Philosophical Question

[Nikki A.]

There have been posts asking if we are insulting women by dressing as them and others saying that we try to be women when dressed and that is different than a woman wearing men's clothes and still being a woman.

In light of this, my question is, if you could wear whatever you wanted without fear of ridicule how far would you dress. I think that many of us go all out when dressing so that we can blend in and avoid the ridicule and possible harrasment. I'm sure there are some of us who are only happy if they are fully dressed. I think that if I could I would rather have the option to dress fem and still be me. Of course in my limited number of public outings I go all out to look as fem as possible. At home though, hose, skirt blouse and bra is enough. No make up (unless I'm experimenting) or wig needed.

[docrobbysherry]

I always wear whatever crazy, alluring, rediculous outfit I think Sherry will look good in. And, I get rediculed, and I get congradulated. And all that's without ever leaving my closet!
Have a great new year all.
RS

[battybattybats]

For me it would vary. Some days dressed fuly, some days just mixing it up.

By having long nails that are generally painted black and long hair I'm breaking gender rules on a daily basis.

[Nicole Erin]

For me it would vary. Some days dressed fuly, some days just mixing it up.

By having long nails that are generally painted black and long hair I'm breaking gender rules on a daily basis.


Your ISP and home address are being sent to the gender police right now! :heehee:

Now me, if I could get away with it, I would probably be dolled up completely on my days off. On work days when I go no where, it would probably be my norm - shorts and a ragged tee.

I have thick but not real long hair, and my nails - ehh nevermind, they are short and hideous.

[StacyCD]

Without fear of ridicule, I'd probably wear higher heels, shorter skirts, larger breastforms, and redder lipstick than I do now. Otherwise, not much would change. And in this ridicule free world, I'd probably dress 24/7.

[Mixie]

I like this question, because it truly gets to the heart of each one of us, individually.

without the fear of ridicule, I would grow my natural hair down to chest length, and I would wear eye shadow and maybe lip liner sometimes, but very discreetly. Those are definites. I would also wear dresses which showed my shoulders, but I would probably wear tight jeans and slacks as well. Heels would be a maybe. I would paint all of my nails. I probably would not wear breast forms.

God, that would feel good. You see, I would obviously be a guy, but I would be wearing womens clothing in a way that, to me, would be fashionable.

[JoAnnDallas]

All last summer on weekends, I would wear panties, Lady Hanes T-shirts, shorts, and Pink/Green sandals. Along with my shaved legs, chest, and arms. When I would go for my nail salon visit, I would not even wear socks, since everyone at the nail salon would see my polished toes anyway. Otherwise, I wore NO makeup, wig, or jewelry. So I was dress in fem clothing, but still looked masculine, if you don't count the polished toes. LOL I am sure that some people noticed my clothing was fem but no one has said anything, except for this one GG at my Nail salon that commented on how nice my Pink t-shirt went with my White shorts.
If I go any further than this, then I go all the way, wig, makeup, dress/skirt, stockings/pantyhose, and heels.

[sissystephanie]

I wear panties almost every day, and a bra if I am wearing a dark shirt. I always go to my nail salon (every two weeks) dressed enfemme, but no makeup or wig. Open toe sandals are my shoes of choice at that time, with no hosiery.

If I could, I would wear skirts and nice tops with all the correct feminine things underneath at all times. I don't want to be a lady, I just want to look like one!:love: Unfortunately, my two children don't know about my CD activites, at least I don't think they do! Long ago I made a vow to my wife that I would not dress around them. They are grown now, and my wife has passed away, but I still keep that vow!

Sissy/Stephanie

Girl on the outside, man underneath the silk and lace!

[suchacutie]

This question really does get down to what each of us are.

For me, Tina doesn't mix with my male self. I really want a total separation, and Tina has already started to define herself. Heels, stockings, panties, bra, painted nails, wig, and makeup are a must. Jewelry to go with the outfit.

I really don't want a partially-feminized male self. There are simply times that I'm a guy, and times when I'm Tina, and I love the separation! Heck, Tina even watches chick-flicks that my male half couldn't stand for 5 min! Weird, huh? But that's me!

Tina

[Dalece]

For me I'd dress more womanly than man. If i could wear a womans uniform to work and mybe low heels safety factor. I would. Right now I'm wearing panties no nylons wish i did though just shaved legs. but all depends on the situation. Dalece is the female side Dale is the male

[Mixie]

This is hard. My mind has changed since my last post. You know how we were talking about how this question really gets to the heart of who you are? Well, they very fact that my mind has changed since then is more descriptive of who I am than anything else I could say.

I would wear heels, lip liner and lipstick, panties, hose, a corset and breast forms. More specifically I would want to wear pants which were really tight on my pelvis and thighs. I love that look.

