's all you can ever feel like. You can feel like you dressed in pretty clothes, but it's still you. I find it difficult to explain what it feels like to be tall, to have small breasts, to have big feet. That all just feels like me. I feel like me. I feel like me in jeans, and I feel like me in a skirt. The clothes don't change who I feel like.

Anyway, that's one girl's opinion. It doesn't seem like many others agree with me.

Loviers,
Stephenie

insearchofme

11-20-2007, 12:47 PM

At different times I feel differently: calm, relaxed, fulfilled, turned on, complete, sexy, comfortable and even (on very rare occasions) guilty.

Deborah Jane

11-20-2007, 01:02 PM

I feel like me but calmer and more relaxed. I don,t know why, but thats how it is!!

Marla S

11-20-2007, 01:29 PM

Now that's some tricky question to answer.

"Feel like a woman" ? Can't answer this, 'cause I don't know how that should feel like. Maybe I do, most likely I don't.
But some experiences that come with dressing are certainly similar to GGs ... but that's about it, I assume.
I see/feel it more like sharing/participating in certain cultural aspects ... aka feminine culture.
Some of it doesn't require clothes, some does.

Doing so I feel to liberate myself of restrictions that are inherent in the male culture ... that doesn't make me a woman though.

Well, and feeling liberated is a nice feeling, isn't it ?:happy:

With my "integrated" mode I feel closest to "my reality" than in pure drab or drag. Additionally it's easy to tune up or down depending on situation and mood.

Finally there is a narcissistic element to it. Usually I like my somewhat feminized image by far better than pure drab. Can't be bad to like to look into the mirror instead of avoiding it.

Tgirl74

11-20-2007, 03:31 PM

Hi everyone!

When I'm fully dressed that is a wig,make up, bra, forms, tuck hose, heels and a dress I feel truelly amazing, I feel so relaxed, comfortable, kind, gentle ,sweet, loving caring,sexy and I feel very pretty. I feel naked to the world,very natural! When I AM dressed I'm really being myself.

I'm not sure What I am.I do know since I've decided to start crossdressing when presenting myself as a male I feel alot better once I relax and get past feeling paranoid.I'm wearing womans clothes all the time except when at work.If I'm not working i'm tucked in pantyhose, wearing womens jeans, tops, belt and shoes carrying my womans bag.

I am pretty nervous at times and I'm not sure where this is going but I feel I need to express who I am.I can't go back!

Jacinda

RobertaFermina

11-20-2007, 03:38 PM

I feel warm and open and accepting, present.

I reach out more, and feel the energy and courage to, as Barb puts it, "make the fun."

I am more unabashedly in love with myself and life.

:rose: Roberta :rose:

il.dso

11-20-2007, 03:54 PM

Great question.
I agree with many of the descriptions above:
Relaxed, serene, calm, pretty, special.

Samantha43

11-20-2007, 04:06 PM

I guess it makes me feel more relaxed. I am so high strung, tied up with everyday life and doing my family responsibilities that I sometimes lose sight of what it is like to slow down and really enjoy myself. Years ago it was a sexual turn on for me, but as I have aged it has become much less of that and more a feeling of contentment. When I am Samantha everything moves a little slower, and I am able to focus on who I really am. I am able to see what is really important in my life in a way that I don't think most men are able to. I like being a man. But I also like being able to shed the male persona and show my feminine side. Being Samantha is almost like being on a vacation for me.

In my daily life I never wear female clothing. I am a typical guy living his life. When I do dress, I go all out, usually for several days at a time. When the time comes to go back to being my male self, I do so 100%. Then I look foreward to the next time I will be Samantha.

We all are different and have different reasons for dressing. This is what I have found to be the best life balance for me. My wife is happy with this arrangement, and gives me her full support. I feel I am blessed in so many ways.

Alice B

11-20-2007, 04:09 PM

When partialy dressed, panties, nylons and maybe a silk nightgown to bed I don't feel that much different than normal, because I wear these almost 7/24 and am used to it. When I dress completely, with make-up, forms, wig, etc. I feel very different, yet it is a great feeling. I'm more relaxed, softer around the edges and very calm. There is only one draw-back. I can't stay away from all the mirrors in the house.:happy:

charlie

11-20-2007, 04:13 PM

Hello Sal!
When I dress I feel sexy, sweet, pretty and love looking at myself in the mirror. I always wear short skirts (mid thigh), nylons and heels. The look turns me on a lot. When I go out dressed (always to a transgendered club) I feel like a guy in a dress, but a comfortable guy. I like looking down at my sexy legs, feeling cool air under my skirt and feeling the hose. I still check out the GG women at the bar, then the dressed women (like myself). The few times I have been hit on by men was uncomfortable for me because I was not ready for something like that. So for me it is the excitement of being dressed and feeling sexy that makes me dress.

