ftm or mtf

[MJ]

we have way too much in common
i have to get something off my chest so please bear with me..
While i was in the womans shelter i learned many things like being trans i was so naive as to think i would not get to meet too many brothers or sisters back in June i meat two other ftm i look like crap without makeup and yes they read me not hard anyway while i was out having a smoke i know bad habit "quit 4 months" . well the two guys were out enjoying the sun , they are so different one was passable the other looked like a Victoria secret model :eek: anyway we just swapped notes and to be honest apart our birth mix up we had the same issues , hopes , loves . and dreams .
well i got very close to one of them and well i miss him it's been 3 months and i would love to call him but i am not sure what to do , i think about him everyday since then .. you guys don't help cause when i think of you :love: well i think of him too..
you see he gave me a birthday card with his phone number and i wonder should i call him ? the card read :- june28 th happy b-day Marissa ,many happy returns Love always --- .- p.s , hope life for you is as sweet as you ...
my cell number --- --- ----
is there a way i can tell if the number is still active ? apart from the call i did not want to post because i wanted him to join here and he will see :heehee: what do you think just leave it alone or make the call
thank you
hugs mj

also you guys are the best Merry Chirstmas have a good one

[ZenFrost]

Go ahead and call, what's the worst that could happen?

[Adam]

call him i mean if he gave you his phone number then im sure he wanted you to call :D if you phone shy then text him

[MJ]

Go ahead and call, what's the worst that could happen?

he could say no and break my heart


call him i mean if he gave you his phone number then im sure he wanted you to call :D if you phone shy then text him

i am not sure the number still works but text might work

[CaptLex]

You could call to say that you thought of him and of his kindness on your birthday and wanted to say hello - and see how he reacts. If he says, "I'm happy to hear from you" or "I've been hoping you would call", then you'll know it was the right move. If he doesn't sound thrilled about the call, then wish him a Merry Christmas and say goodbye.

[AllieSF]

MJ,

I don't know the details of your realtionship with him during that time. However, if you became friends, then it is only natural that someone would share their phone number with the other person. I wouldn't read to much into that initial friendship, i.e. something more than friendship, at this time. I have found that by just approaching an initial relationship as friendship I avoid the highs of hope and expectation and avoid the lows of dissappointment and misunderstanding. Become a good friend and just leet it all develop on its own. Putting too much hope and pressure on yourself at this early stage, seems like you are just setting yourself up to be disappointed. Enjoy it while you can. If you get to be better friends and go no further you have still won the pot of gold. Who knows, he may even have another friend who may be the one. Good luck, call him for a coffee date and good conversation and Merry Christmas.

[Kieron Andrew]

You could call to say that you thought of him and of his kindness on your birthday and wanted to say hello - and see how he reacts. If he says, "I'm happy to hear from you" or "I've been hoping you would call", then you'll know it was the right move. If he doesn't sound thrilled about the call, then wish him a Merry Christmas and say goodbye.im with Lex on this one....the thing i would say is if you dont want him to trace a number, call him from a payphone the first time......this time of year is perfect to use the line of wanting to wish him a good christmas...go for it MJ :D

[kerrianna]

The guys have good advice MJ.

So make the call already GF! :thumbup:

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

And he did give you his cell number. He wouldn't have done that if he didn't want you to call.

Just play it cool. You know, when he answers, try not to say "OMG! It's so wonderful to hear your voice again I think about you every day I'm going nuts dreaming about you!"

I'm sure it will be evident in your nervous giggles. :p


Bon chance! :hugs::love:

[MJ]

Thank you for your sage advice i did text him last night.. and i will call him up today while i am out ..
i am so tempted to re activeate my phone .. i wish there was a way to send and receave text on my pc ..
i will let you know how it goes