Scary opportunity

[battybattybats]

Amongst the friends I've come out to are a lovely lesbian couple. Yesterday I finally had the courage to show my pics to them as I'm yet to be around them dressed. The response was quite positive.

Then they told me they were having an 'undercoverwear' party (for those who haven't heard of them it's like tupperware parties but for womens clothes and lingerie!) and that I was invited! (as are a lot of other people!)

I said I'd like to and would try to but might chicken out...

[SandyR]

You should go. It sounds like fun.

Hugs!

SandyR

[Ashley Williams]

Hey - go for it!

What a great way to 'diffuse' things a bit.

Yes, I admit though that it is scary - but exciting too!

All the Best

[Marvina Martian]

Ummm, let me think a second....OK, seconds over. You better go!!! Obviously they invited you for a reason so don't let them down. Besides, the more you get out and do stuff the more comfortable you will become.
And it sounds like the party is a pretty safe bet ;)

[ubokvt]

Ask them if it would be alright to dress for the occasion and then decide

[Cynthia_0101]

This might be a one and a million chance. You have to go and tell us all how it went.

Cynthia

[Dawn Marie]

You should definitely go, but ask them how they would like you to come dressed: drab or fab (girl mode). I vote for fem mode.

[michellebesweet]

I think you should go and have fun. It really sounds like it would be fun and not be a scary situation, you are there with some freinds. I don't think they would put you in a bad spot. Have fun girl, let us know how the party went.

[Jennifer Lynndon]

I think you should go and have fun. It really sounds like it would be fun and not be a scary situation, you are there with some freinds. I don't think they would put you in a bad spot. Have fun girl, let us know how the party went.

This is very good advice.
I also think you should go!

I get out a lot and I can't even begin to list all of the positive things that have happened as a result.

As it as been listed in another forum, safety is the top priority, and it appears as though that will not be a problem here.
And it sounds like you'll be associating with a bunch of GG's. GG's have been the most supportive group I have ever encountered.

Get dressed, get out, be safe, and have fun!

[Jilmac]

You lucky girl:happy:

[JessieLynn]

Absolutely go!! I'd be out the door already!!
Sounds like it would be a great time!

Jess

[vivianann]

I would definately go, you will become one of the girls while there, and you should go enfemme so it will be easier to blend in with the girls.:hugs:

[Chiana]

What a dream opportunity. Obvously you would have to go in girl mode. But you have to go.

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

IM TOTALY THERE and in girly mode :P

dont be afraid to go,, like others have said u wer invited so they want u around to have some fun and enjoy,,,
u might even get some new clothes out of going..:D

(a room full of possably scantily clad women and ur the only one with a "fire hose"?:thumbsup:just my perverted:2c:)

[Susan.]

I'd wonder if they expect you enfemme, so as not to "offend" anyone? Be prepared to be asked to model anything you buy.:D

On Halloween, I went as a pirate with one big hoop earring. A lovely lesbian couple suggested that I should get my ears pierced, yadda, yadda, yadda. Great conversation that I will remember for a long time.

[christina marie]

Batty, not to be pushy, but you HAVE to go to this party!how much more fun could you imagine having??? and if you are lucky enough to get treated like one of the girls, you might even get asked to model something! one of my ex's used to sponsor these parties regularly, and things tend to get a little silly, especially if you throw a bottle of good wine in the mix. one thing is for sure, if you go, you will have fun!

[Julogden]

Go! If you don't, you'll always regret it.

Carol

[Eileen]

Batty how can you even consider not going? I know I would already be planning on what I would wear! A couple of years ago, I went to a baby shower. Girl go, have fun and report back.

Eileen

[Amanda Nicole]

Hi!

What an opportunity, girl! GO! And have fun. You'll always wonder what you missed if you don't...

(Given that opportunity, I'd be going.)

Amanda Nicole
"Mandy"

[battybattybats]

I have a few worries.

At least a few of the couples friends who will be there I have briefly met... so far I've only come out verbally to close friends and family members and only two people have seen me dressed other than in photos. So It's a scary thoight being openly out in front of such a number of people, some of whom I'd met just once or twice before, dressed or just verbally out.

Model stuff? :eek: Especially with how furry my arms, legs etc are right now!

[RachelDenise]

I'd go but talk to the couple first to find out expectations. It's better to overprepare in this case. I'm sure they wouldn't put you in a bad situation.

[battybattybats]

I'd go but talk to the couple first to find out expectations. It's better to overprepare in this case. I'm sure they wouldn't put you in a bad situation.

Oh most definately! It's almost a month away so I should have several opportunities to chat with them to work out what they, their guests and I will be most comfortable with.

As it was I was seriously nervous showing them my pics. Thankfully they reacted positively. I was particularly surprised that ones favourite pic was one that I hadn't been very happy with, one of the ones where I'm reading that I posted here recently http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=73457

I suppose I'm still rather shy and nervous when it comes down to it.