Ruth

11-20-2007, 04:13 PM

Stephenie S, I know where you're coming from. When I'm dressed I feel like me. Like the prettier, more expressive, slightly more flamboyant me that I have always wanted to be, but for so long have been unable to be.
It's not a good metaphor but drab is a bit like having to go round with one arm tied behind your back most of the time. When dressed I am free, I've got the use of extra faculties (emotional and expressive), I am whole instead of being slightly confined, bottled up.
I could go on all night... The result of course is that in general mood I feel a whole lot better en femme, but we knew that.

Kate Simmons

11-20-2007, 04:32 PM

Well, so far, it's pretty much what I suspected. The heart felt answers confirm that. Most are basically saying it brings out the best in us and I certainly agree with that. I asked the question to see how each of us felt individually but also so others who may be near and dear to us can understand. I know it's really hard sometimes to put pure feelings such as we have when we dress into words, especially since we have been "programmed" by society to keep our feelings to ourselves. I'm glad we have the Forum to discuss this. You folks are the absolute best.:thumbsup::happy:

Joanna-Louise

11-20-2007, 04:43 PM

I tend to feel more confident in who i am when dressed as Joanna, eben tho the basics of me still exist ive been told by my current SO im more loving, understanding and alot more soppy.

I'm also more inclined to get more things done that ive planned to do, ie guitar practise, working on my songs web sites aswell as the practical chore of housework.

back on topic of feelings, i guess i find myself "happier" as joanna, than i do being dressed as Steve. While i am comfortable with steve ive realised that dressing will forever be a part of me despite not wanting to go all the way, and have so far passed up every chance ive had of doing so. Having tried to kick the "habbit" countless times, ive always found myself lacking in life and feeling depressed and feeling like im constantly looking for that something in life i can never find.

To overcome the feelings ive always ended up going to buy a skirt, underwear etc etc, and as soon as ive changed ive realised what was missing was me. The "real" me where I can relax and generally chill out and see who i am.

OlgaS

11-20-2007, 04:45 PM

Well I feel very soft and sensual when I'm dressed up. I love wearing elegant clothes like ball gowns and dress suits. The sound of high heels is amazing and really excits me, which is were my cross dressing started. It always starts with stockings, suspender belt then a bra and finally the dress which is lined and feels so silky and sexy! Then and only then, do I feel like a real women.

Ms Rebecca

11-20-2007, 07:02 PM

Audrey34

11-20-2007, 08:44 PM

If I'm wearing something I really like and I'm in a great mood, then i'll feel very sexy. I like that feeling! Sometimes though, if an outfit doesn't feel right I end up taking it off and putting it in my Salvation Army donation pile. But usually when i'm dressed it's great!
-Audrey

Karen A

11-20-2007, 09:08 PM

I find I dress the most when it’s been a stressful day so it definitely relaxes me. I love putting on makeup; it’s a lot of fun. And when I’m all done and look in the mirror there’s a certain feeling of contentment and joy. When I’m in my male persona I like to put on nice clothes but I don’t get near the feeling as I do when I put on a nice skirt, heals and go all out.

Joni T

11-20-2007, 09:24 PM

It makes me feel a lot relaxed (notice I didn't say "more" relaxed), and at ease with mineself. Bottom line is that when I'm dressed I feel "right".
Joni

teresa jeen

11-20-2007, 10:36 PM

well, i feel like me. its like i hide in the appearence of being a genetic male. as soon as i can i get to my fem clothes and put them on. im more comfortable being she than he. all we can do is be our selves.

Megan70

11-20-2007, 10:46 PM

I was dressed enfemme one night shooting pool at a gay bar with this very attractive motor racing bike lesbian who took in interest in me being a crossdresser and asked the usual 20 questions. So I turned an asked her who was dressed in jeans ,and t-shirt and boots " how do you feel when you are all dressed up feminine in lingerie, pretty dress, stockings heels perfume, hair done , jewelry etc,. ready for a night on the town?"
Her answer " like a MILLION BUCKS!!"
Well thats how crossdressers feel all the time , I answered.
Question answered here

Megan

Kerrie Sifton

11-21-2007, 02:11 AM

I feel pretty, oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty and gay! or something like that.
I love the aspect of dressing up and seeing the results..... its so much more work than knitting or assembling cats!
The planning and the shopping are all part of the fun! It is a change from taking apart my deck.
And .. oh, yeah, its a lot of work to be a girl, but I love a challenge, :D

Raychel

11-21-2007, 06:19 AM

I feel totally relaxed and comfortible. All the stresses and pressures of everyday life just seem to disappear for the short time that I get to dress.

Megan70

11-21-2007, 06:24 AM

I feel pretty, oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty and gay! or something like that.'....
WestSide story

......'"i enjoy being a girl!"
South Pacific Musical define us perfectly!