[Marvina Martian]

I would most defiantly dress femme most of the time if given the choice. When it comes to work time, I would just have grungy girl clothes like I do with my guy clothes.

Hmmm, I'm actually working that direction anyhow right now.....Getting laser, going and having pedicures, getting more normal girl clothes and shoes, picking up girl mags......

Maybe someday! :happy:

[Chiana]

I would dress most of the time but I would still keep some of my male clothes for "dirty work". They just seem more practical in some situations. Of course, since there is no negative consequences, I would also be trying to figure out how to pay for some surgical proceedures.

[vivianann]

I would dress 24/7 as a woman. long hair, makup, breastforms, bra or bodyshaper which I wear everyday now, LEGGS sheer energy suntan pantyhose which I wear everyday also (3yrs now). I would wear knee length dress or skirt, I prefer dresses or blouses with long sleeves, have some with elbo length sleeves, with high V neclines. I dress modestly. however I do like to show off my legs, sometimes I will wear a mid thigh length skirt or dress. I would also wear 2" to 3" heels everyday. I really prefer to look like a woman, that is why I want ffs to help me to look more feminine so I can transition to living full time anyway.

[Jessika Paige]

i'd have to say that if i was accepted regardless, i would be commited to daily dressing to the nines. if money were no object, lots would change! i'd rather be female and if i could be free to, i would be. :D

[Joni T]

I'd grow my hair long, get real breasts and dress completely whenever the urge struck me. I'm an all-or-none type of person. There's still too much of Jon in me to be Joni 24/7/365. I still like to turn wrenches and get dirty once in a while. Wouldn't be conducive for safety reasons to dress at work either (I am a tool and die machinist). I haven't found steel-toed heels yet (Ha! Ha!).
Jon(i)

[Kate Simmons]

I wouldn't want to do it full time Hon. I figure if I need to do that, perhaps it's time to look into more directed counseling, HRT, RLT and possible SRS. From what I understand if one goes on HRT the dressing isn't such an issue anyway. For myself it has become a private at home and going out to have fun thing. Think I'll keep it that way for now at least.:happy:

[Suzie S.]

Fear of ridicule from society in general? Well as long as my wife was on that same page, remember I live with her, not just society. :heehee: When I dress I prefer to do it head to toe with full make-up, wig and accecories. If everyone (including my dear wife) was perfectly fine with it, I would dress quite a bit more than I do now. But there are limitations, working in construction, I wouldn't want to be up on a ladder in a skirt or dress! :eek:

[Sally24]

The only thing that would change is that I would go out more often and closer to home. Right now I seldom go out unless it is an hours drive or more from home. Like Suzie S., I either dress head to toe or not at all, no inbetween. I want to be accepted as female so mixing gender presentations is not something I would enjoy. I'm at the stage where I pass much of the time so I usually go where I please anyway.

[Joann0830]

I always said it’s the fashion industry that sets the pace for us to accept it or not who is Masculine or feminine. A way to show you is this: back in colonial times Men wore white knee stockings , shoes with heels and buckles, silk like clothing and ruffled shirts and Hair in pony tails and powdered wigs and don’t forget the powder and makeup to define the face. Revolutionary times men again wore their hair long and tight legging pants and again the shoes and stockings and Please don’t forget the Masculine Pirates who wore Earrings in both ears OMG!!. In the 50s & 60s woman wore toredaor pants (The beginning of Pants, I believe) and their fathers white shirts with the sleeves rolled up and men wore shiney shark skin suits, Had long hair but greased it up and wore Spiedel Bracelets on one wrist and a watch on the other, 60s o’boy men wore there hair long, earrings and lets not forget the tight hiphugger pants along with the silk shirts and the leather coast with fur collars. Some men even had a fingernail painted some color and not so masculine eyeglass frames. Ourtime, the present Woman wear mens construction boots, boys jeans because they are better made, Boys or mens boxers rolled down, Pant suits and sometimes a tuxedo tapered for the woman (Imagine back in the early times, that was NOT accepted as you would have been labled) The point I am trying to make is we men and woman define what is accepted as Masculine and feminine its not really the clothing it’s the people wearing them and the people that share that. I remember my wife
When she was alive as she was accepting to who I was as I told her that I was like this since I was little 5 or 6 and she understood as she realized it made me a better dad and husband and even better at my job, because I was understanding towards my childrens needs and my wifes need and as far as my job I can say it helped me to not judge anyone but helped me to understand them better as I would want done for myself. After My wife passed in 2001 I am raising my youngest daughter by myself and at one point I sat her down and explained it to her as I did my wife and she said its okay day I can understand
When its something inside you want to talk about and be able to do. I asked her if she had any issues about dressing and she said to me it’s a costume whether it be a Santa Suit (which I did for her and her oldest sister) or a cape and mask for Halloween its under the costume I know that its really my dad. BTW she helps me pick out clothing so that I don’t look bad and she is on top of my hairstyle and makeup which I showed her (17 Years Old going on 25 if You know what I mean) I believe that the wife or S.O. of a Crossdresser should look at the overall picture we are not having an operation, we would not cheat as finding someone to Love and accept us is quite hard and finally we do understand a Womans point of view a lot better then the average male. I am sorry that this is long but in 59 years I have watched and listened to everyone even here on our site, as we just want to be accepted, Loved and we want to share what we know. A famous quote from a Wise Woman who was married for 50 years (My Mom).
“You have to become friends before You Become Lovers” I know I can say as most of the CDM here will say for those accepting wives, Thank You for being supportive, My Best Friend and Lover.

