Dress Shopping Story, my wife Marla outed me - oops!

[Rachel Morley]

This true story was prompted by Angelfire's thread: "Comments made while shopping (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=74174)."

It happened last weekend when my wife Marla and I went shopping to JC Penney. We had some returns to take back and we also took the opportunity to check out the clearance section. We were looking at formal dresses specifically for the upcoming TGSF Cotillion (http://www.tgsf.org/events/cotillion.html) for both of us. I was in boy mode. We found some gorgeous full length gowns - perfect!

Anyway, I had such a thrill (scare?) at the checkout because as the sales assistant rang up the items. The woman said to Marla " ... so ok .... now you have two dresses here right? (it was hard to tell with the massive amount of material, skirting, netting etc that was on the counter) .... Marla says "yes - that's right". The SA says "did you know that they are different sizes?" ... "yes" says Marla and then Marla goes on to ask about what if they get marked down, would we be able to bring them back and get a reduction price etc. The woman said "no, this is the sale price we don't mark them down any more". Marla then turned to look at me, not really thinking, and said in a loud voice (remember I'm in boy mode) "oh well, we can keep these dresses anyway, they'll be insurance for both of us. We'll at least have something to wear if we can't find anything better". My eyes widened and I looked at Marla and grinned from ear to ear because the woman checker stopped what she was doing and looked at Marla with a slightly surprised look that then changed to a huge "knowing smile" on her face. I was thinking OMG! Marla, thanks for outing me darling! :eek: I felt a bit exposed but otherwise took it well. I absolutely know the woman behind us heard everything too :o I don't mind really, as it wasn't exactly being outed it was only suggested that I would be wearing one of the ball gowns. :happy:

Anyway, this sort of thing might not seem significant, but I got quite a kick out of Marla seemingly inadvertently "forgetting" I'm in boy mode and talking about "us" wearing the dresses just as if we were two women going shopping. :happy: Afterwards, Marla told me she can't help it, it seems so normal to to her to talk about it and she sometimes "forgets" as we go out together with me dressed quite often to TG events etc.

Does anyone else have any interesting shopping stories like this? or perhaps times when you "had a moment" buying women's clothes in boy mode that turned out in retrospect to to be fun?

[Joy Carter]

Does Umm, Marla have a sister ? :D

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Rachel

I would loved to have been there to see your face and the laugh you had about it afterwards

Thanks for making me smile :happy:

or should I be thanking Marla :D

[Holly]

We just can't seem to leave the two of you alone for a moment without you getting yourselves into "a situation." :rolleyes: Seriously, you two continue to have so much fun. I get the impression that you both are caring less and less what others think... good for you!

[windycissy]

That's what you get for shopping en drabbe...you look so convincing as a girl, what were you doing shopping for dresses as a guy? No wonder Marla slipped up!

[sandra-leigh]

or perhaps times when you "had a moment" buying women's clothes in boy mode that turned out in retrospect to to be fun?

Last week, I went shopping to a 14+ chain that I never visited before, but which I knew a little of because the wife of one of the CDs in our club works for the chain and has several times suggested we come in. For a change, I went in fully Dressed, full Tess-Leigh; it is much more common for me to shop for my femme clothes while subtly gender-bending. That first store gave no indication that they recognized that I was a cross-dresser, and none of the other customers paid any obvious attention to me.

I had put my coat in the cart while I was shopping, and at one point one of the female customers I had walked right by several times said, "Excuse me?" in my direction, in the tone you use to attract the attention of a sales clerk. Her husband (who had been wandering around, glancing at some things, but otherwise with that "I'm a guy waiting in a dress store, putting up with it for my wife's sake; when oh when can I go watch some sports?") replied to her, "That's not a sales clerk; they are just a customer." Interesting choice of pronouns, no? He looked to be of an age where he would have automatically used "he" if he had noticed I was a guy.

Anyhow, the staff treated me just like any other customer. Thinking back, I notice they didn't happen to say "mam" or "sir" or anything else gender specific. They did ask whether I wanted to join the discount club; after a brief hesitation, I filled it out with my guy name (it wanted a signature), but they didn't pay any attention at all to what I had written.

