Tina Francia
12-30-2007, 04:17 AM
Hello all,
Here is my story, I hope I can possibly get a little advice while giving some at the same time.
I have ben a CD since I can remember, 3 - 3 1/2 years of age. The story behind my CDing is way too long to tell here but I would like to share events that have happened over the past 15 years most of wich will be brief.
I was in the Navy when I really came out about being a CD. It was much encouraged by my ex-wife. Turns out that she tried to use it against me to get custody of our children when she left to the arms of another man. (I got the children despite the CDing). Two years later I met my curent wife online.
Durring our dating process, I informed my wife that I was a cross dresser but due to a promiss to the California court system, and to my ex-in-laws, I would not fully CD until the children were of the age to understand and comprehend what cross dressing was.
I informed her that I wore panties on a daily basis and that I wore night gowns to bed. She said that was ok.
Several times throughout our marriage of 10 almost 11 years, my wife had asked if I wanted to CD and my answer was, "No not at this time, the children are still too young and what I was currently doing was satisfactory."
After the conversation the subject would be dropped for a year or so and things would go on as normal. (the normal ups and downs of any relationship) That is until this year, when I told my wife that I wanted to CD again.
This summer there were events that became really stressful within the relationship, along with the fact that we were going to a local drag queen bar that has nightly shows. I began struggling with the urge to fully CD to deal with the stress and the alure of seeing others CDing and how comfortable they were doing it. So, one day in mid June we were sitting on our balcony discussing the issues that were happening within the relationship and I just blurted out to her that I wanted to CD again.
After a bit more conversation, she said that she would be supportive and understood. She even went as far as going shopping with me. First it was a bra then a few weeks later shoes and then a clothing shopping spree. Most of the clothes turned out to be for her and not me though; which was ok, because She needed new clothes too, and it is not like I get to dress all that much any way.
After the shopping spree, things simmer down on the crossdressing (I can tell that she is getting a bit worried and is thinking that I want to be a woman full time) in fact I stop completely and go back to the normal routine of our life. (trying to give her a break and adjust to the situation.) Infact she askes for time by herself to try and sort her thoughts on the situation. I'm understanding and say sure take the time that you need, I'm here to help and will explain what I can. In the mean time here are some sites that you can visit to get some information, if you have any questions I will be glad to try and answer them.
A couple of months go by and it is now Halloween. She is acting really strange and distant, I assume it has to do with work and her mother. Sheesh was I ever wrong, because come November 1st, she is asking for a separation and informing me that she has been talking to another man.
I was shattered to say the least. We have now been separated for 2 months and I've gotten myself into counseling (best thing I ever did). She on the other hand will not seek any outside assistance, will not talk to me other than dealings with our son, and gets hateful when the "D" word is mentioned. Yet she refused to indicate that there is any hope for our relationship.
Well that is my story. If any of you that do have supportive S/O's or even S/O's that have any advice or comments, I would love to hear from you.
Here is my story, I hope I can possibly get a little advice while giving some at the same time.
I have ben a CD since I can remember, 3 - 3 1/2 years of age. The story behind my CDing is way too long to tell here but I would like to share events that have happened over the past 15 years most of wich will be brief.
I was in the Navy when I really came out about being a CD. It was much encouraged by my ex-wife. Turns out that she tried to use it against me to get custody of our children when she left to the arms of another man. (I got the children despite the CDing). Two years later I met my curent wife online.
Durring our dating process, I informed my wife that I was a cross dresser but due to a promiss to the California court system, and to my ex-in-laws, I would not fully CD until the children were of the age to understand and comprehend what cross dressing was.
I informed her that I wore panties on a daily basis and that I wore night gowns to bed. She said that was ok.
Several times throughout our marriage of 10 almost 11 years, my wife had asked if I wanted to CD and my answer was, "No not at this time, the children are still too young and what I was currently doing was satisfactory."
After the conversation the subject would be dropped for a year or so and things would go on as normal. (the normal ups and downs of any relationship) That is until this year, when I told my wife that I wanted to CD again.
This summer there were events that became really stressful within the relationship, along with the fact that we were going to a local drag queen bar that has nightly shows. I began struggling with the urge to fully CD to deal with the stress and the alure of seeing others CDing and how comfortable they were doing it. So, one day in mid June we were sitting on our balcony discussing the issues that were happening within the relationship and I just blurted out to her that I wanted to CD again.
After a bit more conversation, she said that she would be supportive and understood. She even went as far as going shopping with me. First it was a bra then a few weeks later shoes and then a clothing shopping spree. Most of the clothes turned out to be for her and not me though; which was ok, because She needed new clothes too, and it is not like I get to dress all that much any way.
After the shopping spree, things simmer down on the crossdressing (I can tell that she is getting a bit worried and is thinking that I want to be a woman full time) in fact I stop completely and go back to the normal routine of our life. (trying to give her a break and adjust to the situation.) Infact she askes for time by herself to try and sort her thoughts on the situation. I'm understanding and say sure take the time that you need, I'm here to help and will explain what I can. In the mean time here are some sites that you can visit to get some information, if you have any questions I will be glad to try and answer them.
A couple of months go by and it is now Halloween. She is acting really strange and distant, I assume it has to do with work and her mother. Sheesh was I ever wrong, because come November 1st, she is asking for a separation and informing me that she has been talking to another man.
I was shattered to say the least. We have now been separated for 2 months and I've gotten myself into counseling (best thing I ever did). She on the other hand will not seek any outside assistance, will not talk to me other than dealings with our son, and gets hateful when the "D" word is mentioned. Yet she refused to indicate that there is any hope for our relationship.
Well that is my story. If any of you that do have supportive S/O's or even S/O's that have any advice or comments, I would love to hear from you.