If you're going to dress like that, why bother?

[Sophie Haworth]

Hi all.

This is one of the comments to a video of mine on YouTube.

The video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fk7tCGtKZw4

and the story

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=59571

Now, I do find it a very interesting comment, and I do not take offence, in fact it is almost a compliment.

Those of you who follow my outings and stories will know exactly what I mean.

When I go out, I do dress to pass and perhaps the outfits are a little plain, but they are still in my opinion very feminine, and up to now I have never had a problem while wearing this type of outfit.

I am not sure what this `viewer` is looking for, and I am not even going to ask, uless they see this and wish to reply.

I do have another story to post in the `out and about` section, again very similar outfit.

In that story I went to get a new tyre for my car and had to interact.

I will post that soon

Sophie.

[TV Wannabe]

I thought your outfit looked great, very fem. With a name like "subfemboy" or what ever, then I can assume that they were looking for something a little more kinky, lol. What is the name of that song that is in your video?

[charllote34]

why worry?? idiots post comments on you tube and the song is self control by laura braningham good choice xxx

[Julie York]

Very interesting.

Basically, what you did wrong was dress like a real woman.


If you had gone out to a big CD nightclub or something, then the comment would have been valid. But in your case, because you were doing it for a particular purpose, you did exactly what you should have done to achieve that purpose.

[Mitch23]

a compliment definitely - you look very femme and very passable. I think the viewer was probably looking for fishnet stockings and a micro skirt

mitch

[serinalynn]

From what I saw I don't think you'll have a problem passing as a woman, no one would even question the way you look.

[raleighbelle]

I thought both your clothing and the way you walked were very convincing. If you look at the person who wrote that's profile, they were hiding behind a bush (no pun intended) and the breasts were designed to be more of a caricature of a girl rather than realistic. I will admit, that when I dress at home, I prefer dresses and skirts and very feminine items, but that is really not what women wear when they go out to a furniture shop or to do day to day things. I think it would be much more exciting and pleasurable to go out in public accepted as a woman than to look like a flamboyant guy making fun of women. Unfortunately, I am not one who could go out and pass as a woman like you can - I am envious.

[Priscilla Ann]

You look very feminine and very passable to me. Nice outfit. Quite demure.

[Brandy H]

I think you look great as well. That's what I try to do, blend in, not attract attention, just look like another attractive woman. Keep up the good work. I look forward to seeing more of your posts/ pictures.

[MJ]

you've been tag by a troll .. you look fine there's nothing wrong with your look that person is jealous

[Sherlyn]

Sophie ...I think you look fine also ...You Tube is nothing to get excited about.....I have had a few ....like ...You do Trashy well ....lol.... or that girl is really a boy ...yea Duh !!! if they bug I just delete or move around with different accounts...:D

[Stephenie S]

"If you're going to dress like that, then why bother?"

Well hon, the answer to that is, "Because I can, and you can't." You could go anywhere dressed like that and interact with anyone dressed like that. Your presentation seems almost perfect to me. I could not and would not have seen you as anything other than woman, 100%. And that's what you wanted. The genuine article, not a caricature. You've done it girl, you nailed it and you nailed it good.

Of, couse I do not know how tall you are, I don't know how you sound, I don't know a lot about you. But I do know that based on that short video (and on the other short that I have seen), you got it. Absolutely and completely. No question.

Anyone who questions your presentation in that video is jealous or dumb. I suspect jealous.

Lovies,
Stephenie

I just watched the video again. Stay away from the slomo stuff. It does not acentuate the feminine in you. Part of the sucess of your walk is your quickness. I have said this many times here. Perhaps others can watch and learn from you. You nail the walk 100% with NONE of that silly one foot in line with the other stuff, or any attempt at an exagerated wiggle. I read that it took you some time to get it down, but you did it. Congrats, dear. You acomplished what many of us only dream of.

Stephie

[docrobbysherry]

Sophie,
I watched the video of the attractive, conservatively dressed woman walking around. Thot she was kind of cute! Is she your girlfriend?
RS

[linnea]

Very interesting.

Basically, what you did wrong was dress like a real woman.


If you had gone out to a big CD nightclub or something, then the comment would have been valid. But in your case, because you were doing it for a particular purpose, you did exactly what you should have done to achieve that purpose.

I agree with Julie: you look like a real woman on an ordinary excursion--nothing flashy, nothing flashy needed. I see women who dress like this all the time. I really want the "natural" look most of the time. If I'm going to go out for something special (a special event, a date, a New Year's party), I dress up. That's why they call it "dressing up."
Don't worry about the negative comment.

[StacyCD]

"If you're going to dress like that, then why bother?"

Because you look fabulous!!!

[LizSummers]

I think you looked great! Very natural :)
Youtube comments are generally to be ignored completely, as evidenced by this comic :D http://xkcd.com/202/

Some people are just looking for skin to be shown, but that's not what it's always about :)

[LindaMarie]

You look very nice. Your outfit is very cute and very appropriate for browsing at a furniture store.

I know it's annoying to get the odd negative comment (and by odd I mean both strange and unusual) but there are a lot of people out there and it's not unusual for someone with an ax to grind to say something negative. I think you can see from the comments you've received here that the reaction to your video is overwhelmingly positive. You can't please everyone nor should you try.

I'm looking forward to seeing more of your videos and hearing about more adventures.

All the best.

Linda

[Niya W]

some people are programed to think TGs= ****s then there are others that are curded rude ass holes .

Look don't worry about what one jerk says, or it will keep you from going out

[crunchysoda]

Very interesting.