[Celeste]

Hi batty, How cool of them to invite you.That speaks for itself as far as them being receptive of you.I could' t imagine going not dressed.I understand your apprehension considering those who will be there, that you have not came out to.Maybe you can ask them who's coming so you can have an opportunity to speak with them individually first before the party,might help you feel more at ease.How lucky ,they must really like you and find you interesting.

[melissacd]

Your concerns are good ones. You have to decide if the risk of being more widely outed is worth the opportunity to try something new and interesting and by trying it find new opportunity and learn more about yourself at the time.

What we fear is often far greater than what life actually throws at us. For example I feared that the world would crash down around me if I shaved my legs. I felt the fear and did it anyway and nothing bad has happened. For the most part no one has noticed. Life goes on.

The more we try these little experiments the more we see that we can do it, that we can make it through, that nothing bad usually happens and that we have a good experience. Our confidence is built up a little bit more. Over time as we do more of these things it becomes easier and easier and we become the person we really want to be. Life is about choices, experiments and experiences.

All the best in whatever you choose.

Huggs
Melissa

[Eugenie]

Oh Why, oh why things like these don't happen to me :straightface:

If I were in your position, I would definitely go... :thumbsup:

I hope that if you do go, you will give us some fed back (within the limits of the rules of this discussion forum, of course :heehee:)

:hugs:

Eugenie

[Angie G]

Go for it girl the way you look dressed I think it would work for you hun And you may find some nice things :hugs:
Angie

[Nicki B]

Batty, have you been out much, before? What's the risk, if you are outed?

Is it the lingerie you would go for, or more the chance of being accepted in your other guise? Do you get the opportunity to go out, elsewhere?

You could always compromise - go and visit them dressed, but not for the party...

[MJ]

it's been said many times Go! If you don't, you'll always regret it...

batty
the wonderful thing about outing yourself is .........you know who your real friends are .... there the ones you should have quality time with there the ones who love and respect you for who you are ...

[battybattybats]

Batty, have you been out much, before? What's the risk, if you are outed?

Is it the lingerie you would go for, or more the chance of being accepted in your other guise? Do you get the opportunity to go out, elsewhere?

You could always compromise - go and visit them dressed, but not for the party...

No I've not been out dressed yet.
Risk, well I do stand out a lot already as a goth, it's a smallish town so I'm not entirely sure about safety and I have a seriously emotionally unbalanced ex girlfriend who wants to get back together and is reacting to my every action or inaction in a tsunami of emotional excess so I'm a little worried about her reaction if word got back to her.

Mostly it's just my own emotions that daunt me though.
I would definately want to go for the clothes, I still find it scary buying things downtown and have no credit card to buy things online. I also really enjoy these womens company too and also it's an opportunity to be openly me that I also want dressed or in guy mode but still open... Exactly what I'm nervous about.

Conflicting desires, always so messy.

[Veronica 1]

Go for it girl. This is the opportunity of a lifetime. Just remember, those that mind, don't matter and those that matter, don't mind.

[trannie T]

Under No Circumstances Go!

You probably would have a great time and make some friends but you would send too much money on fancy undies. Stay home and sulk.

[Julogden]

No I've not been out dressed yet.
Risk, well I do stand out a lot already as a goth, it's a smallish town so I'm not entirely sure about safety and I have a seriously emotionally unbalanced ex girlfriend who wants to get back together and is reacting to my every action or inaction in a tsunami of emotional excess so I'm a little worried about her reaction if word got back to her.

Mostly it's just my own emotions that daunt me though.
I would definately want to go for the clothes, I still find it scary buying things downtown and have no credit card to buy things online. I also really enjoy these womens company too and also it's an opportunity to be openly me that I also want dressed or in guy mode but still open... Exactly what I'm nervous about.

Conflicting desires, always so messy.
Well, given all of that, I guess you do need to think this through. I've read lots of your postings here, and you've got a good head on your shoulders, so I expect you'll make the right decision.

As I get older, I find that the things I regret the most are the things that I didn't do rather than the things I did, and I think that's probably true of most people. Do keep that in mind, dear.:hugs:

Carol

[Sinthia]

Just go as a guy . . . the sales rep does not know who the articles that you purchase are for. It probably will be for a sweetie on Valentines Day. And you can even be the sweetie, A win-win for you. So as far as I can see, GO!

[unclejoann]

I'll go.

[Melissa A.]

Oh, gawd, what to do?? Shave your arms, shave your legs, and go! It's never, ever as hard as you think it'll be, as I and many here can tell ya. This could be a defining moment for you, girl. And what's the worst that can happen? If ya can deal with that, you'll be ok.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[gwenrob43]

Gads, that sounds like a lot of fun, but I'd chicken out I know. Good luck! Enjoy
Hugs,
Gwen