Nadia-Maria
12-07-2007, 03:16 PM
A lifelong « closet » CDer from age 5, I joined this forum one month ago.
Thanks to all of you, in only one month, my understanding of CD has already drammatically increased.
I realized CD was much more important in my life than I had ever thought.
I realized how deeply I needed to express my (lifelong repressed) feminity.
And, as an example of my evolution , see the following steps regarding the poll’s question << How accepting my Wife/SO is ? >>:
1) When I joined, my situation was a clear : << Not disclosed, don't intend to >>
2) When I took the poll, 2 weeks later, I answered : << Haven't come out, but hope to >>
2) Yesterday : I CAME OUT to my current SO , obtaining the feed-back :
<< Tolerates it... mostly don't ask, don't tell >>
Note that I never came out to any other person in the past (neither family, nor first spouse)
I decided to came out, especially because the frequency of my dressing had recently significantly increased.
Had it remained at the rate of one time in 2 months, the best thing to do would have been not to come out, I believe.
Thanks to the forum and to what I had learnt, I knew I had to come out, I was well prepared to come out, I carefully chose the right moment to do it , and the feedback went close to the expected one :
no real « problem » for her, tolerating it provided I do not dress in her presence.
No interest at all to be more informed about CDing or to go to the CD forum for learning about it.
She expressed her appreciation having known my CD from me first.
It is clear I must be in the future as discreet as I have been before. And be expressing more my love and support to her. As a possible consequence, I believe that the level of acceptance might increase a little after a few years.
Thanks and kisses
Nadia
Thanks to all of you, in only one month, my understanding of CD has already drammatically increased.
I realized CD was much more important in my life than I had ever thought.
I realized how deeply I needed to express my (lifelong repressed) feminity.
And, as an example of my evolution , see the following steps regarding the poll’s question << How accepting my Wife/SO is ? >>:
1) When I joined, my situation was a clear : << Not disclosed, don't intend to >>
2) When I took the poll, 2 weeks later, I answered : << Haven't come out, but hope to >>
2) Yesterday : I CAME OUT to my current SO , obtaining the feed-back :
<< Tolerates it... mostly don't ask, don't tell >>
Note that I never came out to any other person in the past (neither family, nor first spouse)
I decided to came out, especially because the frequency of my dressing had recently significantly increased.
Had it remained at the rate of one time in 2 months, the best thing to do would have been not to come out, I believe.
Thanks to the forum and to what I had learnt, I knew I had to come out, I was well prepared to come out, I carefully chose the right moment to do it , and the feedback went close to the expected one :
no real « problem » for her, tolerating it provided I do not dress in her presence.
No interest at all to be more informed about CDing or to go to the CD forum for learning about it.
She expressed her appreciation having known my CD from me first.
It is clear I must be in the future as discreet as I have been before. And be expressing more my love and support to her. As a possible consequence, I believe that the level of acceptance might increase a little after a few years.
Thanks and kisses
Nadia