No offence, but have you ever been called a pervert

[1950sclothes]

My mum was shocked when she found I dressed up. She thought I was mad and gay. I am neither.

She accepts it now, but we don't talk about it. She knows I still dress up, but all I show to her is a masculine man. Which I generally am, but I also need to wear women's clothes.

Most people are accepting, but I was called a pervert by my last girlfriend.

[Hana22]

My mother and father also called me a pervert among other things. Most of my gf's have been somewhat accepting but I have always thought they felt threatened by it. I don't think snyone can really get it unless they have done it.

[1950sclothes]

Hana, me and you and the people on this site share something very special that only we UNDERSTAND. Believe in that and treasure it.:)

[Rachel Morley]

I've never told anyone who knows me so the answer is "no". People who don 't know me and see me when I am out dressed in public ... is also thankfully a "no".

I think people who are likely to call someone a pervert just for being a crossdresser are people who don't really understand the gender expression side of it and think it's some sort of seedy sexual thing. There might be a sexual connection sometimes with some people but it's not seedy or perverted. :2c:

[1950sclothes]

I agree about not understanding. I think you have to be a CD to understand it and it's so often confused with being gay. I am 100% straight.

[Shelly67]

I admin in a chat room thats for girls like us . Everytime I,m in there a woman comes online under a different name , so banning her is almost impossible . The room also has cams ....some of the girls are very passable , its not dirty , but humerous and often fun . This woman arrives , and openly cusses us all via a microphone . Some of the things she calls people is so offensive they leave - apologising , and sadly never returning.
Pervert ?
Well , perhaps one day when folks have buried theyre irrational fears we,ll be understood .....
As for the visiting woman ............
bet she,s the one who fell outta the ugly tree , hit every branch on the way down , and as jealous as hell of some girls prettyness...!!!:mad:

[KayHenderson]

Most people are accepting, but I was called a pervert by my last girlfriend.

"Sticks and stones..."

[Lisa Golightly]

I was called a pervert once because I like to eat chili with crackers... but never for dressing as a girl...

[DanaJ]

All the time, but never for CDing :D

[Emily Ann Brown]

One of the nicer things I have been called in the last 20 months.

Emily Ann

[Shelly Preston]

I have not been called a pervert but I was once told I was sick !!!! (and I dont mean being ill)

Funnily this was for reading a book on toxicology :eek:

[KandisTX]

Never a pervert, but my first wife used the following statement in her petition for divorce. "The respondant does things that are unbecoming of a Husband and Father".

Kandis:love:

[joann07]

It hasn't happened to me while dressed, thank goodness, but in guy mode, oh yeah, I've been jokingly called that by friends and family whenever I drool over HOT girls in bikinis, cheerleader uniforms, Hooters uniforms, etc, etc, etc, etc., you name it. :drooling:
It's expected because, of course, I'm a guy!

[1950sclothes]

I have not been called a pervert but I was once told I was sick !!!! (and I dont mean being ill)

Funnily this was for reading a book on toxicology :eek:

That gets me mad, I bet you were called sick by a women wearing a skirt.

[Alaceann]

joann07 It hasn't happened to me while dressed, thank goodness, but in guy mode, oh yeah, I've been jokingly called that by friends and family whenever I drool over HOT girls in bikinis, cheerleader uniforms, Hooters uniforms, etc, etc, etc, etc., you name it.
It's expected because, of course, I'm a guy!

I'm totaly with you.:heehee:

[joann07]

joann07 It hasn't happened to me while dressed, thank goodness, but in guy mode, oh yeah, I've been jokingly called that by friends and family whenever I drool over HOT girls in bikinis, cheerleader uniforms, Hooters uniforms, etc, etc, etc, etc., you name it.
It's expected because, of course, I'm a guy!

I'm totaly with you.:heehee:


Right on girlfriend!!
Oh and I forgot one more.
Women wearing pantyhose!
I lOVE pantyhose! :drooling:

[kimmy p]

I have been called a pervert only in the most loving of ways.:love:

[kim85]

I think its because they dont understand. I someone doesnt understand it rather than try to they just insult instead.. When i first found out about my so i didnt think anything like that. It just wasnt what i was use to so i tried to find out more, most people wont. Also society again has a part to play because crossdressing isnt accepted many people think its wrong hence the bad names/labels.
In your post you havent explained under what circumstances your ex partner called you that. Was it an agurment or heated discussion had she just found out about it. If she was trying to hurt you thats one of the easiests ways
:hugs: But as you already know your not one your just different but wouldnt life be boring if we were all the same

Kim
xxx

[paulaN]

I have a saying about this. (All men are perverted ask any woman.)

