Best way to tell your wife

[dianwb262]

The last few days I have read various threads about telling wives about crossdressing where some are accepting and some are not. I realize that I am coming to that crossroad where I have to tell her. I know that there is no one way to do it, but was wondering if there is a better way or clearly wrong ways to do it. Thanks for your comments.

[Ashley Williams]

Firstly - how committed are you to your dressing and what form does it take?

Being grounded in that will help, I think.

Then - how well are you communicating generally.

My wife and I talked about everything when we first met, including the fact that I used to cross-dress.

She and I thought that was the end to it.

Not so - and we are paying for the fact that I was suppressing it so well.

Try and be gentle - and especially reassure her that it is not as a result of something she has done.

Unfortunately, again, my wife has also been under a lot of strain during the past 18 months as she is going through a difficult menopause.

As you will have seen with the posts, there is no easy guideline to follow - but be as true as you can to yourself and her.

Good Luck - all the Best.

[dianwb262]

Thanks

I have been married for 27 years but we don't talk alot. I have had some anxiety issues lately due to my daughter being 18 and doesn't need her dad as much as I want. I started seeing a therapist a few months back because of the anxiety. After telling her and she saw the anxiety attack i was having she told me to go to my docter to get a perscription for anxiety. I did. He gave me a perscription for depression. That being said the urge to crossdress has become more of an obsession. Sorry for going into so much detail, but I don' know where this is going.

[dianwb262]

Firstly - how committed are you to your dressing and what form does it take?

Being grounded in that will help, I think.

Then - how well are you communicating generally.

My wife and I talked about everything when we first met, including the fact that I used to cross-dress.

She and I thought that was the end to it.

Not so - and we are paying for the fact that I was suppressing it so well.

Try and be gentle - and especially reassure her that it is not as a result of something she has done.

Unfortunately, again, my wife has also been under a lot of strain during the past 18 months as she is going through a difficult menopause.

As you will have seen with the posts, there is no easy guideline to follow - but be as true as you can to yourself and her.

Good Luck - all the Best.


Sorry about your situation, but I have ben reading the replies you got with great interest. I hope things work out for you.

[Angie G]

I tricked my wife into thinking she was doing me a faver in leting me wear a skirt on a hot summer day. Within tha month I was wearing pantie ana hose and hot long after that I had it all skirts dresses pantie heels the bra was the hard part but I now wear them also :hugs:
Angie

[Ashley Williams]

Thanks for your kind wishes, too.

The obsessional side of the dressing has been the most difficult part for me - as I have never seen myself as that sort of person.

However, perhaps it is the time of my life too - but it seems just one too many things to keep control of when so many other things are a challenge.

Having gone into business together; my wife's struggle with the menopause - these tend to muddy the waters, especially if one is not being true to onself.

The fact that you are getting help, and your wife knows it, is the best angle to take about your dressing - and perhaps arranging a session with the three of you might help?

Don't worry about going into too much detail. Our situations are all so unique - we are lucky if there are nuggets that others can empathise with and posting about it has certainly brought some very supportive comments for me.

Good Luck - and keep in touch as much as you would like.

[dianwb262]

[QUOTE=Lesley139;1147357]Thanks for your kind wishes, too.



The fact that you are getting help, and your wife knows it, is the best angle to take about your dressing - and perhaps arranging a session with the three of you might help?

/QUOTE]

My wife is unaware that I am seeing a therapist or taking a medicine for depression. Also I attended my first AA meeting today ( my therapist has been recommending it, I made it clear from our first meeting that alcohol has been a problem). I don't know if they can help.

[SandyR]

Been married for 23 years, one night I was in the garage dressed, she came home early, busted me going up the stairs. I am a lucky girl, she accepts it and helps me.

Hugs!

Don't wait to long, I got lucky.....

Sandy