Sigrid
04-09-2005, 02:08 PM
(I was writing this as a follow up post to my original in the Member Introductions forum, but decided to move it out hear in the M2F forum)
I know I'm very fortunate to have a loving supportive wife, from what I've observed here, it's not the norm. I've been dressing on a regular basis (every couple weeks) for 5-6 years now and with her blessing. I never tried makeup (except lipstick) nor a wig and hence have never presented anything more than the "man in a dress" image. I didn't think this would add anything to our relationship, so I told her I'd really prefer only to dress in private, by myself.
Three weeks ago, I had what is shaping up to be a life changing experience. While visiting in Scottsdale, AZ, I had some free time to myself and went to one of the local malls. I was browsing in the cosmetics department of Macy's when a sales clerk asked if she could help me find anything. Without hesitation and much to my own surprise I asked if they carried Dermablend. In the last few months I have become increasinly curious about makeup and the whole feminine look. Within just five minutes she and her male associate had me seated at the counter and were color matching my complexion and giving me application advice. After about 45 minutes I was out the door with a bag filled with foundation, powder and an assortment of skin preparation products. The fact that this was the first time I had openly expressed my CD intentions to anyone other than my wife was not lost on me. I was elated and came back the very next day to express my gratitude and presented her with a nice tip $$.
I resolved that I was not only going to attempt the most feminine image I could achieve, but that I would make an effort to bring it out in public, though will likely limit my exposure to T-friendly environments. In the last week I've bought a wig, cosmetics, a waist cincher, new boots and have spent several hours looking for a new wardrobe. It's been a wonderful experience, and almost literally overwhelming. I've asked on few occasions if I could try on some garments and haven't yet been denied. In fact, in the Dillard’s ingerie department I was shown to women’s fitting room - it was just a few minutes to closing time and there were no other customers around, and at The Gap, I asked if I could take a few garments down to the men’s dressing room and was given a very enthusiastic "Of course you may"! Each time in DRAB.
Most importantly, I just came out to my wife again and told her of what I have committed to. We hadn't spoke of my dressing for nearly 5 years and my admissions brought tears (of joy) to her eyes. She was indeed grateful to see me open up like this to her and show her the trust and respect she so richlydeserves.
I'm becoming a bit concerned, however, that it all may have been a little too much for her the last few days in that I've been constantly going on about my new purchases and plans, not to mention the more serious conversations we've had regarding my coming out and its implication on the kids (this I hope to bring up later in another thread). In fact this may be the main reason I've finally decided to registere on this forum - I need to express my thoughts and there are just too many to lay on just one individual.
I think for a while I'll back off a bit and give her a chance to let it settle in. When I get a better sense of comfort from her, I'll bring her to this site and invite her to join in.
-Sigrid
p.s. My wife just walked in and I had her read the last two paragraphs. She confirmed my observations and said that in time she may consider contributing to the forum.
I know I'm very fortunate to have a loving supportive wife, from what I've observed here, it's not the norm. I've been dressing on a regular basis (every couple weeks) for 5-6 years now and with her blessing. I never tried makeup (except lipstick) nor a wig and hence have never presented anything more than the "man in a dress" image. I didn't think this would add anything to our relationship, so I told her I'd really prefer only to dress in private, by myself.
Three weeks ago, I had what is shaping up to be a life changing experience. While visiting in Scottsdale, AZ, I had some free time to myself and went to one of the local malls. I was browsing in the cosmetics department of Macy's when a sales clerk asked if she could help me find anything. Without hesitation and much to my own surprise I asked if they carried Dermablend. In the last few months I have become increasinly curious about makeup and the whole feminine look. Within just five minutes she and her male associate had me seated at the counter and were color matching my complexion and giving me application advice. After about 45 minutes I was out the door with a bag filled with foundation, powder and an assortment of skin preparation products. The fact that this was the first time I had openly expressed my CD intentions to anyone other than my wife was not lost on me. I was elated and came back the very next day to express my gratitude and presented her with a nice tip $$.
I resolved that I was not only going to attempt the most feminine image I could achieve, but that I would make an effort to bring it out in public, though will likely limit my exposure to T-friendly environments. In the last week I've bought a wig, cosmetics, a waist cincher, new boots and have spent several hours looking for a new wardrobe. It's been a wonderful experience, and almost literally overwhelming. I've asked on few occasions if I could try on some garments and haven't yet been denied. In fact, in the Dillard’s ingerie department I was shown to women’s fitting room - it was just a few minutes to closing time and there were no other customers around, and at The Gap, I asked if I could take a few garments down to the men’s dressing room and was given a very enthusiastic "Of course you may"! Each time in DRAB.
Most importantly, I just came out to my wife again and told her of what I have committed to. We hadn't spoke of my dressing for nearly 5 years and my admissions brought tears (of joy) to her eyes. She was indeed grateful to see me open up like this to her and show her the trust and respect she so richlydeserves.
I'm becoming a bit concerned, however, that it all may have been a little too much for her the last few days in that I've been constantly going on about my new purchases and plans, not to mention the more serious conversations we've had regarding my coming out and its implication on the kids (this I hope to bring up later in another thread). In fact this may be the main reason I've finally decided to registere on this forum - I need to express my thoughts and there are just too many to lay on just one individual.
I think for a while I'll back off a bit and give her a chance to let it settle in. When I get a better sense of comfort from her, I'll bring her to this site and invite her to join in.
-Sigrid
p.s. My wife just walked in and I had her read the last two paragraphs. She confirmed my observations and said that in time she may consider contributing to the forum.