Are you a stay-at-home tranny?

[Raquel June]

I see a lot of people on here who don't seem to go out dressed, but will spend the evening in women's clothes, even if it's just casually sitting around or sleeping in some piece of women's clothing.

Personally, when I was younger (and by younger I mean up till a few months ago), I liked to try on the occasional piece of the girlfriend's clothing while she wasn't around ... and (sorry if I'm grossing anyone out) this always lead to watching some porn then taking the item(s) back off. I would never just hang around or sleep in girls' clothes.

These days I have a lot of clothes and I like to go to CD-friendly clubs on the weekend, but I never just lounge around in girls' clothes. I consider myself very fortunate to live in an area with a few clubs that I feel comfortable at. I never actually go to normal public places, though. I was just wondering how many of you go out and what your feelings are on the issue.

If you stay at home, I would be very interested in reading if this is primarily because the wife doesn't really approve, if you're too uncomfortable to go out, if there are no CD-friendly clubs in your area, or if you just have no interest.

Thanks!

[LilSissyStevie]

I'm a stay at home crossdresser, but I almost never dress up alone. It is something the wife and I do together as part of our love games. Before her, I dressed alone. I've never had any desire or fantasy about going out in public dressed. I can't imagine what benefit I would get out of it. Crossdressing isn't my life, it's just something fun that I do.

[Lucy Bright]

I'm stay-at-home too. And much more likely to be lounging around (or working) than watching porn!

I'd love to go out, and it's probably sheer cowardice that I haven't so far. But I seem to be getting more self-confidence by the day, so that situation may not last. I hope it doesn't, anyway...

Kisses,

Lucy

[Mitch23]

out and about as much as possibe and loving it - just off out now in fact!

Mitch

[Joanna-Louise]

Im currently a stay at home CD, I have been out whilst i was living in North Yorkshire dressed em feme, as i was going to go down the TS route in my life.

While ive got comfrtable being Joanna-Louise part of my dressing at home only comes down to not having "real life" trand/cd friends so don't really know of any clubs/pubs that are CD/TS friendly.

Would love to go out every now and again tho all dolled up and let Joanna let her hair down for an evening.


Joanna
xx

[traceyanne]

guess i fit into that category. i normally dress in the house but more recently ive started to go out wearing womens trousers/denims and tops and some lite makeup. before we go out my wife looks me over to make sure it not too obvious as she likes to keep it a thing we do. compromise on both sides

[Brianna Lovely]

I always wear fem clothes, so doing everyday stuff, I'm dressed. If I'm going "out", meeting or TG friendly place, I dress a little nicer and use more makeup.

[Mollyanne]

For me, I fall into the"stay at home", and I'll tell you why
"Have you ever seen a bulldog in a skirt, well the bulldog would only look slightly better then I.

:love: Mollyanne

[RachelDenise]

I stay at home mostly but I underdress a lot. That wasn't one of the choices. I bet it would be popular!!!!

[DAVIDA]

Sorry, I could not answer your poll. I mostly stay home, but I have and will go out.

[erickka]

Mostly at home, but I do go out occasionally. When I do, it is a conservative middle aged look....NOTHING flashy.

[Veronica 1]

I am a stay at home dresser as there is no way my face would pass for a womans.

[Tiffy]

I guess I am a stay at home tranny. Since I am the housewife in our house. And always seem to be home. But I like it that way.

Tiffany

[Karren H]

Actually I'm a crossdresser and hate the term "Tranny" almost as much as I hate the term "*******" and yes I go out enfemme as much as I can....

Karren

[carolinebrookes]

I'm one of those who does manage to venture out on occasion, just doing normal things like shopping, clubbing, to the movies etc....

I'm sure that sometimes I am "made" as a tv/cd but so far no one has come out and shouted it out loud.

I like the fact that I can go out sometimes and do and act like a female and sometimes get away with it. It is definately easier for buying shoes and clothes if you can try them on first! :happy:

[Mary Jane]

I dress only at home because my wife only tolerates my dressing and I only dress when she is away. I might consider going out if I had her support. I know it would be very enjoyable for me.

