Trashy

[Daphne7]

I am curious about the various 'looks' that CDers choose for themselves. I imagine that the desired 'look' changes day to day. What i'm specifically wondering about at the moment is the trashy look.

What is it about this type of look that you are draw to express it?
What are your thoughts about GG's expressing the same trashy look?

To clarify the term trashy: i'm envisioning things like tight miniskirts with bright colored nylons/tights, super high heels, bright (nearly obnoxious) makeup (eyeshadow specifically), and tight fitting shirts (with or without lots of cleavage showing).

[KandisTX]

In my case, it all depends on my destination for the night. If I am going out to a party or gathering of the local S&M community (most accepting and supportive), then I might go with something more on the "trashy" side of things. If I am going to be out with the wife then I tend to be a bit more on the conservative side. The point when going out to pass is to not draw undue attention to yourself. Weigh the options of where you're going, who will be around, and what image are you trying to project.

Kandis:love:

[Daphne7]

I can totally see if you are comfortable leaving your house dressed that you dress for the occasion, but what about the CDers that only dress up at home and don't go anywhere?

[MJ]

good question. for me i can't do trashy it's just not me.. and or i can't pull it off so why bother plus all the time and effort to look just right and stay home ... not me

[tracie674]

When I go out in public I try to keep my clothes and make-up conserative as to not draw attention as I don't "pass". However, and theres always a however, if I'm staying in I'll go all out and put on as much trash as I can. It adds to the sexual trill of dressing if you get my drift!

[Carol A]

No way in hell as I have a wife who puts her foot down.
She is very supportive but she tells me "you will dress your age".:hugs:

[Deborah Jane]

I stay home and love doing the "trashy" look!! I also love doing fantasy looks. But i do intend going out next month [1st time] and will dress casually to blend in as i don,t want to draw attention to myself.

[skirtsuit]

My tastes tend toward business/day wear, but does my collection of genuine pleated school-girl skirts count as trashy? I dress for fun at home and sometimes a pleated mini with tights, 4" maryjanes and maybe knee socks really hits the spot

All the best,
Skirt Suit

[Eugenie]

I rarely dress "trashy", actually almost never. If I do it is only in private and the decency forbids me to tell you for what purpose... :devil:

It is more a masculine fantazy than X-dressing, at least for me...

Now, when I decide to X-dress it is to look like the ladies who are about my age and that I see shopping in streets or having their regular occupations...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Nicole Erin]

Trashy. Interesting term.

Anyways, I don't dress trashy. I DO have one short skirt but the rest of the outfit is decent.

[Michl41]

If crossdressing is fun....then trashy it is!!!!!:devil:....however, many of you are right, you have to be fairly conservative if u wish to go public.......:D

Michl41

[Dawn Marie]

I really don't go for the trashy look, but I do have some very short dresses and mini skirts. When I wear them I try and coordinate the outfit to look like the GG's would wear it. But mostly even thou I have not gone out in a long time I try to dress to blend.

[MarinaTwelve200]

I'm not all that "Trashy", but I do push the line a bit with makeup, and perhaps the black fishnet hose. Hey, I'm the only one who sees me, so I dont need to worry about a public image. Also I feel like overdoing it a bit simply "enhances" the "forbidden" fem aspects and resultant "high" and further obscures my male side/identity.

It can be pushed too far though, when I start to think I am beginning to look "clownish", it then becomes a turn off.

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

a skirt can NEVER be to short:p i got the legs and im gona show them off:D

i do go out in public and do go to the bar,, when in public my skirt is lower than when im at the bar,,, Scotty at the bar calls me a **** because of how short my hemline is:heehee:

and if i had a woman and she wanted to dress the same way then i dont have a problem with that as long as shes not out tryn to get picked up,, dont give me any crap about sure i would let her dress the same way,, u asked for input and i gave it to u

im a legs lover and so i want to see the legs damnit

[Genifer Teal]

ITo clarify the term trashy: i'm envisioning things like tight miniskirts with bright colored nylons/tights, super high heels, bright (nearly obnoxious) makeup (eyeshadow specifically), and tight fitting shirts (with or without lots of cleavage showing).

