In a major quandry...plz help if ya can!

[spaelwitterbok]

ok... First off, I do realize this is probably not the best place to post this.
Also, I realize I may not get the help I need or even the answer I want. That's ok.
Where to start? I need help, and although I haven't been as active in this community as I'd like or should be I do think the people here are very supportive, and caring.
Let me describe my situation...
I am a 25 yr. old male who has in the past been very fond of ''dressing''. Due to present living circumstances I have been unable to perform even cursory cd activities. including hair removal. Until very recently I have not had a problem with this, at least not one I can't get past.
Now, I am yearning, almost obsessing about it, and I feel so helpless. I think of dressing constantly, even mundane activities are not enough to stop the flood of thoughts.
What do I do? I am unable to dress but seem to require it to mantain my composure.
If anyone out there can help plz msg me... or reply to this thread. I know this is vague but I don't know what else to say...
thnx in advance
-Regan

[DonnaT]

Your situation is not unheard of, Reagan.

If you can't find time to sneak in a little dressing time at home, then try renting a hotel/motel room for a day, or for a few hours.

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Regan

As you have said your crossdressing is due to living circumstances.
I assume your either living with parents or flatmates etc, who you feel wont accept who you are

Is it possible you could rent a hotel room and this would give you the opportunity to dress for a while
While not ideal it may help release your frustrations

[pamela_a]

Hi Regan,

If you can't dress completely you my want to try underdressing. Simply wearing a pair of panties under your clothes may help.

-Paula-

[Trinni]

I know it is easier said than done, but if you can't get away or do something small as already mentioned, take a long bath and mentally dress. The more you try not to think about it, the more you will think about it. The feeling will come and go in waves and hopefully is will lease up soon. Good luck.

[battybattybats]

If you have privacy in the shower or bath you could do what I did at one point. I put some lipstick in my pocket as I went to the shower and put it on as soon as I was alone in the bathroom. I kept it on until I was almost finished then snuck it back to my hiding place after. It wasn't much but it did help.

If you could find a friend locally perhapd you could dress at their place?

[charlie]

Hello Regan!
Even though you can't risk dressing at home, put out feelers where you can find a fellow CD around where you live. Perhaps you could leave some clothes at his house and dress there. Also, you might find out where a local gay/TG bar is around your home. Change in the car and get dressed there and have a good time for a few hours. Not dressing will drive you nuts. It is an addiction.

[cdtammi]

that sucks i have been there, somehow i found a way to dress, underdress with panties or something like that. i have even hid stuff out side somewhere, allthough that was a long time ago , good luck.

[sterling12]

First thing I would recommend is....keep on writing and posting to this forum! At least you will feel connected in some small way, and your pretty good with prose. Trust me, your writing ability and style is a lot better than the average 25 year old. At least you know where the spell check is located, use capitals, and understand that comma's are required. I would give kudos to your Public School System, but I'm not sure that's where you learned to write. I know I didn't learn much about writing in school, so I'm never sure about others.

Your going to need to work yourself into a "legit job." Something that pays enough for you to get your own pad, and allows you to afford an expensive indulgence like CD. Make a plan, and do it! Hey, you are 25. Just setting goals is the first step in the process, but it will make you feel a lot more positive about things.

In the meantime, hide your stuff and under dress. Just a pair of panties will help to alleviate a lot of the stress. Can't imagine your going to get strip-searched, so you can make yourself pretty "all under."

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Julie York]

Wear something in bed.
Who's to know?

[Deborah Jane]

Wear something in bed.
Who's to know?

Good idea Julie!! I,ve done that myself in the past when i couldn,t dress!!

[Michelia]

Use this precious time in your life to learn something new and dive into it.

Michelia