[il.dso]

I dress at home.
Someday, in a more tolerant world, I feel like I would be able to go out dressed.
For now, I only leave the house in my dreams and by reading and posting on this wonderful website!

[Bonnie D]

I dress at home but do dress in public when I go to another city about twice a year. I dress at a cd club when I get there and then out on the town I go. I don't drive there dressed because I visit my father along the way and he doesn't know about me being transgendered. I have recently separated from my wife and she has asked me not to dress in public for my kids sake.

Bonnie

[Suzie Green]

Most of my dressing is at home, but I do go out occasionally as long as my wife goes with me. We've gone away for weekend shopping trips and I've dressed for the trip. I'm too nervous to appear locally where someone I know might recognize either of us. We also attend our local Tri-Ess chapter meetings together too. I didn't vote in the poll because there wasn't an option that seemed to fit my situation. And add me to the list of those who dislike the word "tranny."

[Angela Burke]

Mostly at home, but if I do go out dressed it's almost always to friends or relations.

[Chris100]

I don't have the opportunity to go as far as I would wish! So, limited CDing at home and in secret is the best I can manage, for now.
I have taken some feminine items out with me, years ago when I lived alone for a while and dressed to a limited extent, when certain that I had found a very quiet spot out in the country or on a (guaranteed!) deserted beach. Found this very erotic but nice in other ways, too!
Don't think I would ever have the courage, or maybe even the desire, to venture out into a "public" space. Not sure how convincing I would be, anyway; I would love to be able to try everything on, when alone at home, including make-up and a really nice wig, just to see the result and to know how it would really feel.:blushing:

Chris

[kaitlin]

Hi Racquel, I guess I have to be a "stay at home". In the area I live there is way too many people that are too narrow minded to chance things. I do push the limit as far as I can. I am always underdressed, legs shaved, toes polished. I even wear eye shadow that is a color that is very hard to see with my skin tone. I don't go to clubs, not any to go to, but wal-mart, shopping and family get togethers are my "outs". At home I am dressed as most any GG would, lite make up, I do my finger nails, lay around in comfy fem clothes or night gowns. Some days when the mood strikes I fully dress, heels to hair style! I hope this answers some of your questions, write anytime. Kaitlin

[fireandlace]

Stay at home for the following reasons-

Wife doesn't know (not sure what her acceptance level will be when she finds out)

Rest of family would definitely not support it

Would have devasting effect on my career if discovered

I do on occassion underdress

[eliot]

I dress mostly at home but do go out when I have the opportunity (rarely).

[Malori Cross]

Mostly I enjoy being Malori at home but have dressed in some gender-bending cowl neck sweaters my wife knows about.

I see this as being a "gender activist"--trying to soften the gender walls so that men can feel more comfortable wearing somewhat more feminine clothing. I think we need to do this as much as possible or we'll never get anywhere. Sure, I get the occasional "look" but I've also gotten a few "knowing smiles" from strangers who seem to understand what I'm doing. Besides, I feel sexy as hell when I go public!

That said, I don't go for "extreme" cross-dressing as I doubt I'd pass anyway; I don't want to wear makeup or heels and I don't have much of a femme figure to flaunt anyway.

My wife, after several stormy years, has finally come to accept my occasional gender excursions, so I don't want to press my luck.

Still, I envy those of you who do go the extreme cross-dressing in public. You've got guts!

Hugz,

Malori

[nornor]

I see a lot of people on here who don't seem to go out dressed, but will spend the evening in women's clothes, even if it's just casually sitting around or sleeping in some piece of women's clothing.

Personally, when I was younger (and by younger I mean up till a few months ago), I liked to try on the occasional piece of the girlfriend's clothing while she wasn't around ... and (sorry if I'm grossing anyone out) this always lead to watching some porn then taking the item(s) back off. I would never just hang around or sleep in girls' clothes.

These days I have a lot of clothes and I like to go to CD-friendly clubs on the weekend, but I never just lounge around in girls' clothes. I consider myself very fortunate to live in an area with a few clubs that I feel comfortable at. I never actually go to normal public places, though. I was just wondering how many of you go out and what your feelings are on the issue.

If you stay at home, I would be very interested in reading if this is primarily because the wife doesn't really approve, if you're too uncomfortable to go out, if there are no CD-friendly clubs in your area, or if you just have no interest.

