If society aloud would the thrill be gone

[daviolin]

This is a question that makes me ponder. If society accepted us CD's as not being unusual and just a natural thing. Would we be happier to be eccepted? It wouldn't make any difference? Or would the thrill be gone?
To me I would be happier:DDaviolin

[JULIE33362]

Happyer For Me Much Happyer

[Martha]

"Would we happier to be accepted?". Er, just slightly - you could strut to work in heels without fear of ridicule or violence; walk outside to empty the bins while dressed totally en-femme; not have to waste 10 minutes taking every trace of mascara off before going to work...

The enjoyment of dressing as a woman would not fade as it is independent of 'society's' opinions. As anyone else who dresses exclusively at home behind closed curtains will surely agree.

The fact that CD is taboo may indeed make it 'naughty' and consequently more exciting, but I'd rather substitute that for easy access to fitting rooms.

[Kendra Irene]

This is a question that makes me ponder. If society accepted us CD's as not being unusual and just a natural thing. Would we be happier to be eccepted? It wouldn't make any difference? Or would the thrill be gone?
To me I would be happier:DDaviolin

I'd be much happier, as then my wife may be more supporting.

Kendra

[sherib]

It would be absolutely, positivaly, absolutely perfect. Then you would not fear anyone finding out that you like to dress in womens clothes, and what a great feeling one gets when they are wering 4" heels.

[jennifer41356]

I would still enjoy being pretty and looking as cute as possible, it just would be fun to wear skirts to work:D

[sherib]

wouldn't it be nice to walk down the street in the summer time with a nice frilly short dress on. Feel the breeze over your exposed sholders and legs and not worry about "Did any of my friends, co-workers, neighbors recognize me" Will they think I'm a freak? Could I lose my job? My wife is pissed? Does that answer your question?

[Joni T]

I would be exstatic.

[docrobbysherry]

R u going to change everything overnite with a magic wand? Because, in that case, I think most of us would love to go out dressed, if no one gave us a second look.
However, if u r saying; what if the world was completely different from when we were born, that changes everything! For society to accept us, no matter how we were dressed, all the dressing rules of today wouldn't exist. We would have to have been raised in a world where, if people didn't notice differences in male and female clothes, there WERE NO DIFFERENCES! If everyone could wear whatever clothes they wanted, there would be no stigma to men wearing womens' or women wearing men' clothes. If fact, it is very likely that there would be no such thing as male or female clothing! So, CD's wouldn't exist, as we know them! Maybe the term "Cd's", would apply to folks who dressed in tinfoil, as animals, or in very bazarre fetish clothing!
In other words, it's a nice dream, but we might as well dream about being billionairs, president, or women!
RS

[Cristi]

I suspect that if I awoke one morning and people accepted CDs without blinking, I would wear a dress or skirt 100% of the time for the first two weeks. For a few weeks after that, I'd probably still dress a lot, but not full time.

Finally, over time, I would probably end up wearing a skirt a few times per week... If I think about it honestly, I'd have to admit that a skirt or dress with stockings is NOT the most appropriate or comfortable clothing in all situations.

I think all you really need to do is look at any trans person who is living fulltime for your answer. They end up dressing like REAL GGs, jeans, sweatshirts, sneakers. There is no reason that we wouldn't end up doing the same thing once the 'thrill' of being free to dress wears off.

[allin]

I'd be delighted if we were accepted. I'd dress however the mood struck me. Even in drab i could pretty it up. What is wrong with a little jewelry in drab? Or, why not nail polish?

[Julogden]

I'd be very happy.

Carol

[Alice Torn]

Great topic. Since I am almost terrified of going out, that would be like being let out of a prison, or blocked mine shaft! I would go out all dolled up, a lot! Cristi, I like your little statement, about you wearing skirts, and her wearing pants!!

[Zee]

I suspect that if I awoke one morning and people accepted CDs without blinking, I would wear a dress or skirt 100% of the time for the first two weeks. For a few weeks after that, I'd probably still dress a lot, but not full time.

Finally, over time, I would probably end up wearing a skirt a few times per week... If I think about it honestly, I'd have to admit that a skirt or dress with stockings is NOT the most appropriate or comfortable clothing in all situations.

I think all you really need to do is look at any trans person who is living fulltime for your answer. They end up dressing like REAL GGs, jeans, sweatshirts, sneakers. There is no reason that we wouldn't end up doing the same thing once the 'thrill' of being free to dress wears off.

:werd:

[trannie T]

I don't dress for anyone else, just for my own needs. If our society were more accepting I would go out more but would not enjoy dressing any less.

[Jazzmine]

Your question raises the point:

Is it our mode of dressing that society does not like? - "naughty, that's for girls only"

OR

Is it that we represent some sort of creep or pervert?

I can live with being naughty. Can't live with being a creep.
So if the magic wand gets rid of the creep problem do it now!

:hugs: Jazzmine
PS RS Your avatar has had a sexy makeover. Lucky you! You sexy thing!

[1950sclothes]

A big part of the thrill of dressing up was trying to outwit my sister, so I could wear her clothes without her knowing.

