have you found out that a friend of yours was also a crossdresser

[Shining Star]

since you have been dressing have you ever found out that a friend was also a crossdresser. after finding out did you go to him and tell them that u were 1 too. it hasen't happened to me yet but hoping

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

friends?? i have no friends :p im the only cd i know other than the ones i have met who wer already dressed when i met them..did that make sence?

[RachelDenise]

I haven't had this happen to me and I would like to think that I would out myself to that person also. Living the life of a CD is hard enough by yourself, but it might be better if someone else knew (besides all of you here!)

[Wendy me]

well a lot of times it just don't come up in small talk ...........hay bob how abought that game last night ........i just did my toe nails and...........i am shure that we bump into cd's every were but never know it .........

[Halo]

A friend of ours husband is a CD. She told a mutual friend (h), who fell out with them and told us. So they don't know that we know. As far as I know h doesn't know about me. Thing is that another mutual friend (b) of ours and h knows about me, so it's possible that they know about me, too....

We're not that close to them, so haven't really had an opportunity to chat.
Supposed to be meeting up with them sometime soon, so who knows...

On top of that I'm trying to get things more relaxed and out in the open with my SO, and with myself, and get a wardrobe together, and it's all going very slowly. Maybe it would help to chat, but he seems to be quite self assured, goes out regularly, etc.

[jade lee]

I wish too, this way you have a friend that share the same interest.

[MsMichelle]

While we were not friends at the time we are now. I live in a very small suburb of Ottawa. Through chat groups and support groups we have found that in this small community and within four block of each other there are 19 Transgendered individuals. Ranging from CD's, TS's and one of the TS's is FtM and lives on the floor above me. And those are the ones we know of that are out of the closet.
As pointed out, you just never know

[sarah]

One can only hope ...wouldnt it be nice seems to me apart from this forum everyone else is alien..just one local friend would be nice ,we could do so much together...xx

[Brandy_Marie]

I guess I'm the answer to the question. The process of me accepting myself was when I first discovered that the gf of one of my employees was a closet F2M. She was the first person I ever admitted to that I really wanted to be a woman. I am still very close friends with her and her fiance.

About a year later, an employee of mine came out as a M2F. Her courage inspired me and we are also good friends to this day. We try to help each other find our way in life.

Brandy Marie Devereaux

[Tiffy]

Do not know a single CD aside from the ladies here on the board. But it sure would be nice.

Kisses, April

[derminator]

Well - no... I mean, I just don't talk about it openly.... but I'm pretty certain my cousin does... but I never found a way to approach the subject with him and we've since lost contact over the years.

[malecynthia]

The first time I ever posted here was on this very subject. Have a look at http://crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5362 Being able to talk openly about my penchant for ladies clothes is so liberating, I just want to tell the world! Common sense prevails, unfortunately.
Our wives have started practising their make up skills on us, but I think they're fighting a losing battle.
Cynthia.

[Jill]

I had a friend in high school that I am pretty sure liked to wear his moms clothes when she wasn't home. But how are you supposed to bring something like that up? That same friend though had some neighbors who had a son that would often come running outside wearing his sisters dresses and leotards, I am positive that kid was and is now a CDer, though he is much younger than I, we weren't friends.

[Aloha_Dana]

I think in all of my profiles, I state that I am looking for friends. I feel very lonely.

But back to the thread, for a couple years now, I've really been looking for clues, listening to statements, trying to find someone. No luck.

My closest friend is a flight attendant who saw a CD on a plane and did not speak positively about it. In hindsight, I should have spoke up for her, but I didn't respond. Just did the typical male gruntal (dis)approval. I'm sorry sisters.

But, my father-in-law has been talking about his Halloween escipade of two years ago when he and his wife switched roles, he a nurse. I mean he is still talking about it. If he isn't a CD, he really had a good time...

MsMichelle, 19 in a four block area?!!! Wow.

We are everywhere, but nowhere :(

Dana

[Richelle]

My wife’s nephew has cross dress several time on Holloween. Since she does not support my cross-dressing this really bugs her. Since we have come to an agreement that discussing cross-dressing is off limits we do not talk about it and I have very little contact with him so we have never discussed it.

Richelle

[gender_blender]

One of my friends from high school told me that he tried it a few times. Other friends in college, like those in my engineering classes, later became co-founders of the campus transgender support organization with me. And still others in college that didn't attend these meetings, confided in me a similar secret that they had been hiding for some time.

[Aloha_Dana]

I wish (just dreaming here girls) that, just as the gay male society has their hanky codes, that we could have one. I know, I know, we already have one, well millions actually, from skirts to shaved legs, but you know what i'm talking about.

I'd love for others to approach me because they saw my signal and to say hi.

Dana

[Serena]

Yes, I do. It's my best friend, and we've been best friends since 8th grade. We were neighbors, but just knew eachother, weren't friends. Then I found out he was into anime, so we started talking, and we had alot of the same interests. He was very open, so CDing just drifted into the conversation. Nobody else knew about it but somehow he knew I was a CD too, so I guess that's why I told him.