:heehee::love:Joann0830

[Carly D.]

I was just thinking about this last night.. and I would like to think that if a miracle were to happen and everyone accepted anyone who crossdressed as "normal" that I would hope to dress as Carly.. but I was thinking that if I ever were to be able to dress up that I'm still not sure that I would (in public that is).. and the reason is simple; I think of this as being a private thing, crossdressing, and even if I were to be discovered I'm not sure I would wear outside.. or maybe I would...

[Ruth]

I've thought about this a number of times because it is kind of basic to what we do.
I've been out in public a few times and my aim then has been to impersonate a woman, partly to prove to myself that I can do it and partly as a defensive measure - if I look "normal" enough, I won't be challenged.
However, in private, I'm dressing for myself, not for anyone else. But I find I still desire a very feminine appearance - I like to wear make-up and lipstick even when there's nobody to see. But I may mix M and F clothes and leave off the bra and breast forms. So I don't take the same care to create an integrated "look", but my aim is still to express a distinctly feminine character.

[christina marie]

probably not too much more than i do now, i think. maybe a light polish on my fingernails, a slightly more femmy haircut, a shade or two darker eyeliner... those type of things. am pretty content with myself for now, but you never know :D

[Michelle 51]

I would wear a skirt and heels most of the time except when i was doing something that wasn,t practical.Also i have all my hair so it would be long and femme for sure. justabit

[Seville]

Without fear of ridicule, I'd probably wear higher heels, shorter skirts, larger breastforms, and redder lipstick than I do now. Otherwise, not much would change. And in this ridicule free world, I'd probably dress 24/7.

Same here, to go along with my red nails and earrings.:happy:

[Hali]

I dont wear any femme cloth under my male clothing but i have cute (girly nails), my eye brow has been shaped and trimmed, have a 27.5 inch waist (girly waist i suppose cos am 5feet 9 inch tall), am beginnin to grow ma hair long thats all.....
....but wen i feel girly and want to dress i usually/mostly dress fully femme even at home.

[Butterfly Bill]

In light of this, my question is, if you could wear whatever you wanted without fear of ridicule how far would you dress. I think that many of us go all out when dressing so that we can blend in and avoid the ridicule and possible harassment.
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At home though, hose, skirt blouse and bra is enough. No make up

I would go no further than I do now, no makeup, no wig, no bra, and no shaving of the face. I don't think appearing this way, obviously as a male, invites ridicule from the vast majority of people I encounter. What ridicule I get is usually from someone shouting thru a car window who quickly drives away. It can even sometimes result in women flirting with me.

[NYsong]

I would wear whatever I wanted every day. Since I feel I look my best in women's shirts and pants, I would do that a lot, of course with the included bra+forms. I think about this all the time, like how after sleeping with women's clothing on all the time, I could just wake up, thow on a bra and some clothes (any clothes) and just have breasts all day. I love the feeling, and how they help show off my figure!

What a wonderful world it would be if this was socially acceptable...

[StayceeCD]

Without fear of ridicule, I'd probably wear higher heels, shorter skirts, larger breastforms, and redder lipstick than I do now. Otherwise, not much would change. And in this ridicule free world, I'd probably dress 24/7.

I agree! I would dress as much as possible and LOVE every second of it! :D

[Stephenie S]

There have been posts asking if we are insulting women by dressing as them and others saying that we try to be women when dressed and that is different than a woman wearing men's clothes and still being a woman.

In light of this, my question is, if you could wear whatever you wanted without fear of ridicule how far would you dress.

Well, perhaps it's not fair for me to answer this because I dress all the time. I have, however, discovered that the "fear of ridicule" is mostly in your mind. I have no male clothing left in my closet. I don't get ridiculed at all. I live my life the way I want. I wear what I want, when I want, and go where I want.

And you know what I've discovered? That no one cares a whit. Most people who have commented at all have been suportive. I have run into NO oposition what so ever.

So don't be so quick to blame your inability to dress on other people. In the end, you yourself are all that may be standing in your own way.

Stephenie