If that is your idea of trashy, I don't do trashy.

Gen

[shirley1]

i dont really understand what you mean by trashy ! here in england ie where i live most the ggs wear short skirts high heels to go out of a nite - under say 35 or 40 years of age - its just fashion - so i like wearing high heeled boots short denim minis myself but that isnt classed as trashy over here at the moment - i do sometimes get the impression fasion in the states is slightly different from over here can anyone back me up on this from britain !

[Cynthia_0101]

Even though I stay home I still have the same style. I try to pick in style comfortable clothes.

I have no desire to look trashy, just good!

[jennifer41356]

about as trashy as I get would be a short skirt and knee hi boots, for going out on weekends, not very trashy is it?:D

[Deanna2]

I am curious about the various 'looks' that CDers choose for themselves.

To clarify the term trashy: i'm envisioning things like tight miniskirts with bright colored nylons/tights, super high heels, and tight fitting shirts (with or without lots of cleavage showing).

Works for me.

By 'shirts' I take you mean 'tops'. Men wear shirts.

[docrobbysherry]

If we have the same definition of trashy, it happens to be one of mine, too. As a divorced closet CD, I only have to suit myself!
Would u classify this look as Trashy?
RS
59519

[Mixie]

One of the very first articles of clothing I bought were bright pink fishnets, and I would agree with anyone who would call them trashy. I think it's a type of over compensation for all the time lost when you wish you could have been CD'ing. To get it out of your system, you get something that looks totally ****ty, and it feels really good, but then it levels out over time. Stuff like that doesn't really interest me anymore.

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

Sherry u look like ur headin out to a concert in the 80s:D

[Melinda G]

"I like women just a little on the trashy side".
"When they wear their clothes too tight, and their hair is dyed"
"Too much lipstick, and too much rouge"
"Gets me excited and feelin confused"
"Yeah, I like women just a little on the trashy side"

"Shoulda seen the look on the faces of my Dad and Mom"
"When I showed up late with a date for the senior prom"
"Dad said Son, she ain't no kid"
"That's a cocktail waitress in a Dolly Parton wig"
"I said, I know Dad, ain't she cool, Thats the kind I dig" :D

[crusadergirl]

I don't know what you mean by trashy b/c to me i just wear what i like. I'm more in to the teen look since i still look young. I don't think wearing mini skirts is trashy. I'm not going to dress to blend in i like to stand out but i know what not to wear in public.

[joann07]

I'm definitlely not into the "trashy" look because, IMHO, I feel that it gives a negative impression to the general public to the point that they could be disgusted by it.
Therefore, I like the contemporary and classy look because I want to represent myself appropriately and to blend in.

:2c:

Hugs!

[Deborah Jane]

i dont really understand what you mean by trashy ! here in england ie where i live most the ggs wear short skirts high heels to go out of a nite - under say 35 or 40 years of age - its just fashion - so i like wearing high heeled boots short denim minis myself but that isnt classed as trashy over here at the moment - i do sometimes get the impression fasion in the states is slightly different from over here can anyone back me up on this from britain !

Yes i can Shirley:thumbsup: My "so called trashy look" is normal clubwear in Britain and plenty of ggs wear short skirts and heels during the day.

[rachel_rachel]

I suppose that the definition of "trashy" is fairly broad...
One might say that it's sexy, another may say that it's ****ty..

Is a short skirt considered trashy?
Is a low cut top considered trashy?
Is a pair of 4 inch heels considered trashy?

Actually when you put the above three items together it probably is.....