Basically, what you did wrong was dress like a real woman.


If you had gone out to a big CD nightclub or something, then the comment would have been valid. But in your case, because you were doing it for a particular purpose, you did exactly what you should have done to achieve that purpose.

Yep I agree! You wanted to blend in, not go shopping like "The Woman In Red"!

Id say the vast majority of youtube comments are :bonk: to say the least.

[Marvina Martian]

All that I can see is someone who looked great. Pay no heed!

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

Sophie the person who said that is dyslexic,,he ment to say,"why bother to dress like that if your not gona go into the store":D

[Stormgirl]

F*** those jerks on Youtube, you look great and don't let anybody tell you else wise.

Btw, I know two wrongs don't make a right but I kindly told those rude people off for you.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

1) Have confidence cause you look great!

2) If you are going to post vids on youtube you had better get used to luring trolls. LOTs of them!

*hugs*

Zara

[Paulacder]

Sophie, congratulations on your outing. One of the replys said, why dress like that?, one must remember dressing for daytime is a lot different than dressing for night time. Trying to achieve that blend in look isn't easy, however you did a great job.:love:

[Charlotte Cross]

Sophie, you do what so many of us wish we had the brass to try. Only a select few such as yourself, can go out in public and pass. It must be very thrilling for you and I'm quite envious.
Don't let one comment from one jerk make you feel any less pretty. I think you already know the majority of us here support you.
If it feels good, DO IT!!!

[Melissa Pink]

I agree with all who said you looked very nice. If your desire was to pass and fit in as a woman you certainly were dressed appropriately. Lycra mini dresses, thigh highs and 5" heels are fun to wear out clubbing :dancing:or to Mardi Gras, but would make you stand out at the furniture store. It doesn't sound like standing out and looking like a "man in drag" was your desired effect. The slacks were a tasteful choice. I can't think of any gg's that I know that wear skirts all the time.

I wear sort of androgynous wear a lot. Jeans, t-shirts, leather jackets, cowboy boots most of the time. I guess I'm sort of a "tom boy". I do enjoy wearing nice feminine things and dressing up for a night out. Unlike many of you gurls I'm not a shopper. The mall isn't my scene. If I must go to a store I try to get in and out like I'm on a mission. I buy most of my clothes at thrift stores and on line. Our femininity is something we hold inside our selves and project with our body language and mannerisms. The clothing, wigs, shape enhancers and make up are simply a props to enhance the illusion.

Melissa :GE:

[Cheryl T]

I didn't know the CD fashion police were observing us...

Who cares what you wear when you go out. If you want to stand out then wear Stillettos and a mini to WalMart, but if we want to be part of society we have to look as if we belong. Different people have different needs.
Mine is to express my feminine side and to me that means wearing what I feel comfortable in and what makes me feel good. 10 years ago I would have laughed had someone said I would be wearing slacks or jeans to the mall. I NEVER owned a pair until 2 years ago and now I wear them (like most women) all the time. I wear skirts and dresses of course, but in appropriate context like parties or dressier outings.
A group of us were chatting one night and the subject of skirts came up. Someone said, "isn't wearing a skirt why we do this?", and I immediately responded, "No". It then occurred to me that perhaps I was moving beyond the mere clothing attachment that I thought for years was my motivation. The farther from that day I move, the more I see that the woman in me doesn't require a skirt and heels to be expressed.
It's the inner me that is feminine...

[Amanda Nicole]

You look fine, Sophie. Your outfit blends in well with what the other women wear, and that's what it's all about, isn't it?

Enjoy!

Amanda Nicole
"Mandy"

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

along with my wearing of pantyhose 24/7 i am alomst always in a skirt,,if it wasnt so friggin cold here in Phoenix (its 41 out), i would be wearing a skirt to run my errands,, i LUV skirts, they let my legs show and also let everyone see that im wearing pantyhose,, sure wearing shorts will have the same effect but i hate the feel of that band between my legs, same goes for pants,,,

[LACD]

Sweetie, for my 2 cents, you have it going on. Wouldn't worry about that knucklehead, he's jealous or just an idiot.

[Mitch23]

having looked at the video a couple of times i think the comment is about going to the store and not going in rather than the appropriateness of the outfit and how well you pass. Its what occurred to me as well but I think some of the people who post are not very articulate and it is easy to misinterpret what they say

mitch

[Angie G]

I think you did and do look good hun dress the way you like iknow some one won't like it and that is tough luck for them. be who and what you wish to be Sophie :hugs:
Angie

[MsJanessa]

Hi all.

This is one of the comments to a video of mine on YouTube.

The video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fk7tCGtKZw4

and the story

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=59571

Now, I do find it a very interesting comment, and I do not take offence, in fact it is almost a compliment.

Those of you who follow my outings and stories will know exactly what I mean.

When I go out, I do dress to pass and perhaps the outfits are a little plain, but they are still in my opinion very feminine, and up to now I have never had a problem while wearing this type of outfit.

I am not sure what this `viewer` is looking for, and I am not even going to ask, uless they see this and wish to reply.

I do have another story to post in the `out and about` section, again very similar outfit.

In that story I went to get a new tyre for my car and had to interact.

I will post that soon

Sophie.

send subfemmeboy to Me---I'll teach him to be more polite:dom:

[Sophie Haworth]

Thanks everyone, 100% positive responses from you all.

Another comment did pop up about going in, and well I did go in after I switched off the camera. If you read the story you will read how I went on.

(It was fantastic)

I am just going to move now to the out and about section to tell you all about my new tyre!

Sophie.