After that store, I headed off to another branch of the same store, as the first store had called ahead and put a couple of items on reserve for me (sizes they didn't have.) At the second store, I ended up waiting and talking to the cashier for a brief time, as someone else was trying on the only copy they had of a jacket I wanted to try. Apparently the customer had been hemming and hawing about it for 45 minutes, undecided; eventually they handed it back and said "I'll think about it." Well, they didn't put it on reserve or give their name, so I was home free to try it myself.

As I headed over to the mirrors to try on the jacket, the cashier told one of the floor clerks, "He's just heading over to try the jacket in size X". It was a normal situational-awareness report, nothing unusual in itself, and not intended to call any customer's attention to me -- but Yes, even though I'd used my femme name and was fully dressed, the cashier did inadvertently slip up and refer to me as "He". Oh well. None of the customers paid any attention.


After I complete the purchase, I chatted for another couple of minutes and mentioned the name of the aformentioned employee that I know; it turned out that the cashier, as head of sales for that branch, talks to her often.

As I was about to leave, the cashier asked me if it was the first time I'd been in the store, and when I said it was, she said "Well, you'll have to come back more often".


Epilogue: my New Years Eve was a party at the house of the club member and his wife the store employee. She mentioned to me that the next day, the cashier had called her up and told her that I had been in. Fortunately, I made a good impression. One small oddity, though: the cashier had mentioned to me that the next day (the Saturday) was her day off, so if the conversation was indeed "the next day" then she must have called on her day off. I'm not completely sure that it is a Good Thing that so many sales assistants remember me :p


Soooo.... I ended up outed, but sort of in reverse of Rachel's situation, with my dressing seen through. But, as is almost always the case, no-one minded at all. And clearly I passed to that shopper who thought I was a sales clerk, "passed" in the sense that with her pre-occupation with her own shopping, she hadn't noticed I was male in any of the times I passed within a foot of her: in the context of that store, my appearance must have "blended in" sufficiently that I was just another female customer to avoid walking into.

[Sallee]

Great story Rachel, I have, I guess outed myself in stores when the clerk asked if I was sure I had the right size. I said yes, I tried them on. I just love seeing their faces when I come right out and tell them it is for me. I it almost as much fun as be dressed. Just telling a complete stranger "Yes I am a crossdresser"

[Marvina Martian]

I love your stories! My wife has also said things in line that referenced things to me. Oh well I say! I actually think that it is kind of fun!:heehee:

[RachelDenise]

I love reading about what the 2 of you do! Thanks for the positive side of our lifestyle.

[Michelle I]

You two are so cool togther. Keep up the fun times together.

[Raychel]

Great story Rachel. That will give those women something to think about. :heehee::rolleyes: Thanks for sharing it with us.

[Kelsy]

Rachel,

My wife constantly drops hints to the people we meet. She makes no excuses. When we shop she is always holding things up on me to see how they would look or fit, always encouraging me to "go try it on" and cares less what others think or who might be looking on. we'll spend hours perusing the sales racks and just having a ball. In boy mode she buys me girl jeans, sweaters and tops to wear. It's all fun and such a thrill! You two are great!

:hugs:Kelsy

[kim85]

I would probly do something like that so my SO so when we got shopping we talk about her for exampled do you think she would like this .... because i am quiet loud and sometimes dont notice this makes it easier like we are shopping for a friend which in a way we are :D

Kim
xxx

[Michelle 51]

Girls i enjoyed both of your stories but i have to admit they made me a little envious justabit

[MJ]

aww Rachel how sweet your wonderful wife outing you :eek:. thats funny way to go Marla .. don't you think Rachel should go shopping more often :p
great story thanks

[Margot]

:oYes Rachel, a similar thing happened to me at Payless. We bought suede, highheel boots. My wife was actually paying and as you know they always try to push the spray protectant. When my wife was asked about the protectant she said "no thanks he'll be wearing them mostly inside". Again this was not a purposeful outing. The clerk ,male, smiled at me as did those behind but that was the end of it. Mind you I think my face was beet red as my heart jumped into my mouth.
But hey, it was not a bad thing.
Hugs
Margot

[JoAnnDallas]