[Angie G]

Daphne I don't go that far but I do enjoy a vamp look now & then Hun :hugs:
Angie

[TxKimberly]

. . . I'd do trashy all day long! But I'm not so I don't! :-(
LOL

[Annie D]

Although we seek to appear in public appropriately dressed, as CD'ers we all take risks or we would never wear or do the things to ourselves that we do. I think "trashy" is pushing the envelope and risking being noticed. What one of us, as girls, don't really deep down want to be noticed? As a heterosexual, I have been known to give a "trashy" looking GG a second look. Even as old as many of us are, a second glance or a whistle from a passing car makes us all feel good about ourselves. Isn't this the reason we spend so much time practicing walking like a women?

Annie

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

if i knew i could get away with it i would be wandering around in public with my butt hangin out from under my micro mini skirt :tongueout


but bein as i dont have a micro mini i guess i wont be found shoping at wal mart with my cheeeeks shakin as i walk:p:heehee:

[prettieboy]

i think i cd because of trashy. love it i do it 95% of the time

[Daphne7]

Love the input everyone! thanks so much.

A little more background on me might help everyone understand where i'm coming from. My hubby Cds and likes what he terms to be the "trashy look". It is not the only look he enjoys but as we are experimenting with various "looks" it happens to be a look we would like to perfect.

So I am trying to understand this "trashy look" better because as a GG i try not to look trashy. As a GG i can get unwanted attention just going to the grocery store without being dolled up! For me when I get dolled up I seem to attract the kind of attention from people that i'm not interested in (besides the fact that i'm happily married and not looking to get with other people). I've always been a little uncomfortable with the whole meat market aspect of going out on the town all dolled up.

Personally i love going dancing but i don't want someone bumping and grinding on me unless its one of the people i went to the club with. When i feel sexy i can be a HUGE flirt; though i feel extremely bad if i lead people on, so i have developed some strategies to combat leading others on. When i go to the club it is purely for the joy of being watched, feeling sexy and thinking that others see me and think i'm sexy too. (so i probably have issues of my own *shrug, lol) From moment one the clubbing/bar rule in my circle of friends was "you leave with who you came with" it is a safety thing and something my circle of friends agreed on. but i digress.

My hubby and i are currently staying comfortably within the walls of our house (for secrecy reasons) so there is no threat of unwanted attention or safety issues for either of us. I am learning a lot of fun stuff with him since i don't know how to put on an effective trashy look either. I've asked him the same questions as I asked with this thread. It is a look that turns him one whether its him or me pulling off the trashy look.

Part of the "trashy look" for me are things I wouldn't wear to work, but its more than that. Trashy is more than just a mini-skirt (skirts are super sexy!) or sexy top (i'm a girl and i wear plenty of shirts, the word shirt does not hold a male-only label in my opinion and i generally do NOT refer to my "underpants" as panties, call me a weird girl, but thats not how my mom talked about clothing. i know- i'm probably in the minority when it comes to this type of lingo.) For me trashy is a combination of over-the-top, and a lot of over-the-top fashions are perfect for clubbing and the night scene. There is a fine line for me about this look, a certain amount of mental conflict i have about appearing trashy. I found that i associate a lot of negative aspects to what i see as trashy; but i'm learning that trashy isn't always a bad thing.

[Melissa A.]

Hi Daphne,

There are degrees in everything. If I go to a club, yeah, I may wear a short skirt, but that hardly qualifies as trashy. But you seem to realise that. The person you described in your opening post is more likely to be a drag queen than a cder. (Now I just pissed off the drag queens!). But there isn't anything wrong with experimenting and having fun.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[Daphne7]

i must say also that what may appear trashy on one person may not appear trashy on another person. if you have awesome legs- which it seems most of you do!- then a miniskirt is one of the most flattering items you could possibly wear.

i also agree that the occasion plays a heavy role in wardrobe choice. a 'quiet' night at home at my place may call for getting dolled up and having a spicy night! and a dancing night for me may entail sexy but not too sexy since my best friend and i go out without our hubbies. though it helps immensely that we go to a very alternative-style club and generally everyone is respectful of boundaries.