[Dawn Marie]

My SO has called be names in the heat of an argument and has called me sick and that I need help, but I don't think she understands what I'm going thruough either. So I just tell her I quit and do it in secret anyway. But I do miss going out dressed. But have never been called names while I'm out and about before.

[jennifer41356]

nope , but I have been called ma'am :love:

[Joanne f]

Yes quite a few times usually by groups of teenagers,


joanne

[Fab Karen]

Never a pervert, but my first wife used the following statement in her petition for divorce. "The respondant does things that are unbecoming of a Husband and Father".

Kandis:love:
YOu should have done yourself up your best( or gotten a professional make-up person ) and dressed up your most fabulous, and gone before the judge & said, "I ask you, is this becoming or not?":D

[KandisTX]

YOu should have done yourself up your best( or gotten a professional make-up person ) and dressed up your most fabulous, and gone before the judge & said, "I ask you, is this becoming or not?":D

LOL.. now that would have been classic.. except for the fact that I was on Active Duty with the Air Force at the time this happened, and she had not yet outed me to my First Sargent

Kandis:love:

[Violetgray]

I was called a pervert once because I like to eat chili with crackers... but never for dressing as a girl...

Chili with crackers? Its a wonder they let people like you out on the street!:tongueout

But yeah, its good though!

I haven't been called a pervert yet, especially since most of my gf's were wayy kinkier than me!

[Kate Simmons]

Only once last year when I decided to put Sal on the shelf for awhile and grew my beard for a month. I was really enjoying it when a couple of my friends gave me some money, telling me I looked like a homeless person and a perv. Wise acres :heehee:. Then it was time to shave for the Halloween party as I was going to be a female ghoul (which had already been planned with my friend). Oh well, maybe I'll let 'er grow again this year, being a perv notwithstanding.:p

[Jilmac]

:mad:If I had a buck for every time I was called a pervert, sicko, wierdo,or some other derogatory name From people who knew I dressed, I could open an IRA. My ex called me every derogatory name she could dream up. I have just recently told my latest SO that I dress and thus far, she hasn't said anything for or against it. Maybe she's still undecided:undecided. I have never told any of my male friends and I don't know if I want to yet. Jill

"I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR'

[Jodi]

Never to my face. Have no idea what is said behind my back.

Jodi

[MJ]

[QUOTE=Shelly_P;1135754]I have not been called a pervert but I was once told I was sick !!!! (and I dont mean being ill)

Funnily this was for reading a book on toxicology :eek:

thats one of the nicer names I've been called


[QUOTE=Lisa Golightly;1135742]I was called a pervert once because I like to eat chili with crackers... but never for dressing as a girl...

i do that too .. nothing wrong with that.. :D hmm chili

[gennee]

I was never called a pervert. My thought I was gay but I'm not. I'm just a girl who wants to have fun. :D
Maybe I am a little strange but gotta have fun in my life.

Gennee

[Daintre]

I was called a pervert by my ex, it really started a self loathing period for me, it took a lot of time and a good therapist to get me through that.

[shirley1]

i was tempted to start a new thread but for someone who is both a cd and an ex phychology student - story - i used to live in a flat/appartment a young gg lived downstairs from me and accidently received some mail of mine to do with crossdressing - to cut a long story short she regulary had friends round both male and female - you could hear conversations through the walls and i heard a few times references to the guy upstairs is a weirdo never pervert but here in england it amounts to the same thing - i have read a lot of stories on this site as to how people who go out dont have this label put on them - is it possible that if people find out or suspect you crossdress but only at home ie in the closet theyre more likely to think your perverted whereas guys that go out dressed and show to the world what they are are less likely to get this label - i work for a large building company and have heard stories of workmen going around to peoples houses to do repair jobs and a guy answering the door wearing a womens underwear - and they almost run a mile or felt uncomfortable so could it be a case that the more open you are the less likely people are to think you are nothing more than a perv who needs to hide things behind closed doors ?