Megan

Suzy Harrison

11-21-2007, 08:13 AM

I've been reading all of your replies (loved Karren's reply :heehee:) and I've given it a lot of thought.

It is a strange feeling; I feel content, whole - and kind of reborn. It's sort of a spiritual feeling for me. Whilst it's exciting going out in public, I feel there is something more to it that seems to defy definition.

I feel a different person that’s for sure, but there’s something else I’ve never been able to understand – but I love it – I feel more ‘me’ than at any other time.

:hugs: Suzy

Michelle 51

11-21-2007, 09:22 AM

I feel very relaxed when i,m dressed but i admit i still feel like me.I,m not more fem and less male.I,m just expressing what has always been there but my wife claims i,m nicer now that i can dress around her and wear fem lingerie to bed if i want.I think i,m more honest with her now that ive removed this secret from our relationship. justabit

wintershaver

11-21-2007, 03:44 PM

:happy:i love wearing hose and knee high boots makes me feel relaxed

MelindaC

11-21-2007, 07:38 PM

When I am dressed --- I'm more relaxed and more mellow and comfortable. I feel so much more free, natural and proper. Seems like I should be able to dress this way all the time. In short, as someone else mentioned in an earlier post --- I feel more like "me".....

Cindi Ann Kelly

11-21-2007, 08:10 PM

relaxed.

cindi ann

Denise Barrett

11-21-2007, 08:13 PM

As they use to say on Family Feud, "Good answer, good answer", to all of you. Not sure there is one answer; no I'm sure there isn't. One thing I've learned from this forum, there are many reason we dress, not just one. Therefore, it stands to reason, there are many feelings. All well expressed in these posts.

It makes me feel complete too, but only because I am dressed like who I am, Denise. When I'm in drab, these days anyway, I act and feel pretty much the same, as Denise. I have quit fighting to not be her, and now I am her, no matter how I dress. I feel great, no matter what, like what all you said, "relaxed, kinder, more outgoing, etc., etc."

OMG I love this [-]forum[/-] family. :hugs: What an education.

With all my love and respect for you all,
Denise

kayla_cd_va

11-21-2007, 11:01 PM

When I"m dressed I feel so sexy. I'm not much of a man in bed so as a man I feel inadequate. When I put the nylones on, high heels, make up, nails painted, wig on, I feel a comfort level with myself.

Kayla

Phoebe Reece

11-22-2007, 12:04 AM

I get a mixture of feelings when fully dressed femme, which shift around depending on what I am doing at the time. When I first get finished with my makeup and dressing, the dominant feeling is often the same as an actor who has just gotten into character. When I go out sometimes the feeling is like that of an explorer going into unfamiliar and possibly dangerous territory. When I interact with people I usually feel that I can be more open and free with my emotions. Mostly, I feel that I am a really special person when dressed.

Ashly

11-22-2007, 09:05 AM

I just feel like At Home..Does that make sense ?

shauna 9

11-22-2007, 09:51 AM

I feel like me but calmer and more relaxed.

Lisa X

11-22-2007, 10:10 AM

I have experienced all of the feelings mentioned on this post, and it definitely changes depending on the day, the mood and the situation. There is another feeling I will describe as contentment. I think some of you have described it calm or fulfilled. It just feels right and all things are good. I get into this mode if I can have a fairly long period to be Lisa. When I have to revert back to the male mode, I definitely notice the feeling going away. This feeling is very strong and "instinctive" and consciously I do not understand it.

Lisa

Colleentg

11-22-2007, 04:58 PM

One word: Complete

janet1234

11-22-2007, 05:15 PM

also relaxed, content, boobies are so much fun.

Joy Carter

11-22-2007, 05:42 PM

Aligning my brain with my dress has done so much for me. Mentally it's been a big plus. Just wish I had the courage to make my body match my mind.

Brenda121

11-22-2007, 06:28 PM

I feel relaxed, Salandra. Panties, Bra and hose are a great stress reliever.

Delilah

Add a slip and I'm not sure why,but it just puts me in a diferent place a nice place with a great feeling:happy::happy:

Dawn Marie

11-22-2007, 07:03 PM

When I am dressed, even for a short time it seems that all my problems disappear for a while, because I am a differnt person. My fem side just takes over and I become Dawn Marie. I am comfortable with my self in CD mode, which helps me pass very easily. Even thou like you I don't care if I am read I do it for me. And I just love getting all dolled up and looking pretty.

Victoria Anne

11-22-2007, 07:05 PM

Salandra we can always count on you for a good question. So how do I feel ? The simple awnser is like myself but that is not very descriptive is it? I am clmer and more confident yet a bit skidish as well. I feel more in touch with who I am and a better person meaning I'm more sympathetic and compassionate . I feel free to express my emotions through touch and tear as well as laughter , I feel I can be more nuturing and loving. In short I am free to be myself.