First time with my SO dressed...

[lusee]

I'm a new GG with my SO....It's our first time being together with him being dressed. It feels a little, well, unusual......I guess I'm not sure how I feel at this moment.... Maybe a little fear... Not feeling inclined to be affectionate with him right now..... with him being dressed as a woman..... That makes me a little sad....

One step at a time...

All feedback appreciated...

[Holly]

Lusee, tell HIM how you are feeling. While it is important for the person who is crossdressing to be honest and forthright with their SO (significant other), it is equally important for the SO to be honest with how they are feeling as well. Communicate with one another... it's the only way the two of you can know what the other is thinking. Then be prepared (the two of you) to establish booundaries and compromise. Best wishes to you both.

[racquel]

Treat her like a you would a friendly maid.It's amazing how much can be said as she cleans the entire house for you:D
I bet she'll love doing it too:2c:
Have fun:hugs:

[Raychel]

First of all Welcome to the forum Lusee.

Then as Holly said, you should talk to him about your feelings. That is the only way that the two of you can really connect on this issue. If he knows how you feel, maybe he will be less inclined to dress around you. :2c::love:

[Angie G]

Lusee you sre a great person for trying to undrestand you so's dressing.
Bless you hun :hugs:
Angie

[Kieroney]

You need to talk to my wife, she is in the same boat your in, I'm hoping yours isn't sinking as fast as the one she's on. I've told her of the site, hoping she will come on and talk.

[Daintre]

Hi Lusee, this was new for both of you, and I am sure your SO was scared, and felt awkward. This was just a step, you didn't recoil and denounce him, you did your best to take it all in. What happens now? well you two need to sit down and tell each other what went through each of your minds, be honest with him. Neither of you knows right now how this will progress, only good communication and love for each other will see you both through this.

Good luck Lusee :hugs:

[Mary Morgan]

lusee, I really admire the fact that you are taking the position you are. No body said you had to like this, but maybe you can learn to. This is a two way process. She tells you how she feels, and you do the same. If we can help. please do not hesitate to ask. I know this is hard. It is a hard secret to carry and a hard one to hear about. In time you may each find a place of comfort with this. Again, I truly admire and compliment you on your initial reaction.

[lusee]

Thank you Holly for your feed back.....That is indeed what I did....showed him the message as I sent it.....

Establishing bounderies is important....I guess it's a process....

Thanks again...and happy Thanksgiving...

Lusee

Angie,

Thanks for your supportive feedback..... It is much appreciated....

Just wanted to thank all of you for your feedback and your support.....I want to accept my SO exactly as he is....He's a terrific person.....and very unique....There's no pressure from him....I know his desire is to share this part of himself with me....So I'm doing my best to "go with the flow." It's a learning experience...

Thanks again for all your wisdom and support....I wish you all a very happy Thanksgiving...

Lusee

[Brianna Lovely]

Just wanted to thank all of you for your feedback and your support.....I want to accept my SO exactly as he is....He's a terrific person.....and very unique....There's no pressure from him....I know his desire is to share this part of himself with me....So I'm doing my best to "go with the flow." It's a learning experience...

Thanks again for all your wisdom and support....I wish you all a very happy Thanksgiving...

Lusee

I'm happy to hear about you accepting your SO.

Although I don't agree, with some of the ladies, about boundries and restrictions. To me, that's like your SO telling you, that you have to wear a skirt or dress, Monday thru Friday and can only wear jeans on Saturday.

Loving someone and accepting them, means just that. Not, "I accept you, only if you behave the way I want you to".

Love her for who she is, at the moment. A man, a woman, both? Does it matter? But most importantly, a wonderful person.

And a happy Thanksgiving to you.

[Rachaelb64]

I'm happy to hear about you accepting your SO.

Although I don't agree, with some of the ladies, about boundries and restrictions. To me, that's like your SO telling you, that you have to wear a skirt or dress, Monday thru Friday and can only wear jeans on Saturday.

Loving someone and accepting them, means just that. Not, "I accept you, only if you behave the way I want you to".

Love her for who she is, at the moment. A man, a woman, both? Does it matter? But most importantly, a wonderful person.

And a happy Thanksgiving to you.

Relationships are about compromise from both sides, you have work out were the happy medium is. I don't beleive in this BS about "I'm a crossdresser, so deal with it".

If you want acceptance from your SO, don't be unbending, give something back. If your SO is happy for you to dress once a week then accept. Let the relationship grow, let the acceptance grow. DO NOT, shove it into your SO's face and expect them to just accept, becuase you the crossdresser.

Be the mature, reasonable one in the first stages, this is a major shock to your SO's system. Help them compromise.

This is my :2c: dont mean to offend anyone.

[RachelDenise]

Welcome to the forum. Start talking. You need to express how you feel and he needs to listen. Otherwise, it won't work.

[morgan51]

We spend a lot of time talking and it pays dividends I can't imagine where we would be without it. You sound wonderfully supportive as is my s.o. second life you 2 should compare notes. best of luck to you both pm us if you wish. Morgan:happy:

[Glenda]

then you fell in love with what is on the inside, not the outside. We all have our own beliefs and perceptions about how being enfemme changes us, but I don't believe it really does. Everything that may come out when your bf is dressed are things that were in him before. It just seems more visual now.

I've been involved in a couple of relationships where my gf said she had a problem with me being enfemme. In both cases we ended the relationship but not the friendship. Over time, they both became comfortable with and appreciative of my feminine side. It was something that had been nurtured from childhood and was an integral part of my being. They came to realize that I wasn't any different as Glen or Glenda. Both later confessed that they had thought they would be able to influence how I dressed only to realize that I was the same person regardless of how I dressed. Both wanted to continue the relationship.

Sadly, neither one of them was what I felt I needed in a life partner. I did enjoy being with them, but their views of life differed drastically from mine. Bottom line.......if you love and care about the person then you will learn to be comfortable. It may not happen immediately, but it will happen. If not, then it was not meant to be.

[kim85]

Relationships are about compromise from both sides, you have work out were the happy medium is. I don't beleive in this BS about "I'm a crossdresser, so deal with it".

If you want acceptance from your SO, don't be unbending, give something back. If your SO is happy for you to dress once a week then accept. Let the relationship grow, let the acceptance grow. DO NOT, shove it into your SO's face and expect them to just accept, becuase you the crossdresser.

Be the mature, reasonable one in the first stages, this is a major shock to your SO's system. Help them compromise.

This is my :2c: dont mean to offend anyone.

couldnt of said it better myself

[Amy Hepker]

Crossdressers need LOVE too.

We have emotions.
We have fears.
We just want to be ourselves and be accepted for it.
We are better than most people make us out to be.

[lusee]

I'm overwhelmed by your loving support. I feel compelled to listen to my feelings, express them and go slowly.....My SO is very patient and understanding with me....So, things are going well..... I feel some discomfort, but that is to be expected.....One day at a time....

Best wishes to all and thanks again for your wise and thoughtful posts....