GailTulane
11-29-2007, 02:50 PM
I originally began this as a reply to the role-playing post, but when I saw where it went, I thought that it might warrant a separate thread.
For me, there is no role playing here. This has been a deep part of me from a very young age. This is who I am, and I am never as truly comfortable as I am when I am expressing myself as a woman.
But something occurs to me that I have never really seen expressed: I do not necessarily believe that what I feel and call femme actually corresponds to what genetic women think and feel. Perhaps these "femme" feelings are unique to certain people born male, and no one, male or female, not in the same boat can truly identify. I am not out as myself to anyone who knows me as a male, and the only non-*T people I have spoken with, other than on the net, are men and women working in or patronizing clubs or bars that I go to dressed. That being said, thus far, the only true empathy I have found is with *T girls on various places on the spectrum.
So, apart from feeling that, for me personally, there is no question of role-playing, and that this is how I most comfortably identify, I question whether there is actually any role to play, because even a genetic woman is not exactly the person that I am expressing, not because of the obvious fact that I can not duplicate a GG, but because the very deep feelings that I am expressing are are not ones that are necessarily felt by and are truly characteristic of genetic women.
This could also be the reason why the vast majority of wives can't relate to their husbands' dressing; i.e., because the "femme" expressions of their husbands do not correspond to their innate and undeniable knowledge of what it means to be biologically female. No matter how the man looks or acts, every fiber of their being tells them that this is not female.
Anyway, those are a few thoughts of mine--I would love to hear what others think.
Warmly,
Gail
For me, there is no role playing here. This has been a deep part of me from a very young age. This is who I am, and I am never as truly comfortable as I am when I am expressing myself as a woman.
But something occurs to me that I have never really seen expressed: I do not necessarily believe that what I feel and call femme actually corresponds to what genetic women think and feel. Perhaps these "femme" feelings are unique to certain people born male, and no one, male or female, not in the same boat can truly identify. I am not out as myself to anyone who knows me as a male, and the only non-*T people I have spoken with, other than on the net, are men and women working in or patronizing clubs or bars that I go to dressed. That being said, thus far, the only true empathy I have found is with *T girls on various places on the spectrum.
So, apart from feeling that, for me personally, there is no question of role-playing, and that this is how I most comfortably identify, I question whether there is actually any role to play, because even a genetic woman is not exactly the person that I am expressing, not because of the obvious fact that I can not duplicate a GG, but because the very deep feelings that I am expressing are are not ones that are necessarily felt by and are truly characteristic of genetic women.
This could also be the reason why the vast majority of wives can't relate to their husbands' dressing; i.e., because the "femme" expressions of their husbands do not correspond to their innate and undeniable knowledge of what it means to be biologically female. No matter how the man looks or acts, every fiber of their being tells them that this is not female.
Anyway, those are a few thoughts of mine--I would love to hear what others think.
Warmly,
Gail