[Captain Bailey]

I guess I'm the answer to the question. The process of me accepting myself was when I first discovered that the gf of one of my employees was a closet F2M.

Yup, that'd be me XD Sup Brandy?
But yeah, I have the same CD friends that Brandy does plus a friend I met at a drama competition and became quick friends. A while after we started hanging out he started doing drag and soon decided that he wanted to make the transition and become a woman full time. She's on hormones now and is still doing drag to help pay for the medical expenses.
I am also obsessed with another FtM that I met online a couple years ago, but I'm not sure he counts as a friend....more as a stalking victim ;)

[Sweet Susan]

Never happened, G.I.

[Sindy]

There was this one time when I was in a chart room and someone saw that I was in the same city. We chatted for about 30 minutes about movies and then the conversation turned into music. We discovered that we both hung out at the same clubs at the same time and even some names came up that we both knew, when things started coming together that we might know each other, he dissapeared. I haven't seen him online since, that was a little over a year ago. Would of been nice to have someone to hang out with. I think he got scared away somehow. That's the closest I have ever come.

[jjjjohanne]

First, my primary attraction is pantyhose. I was helping with a teenage group on a polaroid scavenger hunt. One of the pictures they were to get was of a guy in hose. I got hopeful that it would be me. But one of the boys in the group piped up, "I'll do it." His mom was the driver of the van full of kids. She said, "Oh, [name] loves to wear pantyhose." I'm sure he had a heart attack at this point... But he recovered well and said, "Mom why do you want to embarrass me saying stuff like that." No one reacted to it as if it were a joke. I didn't think it was a joke. Throughout the night, he wore the hose for the picture and took them off. I recommended he use black so it would be visible in the picture. Then he said to me, "Do you think it would be ok if I put them on under my shorts?" (he wore them over his shorts for the picture.) I said no one would probably notice. He wore them under his shorts for about an hour. No one noticed unless he showed them. Only 8 inches of leg was showing anyway.
To answer your question, no. I never told him. I watched him after that (I was a teacher at his school.) I am sure he has the nylon gene too. We eventually started going to the same school. Him, undergrad and me grad student. I never approached him about anything. The age difference and our life roles made it inappropriate

[Vicki]

Regrettably, in England, this would appear to be a very closed subject. As everyone rightly surmises, there are more ladies around than we think. I suspect that everyone I know, at work and in my local pub, would have several reactions, but probably none of them positive. Silly thing is 3 women know I am TV, 2 being ex-girlfriends and the other works in the charity shop where I buy clothes. The girlfriends liked it and the other lady reserves larger size clothes for me and helps with my make-up!
Only mad dogs and Englishmen............

[Deedee_tv]

I came across a Yahoo profile, completely by accident, that was a friend who I was the best man for in his wedding five years ago. I have since moved out-of-state and do not see him very often. I chose to send him an unsolicited email with a link to my yahoo profile. I thought he would recognize the furniture in the background of the pictures as i do not show my face. Well either he did and did not want to reply or just ignored it. I stopped by his house to see him last summer when I was back in town and we talked about families, etc. The subject did not come up.

Although it is obvious we share a common interest, it just seemed odd to discuss. We would probably have a blast if we could figure out a way to start our discussion.

[Dragster]

You lucky girl Vicki, three GGs know you're a CDer and they're all supportive. A situation we all wish we were in!

I noticed it was your first post too, so a big welcome to another UK CD. I'm pretty new too, and I only "came out" in the new member's section yesterday. You'll never know how liberating it was to tell my story for the first time, let's see yours when you're ready to post it.

All the best,
Tony

[Aloha_Dana]

My closest friend is a flight attendant who saw a CD on a plane and did not speak positively about it. In hindsight, I should have spoke up for her, but I didn't respond. Just did the typical male gruntal (dis)approval. I'm sorry sisters.

So after I posted this, I really felt guilty that I missed an opportunity to speak up, at least in a neutral opinion, to my friend when he made his comment. As that guilt had been sitting on my shoulders, I finally had the chance to do something about it.

I went to the Jimmy Buffet concert the other night, and for those of you who haven't seen JB in concert, it is a thing for guys to wear coconut shell bras and grass skirts. There were quite a few of them. (the show was totally awesome btw, and I thouroghly enjoyed dancing w/the two female singers who had hips that rocked the stadium!)

The next night I told by friend about the guys in the skirts. I knew he would comment negatively and I was prepared. He relied with, "Nut cases". My close freindship w/him has nothing to do w/his disposition, but it just goes to show how some people, so close to you are really offended by crossdressing. Anyway, I said, 'their just regular guys having fun' - a defensive, yet neutral reply, and he replied w/a nonchallant, 'yeah'.

A small step, but I felt good that I righted my conscience.

Aloha,
Dana

P.s. If you ever get the chance to see JB, I highly recommned it. The man puts on a complete show. A racontueur when he is not signing. Two thumbs up and did I mention the dancers???

[connie rotten]

I have been good friends with a drag queen but i don't think I know anyone who crossdresses like us.