[Carla Mel]

Love the input everyone! thanks so much.

A little more background on me might help everyone understand where i'm coming from. My hubby Cds and likes what he terms to be the "trashy look". It is not the only look he enjoys but as we are experimenting with various "looks" it happens to be a look we would like to perfect.

So I am trying to understand this "trashy look" better because as a GG i try not to look trashy. As a GG i can get unwanted attention just going to the grocery store without being dolled up! For me when I get dolled up I seem to attract the kind of attention from people that i'm not interested in (besides the fact that i'm happily married and not looking to get with other people). I've always been a little uncomfortable with the whole meat market aspect of going out on the town all dolled up.

Personally i love going dancing but i don't want someone bumping and grinding on me unless its one of the people i went to the club with. When i feel sexy i can be a HUGE flirt; though i feel extremely bad if i lead people on, so i have developed some strategies to combat leading others on. When i go to the club it is purely for the joy of being watched, feeling sexy and thinking that others see me and think i'm sexy too. (so i probably have issues of my own *shrug, lol) From moment one the clubbing/bar rule in my circle of friends was "you leave with who you came with" it is a safety thing and something my circle of friends agreed on. but i digress.

My hubby and i are currently staying comfortably within the walls of our house (for secrecy reasons) so there is no threat of unwanted attention or safety issues for either of us. I am learning a lot of fun stuff with him since i don't know how to put on an effective trashy look either. I've asked him the same questions as I asked with this thread. It is a look that turns him one whether its him or me pulling off the trashy look.

Part of the "trashy look" for me are things I wouldn't wear to work, but its more than that. Trashy is more than just a mini-skirt (skirts are super sexy!) or sexy top (i'm a girl and i wear plenty of shirts, the word shirt does not hold a male-only label in my opinion and i generally do NOT refer to my "underpants" as panties, call me a weird girl, but thats not how my mom talked about clothing. i know- i'm probably in the minority when it comes to this type of lingo.) For me trashy is a combination of over-the-top, and a lot of over-the-top fashions are perfect for clubbing and the night scene. There is a fine line for me about this look, a certain amount of mental conflict i have about appearing trashy. I found that i associate a lot of negative aspects to what i see as trashy; but i'm learning that trashy isn't always a bad thing.


Dear daphne, we are a lot alike. I love being desired. So I don't see the point in "passing". As a man I can wear grey clothes and "pass" all day long, so when I dress I look after GLAMOUR, and I don't care if I don't pass, because I learned that you are much more accepted as a happy tg, non passing, but having fun, than as a "passing" grey woman, who simply is ignored.
Now in terms of definitions and styles, I think that to make it easierwe should compare trashy to something else.
I can propose you a scale of styles: trashy - porno chic - classy
Trashy is Madonna in her youg years, something "vulgar", "popular", "cheap". The materials of the clothes can be polyester, cotton, the colours can be bright, the textures and forms mixed.
Classy is Rita Hayworth in Gilda, something "sophisticated", "fashion", "exclusive". The materials can be silk, linnen, angora, the colours are fiting in an elaborate way (ton sur ton), the textures are homogenes (both top and bottom "fall" the same way).
Both styles as you see can be hot, sexy and glamourous in different ways.
Brigitte Bardot could be trashy when she was using cheap Vichy blouses and tight trousers, and at the same time glamourous.
Porno chic is somewhere in the middle.
Josie Maran for Sisley
Elle Mc Pherson for Intimates
and of course Dolce Gabana advertisment.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sjq26bcrSSw

Kisses
Carla

PS Two Coco Chanel citations:
"When a woman is not well dressed it's the dress people notice, when she is perfectly dresses people notice the woman not the dress"
And for you girls loving shorts skirts with high boots:
"Showing the tigh yes, but showing the knees never"

[Daphne7]

carla mel, i completely agree!