The thrill of putting them on was massive. I nearly got caught loads of time.:heehee:

I think if it was acceptable for men to wear women's clothes, it probably would not fascinate me as it does.

[Niya W]

If society were to accept it tomorrow, in six months I would not have any guy clothes left. THats just me

[Jilmac]

All i've ever wanted was to be accepted and not be considered a freak or sideshow.

Jill

[Kate Simmons]

I'm betting some would stop. There seems to be a certain challenge or aspect of the "forbidden" for some. Take that away and some folks would lose interest. Myself? I would do what I normally do and nothing would change really. I'm myself, accepting "world' or not.:happy:

[Patricia Danielle]

I don't think the thrill would be gone by any means, but I'll bet you'd see more men wearing dresses and skirts that you could count! I Dress for comfort more than thrill, don't get me wrong it's still a hoot to me and I enjoy it..Patricia..

[Lucy Bright]

R u going to change everything overnite with a magic wand? Because, in that case, I think most of us would love to go out dressed, if no one gave us a second look.
However, if u r saying; what if the world was completely different from when we were born, that changes everything! For society to accept us, no matter how we were dressed, all the dressing rules of today wouldn't exist. We would have to have been raised in a world where, if people didn't notice differences in male and female clothes, there WERE NO DIFFERENCES! If everyone could wear whatever clothes they wanted, there would be no stigma to men wearing womens' or women wearing men' clothes. If fact, it is very likely that there would be no such thing as male or female clothing! So, CD's wouldn't exist, as we know them!
RS

This seems right to me. I guess there are several different thrills involved here, in fact. The ones that would disappear include:

a) the thrill of danger, of having a dangerous secret that could be discovered at any moment. If no one cared, that would of course go, but from the posts so far not many of us seem to enjoy or experience the danger as thrilling anyway (I certainly don't).

b) the thrill of knowing that you are breaking some kind of taboo, being transgressive. That would go too, but again it's not an element that looms large for many of us.

c) the sexual/fetishistic thrill of wearing the clothes of the opposite sex. This one would catch more of us, I guess.

On the other hand, the thrill of being able to express our feminine aspect, or better still (from my pov) to integrate our masculine and feminine aspects, would remain and even be enhanced. Since for me that's the main deal, I'd be delighted with the situation! But of course, a world in which people didn't care about what other people wore would be such a different world in so many ways - for clothing is but the delightfully stylish tip of a pretty big gender iceberg - that it's rather hard to imagine. Quite a lot our usual terminology would disappear, I guess, if the gender spectrum really was a spectrum and not a pair of either/or binary slots.

Kisses,

Lucy

[Stefanie_in_Mt]

I would throw away all my mens clothes and go shopping, what a great dream.

[Lanore]

I never look for acceptance from society. I accept the fact that I was born more female than male and that is all I need. I'm 24/7 and love every day I get to live.

Lanore

[melissaK]

- for clothing is but the delightfully stylish tip of a pretty big gender iceberg - Lucy

Lucy dear, what a nice post. I particularly liked this phrase. I loved the movie "Devil Wears Prada" and spent quite some time ruminating on "fashion" afterwards. Your phrase fits in with all my thoughts.

So, to answer the thread topic, yea I'd love to not be saddled with fear/guilt/shame, but I'd still want the world to have the gender driven fashionistas . . .

hugs,
'lissa

[Dawn Marie]

I would be thrilled and elated. If were accepted totally, then I could dress how I wanted and when I wanted. This would be a life long dream. Unlike most guys I love to shop. And when in femme mode I love it even more. I love to try on clothes and show them off.

[Jane G]

What a great place the world would be. Must agree with many how say that they dress for comfort. So Jeans T shirt and trainers it would be a lot of the time. But for the office skirts and well cut tops that would be so natrual.

[Dolana]

If society allowed, would the thrill be gone. I don't think so. I see women all the time who feel special when they are all dolled up. I always make sure to extend a heartfelt compliment whenever a girl makes herself all pretty, especially if it is for me. The one thing I would like to be able to do is shave, and not have to worry about being 'caught'. While I do love to be all femme, I also embrace both aspects of my personality. So looking like a man for that special girl is still paramount. But oh how nice it would be to be able to know that under my suit were smooth legs and knee highs.

[Littlej10]

I don't think I could aford it! The irresistable desire to shop for dresses,shoes etc. would destroy my overdraft.

[Alice B]

Without question I would be happier and would love the new freedom that would come with it.

[Vickifur]

I think I would dress full time for some period of time. I think I have so much pent up, unfulfilled dressing desire that it would take a while to reach the new status quo. It's fun to dream:happy:

[alyssalove56]

I have a dear gg pal who prefers men's clothes. She noted to me that just in the last year or two, after wearing nothing but men's clothes for many years, she has impulsively bought things such as a nice pin for her coat.
She can't figure it out but isn't too worried about it.
So, even though my first reaction is to say that I would have nothing but fine femme (appropriate to the occasion) clohthes I if could, who knows?
It would be mostly nice things forever though!!!!