Thanks!

Right now I'd have to choose "A", but my hope is to be able to choose "C" by the new year. I need to perfect "the look" before going to the local clubs. This probably differs from most of the girls here, but I'm not that interested in going out and blending (going un-noticed) in the general public. My relaxation comes from the interaction with those who admire us at the T-bars.

[Crissy Kay]

As I like fetish attire, petticoats, etc, I prefer to stay home and dress. Also I have no interest in passing anyway. But I do like to wear make up and wigs when dressing.

[charllote34]

I am a preparring for blast off girl ! basically i have only been out in the car at night but in the new year i have some social occasions linned up for charllote.
Basically the amount of money we spend on clothes , make up etc .. seems a shame NOT to go out !!

[Nicole Erin]

I have not actually been out and about in some time. I am wanting to do it again

[pamela_a]

My everyday clothes are from the women's department so I'm definitely not a stay-at-home dresser.

-Paula-

[sissystephanie]

First of all, I am a Crossdresser, not a Tranny (or properly, a Transsexual. A Tranny is a person who is one sex, but wants to be/considers themselves to be the other sex. You can be a Crossdresser without being a Tranny!

As a Crossdresser, I do go out in public dressed as a female quite often! But unlike a lot of the girls, I go as a man in feminine clothes. No wig and usually only lipstick for makeup. I go shopping and eating out that way. Been doing that for over two years. When my wife was alive we used to out frequently as two girls, but she fixed my wig and did my makeup.

Of course, I also crossdress at home. I feel more comfortable wearing a nice skirt, or skort, and a top while doing stuff at home. I wear panties almost all the time anyway. And yes, I do wear panties to the doctor's office. they have seen my bright red toe nails and my pink finger nails, so they might as well see my panties if they look at that part of me.

Sissy/Stephanie

Girl on the outside, Man on the inside

[Margie]

I occasionally go out but only limited dressing. When I do I usually only wear a sweater, slacks, nylons and shoes and normally with my wife. I wear a bra but no fillings! I have enough to feel "good" but not enough to create a "look"! LOL
Today was the first time going out somewhat dressed without my wife and I wasn't too nervous. She has always been my security blanket.
Most of my dressing is at home.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

I dress at home and sometimes I go out dressed with friends to clubs or shopping at the mall:straightface:

[Mia001]

Hi Racquel,

I only get dressed at home but that suits me. I never really had any great desire to go out dressed although I did go to a crossdresser group thing a couple of times (got dressed on arrival and changed back before I left) which was quite good.

Mark.

[Becca]

I mostly stay at home and wish that I could go out... although my wife is supportive, I think that she would be less so if she thought that I was going to appear in public as a woman. Friends, neighbors, and all of that.

I have, however, gone out for a drive when the wife and kids are gone, and those experiences have been really great!

I would go out more, given the right circumstances.

[Michelia]

I went out for a weekend once with my SO and had a blast. But I must have been out of it because upon seeing my pictures later and realizing how much like a guy in a dress I looked I was shocked. I still have not recovered. So I stay home.

I guess I have no fear of really being found out or made. I think my greatest fear is that of violence. It probably is irrational and one day I will beat it and go out again. In the meantime, I am working on losing weight and growing my hair longer, etc. My SO would love for me to go out with her again.

Michelia

[Samantha43]

I stay at home. In years past I have gone out a few times to a local CD association. Afterward a group of us went out to some CD friendly places. I had a good time for the most part. I guess I got it out of my system. I don't pass well, so it isn't worth the risk to family and my job.

[trannie T]

I never stay home when I dress. After all the work of shaving and putting on pantyhose I am not going to waste the effort by staying home. I do not get out very often but when I do I thoroughly enjoy it.

[ericalynncd]

I stay at home also. My wife asked me not to so I respect that wish. I'm also a government employee.

[femboy_01]

Yup I fall into that category all dressed up and no place to go.

Perhaps one day if I get the courage.

