Another step

[Stephanie-L]

Well, I took another step in my CD life. I finally made an apointment with a counselor to discuss my CDing and what it is doing to my marriage. I am not sure what exactly I am seeking from this person but it will be helpful (I hope) just to be able to sit down and talk to someone about my CDing. I get the feeling that she is somewhat accepting of alternative lifestyles and maybe she can help me deal with the problems CDing has caused in my relationships. It took a week and several emails to set up this apointment so I hope she works out well for me. I will know when I talk to her. Keep good thoughts for me............Stephanie

[Eugenie]

I hope that you will get the support that you are expecting from that councelor. Sometimes speaking to someone will help you see things more clearly.

It may take quite some time though...

Let us know how things work out for you...

:love:
Eugenie

[Mixie]

I will give you nothing but good vibes and hopes. Also, if it's not too private, I think it would be very sweet of you if you shared some of the things which she has to say. Perhaps we could glean some insights about ourselves too. What do you think, Stephanie?

[Marvina Martian]

Hi, I am just about a step behind you in seeking council. We will be setting an appointment in the next week or so, in order to get us together reading the same book. So that one day we will be on the same page. ;)

[StayceeCD]

Would love to have some counseling with my SO... I have suggested it many times and she says "why should I go? It's YOU who has the problem!" I know this is headed for trouble if we don't get things in the open. we haven't talked about it in over a year and it's killing me! I don't want to lie to her but I do need to dress on occasion. Seriously affecting our intimacy too.. I know we could work things out if a professional could help her understand that I'm still the same person I've always been.. I really want things to work out cuz I really do love her and our life together which includes our beautiful 4 yr old daughter. I would never want her to leave me without understanding and use my CD'ing against me. Anyway, I wish you luck! :thumbsup:




Hi, I am just about a step behind you in seeking council. We will be setting an appointment in the next week or so, in order to get us together reading the same book. So that one day we will be on the same page. ;)

[Stephanie-L]

Hi all. I went to the first appointment with my new therapist today. As it looks now I seem to have made a good choice. Today was mostly diagnostic, her finding out about me, why I was there, issues at home, etc. My feeling was that she was interested in finding out what I wanted to do about my CDing (I really don't know yet) and then helping me acheive that goal. She was totally non-judgemental about anything we discussed. We spent a lot of time on issues between my wife and I, even though these are only indirectly related to my CDing. She asked the usual "why do you CD" type questions and seemed to understand when I couldn't fully explain the why of it. I did not get the impression that she expects me to quit CDing, unless that is what I decide to do. I also mentioned that I have considered leaving my wife, with CDing being one of the reasons why and she seemed to understand that too. She didn't jump in and try to save the marriage at all costs, but wants to help me decide what I need to do. Anyway, it felt good to be able to talk openly about this to a real live person (all you gals on here are great but nothing beats face to face). Well, thats it for now, about 10 days to the next appointment, I will keep you all up to date. Thanks for the good thoughts.......Stephanie

[MsToriJones]

Congratulations on your first and second step. it seems that you on your way to where you need to be. I hope your wife decides to hold your hand and take the steps with you as you do seem to care.

[girlyj]

good luck