[Jocelyn Quivers]

If society accepted it, I would be very happy. The thrill isn't as important as being able to dress how I would like to without reprisals.

[andreaattimes]

I would be ecstatic. I would probably still wear some of my guys clothes on occassion.

[RuthieER]

The thrill would be increased, because I would feel I had the freedom to dress even more feminine and aluring all the time.

Ruthie

[Carly D.]

I've thought of this... would I be happier being able to walk amongst the throng? you know... yes, but in a way it seems like.. this is really a struggle for me to answer.. on the one hand I'd love to be accepted by everybody unconditionally, but on the other hand it's kinda cool to be "covert" as it were..

[EDNA]

That would be real great. As men need to have the same rights and dress the way that they want. This is the facts of life.

[Phoebe Reece]

Many of you fail to realize that crossdressing is far more acceptable than you think - at least in the region I live in. Here's an example:

On Friday afternoon / evening another crossdressing friend and I went out together to mainly go Christmas shopping. We met at The Mall of Georgia around 4:00 in the afternoon. This is the largest mall in the state (perhaps the region) and full of thousands of shoppers. We were up and down the mall and in the shops and department stores trying things on, buying things, talking with SA's, and generally having a great shopping time until nearly 8:00 in the evening. We then went to a nearby Atlanta Bread Co. sandwich place for some quick supper before doing some more shopping at Nordstrom's Rack. To finish off the evening, we took in a 10:00 PM movie at a theater in Lawrenceville, GA (county seat of the most Republican county in GA).

We had no problems anywhere we went. No one laughed, pointed, or otherwise harrassed us. We were treated with the same respect and courtesy that any woman would get in the places we were.

My friend and I are not 100 % passable (especially when we talk). And we do not dress just "to blend in" (no jeans and sweatshirts for us). We do dress in a tasteful and age appropriate manner. My friend was wearing a nice dress and 1" heels (in the Mall). And I had on a nice skirt and top and flats in the mall, and 3" heels later. This photo of me was taken when we got out of the movie (around midnight):
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My main point is that you will never know what level of acceptance society will give you if all you ever do is sit indoors and expound about, "what a wonderful world it would be, if only....."

To use a quote from a song in "The Rocky Horror Show": "....Don't dream it. Be it...."

[Emma England]

Society DOES ALLOW it!!

Try it and find out for yourself.

[Juanita O]

I would happy that i could come out of the closet and be excepted.

[tricia_uktv]

Yes, I would be out and about dressed all the time but - would I enjoy it so much?

Because of family limitations whenever I do it, it its like Christmas. There were many Christmasses this year and will be many more next

:happy:

[susie evans]

NOT A CHANCE the thrill will never leave it would only get better

:love: susie

[Sally24]

It would be less stressful but otherwise would not change for me. It's not about the clothes but about the gender. Dressing is just a way to be a woman for awhile.

[breanna53]

i'd e happier. I don't think socity accepting or not hs anything to do with our desire to dress. Even if it was accepted we'd still dress.

[shirley1]

R u going to change everything overnite with a magic wand? Because, in that case, I think most of us would love to go out dressed, if no one gave us a second look.
However, if u r saying; what if the world was completely different from when we were born, that changes everything! For society to accept us, no matter how we were dressed, all the dressing rules of today wouldn't exist. We would have to have been raised in a world where, if people didn't notice differences in male and female clothes, there WERE NO DIFFERENCES! If everyone could wear whatever clothes they wanted, there would be no stigma to men wearing womens' or women wearing men' clothes. If fact, it is very likely that there would be no such thing as male or female clothing! So, CD's wouldn't exist, as we know them! Maybe the term "Cd's", would apply to folks who dressed in tinfoil, as animals, or in very bazarre fetish clothing!
In other words, it's a nice dream, but we might as well dream about being billionairs, president, or women!
RS

there is no female equivalent of a transvestite that then confirms what your saying is correct and if it was common place for men to go out wearing womans style clothes technically you wouldnt be crossdressing - middledressing maybe

[Nicolette01]

I certainly would enjoy driving a lot more!!!!

[Marvina Martian]

I think that I would feel more normal! I also think that I'd own just a few pair of pants and shorts, the rest would be skirts and dresses. Not because they are "taboo" or "forbidden", I just feel more comfortable in them!

[Sallee]

"The thrill is gone." I do think if we were readily accepted the thrill may be gone I have noticed when I am dressing alot and going out I tend to get comfortable with it especially if I don't get noticed. So I tend to dress less. may it is the secret drag queen in me

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

I don't honestly believe it would change anything for me as I have never cared what society thinks ;)
Zara

[Wendi0012]

When did this happen and how come nobody told me!!! We are who we are because we love it not because anybody accepts it and that is the way it will always be. What would happen if we didn't accept women who wear pants not a thing and that's just how it should be!!! I'm not giving up my skirts heels or any other garb because someone likes or doesn't like. I'm keeping my skirt on and that's the wayy I llike it!!!!!


Love Always,

[Barbara G]

The thrill would still be there -- probably moreso -- because I would be out of the closet in full finery in a flash.