For my wife's birthday in 2007, I took her and my sister to WindStar Casino, just across the border into OK from TX. We stopped on the way to have breakfest. Wife and sister got the table as I had to goto the restroom. I arrived at the table just before the watriess got there. I was looking at the menu and heard the watiress say, "Morning LADIES, can I get you some coffee and are you ready to order. Before I could say anything, my sister puts her order in and then my wife says, "SHE and I will split the breakfest plate. SHE likes her eggs scambled, and SHE wants decaf coffee". The watress left and my sister just stared at my wife and I just stayed quite. My wife looks at me and says, "Well guess we are all ladies today". The really werid part was at lunch it happen again. The watriess refered to us as "Ladies" all thru lunch.

[Priscilla Ann]

Let's see, I was out walking a round a shopping center and saw a pair of high heels in the shoe repair shop window that were for sale for $5. I walked in picked them up and saw that they were my size ( yes, I was in boy mode). I took them up to the cash register and the little Korean lady said, "These are very big shoes." I said, "yes, they are. They are for me. I am going to go home and put them on and just walk around in them. Don't tell anyone."

Another time I wanted a girlfriend to buy me some stockings. She asked the salesgirl if they had any. The salesgirl asked what size. The girlfriend told her. The salesgirl said, "These will probably be too big for you." The girlfriend looked at the salesgirl and then said "they are not for me they are for him."

One other time I took only a skirt to the checkout. It was an extra large and obviously my size. The salesgirl said, " We have some nice socks that would look good with that skirt don't you want to go look at them?" I told her, "No thank you. I have that covered at home." I asked if she wanted me to bring her a picture when I made one. She told me, "Why don't you just come by instead?" I said, "Sure, what are your hours?"...She told me but no I never went by.

[KatieZ]

When I was married to my second wife, we went shopping together often.
I know it happened more than once but this particular time stood out. We were in Wal-marts on a busy Saturday afternoon, browsing through the womens clothing. She all of a sudden spots a dress and pulls it off the rack and holds it up to me and says (loudly enough for anyone nearby to hear), oh this would look great on you. There were several ladies close by and they all turned and stared at us/me. I could have died on the spot. I whispered to my wife to sssh. She said she was sorry, she was just so used to Katie that she forgot what she was doing. Maybe that stands out because it was the first time to happen. I think she did it just for fun though.

[Rene]

Rachel, Great story. I can imagine how uncomfortable that must have been at the moment. And sory for that...But, I also think it is great that your dressing is such a natural, normal part of your relationship with Marla, that she doesn't think twice about being open and honest, even while in public. In fact ,as others around you saw this as nothing to hid or be ashamed of, can only help change negative views. My hat is off to Marla. Hope the dress fit.

[Melanie R]

Rachel, I always love your accounts of your activities. You are very fortunate to have Marla in your life as I am with my wife. I remember one shopping trip perhaps 15 years ago my wife and I went to Macy's for their end of winter sale. While she was shopping in the petite department, I was in male drab scooping up dresses, skirts, tops, etc. in the women's department. The older, black sales gal took one look at me and my pile of clothes and asked if I was certain on the sizes. I said I was. Her response was that I could go to the dressing room and try them on. I asked how she knew the clothes were for me. She said that no man who is not a CD comes into the women's department and makes a big selection of clothes unless they are for him. Her CD radar was very sharp. I did come back the next week to show her how one of the outfits looked on Melanie. Of course every sales associates in the store had to be part of this showing.

[Nicole Erin]

Good thing she does not know the intercom code.

[krisinpink]

These are fun stories!

A few years back, my ex-wife and I were cruising a clearance section in the womens department when she, without thinking, held up a dress she spotted in my size and called back to me (I was about 15ft away), "This will match your new shoes nicely!" I don't know if she realized what she did, or if something in my expression tipped her off, but she did a pretty good impression of a turtle pulling its head back into it's shell after having said that as she did. We chuckled about it, and I liked how it all went down.

PS: turns out she was right; the shoes were a nice match for that new dress!!

[JoleneCDinPA]

You are very lucky to have the support of your wife! I would not care at all if the said anything, in fact it would turn me on more!