Serena

[carmie]

well i dont know what catagory you would put me in ive not dressed for a year now that was only because my wife was in the philippines for two extra weeks i was alone in the house so i had a friend to be my escort we went to a hotel there i dressed felt good! we got in the car and i drove to the coast walked around a bit, havent dressed since ime in pain want to dress again wife wont let me.

[NatalieBliss]

I dress around the house only. However one of those times was at a Halloween party, so "in public" was "public in" as it where.

[Paula G]

I only stay at home and dress. I really have no desire to go out dressed at this time, and my wife would fear for my safety if I did.

[Carin]

All of my regular clothes are women's clothing, but not conspicuously so.
I put myself in the fourth category. I do 'femme it up' on occasion with decent makeup and heels and maybe a skirt or cute pants in public, but not around our neighborhood.

[Sallee]

I stay at home some times and go out sometimes I have been to the movies the mall of course and T friendly clubs I gues I am thego out and try to pass type its all fun

[Sam-antha]

I do not know if it is in the mind or not, but clothes are really for wearing and being worn they get out with me whenever I can. Country, town or city just about wherever in those places. In other words my clothes do not get disappointed, they do get out, not often enough though.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Stay at home cross dresser for now. I hope to graduate up to going out dressed to support groups this up coming year.

[windycissy]

Love the way you framed the questions...I do lots of regular everyday stuff in women's clothes, a simple thing like going to the supermarket in slacks or a casual skirt and top is fun for me.

[rachellenicole]

I love to wear the clothes I buy however I don't get get to go out as much as I would like, but any time out is better than none.

Rach

[Scotty]

I live in a conservative town and while Seattle is about 45 mins away I don't have any hook-ups there, and right now so little time...

But at home it's not sexual, I'm always just comfy in womens clothing - last night was pink sweats and pink work out shirt while I did some martial arts training...and I always have and always will wear panties, albeit sporty gray/blue/lavender so I can go to the gym, but all the same....

Legs always shaved, rarely wear a bra b ecause they are uncomfortable and my boss is always putting his hand on my shoulder (Until I put a wrist lock on him last week) ..

So Yes, stay at home for me unless i meet and TRUST someone, then I would LOVE to get out!

[Glenda]

When I first started dressing it was only at home, to CD friendly clubs or out at Halloween. It soon developed into a situation where I felt I was a prisoner in my own home. Need milk, bread or cigarettes.....better get it before I was dressed or I would do without. A friend or relative calls on the phone....don't answer it. They may want to come by.

I enjoyed dressing a lot but it lost a lot of the luster because it was so hard to function normally in life. I finally realized that no one paid much attention when I went out dressed in male mode. I was just another face in the crowd or at the check-out counter. So I started going out to run errands while dressed en-femme. Same thing. I'm just another face in the crowd. No one pays much attention to me at all. Of course, it may be easier for me because I pass fairly well. I'm not tall or muscular. I blend in well as a female.

So I could go to the store or market while dressed. That helped a lot. The only other thing that really bothered me was hiding from friends and family. I finally gave up on that too. If my friends liked me well enough then they would accept me. They did. Now when I dress I have the freedom to be me. If you come by my home you'll find me dressed at times. Everyone accepts it. If I need to drop something off at a friend's home then I may show up en-femme as well.

I have no desire to transition full time. I enjoy being a male. I just like to show my feminine side at times as well.

["Mary"]

I dress mostly at home but do go out when I have the opportunity (rarely).

I'm with Eliot.

I love to go out, but rarely do. All the planets have to be in alignment. And then there's Halloween:D. I'm kind of an open secret then.

Diana

[Laura Jane]

Yep! I dress around the house, but that's it.


add the word about between "that's" and "it" and thats me!

I've ventured out a few times, but not to interact with people.

[Deborah Jane]

I just dress up and stay in. Maybe one day i,ll work up the nerve to out dressed "en femme", but i don,t feel ready yet!!

[Nicki B]

First of all, I am a Crossdresser, not a Tranny (or properly, a Transsexual. A Tranny is a person who is one sex, but wants to be/considers themselves to be the other sex. You can be a Crossdresser without being a Tranny!

To many people, 'tranny' is used as a shorthand for transgender - i.e. the umbrella term intended for all of us?

Many TSs, however, would regard being called 'tranny' highly derogatory - with good reason, they consider themselves women?

Personally, I have a big deal with the term 'crossdresser' - there is too much politics and dissumulation tied up with it (and it is not as inclusive as TG), but, when in Rome..

But hell, you be what you want to be?


Back on topic, it's been quite a few years now since I dressed at home - I only ever dress these days to go out (usually about 3 times a week). It's not about adrenaline - it's about living my life as me...

[Jacqui]

"Have you ever seen a bulldog in a skirt, well the bulldog would only look slightly better then I.

:love: Mollyanne

I once dated a bulldog who wore a skirt. What are you implying, Mollyanne? :drink:

Racquel, my answer would be: A
The only time I was ever "out" en femme was when I went out at night onto the terrace of a hotel room on the 22nd floor wearing a white negligee, forms, long blonde wig, and full make-up.

It was windy, and as I leaned over the railing overlooking the city lights below, with my hair blowing in the wind, I spread my arms, imagined Leonardo DiCaprio holding my waist, and yelled, "I'm Queen of the World!"

Sad, isn't it?

Jacqui

[Mistybtm]

:DI dress mostly at home but do go out when I have the opportunity usualy late at knight but if i passed better i would go out more often.

[Kieroney]

Seems only on Halloween I go out dressed up, and its extreme, other times at the house, I'm leaning on going to hang out with some other cd, and Transvestite sounds like a nasty word, but that's only to some, I just laugh at it, I have no time to sit around and be miserable over a stupid word that some want to label us with. :happy:

[Nicki B]

And then there's Halloween:D. I'm kind of an open secret then.

Forgive me, we don't do Halloween over here like you guys do - but doesn't that make it an open secret all year round?? :strugglin

[glossy]

I'm happiest being at home. I dress with the help and support of my wife who is wonderful. But she does not want us outside the home. I'm good with that because I see my cd-ing very much as a fetish. I find it is arousing and erotic when I dress in my bra and panties and stockings and then slip on a long nightie.

[Dawn Marie]

Before I got married, I use to go out all the time in public, just doing normal things. I just loved getting my hair done and then go get my nails and makeup done, then just go do normal things, like shopping. But since I got married( and my wife knows I use to dress, but doesn't approve) I am right now a stay-at-home-tranny. Thou I have enough clothes to fill my walkin closet and the dresser. I'm slowly trying to work on her so that I can get back into going out or at least get it back out in the open. She thinks I quit. I just don't want to lose her or not see our children grow up.

[KatrinaAshley]

Definitely a stay at home CD. I don't have all the pieces to go out yet. It's fun to hang around in what I have for now.

[Jaydee]

I only dress at home, and don't have any real desire to go to clubs, but then again I don't do that much in male mode. My dressing is non sexual and just feels comfortable. Of course I am still in the closet with wife. I do often go out underdressed when she is not with me.

Jaydee

BTW put me in the "crossdresser" column.

[LA CINDY LOVE]

When it is time for CINDY to get dress it is only to go OUT, to get dress and stay at home is not for CINDY. I have look at a lot of photos of Cd's here who are very good looking but do not go out because they feel they can not pass and I have Seen Cd's who go out regular who look just ok....but they go out.

This is a hot topic at the clubs we feel that only 5% of the Cd's go out regular, some do not go out because they do not want the heat if they get read others do not go out because it is not what they want to do they just love to kick it at home.

We do under stand those Cd's who live in a small town but a lot of Cd's do live in or near a city that do not go out and they do not go out because they feel that they can not pass and that is sad.

We need to stop using that word PASS because none of us truly pass and it seams that it is keeping a lot of Cd's from taking a walk on the wild side..


LA CINDY LOVE

[Christine Andrews]

I only dress at home, for a number of reasons:

- The main reason being that I couldn't look like anything but a guy in whatever womens colothing I wear. I believe it's truly rare to say one would genuinely pass but for me, if I cannot reach a standard of sure it's a guy but he's made a great attempt effort - then Kirsty is housebound. I'm also in the closet too.
- Also as much as I want to go out, I also don't want want to embarass or cause pain to my mum. I feel guilty enough about dressing without ny more guilt piling on.
- Crossdressing is more of a personal thing than a need to exhibition myself, I don't want to parade myself to get a buzz, if/when the time is right and I do go out it will be for the right reasons to me. It's our own (and our SO's) business and no-one elses and we have to do what is right for us.

So although I love dressing and I have underdressed and gone out, the risks for me are too high and I don't feel like I would ever look anything other than out of place.

Perhaps in time who knows but for now, crossdressing only happens at home in private.

Regards
Kirsty Hall

[Nicki B]

- The main reason being that I couldn't look like anything but a guy in whatever womens colothing I wear. I believe it's truly rare to say one would genuinely pass but for me, if I cannot reach a standard of sure it's a guy but he's made a great attempt effort - then Kirsty is housebound.

I'm sorry, but I bet that's not true - I'm sure Pandora (http://www.pandoradepledge.com/) or Jodie (http://www.theboudoironline.com/) could prove otherwise, they've never failed yet? :)

But, as Cindy says above, don't make it about passing - I tried to say the same thing, here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=69957)?

It doesn't have to be about the 'buzz' either - it's about being seen and treated as the person you want/need to be? :happy:

[MarinaTwelve200]

It seems to ME that CDing is a PRIVATE or "personal" thing I do by myself. such as taking a shower or releiving myself. I see no reason or feel no need to go out dressed any more than I would consider going out nude. Although I do not look bad at all while dressed, I do NOT have the kind of CD (I am an "escapist") that requires or comes with the urge to expose myself to others.

I personally think that the DESIRE to go out (whether one actually goes out or is closeted) is a charactistic of a "Classic" form of CD. Those of us who CD for other reasons might not have this concern.

[Christine Andrews]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty Hall
- The main reason being that I couldn't look like anything but a guy in whatever womens colothing I wear. I believe it's truly rare to say one would genuinely pass but for me, if I cannot reach a standard of sure it's a guy but he's made a great attempt effort - then Kirsty is housebound.

I'm sorry, but I bet that's not true - I'm sure Pandora or Jodie could prove otherwise, they've never failed yet?

But, as Cindy says above, don't make it about passing - I tried to say the same thing, here?

It doesn't have to be about the 'buzz' either - it's about being seen and treated as the person you want/need to be?

Those links surprised me, they are really good. Thankyou for sharing those links, that has given me some food for thought.

As for what I said, it isn't really about not passing for me it's more to do reaching a standard where I am happy with myself, mentally and physically - something I doubt I will ever do personally - until I break my pessimism and rediscover the confidence I lost when the guilt of crossdressing started.

I agree that it shouldn't be about passing or a 'buzz', and you are completely right that it's about being seen and treated as the person you want/need to be.

Regards
Kirsty Hall

[il.dso]

Dressed now, at home, as usual. I've brought clothes on business trips and have enjoyed dressing in my hotel. Someday, maybe, in a more tolerent world, I'll venture outside. Inside, now, and for the foreseeable future.

[shauna 9]

Mostly at home, but I do go out occasionally.

[carolinewalker_2000]

A non-supportive wife means most of my dressing has to be at a Dressing Service. I do have a small stash of clothes I can put on when I know I have the house to myself.

I've been out a couple of times and loved it; would REALLY like to do more but there aren't that many TG friendly venues when you come down to it.

[marie354]

I used to be. Now it's a normal everyday kind of thing.

[docrobbysherry]

Sherry is a figment of my imagination. As long as I can control how she is viewed, she exists. One step out the front door, and Sherry disappears! Once the magic is gone, all that's left is an old guy in a dress. That's not my fantasy!
RS

[Cassy11]

I'm a stay at home CD. I love the feel of the clothes and it puts me in a relaxed state of mind. I could not pass (voice and prominent adams apple) and I wouldn't want that kind of stress to ruin what is normally fun time at home.

[Casey Morgan]

I can't vote in this poll. I partially dress every day. Normally the only men's item I'm wearing is my shirt, and I don't wear makeup outside the house.

I do that because that says who I am. I'm not a woman and I don't need to be one, for real or "pretend". That makes me a little different than most here but I don't mind that (usually).

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

My wife and I live as sisters at home but I don't go out. Too risky where we live.