[Priscilla Ann]

Why yes I have been called a pervert...:D

[Stephanie-L]

One time when I was out in a mall, early in my "full en femme" career, a group of teenage boys followed me and called me names. And the other time was the last time my wife found my stash, and called me a freak. That was about the closest I have come to leaving her. Other than that, no problems...Stephanie

[battybattybats]

I've been called a lot of things.
Devil worshipper, Heretic, Know-it-all-*******, Freak, Creep, Weirdo, Deviant and yes Pervert too.

And that was in guy mode!

Sometimes light-heartedly, sometimes not. Most recently in arguments with my then girlfriend over crossdessing and other issues.

[suchacutie]

not for CDing!

hmm, what else can one say? it was all in good fun and good fun was had by all!

tina

[Dalece]

Called a pervert for looking at porn, but never as aCd. Just that you look great and are brave for dressing like a women.

[sterling12]

It sounds a bit clinical, but if someone called me a pervert, I think my first response would be: "What's your definition of a pervert?" These days it's a very subjective word, and I doubt you could find any two people to agree on what really constitutes "perversion."

Once I got some handle on what parameters this person was using to put that silly label on me, then we could begin a dialog about what was true, what wasn't true, and start addressing the issues. For example, "If you dress like that you must be gay and perverted." From that point we could begin to rationally discuss, A.)whether or not I was gay. B.) Whether homosexuality is a perversion. C.) Does everyone who wears female clothing, indulge in homosexuality, and therefore becomes a pervert?

You get the idea. Inotherwords, don't let yourself be put on a low-esteem guilt trip because of someone else's blanket condemnation. Especially when that person hasn't even given you a rational explanation of what the heck they are talking about.

If you don't handle the situation in that way, you are just doing the old parent/child sicko game again. "Shame-Shamey on you....you little _____." Your getting way to old to play that game!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Suzy Harrison]

No, never..... I think I need to get out more :heehee:

[Jennifer Brooks]

My wife calls me one every once in awhile. So yes. Yes I have been called one.

[androgyne]

My mum was shocked when she found I dressed up. She thought I was mad and gay. I am neither.

She accepts it now, but we don't talk about it. She knows I still dress up, but all I show to her is a masculine man. Which I generally am, but I also need to wear women's clothes.

Most people are accepting, but I was called a pervert by my last girlfriend.

Most straight people just can't handle the CD/TV lifestyle, as it's simply too much for them. It's much easier for me, since I dress 24/7 and don't have to switch back and forth.

[docrobbysherry]

Pervert; "one who has abandoned the doctrine assumed to be true, and, one suffering from derangement of the sex instinct"

Hey, I resemble that remark!
RS

[Ruth]

No, never..... I think I need to get out more :heehee:
Oh Suzy I love it. Same here.
Ruth

[charllote34]

I have not been called a pervert but everything else , in fact pervert is quite a tame term !!

[PeggySue]

Haven't been called a pervert, but several have called me ma'm, and 5 have honked their horns at me.

Hugs

[trannie T]

When those yellow "Baby on Board" signs were in every minivan in the parking lot I tried to find one that said "Pervert on Board." No one has ever called me a pervert and those who know of my crossdressing have been accepting.

[Joy Carter]

HeHeHeHeHe:drool:----------Why No.

[KateSpade83]

I'm considered a major pervert by my brother and his wife. My brother freaked out at the amount of skirt suits I had back in Chicago. Now that we both moved to Houston he won't let me live in his house / rent from him because of my crossdressing. He doesn't want me to badly influence his kids. Plus, if I lived there, he'd make me take a bath everyday, - something I don't do. But if I'm unemployed he might let me stay temporarily until I find a job.

[cyle_elise]

Most people are accepting, but I was called a pervert by my last girlfriend.

Me too, but she never knew I dressed :)

[jozee]

no! but when i got caught by my mom (at about puberty) i got a serious talking-to from my dad and he said 'they lock people up for that!' suggesting
mental illness. then along came trudeau, who, as justice minister before being prime minister said that the government has no business in the bedrooms of the nation. whatever happens behind closed doors between consenting adults is nobodys business but their own. although their spouses might not agree. i know mine wouldnt!!!!

[Lanore]

I have never been called a pervert, just different. People that use those kind of words need to look in the mirror. I have had a lot of unusual responses to my breasts over the years which I look at as maybe jeolousy. If more people had what we have and accepted it, the world would be a better place.

Lanore