[Babette]

Gee Rachel, how many times can I relate to similar situations. At first I was always embarrassed. Now if I can catch a saucy SA trying to kid me about my wife's openness, I'll admit to my interest just to see their reaction. I'm constantly amazed whenever a SA tries to laugh off my comment as kidding. Usually within a few minutes they become the embarrassed one after realizing I was sincere. However, its pay-back on their part whenever we return to the store for more shopping. :eek: Oh well, if we cannot laugh once in a while, what is the point? Since decent shopping is 1-2 hours from home, I don't have to worry about outing myself to friends, neighbors, and relatives.

Babette

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Ladies,

Thanks so much for your lovely replies. I glad you liked my story as I sure loved your replies. Some of them made me smile while others really did have me laughing out loud LOL!


Does Umm, Marla have a sister ? :D Hi Joy ... as a matter of fact she does. Her name is Heather, she knows about me and is totally cool with it.


Hi Rachel
I would loved to have been there to see your face and the laugh you had about it afterwards. Thanks for making me smile :happy: or should I be thanking Marla :D
Oh definitely thank Marla. As you probably know, she likes my crossdressing and thinks it's fun so it is quite a "normal" thing in our lives.


We just can't seem to leave the two of you alone for a moment without you getting yourselves into "a situation." Seriously, you two continue to have so much fun. I get the impression that you both are caring less and less what others think... good for you!
Hi Holly, It's getting more that way for sure. Marla has been suggesting that I be even more girly in boy mode. :eek: However, I still haven't been to her regular nail salon in girl or boy mode yet! P.S. I still have happy memories of you, me, and our wives at Las Vegas that time. It was great fun!


That's what you get for shopping en drabbe...you look so convincing as a girl, what were you doing shopping for dresses as a guy? No wonder Marla slipped up! Hi Windy, I know you me and Marla have had dinner several times but ..aww ... you are so nice to say such a nice thing.


.......Soooo.... I ended up outed, but sort of in reverse of Rachel's situation, with my dressing seen through. But, as is almost always the case, no-one minded at all.
Hi Tess-Leigh, wow! what an awesome story thanks for sharing. I just know that the folks that seemingly ignored you thought that you were a GG. It's great to share stories like yours just to let folks know that believe it or not, we can get away with way more than we might think we can in our minds.


Great story Rachel, I have, I guess outed myself in stores when the clerk asked if I was sure I had the right size. I said yes, I tried them on. I just love seeing their faces when I come right out and tell them it is for me. I it almost as much fun as be dressed. Just telling a complete stranger "Yes I am a crossdresser"
That's exactly what Marla said a couple of years back when she bought me my first wig! She told me it was so refreshing to be actually able to say with no feelings of guilt "yes,it's for my husband ... he's a crossdresser." She told me she felt quite liberated!


I love your stories! My wife has also said things in line that referenced things to me. Oh well I say! I actually think that it is kind of fun!
Yep .... after the first two or three time it is fun. Like I said in my post first it was "Doh!" ... then it was quite a blast!


I love reading about what the 2 of you do! Thanks for the positive side of our lifestyle.
Hi Rachel, Thanks for enjoying what we do. I do know I am fortunate that Marla actually likes it, but I'm equally glad you like to hear about it. I don't post half the things that happen because I don't want to "rub peoples nose in it". :o


You two are so cool together. Keep up the fun times together. Hi Melissa, As long as the two of us are here, alive and happy you can bet on it!


Rachel, My wife constantly drops hints to the people we meet. She makes no excuses. When we shop she is always holding things up on me to see how they would look or fit, always encouraging me to "go try it on" and cares less what others think or who might be looking on. We'll spend hours perusing the sales racks and just having a ball. In boy mode she buys me girl jeans, sweaters and tops to wear. It's all fun and such a thrill! You two are great!:hugs:Kelsy
We two are great??? ...I think that's you and your wife as well!! She sounds like a blast! I can't imagine what would happen if she and Marla got together ... with the two of us in tow when we were all shopping together!


I would probably do something like that so my SO so when we got shopping we talk about her for exampled do you think she would like this .... because i am quiet loud and sometimes don't notice this makes it easier like we are shopping for a friend which in a way we are.
Kimxxx
Hi Kim, I too am certain something similar would happen. If you are like my wife, a confident, assertive GG who is OK with their SO being a CDer and treat her just as if she was another GG friend. You sound so cool!


Yes Rachel, a similar thing happened to me at Payless. We bought suede, highheel boots. My wife was actually paying and as you know they always try to push the spray protectant. When my wife was asked about the protectant she said "no thanks he'll be wearing them mostly inside". Again this was not a purposeful outing. The clerk ,male, smiled at me as did those behind but that was the end of it. Mind you I think my face was beet red as my heart jumped into my mouth.
But hey, it was not a bad thing.
Hugs Margot
LOL! LOL! I loved your wife's comment. That's exactly what I'm talking about. Our darling wives just can't help it ... it seems so natural to them to say things like this ... and we love them all the more for it!


...... My wife looks at me and says, "Well guess we are all ladies today". The really werid part was at lunch it happen again. The waitress referred to us as "Ladies" all thru lunch.
Hi JoAnn, I totally believe it! From what I've read of your posts, am I right in thinking you look quite girly in boy mode? and therefore the waitress would have totally followed your wife's lead and treated you as a GG? .. especially if the all the other women referred to you as one?


I said, "yes, they are. They are for me. I am going to go home and put them on and just walk around in them. Don't tell anyone."
Hi Pris, I don't doubt a word of it coming from you! You are totally in a class of your own girlfriend! Btw ... that big Drag Queen wig that you sent Marla fits her really well but she hasn't had the guts to dress up as a DQ and go out like it yet .... BUT .... there's a big Fetish Ball coming up in San Fransisco in March .... watch out for some future pics!


When I was married to my second wife, we went shopping together often.
I know it happened more than once but this particular time stood out. We were in Wal-marts on a busy Saturday afternoon, browsing through the womens clothing. She all of a sudden spots a dress and pulls it off the rack and holds it up to me and says (loudly enough for anyone nearby to hear), oh this would look great on you.
Hi Katie, I'm so glad that your wife too is like mine is so used to our girl selves that it's quite normal for them to "forget". Thanks for sharing.


Rachel, Great story. I can imagine how uncomfortable that must have been at the moment. And sorry for that...But, I also think it is great that your dressing is such a natural, normal part of your relationship with Marla, that she doesn't think twice about being open and honest, even while in public. In fact ,as others around you saw this as nothing to hid or be ashamed of, can only help change negative views. My hat is off to Marla. Hope the dress fit.
Hi Rene, Thanks. It is true, our relationship is special. We are happily married and cding an integral part of our married life. Marla once told me (and I swear this is the God's honest truth) "if you ever stopped wanting to wear girl's clothes I'd think you didn't love me". You see, we met on a CDing forum and so it was what (initially) brought us together. It's part of what makes us love each other. P.S. The dress fits great. I'll post some TGSF Cotilion (http://www.tgsf.org/events/cotillion.html) pics after the weekend of the 12th.


Rachel, I always love your accounts of your activities. You are very fortunate to have Marla in your life as I am with my wife.
Oh gosh Mel ... you're making me blush :o The famous Melanie from "My Husband Wears My clothes fame" and all those cruises! ... I do agree with you we are very fortunate to have the lovely wives we have in our lives .... and not just because they are Ok with our CDing, but because we know we would love them just as much anyway because CDing is only a small part of what makes us want to stay with them forever.


These are fun stories!
A few years back, my ex-wife and I were cruising a clearance section in the womens department when she, without thinking, held up a dress she spotted in my size and called back to me (I was about 15ft away), "This will match your new shoes nicely!"
Exactly! .... it makes us go all shy for a second then we smile from ear to ear! :D


Gee Rachel, how many times can I relate to similar situations. At first I was always embarrassed. Now if I can catch a saucy SA trying to kid me about my wife's openness, I'll admit to my interest just to see their reaction ..... Oh well, if we cannot laugh once in a while, what is the point?
Babette
Hi Babette, Yes that's it exactly. At first it's a bit embarrassing but then we start to get used to it and it's all good fun.

Thanks ladies for your replies and stories. I enjoyed reading them very much .... You girls are just great! :hugs: