Are you attracted to men while cd?

[dianarg]

I was wondering, how many of you girls feel any sexual attraction to men while crossdressed. In my case... well... guilty.
The weird thing is I only feel that while cd, go figure

[suzi_cd]

Yes, but only when dressed.

[Tammygirl]

Oh yes I have been with (kissed touchy feely). Some knew some didn't!:D But you know I would do that to a man as a man!
Love

[dianarg]

Oh yes I have been with (kissed touchy feely)

Guilty of that too...

[susann_gardener]

Oh YES!. And so want to act on my feelings.

[Tamara Croft]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!

[dianarg]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!

You are absolutely right, call it mental conditioning or whatever, but my attraction to men is active and prominent when I'm dressed and I "feel" like a woman

Lol, I'm probably gay or bi, oh well I was never such a big fan of labels :D

I didn't mean to upset anyone, I was just wondering if others feel that way

[yms]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!



I'm not sure I agree with this, either.

If a person is heterosexual, then it seems to me that their "wiring" is oriented towards a masculine-feminine pairing. A MF crossdresser who is hetero is still drawn to that image, only now, "he" is in the role of the woman in that pairing.

I'm not explaining this well, but I don't think the debate can be reduced to genitals. I think the element of gender identity is a factor. Can a crossdressed man take on the role of a heterosexual woman?

Let's say you are out crossdressed. A man who considers himself hetero doesn't read you and kisses you. Does that make him gay because he kissed someone with a penis? Even if he did read you, I don't think it does if he was attracted to what was feminine about you.

I think that people are more attracted to gender than they are to genitals, and as such you have to make allowances for the gender that a person perceives themselves to be as well as the gender they find attractive.

I'm sure there is more that can be said about this.

Yvonne

[SarahHall]

I had nevr had any attraction for men period until I started dreeing up en femme and I had the urge almost instantly.

[JennifertampaCD]

I also have never been attracted to men, but whenever I'm dressed I get a strong urge.

[Michelle37]

just after i jioned here i followed these posts. it was interesting to see the different responses depending on the part of 'spectrum' the person was at. you might find some answers there to.
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=65237

[Eugenie]

While dressed "en femme" only, I've been attracted by one or two men at most, depending what is meant by "being attracted by a man".

I would inded like to be nicely seduced by a man. He would have to act with me as any Gentleman should behave with a woman, unlike most of the messages I received from rude men through the internet just looking for a quick f***.

I never had a relation with a man. I had some relations with other cross-dressers but I don't count them as men :heehee:

:hugs:
Eugenie

[dianarg]

just after i jioned here i followed these posts. it was interesting to see the different responses depending on the part of 'spectrum' the person was at. you might find some answers there to.
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=65237

Very informational thread, ty

[Abby Lauren]

I was never attracted to a man. Period. However, when I'm feeling like a pretty woman, I enjoy the attention I get from men. I'm probably different from most of you, but I still never want sex with a man. I would enjoy his treating me like his date, opening doors for me, treating me to dinner, complimenting me on how pretty I look, etc. As a man, I'd never want to go out with a man. Sexually, I consider myself to be a lesbian. I crave sex only with women and want to be made love to like a woman by a woman.
I guess we're a complicated bunch.

[AmandaM]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!

When I am dressed as a female I am sometimes attracted to certain men. But, I feel female at the time. Your Avatar for instance, does nothing for me at the moment (I am in drab). He's a good looking guy, but eww. I am starting to believe that when a CDer crosses into the fem, it's taking on or letting loose a female personality.

[Vicky_Scot]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!


Spot On

Sexual orientation

The direction of one's sexual interest toward members of the same, opposite, or both sexes.

Gender

The condition of being female or male; sex.

I am going to get on my soap box as I usually do when this subject raises its head.

Sexual orientation and gender are two completely different things. When you crossdress this does not change your sexual orientation. If you are straight you do not become gay because you slip into a dress. If you are straight you do not become Bi Sexual because you slip into a dress.

If you are attracted to men, women or both when you dress then sorry, but you are attracted to men, women or both when you do not dress. Do not use dressing as an excuse to hide your true sexual orientation.

I am attracted to women when not dressed, I am attracted to women when I dress.................so I would be a lesbian.

Kind regards

Xx Vicky xX

[dianarg]

Spot On

Sexual orientation

The direction of one's sexual interest toward members of the same, opposite, or both sexes.

Gender

The condition of being female or male; sex.

I am going to get on my soap box as I usually do when this subject raises its head.

Sexual orientation and gender are two completely different things. When you crossdress this does not change your sexual orientation. If you are straight you do not become gay because you slip into a dress. If you are straight you do not become Bi Sexual because you slip into a dress.

If you are attracted to men, women or both when you dress then sorry, but you are attracted to men, women or both when you do not dress. Do not use dressing as an excuse to hide your true sexual orientation.

I am attracted to women when not dressed, I am attracted to women when I dress.................so I would be a lesbian.

Kind regards

Xx Vicky xX

I know that what you say makes total sense, but still many of us feel attracted to men only while cd. It's not like I don't want to admit being bi or gay. My point is, it's not an excuse, I really don't like men while in drab.

[Tamara Croft]

Let's say you are out crossdressed. A man who considers himself hetero doesn't read you and kisses you. Does that make him gay because he kissed someone with a penis? Even if he did read you, I don't think it does if he was attracted to what was feminine about you. I wouldn't know, i'm a GG :p

And my avatar Amanda is Robin Hood!

[Angela Burke]

Tamara.
I have to ask.
How do you dress like a freshwater dolphin?
Do you have any pics.?

EEK! EEK!

"So long and thanks for all the fish!"

[Niya W]

The attractions i there regardless of the clothes , atleast for me. If I like you dressed I'll like you in drab.

occasionally i look at man , but I prefer women and trannys. Does that make me bi or trisexsual ?

[Tamara Croft]

Tamara.
I have to ask.
How do you dress like a freshwater dolphin?
Do you have any pics.?

EEK! EEK!

"So long and thanks for all the fish!":slap:

[bEEb]

Nope. Not women either. Just gurls.

[Niya W]

Tamara.
I have to ask.
How do you dress like a freshwater dolphin?
Do you have any pics.?

EEK! EEK!

"So long and thanks for all the fish!"

I'm goig to have to ask you to sign my copy of the hitch hikers guide to the galaxy.

[Melissa A.]

I have been with several men as Melissa. The attraction is very strong. I have told all of them that I am not looking for a long term romantic relationship with a man. That is because I simply have no desire to be with them when I am not Melissa. I have tried to search my brain, heart, and desires, and if there were an attraction, I would be ok with it. I don't know why this is. Maybe clothes don't determine your sexual orientation, but perhaps in some way, your gender "feeling" at a particular moment does. I don't think, unless you are a clinical psychologist and have done some research (maybe someone has) That you can authoratatively state that those of us that feel this way are hiding something, either from others or ourselves. I don't know why it is this way with me. But I can tell you honestly that it is, and I don't expect to have my honesty questioned. Perhaps things will change over time, and there is some kind of "orientation evolution" happening to me. I wasn't always attracted to men as a woman, but I am now. It is what it is, for right now. Please don't tell me that I'm full of baloney.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[Angela Burke]

Best wishes to Niya from the dolphins, EEK EEk!, (and the white mice)

[melissacd]

Perhaps mine is a strange case, perhaps more normal than I suppose.

I am not attracted to men whether in male mode or in femme mode. Of that I am 100% sure. I do, however, fantasize about being with a man sexually. I cannot figure that one out, it is one for Freud I suppose, but let us proceed.

During my 25 year long term relationship that ended in Feb 2007 I was never unfaithful to my ex (who is a woman). Up to that point I had also never had any sexual experience with a male, in fact I had only had sex with two women, my ex and my first wife.

Since my split, I decided that I would finally find out how I really felt about my fantasy of having sex with males. Practicing safe sex of course, I had to know and so I tried it out three times, once with a cross dresser and twice with two different men. All of the experiences were a bust, while I enjoyed their company as fellow human beings, sexually it did nothing for me.

So here comes the weird part, I still fantasize about being dressed as a woman and having sex with males. In fact I continued to post at various sites with various configurations of fantasy. I figure that I must have blown a fuse in my brain wiring because it makes no sense to me that I would now have had three experiences that showed me I don't enjoy it and I am totally not attracted to men, I am only attracted to women and yet I would continue to fantasize about it and continue to have profiles regarding these types of relationships.

It took a big kick in the butt by a someone on this board whom is very dear to me to finally realize the insanity of my thinking and behaviour. I have pulled down all of the profiles except ones that are about CD (platonic) friendship and have stopped all these silly behaviours. Some fantasies are best left alone, left to the realm of fantasy.

I also realize that I have gone through a lot of major events in the last few years that have completely warped and twisted my mind in ways that have made me behave in ways that I never would have before (the death of my father, uncle, father-in-law and best friend, the end of a 25 year marital relationship and the emergence of my cross dressing and losing my job - all in the span of a couple of years). I am only now starting to regain my sanity though I suspect some therapy is in order too.

So I suppose technically speaking, by virtue of having tried this I guess I am/was bi-sexual. At least I know that the reality does not live up to the fantasy and that sexually I only enjoy being with women.

So the long answer is no...and now I know from experience the answer is still ... no.

Huggs
Melissa

[CaptLex]

Perhaps mine is a strange case, perhaps more normal than I suppose.

I am not attracted to men whether in male mode or in femme mode. Of that I am 100% sure. I do, however, fantasize about being with a man sexually. I cannot figure that one out, it is one for Freud I suppose . . . I am only now starting to regain my sanity though I suspect some therapy is in order too.
Take it from me, Melissa, lots of people fantasize about stuff they wouldn't really want to happen in RL. You're not nuts. I think it's good that you tried it out and now know what you want and don't want, but don't worry too much about the fantasies - sometimes the mind just likes to play. :happy:

[Tina Dixon]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!I would want do phinyou if your dressed like a dolphin:D

[melissacd]

Take it from me, Melissa, lots of people fantasize about stuff they wouldn't really want to happen in RL. You're not nuts. I think it's good that you tried it out and now know what you want and don't want, but don't worry too much about the fantasies - sometimes the mind just likes to play. :happy:

Sometimes I feel like I am losing it, however, thanks very much for your kind words.

Huggs
Melissa

[Elizabeth Ann]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!

The thing that bothers me most about this forum are the many statements of absolute, categorical, religiously intense, Truth. You would think that members of this group would be tolerant of a little ambiguity.

In this case, the argument seems to be that we are immune to external stimuli, and that our identity is defined only by what's "all in your head."

Leaving aside the question of why we would then even want to wear women's clothes, there are myriad psychological, sociological, and anthropological studies and experiments that show that people are profoundly affected by their surroundings and by how they interact with others. I imagine all of us have those moments when we look back and ask, "What was I thinking?"

I personally believe (with a bit of agnosticism) that human beings are social creatures, and that who we are is less static, and less under our control, that it might seem. I think most parents would agree.

Elizabeth

[Angela Burke]

"Tamara the freshwater dolphin"

Are you listening Disney?

EEK! EEK! EEEKITY-EEK!

[janie2261]

Yes!!!

Clothes have a lot to do with the roles we play in society. Cross-dressing is a way to play a different role.

I believe we are all inherently bisexual to some extent, although it is repressed in most people. Cross-dressing can be a safety-valve that allows us to feel and express something we would otherwise deny.

I have a sexual attraction to men, but only in the role of female. I find gay culture unappealing and I am not attracted to me while in the role of a man. It seems yucky!

Go figure! Sounds like others on this list have experienced similar feelings.

[kaitlin]

Hi Dianarg, I must first admit that I have never been with another male. I have however been bi curious for a while, and extremely attracted to some of the CD's I have seen on here. I'm not overly turned on by a male even the very well built ones, but a well done CD will get my attention every time. Hopefully one day I'll get to attend a CD event and be able to talk with and share with others and all these thoughts and feeling will make sense. Luvs Kaitlin

[RuthieER]

I was beginning to be attracted to men about the same time I discovered crossdressing, and for a long time I wanted to make love with a man "as a man" just about as much as "as a woman". But gradually, as my CD desires grew ever stronger, I found I only wanted to be with a man "as a woman". I am bisexual, and sometimes want to be with a woman while en femme, but in a submissive role. I prefer sex en femme to sex as a guy, and prefer men to women for "just sex". For emotional relationships, I prefer women. My ideal lover would be another bisexual crossdresser, but who is primarily dominant.

Ruthie

[dianarg]

At first it seems that an educated choice is the best answer, and trust me, I tried to make heads and tails out of this. But the fact remains the same, feelings play a major role in this attraction, and that overrides most logic thought.

[dianarg]

I was beginning to be attracted to men about the same time I discovered crossdressing, and for a long time I wanted to make love with a man "as a man" just about as much as "as a woman". But gradually, as my CD desires grew ever stronger, I found I only wanted to be with a man "as a woman". I am bisexual, and sometimes want to be with a woman while en femme, but in a submissive role. I prefer sex en femme to sex as a guy, and prefer men to women for "just sex". For emotional relationships, I prefer women. My ideal lover would be another bisexual crossdresser, but who is primarily dominant.

Ruthie

Submission has a lot to do with it. There are also "tides" in cding, and usually the attraction to men follows the same pattern, so there is no doubt about the relation between the two.

[Deborah Jane]

I,m never attracted to men either in drab or en femme. Sorry the male body does nothing for me personally!! I think i can understand others being attracted, but it,s just not for me. I adore women, so much so i try to emulate how they look. If i,d have been born female no doubt i,d have been a lesbian. No doubt if i had been born a dolphin, i,d have been a lesbian dolphin:heehee:

[dianarg]

I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I felt the strong urge to be with a particular man last time I went out dressed and I have thought of him often since then (but only when dressed en femme). Shoulda at least tried to score some digits. :love:

I did it, and I don't regret it at all, not now anyway.

[SuzyZahn]

OMG YES,,,Funny how that happens,,,hmmm,,,anyways,,probably really have a guilt trip if anything ever happened ,,the following day,,,

[dianarg]

OMG YES,,,Funny how that happens,,,hmmm,,,anyways,,probably really have a guilt trip if anything ever happened ,,the following day,,,

Yeah... the first time the guilt trip was so bad, that I seriously considered suicide. Anyway, after a while I just said "why not?"

[DonnaT]

In a word, no.

I'm not attracted to other women either. I've only ever been attracted to women, and once I got married 32 yrs ago, have not had any attraction towards anyone else. And I've only ever had sex with my wife.

That said:

It's a common suggestion that the our sexual orientation is separate and distinct from our gender identity. Seems that for many, this is true, or at least appears true. But for many, they seem to be closely linked. I reckon there are no absolutes in this world. As many of us have concluded, our brains a wired in many mysterious ways.

For the transgendered, there are many variations of this gender identity. I imagine there can be as many variations on sexual orientation as well.

That said, we live in a society that believes in only two genders, man or woman. Even the intersexed are considered to be either a man or a woman, when they clearly have, for the most part, characteristics of both sexes.

That same society, for the most part, also has three definitions for sexual orientation, heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Thus they leave out, for example, the asexual.

Thus, labels limit our perceptions. People need to be open to the numerous possibilities that possibly exist.

Now, to another question:

Why do you--a man wanting to be or to dress as or to pass for a woman (even if you rarely do so in actual fact)--call yourself heterosexual rather than homosexual in regards to your love for women?

Because, given the limitations of labels on gender and sexual orientation, then I have to say I am a man, no matter how I dress, and there is no other "label" to choose from.

Maybe, choosing from the labels available in our society, Bi would be a closer label. Hetero when dressed as a man and sexually attracted to my wife. Lesbian when dressed as a woman and still sexually attracted to my wife.

However, if I said I was Bi, without adding the above description of why, everyone else would assume I was sexually attracted to both men and women. Since this is not the case, then Bi won't work as a label.

That is because the label assumes we are either men or women, instead of being transgendered or dual gendered or bi-gendered.

[AmandaM]

"Tamara the freshwater dolphin"

Are you listening Disney?

EEK! EEK! EEEKITY-EEK!

ooooo, she's gonna make you paaaayyyyyyyy! Just wait til she gets her fins on you! Eeeek! You're my dolphin-transvestite-sex-toy now, eeek! :devil:

[charllote34]

Nope !!! in fact when im dressed i feel MORE attracted to women go figure!!

[Michelle Reilly]

While not being attracted to the men, when I'm dressed I want to feel the full sexual experience as a woman does, and in a very submissive manner. Now if the equipment were attached to a woman, that would be perfect. I guess I need a functional pre-op TS!

[Eugenie]

Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!

Sorry Tamara,

I think that the comparison with wearing a dolphin skin isn't working.

Let's try this one about the changes that an external "envelope" may produce on human beings...

How many of us, which are usually very nice people, become aggressive as soon as they start driving a car? I have even seen very nice and soft mannered women behave extremely aggressively when they drive a car.

I think likewise that the "envelope" of dressing does indeed change our personalities. Of course it is all in our heads but what's in our heads has an influence on the way we feel and behave.

I can certify that I have no interest in males when I'm living as a man myself. I have tried to look at men in the streets and never felt something anywhere like just a bit of attractiveness. My interest in this domain of sexual relations is still for women. I very often find women attractive...

I admit however to have had the desire to be seduced by a man when "en femme" mode, which, for me is far more than just wearing women clothes. Even if it is in my head, the feelings are real...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[breanna53]

interesting replies, and so many differnet answers. personally i have no desire to be with another man.

[JoanFlores]

At first I enjoyed being with a gg or CD, both for chatting and play, now I have some feeling for men, but I must be dressed in fem.

[Ashley Williams]

I have been with several men as Melissa. The attraction is very strong. I have told all of them that I am not looking for a long term romantic relationship with a man. That is because I simply have no desire to be with them when I am not Melissa.

I am very confused by this. I wear a type of clothing for work, because I want to create a particular impression. I pay less attention to what I wear casually because I am less concerned about that.

However, dressing en-femme is entirely for me. If I couldn't share it with my wife, there is no way in the world I would want to share it intimately with a man.

I am still the same person, expressing a different part of myself, sure - but my sexual inclination doesn't change because I have women's clothes on.

I have had friendships with men that were as deep as some I have had with women - sharing feelings and exploring perspectives in a way that is far from the everyday - but would never be physically attracted to them because I was wearing a slip or a dress.

I don't want two personalities - I want one, even if it means being rather more complex than many people, including myself, find easy to handle.

The only fantasy I find that my cross-dressing invokes is of being more submissive - as I take the initiative in sex most of the time. That fantasy is only focussed on my wife, however, and as she does not want to be involved at any level with my dressing, it is a fantasy that will likely never be fulfilled.

All the Best

Lesley

[jennifer41356]

I was wondering, how many of you girls feel any sexual attraction to men while crossdressed. In my case... well... guilty.
The weird thing is I only feel that while cd, go figure

I agree with you on that one...I guess I feel so fem , it seems natural to want to have a good looking guy escorting me:o

[crissy28]

When dressed as crissy i do find myself looking at and wanting certain really hot guys, which i know as a man i prob wouldnt look at twice. i actually am bi and attracted to both men and women.. women because i can relate to them and a man because they can make me feel safe and secure at times..

[Sally24]

If a person is heterosexual, then it seems to me that their "wiring" is oriented towards a masculine-feminine pairing. A MF crossdresser who is hetero is still drawn to that image, only now, "he" is in the role of the woman in that pairing.

I don't think the debate can be reduced to genitals. I think the element of gender identity is a factor. Can a crossdressed man take on the role of a heterosexual woman?I think that people are more attracted to gender than they are to genitals, and as such you have to make allowances for the gender that a person perceives themselves to be as well as the gender they find attractive.

Very well said! I personally like attention from men while dressed, but have not felt any real attraction to them. Now fantasies, they're a totally different thing!

[crunchysoda]

Spot On

Sexual orientation

The direction of one's sexual interest toward members of the same, opposite, or both sexes.

Gender

The condition of being female or male; sex.

I am going to get on my soap box as I usually do when this subject raises its head.

Sexual orientation and gender are two completely different things. When you crossdress this does not change your sexual orientation. If you are straight you do not become gay because you slip into a dress. If you are straight you do not become Bi Sexual because you slip into a dress.


I pretty much agree w/this. Gender and sexuality are totally seperate. I mean not all "GG's" are attracted to men. Even very feminine women can/are homo/bi/pan-sexual (Im a strong believer of the sexual orientation spectrum)

I dont get the association (that dressing in female clothing "makes" you attracted to men, when many actual GG's arent always attracted to men), only that maybe it feels "safer." So one says "Im not afraid to be gay/bi and Im not hiding behind anything", it could still be something subconscious.

Also Ive only been a member since the late summer and this question has been asked so many times, no one does searches? (rhetorical question) :tongueout

[Andine]

I think that I agree with Vicky!

I have fantasized about having sex with a man, but I don't think I would realy go thru with it. It would have to be a "female " sort of man at least.
I think that my great desire would be a " lesbian " love afair with a GG who is understanding, suppotive, and turned on by my CD personality. I find women most atractive and when I'm dressed that does not change. What does however is their reception of me ... they mostly take it as a compliment, and we get on really well!

Life goes on and we evolve ... I wonder if my genes are different now to what they were years ago?
regards

[MonicaDD]

I can speak for myself only, but have had this conversation many many times with other girls, and without a doubt, YES:D while being dressed as a woman and acting like a woman I feel it to be the most normal thing in the world to be atracted to men, I love men, when dressed, and when dressed I pursue their attentiion, affection, and company both socialy and sexually, having sex with a man, when dressed, is , for me, straight sex, man on woman, and its wonderful. On the other side of me, I have to work as a man, yuk, while dressed as a man I dont even look at another guy unless I have to talk about work or sports, but I am atracted to women,again, very natural for me, because me, as guy, is not gay, and me, as girl, is not gay. So, in direct answer to your question, I am quite attracted to men when dressed as a woman, but never when dressed as a guy. Please dont try to make anything mental out of this, this is just the way I have grown to deal with living as two different people, untill I can get a boob job and a work and live full time as a woman, this is how it is for me, and I wouldnt have it any other way, Love you all, Monica.

[shirley1]

i have never been attracted to a male in my life - fancy girls period - but i must admit i think dressing more and more often can cause confusion especially if your not in a relationship for a while - and reading cd stories on the net - i recently read one which included giving a guy a blow job and it put a fantasy in my head that scared me - but then again dont think i could do it in real life - but then again i wonder how many people have fantasies they wouldnt like to admit too - would having a sexual experience with someone of the same sex make you gay if it only happened once or just bi-curious ? surely cding bound to make some of us that !

[SiobhanW]

Not in the slightest. Oh, wait a minute. I'm very turned on by myself when I CD, and I'm a guy. Does that count?

[Brenda1423]

I was never attracted to a man. Period. However, when I'm feeling like a pretty woman, I enjoy the attention I get from men. I'm probably different from most of you, but I still never want sex with a man. I would enjoy his treating me like his date, opening doors for me, treating me to dinner, complimenting me on how pretty I look, etc. As a man, I'd never want to go out with a man. Sexually, I consider myself to be a lesbian. I crave sex only with women and want to be made love to like a woman by a woman.
I guess we're a complicated bunch.

I second that. My sentiments exactly.

[jaimecdww]

I am also of this type.
I think while dressed, the attraction of a man or experience with a man simply helps facilitate the experience of being a woman. I am not so sure that I am really really attracted to a guy while dressed, I think its more that I know that they can heighten my feelings of you being a woman.

[SandyR]

Up and down, back and forth with this....All I can say is when the clerk in the Hotel lobby was checking me out, getting more Salsa for the chips and calling me "mam". Yes, I liked the attention.

Hugs!

SandyR

[Dalece]

Dressed as Dalece I have looked at men a wonder. As being treated as a woman I have had them open doors for me. I still out there as going for how far to go or to expireance being made love to as a woman by a man. As for the attention yes it feels great. Some day my prince will come.

[Chrissy8888]

I have missed around (kissing, foundling) and what not with a man once while I was in drab. It was a fantasy/curiosity that I had. Being with this particular person did nothing for me. When dressed I do think it would be great to be with a man. Like some of you I think it is the need to be treated like and feel like a woman. As each day passes I really want to try being with a man again. Even more so while being dressed. I think in the end I just want to be loved by somebody and be happy.

[Tasha T]

Up and down, back and forth with this....

The only way to get down to the bottom of this is to go on the Dr. Phil show and get under his high definition cameras. For an example check out: http://youtube.com/watch?v=Q2LyHaKl1pk and pay special attention between 1:39 - 2:41.

[in-media-res]

My attraction toward men has been constantly shifting since I really started accepting my cd-ing. At first, I would start to get these uncomfortable, sexual thoughts about men while I was dressed. I told myself that it was probably just a natural sort of reaction to adopting the female persona and moved on.

It didn't become an issue again until I found the fantasies starting to happen when in boy mode. This made me even more uncomfortable because I had never had a thought like that while in boy mode. I slowly came to realize, however, that this is all just the byproduct of my male and female personalities converging to form a cohesive state of mind. So once again, I just go with it. If I'm feeling attracted to men as either a boy or girl, I just accept it and don't let myself feel guilty for expressing it. The weird side effect of this acceptance is that now I've begun to feel weird when I feel attracted to women. Sort of a 180 from where I was.

Of course, I should also mention that my most fulfilling sexual experience so far has been mentally putting myself in girl mode while having sex with my girlfriend. In a sense, I left my body and experienced the passion from the other side. It's really made me wonder just how deep this crossdressing rabbit hole goes.

[AmberTS]

I still only think about women when en femm. Dunno if that makes me strange or not but meh, i am what I am

[darla_g]

This thread has been interesting mainly because I had studied psychology in college and actually worked on a paper where I interviewed a number of transsexuals preops about gender identity. The primary thing i learned is that the whole notion of gender identity is a very fluid line and it is not useful to try and overly generalize about specific behavior patterns.

A couple of thoughts. Especially someone who has very heterosexual ideals, once dressed and thoroughly identifying with the female self might only think it natural to be attracted to men. This is why you might see the disparity between attraction to males while dressed and to females while not dressed. This may be more true for the lifestyle crossdresser rather than the more fetishistic.

In addition if one has been exposed to crossdressing porn the theme of homosexual relationships is very prevalent.

[Stormgirl]

Sorry but no,I never had an attraction to another man.

[sillyfish]

I've never had feelings for another guy, to me that would be.. *shudders* thats just my honest opinion though.

[LilSissyStevie]

When I was much younger I thought that because I liked to dress up like a girl and had strong submissive sexual fantasies that I must be gay. After all, normal guys don't do or think these things. I deliberately tried to have sexual fantasies involving other men but my sex partners kept morphing into women. I can honestly say that I couldn't be gay if I tried- because I did try.

Today I realize that my transvestism, sexual submissiveness and heterosexuality all exist independently of each other. I don't have to dress to be submissive; I don't have to be submissive to have sex and so on. It's just what I prefer. I can also be masculine and dominant if/when the occasion demands it. One of the greatest things to happen in my life was finding a woman who would not only put up with my weird crap but who truly seems to get a kick out of it.

[Kate Simmons]

Not necessarily. I am attracted to handsome transmasculine guys though, regardless of how I'm dressed.;):happy:

[Joanna-Louise]

Aside from being jealous of those guys that can pull a woman just by walking into the room, (which i do in either mode) i have to say nope, men just don't do it for me , even as Joanna

[Robyn2006]

Truth be told, as Robyn I'm completely heterosexual and have all the desires of any normal girl. Once I'm on the fairer side of the gender fence, as I am now, I have no boundaries within my fantasies. I so often think about is what it must be like to hold a man within my arms, to kiss passionately, to feel my lipstick peal from his lips as we part... and then to take it to another level entirely...

Perhaps someday!:kissing:


Robyn

[LACD]

I have never been out dressed,much less around men to see if there is an attraction. I am attracted to women dressed or in drab mode. I would have to put myself as lesbian, cause I like to make love to a woman as a woman.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Not in the slightest.

[flatlander_48]

I was wondering, how many of you girls feel any sexual attraction to men while crossdressed. In my case... well... guilty.
The weird thing is I only feel that while cd, go figure

Baby, the clothes have NOTHING to do with it...

[Raychel]

Not for me. If I am dressed in Drab or dressed in the finer clothes. It is women only for me. Actually only one woman, my wife. but she has stated clearly that she will ever see me in a dress.

[Xandra]

That’s something of a grey area for me and one that seems to move one way and then the other. In everyday mode (male) my attraction to men doesn’t register on the scale; as a CD I have fantasized about being with a (feminine) man. But here’s the crux of the matter: I would rather be intimate with a cross dresser, whether I am dressed or not.

I don’t care to be put in a box because the lid always seem to work its way loose, but at the end of the day, I think I’m probably bi with a stronger attraction to femininity. And my box has no lid. Phew!

Alex

[Melissa A.]

I am very confused by this. I wear a type of clothing for work, because I want to create a particular impression. I pay less attention to what I wear casually because I am less concerned about that.

However, dressing en-femme is entirely for me. If I couldn't share it with my wife, there is no way in the world I would want to share it intimately with a man.

I am still the same person, expressing a different part of myself, sure - but my sexual inclination doesn't change because I have women's clothes on.

I have had friendships with men that were as deep as some I have had with women - sharing feelings and exploring perspectives in a way that is far from the everyday - but would never be physically attracted to them because I was wearing a slip or a dress.

I don't want two personalities - I want one, even if it means being rather more complex than many people, including myself, find easy to handle.

The only fantasy I find that my cross-dressing invokes is of being more submissive - as I take the initiative in sex most of the time. That fantasy is only focussed on my wife, however, and as she does not want to be involved at any level with my dressing, it is a fantasy that will likely never be fulfilled.

All the Best

Lesley

I don't know what to tell you, Lesley. As I explained(among other things) in my complete post, I don't know why it's so. I don't think that it's a case of having two personalities. (for the record, I don't think anyone wants more than one, myself included). My sexual inclination has changed, or evolved, but only when dressed, thus far. But like you, I am still the same person. And like you, expressing a different part of myself. Just sometimes in a different way than you would, or can. That makes sense, since we are two different people. You also should know that I had a wife, and she did not want to share dressing with me, but like you, I did not share it with a man or anyone else, at that time. I certainly didn't mean to confuse you. but you do not have to worry about being confused by it. I do. That you took the time to put the word "man" in italics is telling. None of us who feel this way is asking anyone to be like us. Just maybe try to understand. And see that we're all very different, and that can be a good thing.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[Ashley Williams]

[QUOTE=Melissa A.;1153971 You also should know that I had a wife, and she did not want to share dressing with me, but like you, I did not share it with a man or anyone else, at that time. I certainly didn't mean to confuse you. but you do not have to worry about being confused by it. I do.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:[/QUOTE]

I suppose, ultimately, I was shocked that you and so many of the people contributing to this thread do feel so differently when dressed - and at some level that threatens what I have been trying to achieve - a complete picture of myself with all its component parts that is still contained within my current life framework.

I have made efforts to comfort my wife by addressing her chief fear - that if I broaden my contacts while dressed - ie through a support group - that it would effectively risk taking me out of the marriage.

From everything I had read before this thread I got the impression that I was safe in claiming that the vast majority of cross-dressers are heterosexual.

A huge issue for us has been why, for the first eight years of our marriage I was in purge - but have struggled hugely and ultimately unsuccesfully to suppress the need when it returned.

In my defence I have said that, again from my research I have found that it is not usual, but neither is it so rare to be in purge for so long. I have been especially keen to go to a support group because I thought it would give me a structure within which to express myself more fully - but without taking undue risks regarding what temptations I might find there.

I am not sure this is making sense any more but thanks for clarifying your position.

All the Best

Lesley

[MsToriJones]

I will share my thoughts as a GG:

I know many who are straight, gay, bi, cd, ts, tv, post-op and pre-op - and we talk. Talking helps me with my understanding, understanding helps me with my unconditional acceptance of all people regardless

if you say "I am straight but when I am dressed I am attracted to men, but ONLY when dressed enfemme" Could it be that it is not so much a "sexual" attraction as it is an "acceptance" attraction? you are attracted to men because WOMEN are attracted to men and enfemme you ARE woman so you would be attracted. To have a man "want" you and "accept" you when you are enfemme means that you are seen as a woman and many CDs want to be seen as woman when they are dressed.

*names changed to protect identities*
I met someone named "Carl". genetic male, married, child. Carl later announce to the wife that he also likes men so he and wife get a divorce. Carl then realizes that he LIKES men 90% and women only 10% Carl also realizes that he FEELS like a woman and wants to BE a woman. So Carl startes dressing enfemme 100% of the time (I believe he was CD before). Carl then does horomone therapy to start the transition he wants and announces that Carl is now Carla. After a couple years Carla has the surgery to be 100% fem (still having relations with men). Post-op Carla tells me that she is now lesbian and desires women 90% of the time. In this instance I believe that the being was wired to have feelings for the same gender no matter what that gender is.

For me it is simple, I am woman with no desire to be different that than and I LOVE men...the touch, feel, smell, reaction I can get, etc. but many of you I think are like me, you LOVE that reaction you can get. you want to turn heads when you are woman, you want to be treated like the lady you become, to me .... that is "normal"

Now note I have tried to say "many", "most", "some" etc as I know each is different. Some ARE bi, some gay, some like to dress in fem clothes but don't care to be passable or accepted. so if something I said doesn't relate to how you are, then I am not talking about people who think and feel as you do.

each is their own way, no right, no wrong, you just are

[Sammy_34DD]

Yes...I think its true-to some degree...that you feel it stronger when as a girl...at least I do...but I still like girls one on one as well.:heehee:

[Linda C]

Nope I am raging for girls even more!!! :devil:

[MJ]

QUOTE :- ms Jones :-each is their own way, no right, no wrong, you just are

if i may be honest for me I'm just not sure but i can't rule that out.. if the right guy came along well who knows , but if the right woman came along again who knows .

[janetcd2]

I must admit I have very strong fantasies about other CD’s but have never acted on them

[girlyj]

It has little to do with wheher I'm dressed or not. I find attractive women and men, well, attractive.

[nancyjtv]

Dressed or not I've not been attracted to a man sexually. However the though, as others have had, about being on a date and treated like a lady is a fantasy.

Nancy

[Deidra Cowen]

Yes I am attracted to Men...have experience both in boy mode and Tgirl mode with guys. The problem for Cds/Tgirls is there are so few decent guys interested in us. Most just want a quickie...I have only had one guy actually take me out on real dates.

So...I basically I guess am asexual these days, since my last sexual encounter was like two months ago. :tongueout

[veronica]

well i'm in denile. i say no way but fantasize about a woman dressing me up and then making me service a man or better yet me and a t/s

WOW:GE:

let's all get pretty

[tanya3]

i would have to say yes . i am bisexual and have been with a man once and i would like to do it again . i have a very open minded wife who allows me to dress and she told me as long as if i was safe i can be with a man again . i don't think dresssing has anything to do with the way i feel.

[melissacd]

I suppose, ultimately, I was shocked that you and so many of the people contributing to this thread do feel so differently when dressed - and at some level that threatens what I have been trying to achieve - a complete picture of myself with all its component parts that is still contained within my current life framework.

I have made efforts to comfort my wife by addressing her chief fear - that if I broaden my contacts while dressed - ie through a support group - that it would effectively risk taking me out of the marriage.

From everything I had read before this thread I got the impression that I was safe in claiming that the vast majority of cross-dressers are heterosexual.

A huge issue for us has been why, for the first eight years of our marriage I was in purge - but have struggled hugely and ultimately unsuccesfully to suppress the need when it returned.

In my defence I have said that, again from my research I have found that it is not usual, but neither is it so rare to be in purge for so long. I have been especially keen to go to a support group because I thought it would give me a structure within which to express myself more fully - but without taking undue risks regarding what temptations I might find there.

I am not sure this is making sense any more but thanks for clarifying your position.

All the Best

Lesley

Lesley,

This journey is different for all of us. If you love your wife and your wife loves you, if your marriage is solid and you are committed to her and she to you, if she is open minded enough to accept that this is a part of who you are and if you can work together to set, manage and evolve limits that you can both live with then it can and will work and be fine. Yes there are many who have tried many things, there are many whose relationships have fallen apart because of this - there are equally many who have worked through this with their partners, who have strong enough relationships to weather this, survive and thrive. If you and your wife believe that you can find a way and work through this together I am confident that you can find a way to make it work. If there is a willingness to succeed on both sides, you will. The failures are where he marriage/relationship was not strong in the first place, cross dressing was just another nail in a failing relationship.

[AmandaM]

I will share my thoughts as a GG:
if you say "I am straight but when I am dressed I am attracted to men, but ONLY when dressed enfemme" Could it be that it is not so much a "sexual" attraction as it is an "acceptance" attraction? you are attracted to men because WOMEN are attracted to men and enfemme you ARE woman so you would be attracted. To have a man "want" you and "accept" you when you are enfemme means that you are seen as a woman and many CDs want to be seen as woman when they are dressed.


I think you are right about the acceptance as a woman part, but I think it is more than acceptance. I think it is something internal to their psychological make up. Something like they "become women" so they react as women biologically. I've tried it with a man both enhomme and enfemme. As a man, I didn't like it, too weird, and I didn't like the male body, hair, etc. and it became unpleasurable during the act. I felt like there was no passion on my part, bleh. As a woman, it was waaaayyy better, since I felt female I could get into it. Something inside me, not just acceptance as a woman, but an internal feeling that "I was a woman", at least at the time.

[Nicole Erin]

I often fantasize about being dressed and being with a guy. NOt any particular guy, just one I will invent inside my head. I have not been with a guy before. I don't know how good or bad it would actually be if it came true.
Thing is, I don't look at other guys and think they are hot.

I do have a particular attraction to some MTF CD's tho. It is kind of sexual, it is an attraction that is not like how I feel for women. My :2c: is that some CD's have a sexual power that women cannot compare to.

So there is my thoughts on guys...

Don't feel bad, folks, about your fantasies. Fantasy is normal, we all have them. Even if you have been with or find yourself with a man, just enjoy it. :happy: Don't worry about a stupid label. If you are with a guy or 2 it doesn't make you gay. Being gay is when you are exclusively with men or like them exclusively. Why beat yourself up over preference? Does it really matter, or do you really care?

[Samantha43]

Only real girls for me.

When I am dressed I feel feminine (at least what I think feminine feels like), but my sexual drive never changes.

[DawnRodgers]

My feelings are many and varied and have certainly changed over the years. At first it was solely a sexual thing and was mainly used for self satisfaction. As I got better at dressing and abtained more truly feminine outfits and paraphenalia, I went out and about and inmagined and fantasized about being a truly public gal. After a steady diet of magazines and books about CDing I started to fantasize about being intimate with men and amastirbating with thise inakes in my head. Finally, after many years, I was with a few men and it was better than I had imagined and extremely self satisfying. Now, I actually prefer being with a man, have no inclination to be with a woman and, evenb though I have yet to do thgis, I believe I could enjoy being with a man without CDing. After all of this time it seems, to me anyway, that my mind has become more femonine over time and I prefer and enjoy things that I didn't in the past.

[dianarg]

I'm surprised with the answers too, I thought most cd were attracted to the opposite sex.... wait... paradox
No seriously, I feel a lot better now, I'm not the only one that loves men while dressed ;)

[Jane G]

I have to agree with most of the replies in this thread. Never once been attracted to a man whilst in drab, but when dressed I have been several times. I have no idea why this should occur, however it is something that has grown over the years, so there may be an element of conditioning in there. I'm happily married like many of us. If I wasn't who knows maybe I would act on these attactions. Part of dressing is reality and part is pure self indulgent fantasy I think the being with a man scenario will always remain a fantasy for me.

[shericd7]

Yes I am attracted to Men...have experience both in boy mode and Tgirl mode with guys. The problem for Cds/Tgirls is there are so few decent guys interested in us. Most just want a quickie...I have only had one guy actually take me out on real dates.

So...I basically I guess am asexual these days, since my last sexual encounter was like two months ago. :tongueout

I was trting to find a way to express myself ,your post did it for me...I;m in the same boat as you..

[tanya3]

i have to say yes , but not just dressed . my only real attraction towards men is sexual .i don'twant a relationchip with a man beyond that.

[Andine]

Its only Gay if you push back!!

(Joke)

[shauna 9]

I had nevr had any attraction to men

[Joann0830]

I enjoy the male recognizing me as a female but thats it, I enjoy and miss the compnionship of the right understanding woman, who can accept me and still be a Lady. I guess that I too am a Lesbian of sort if you can call me that. Joann0830:heehee::heehee::love:

[gwenrob43]

Yes, but since I don't go out except to shop occasionally, all I do is dream!
Hell, I'm gettin' too old anyway!!!

[LACD]

I haven't been around other people except my wife while dressed. I feel I am hetero, I tried to explain to her how I feel. She thinks I would like to be with a man while in my girl mode. I honestly can't say that, but feel that if I'm with another CD'er it would be kind of like two women being together. I don't know how to explain this feeling. She knows how I really enjoy our sex life while I'm dressed or not. I hope this makes cense .

[helenejo]

I agree with LindaBachCD - when I'm dressed I'm really only attracted to guys (clean shaven please) or someone I know has something down below, women don't really do anything for me - its like something has taken me over.
When not dressed, not even the slightest interest in guys

[Jena11]

I see nothing wrong wth who anyone is attracted to. It is each person own to do what works for them. I am not attracted to men at all and it really has nothing to do with what I wear. It has actually been a fear of mine that if they see me dressed as a woman they will pay more attention to me. I think that I am at the point that I can deal with it correctly. I have been asked to dance and ect at the club many times. I only had one bad time. It was very busy and I was dancing with a girl that was a friend of a friend and this guy wanted to dance with me and I politely said that I would not and that I was dancing with her right now. He got somewhat pushy and when I said no thanks for the 3rd time he got upset and was almost yelling at me that I should not be at a gay club if I was not gay. Then with other looking on. I said that I had every right to be there with anyone I wanted just like everyone else including you. I was also being polite to you and did not want to embarase you by declining to dance with you. You should respect others feelings. The on lookers seemed to agree and told him to leave me alone. The girl I was dancing with was very impressed. She told me that she had wanted to ask me if I was gay but was not wanting to make me uncomfortable so then she did ask. If I was gay or just cool with everyone? I told her that I really only like women. I did not know her well enough to say much more about myself.

[DAVIDA]

Dressed as a male, a female, or not dressed at all, I have never had an attraction to men!

[samtv]

great question
for me well its very odd i love women allways have done and only ever dated women and am very happily married and been with my wife for 14 years.
my wife doesnt mind me dressing and buys me stuff all the time.
i spend most of my life in man mode and some in girly mode never as either male or my girl mode have i ever looked at or found men atractive in any way shape or form except for one thing the idea of being dressed and having sex.my fantastic wife and i like to mess around in the bed room shall we say and the topic of her useing a toy on me poped up some years ago and me being open minded and carnt ask someone to do what you wouldnt do yourself sorta person i agreed and i have to say it was fantastic so on the subject of men and dressing for me iv 100% never fancied a man while dressed but the thought of haveing sex while dressed is a defo ...i think its the object as a penis that im atracted to not the male body ...
am i odd ? as im 100% sure im not gay or bi

[Rebecca03038]

Diana, trust me, I am in the same boat as you. When not en femme, the though of being with a man never crosses my mind, but when Rebecca is out, she is very attracted to men, and has even dated one once.

[KeriB]

While I would admit to the rare curious thought of a bi sexual experience, no I don't find myself attracted any more or less to men while as Selene. A fantasy of mine, however, would be for my wife to CD as a man, and go through the whole "pick-up and seduction" thing that way..... kinda weird perhaps, but deep down I am hetero..

[kayla_cd_va]

I'm attracted to men while dressed. When I dress I get a different feeling about myself. I think it's my true me. I want to be with men and please them.

Kayla

[Silk&Lace]

I was wondering, how many of you girls feel any sexual attraction to men while crossdressed. In my case... well... guilty.
The weird thing is I only feel that while cd, go figure I wish i knew what that means.

[bobbie_francis]

I'm very attracted to men while dressed. I think of myself as an attractive female who dresses very well. I love being taken on dates. I am also attracted to females, so, I guess I am bi. :)

[Glenda]

I'm attracted to people. For most the attraction is only as a friend or for companionship. For a few it is sexual. Unlike many on this forum, I am attracted to the male body as well as the female. That doesn't mean I want to have sex with every guy I'm attracted to. I don't want to have sex with every girl I'm attracted to. Some just aren't worth the emotional investment for me. Any more at least. I don't think we should be rude or afraid if we're only attracted to women and a guy wants to buy us a drink or ask us to dance. We're out, let's have fun.

The truth is, I am sexually attracted to both sexes whether dressed en femme or not. But it is especially exciting with either when I am dressed.

[Farrah]

I must admit, I have fantasised about maybe dancing or having a drink with a man while dressed. Lately i thought maybe even sleeping, and I do me sleep as in eyes closed and unconscience. In drab, i have no desire for a man whatsoever!! I don't think I'm gay or bi at all.

[Marvina Martian]

I am, kina. I like being a girl and that it part of it when I am dressed, but it has to be the right look. Mostly I prefer other CD/TS's though!

[dianarg]

I'm attracted to men while dressed. When I dress I get a different feeling about myself. I think it's my true me. I want to be with men and please them.

Kayla

But it gets more difficult, I mean, how do we know for sure who's the real "ME"? That contrast, that random juxtaposition. It could be easier to eliminate one of the two opposing sides, but many of us tried that, right? and it hurts really, after the CDing is over I feel repulsive about those feelings that contradict the usual "ME". But when I'm Diana, I enjoy that attraction with my soul... weird.

[JaneJames]

In the summer of 1988 a fit, slim and suntanned “Jane” enjoyed the feel of silk and satin lingerie on her skin; as Jane I enjoyed the attentivness of men and women. Now, the overweight 55 yearold, “James” occasionally has the pleasure of wining and dining cd's. His ladies are always treated with respect and if the evening then becomes passionate, tender and sensual then so be it. If it feels right then surely it is right.

As a Gemini I feel I am allowed exercise my dual character in every way.

Love to you all.

Jane James

[VickyMI]

I guess I am attracted to both but mostly woman. I am really into being submissive and receiving the attention of a man while at a bar and dressed as vicky. I think it seems to validate the expereince in some way.

However, I never look at a guy walking down the street to "check him out" in my drab mode.

I guess I would like the equipment by the night stand on demand and ready to go when I wanted te he he he :)

[bonnie.a]

I find when dressed I am attracted to men but, as a male I am not.

[HalloweenDragon]

I'm partially attracted to men, but in drag I have a tendency to WANT men more. Its always more of a sexual thing.

[azalea]

I consider myself bisexual, and I'm more attracted to women than I am to men. I'm haven't been with many people, but I've had four romantic relationships - all with women. Three of those women I've been sexually intimate with. On one occasion I was sexually intimate with a man. I did not enjoy it, but mostly because he didn't really know what he was doing and besides which he was unattractive.

I've had "crushes" on plenty of women. I never had a crush on a man until (here's where this gets interesting) I went to a Halloween party, dressed as a girl. I knew most of the people there, so I wasn't trying to pass or anything and I was talking with my regular deep male voice and still trying not to act too feminine, except in instances where it could've been thought of as me just trying to be funny. The party was huge and alot of my friends got up and went somewhere else, so I was left alone sitting next to a guy who I had seen around once or twice before but had never really met. But all of the sudden, he felt the need to talk to me. At first, the conversation was mainly about the fact that I was dressed as a woman. "How long did it take you to shave your legs", "Those heels must hurt", et cetera. But then, little by little, we ended up making small talk, and I realized he was flirting with me. And I liked it. In fact, I loved it. Then my girlfriend arrived, which was surprising as she was supposed to be at work and therefore couldn't attend the party. She kissed me, and at that point, the guy left.

I barely saw him the rest of the night, but I've seen him many times since. And every time I see him, something just goes off inside of me and I feel happier that he's in the room. I want to be near him and talk to him. I don't want to have sex with him, but I have an overwhelming desire to be close with him. But if I didn't have a girlfriend, I certainly wouldn't mind having sex with him. I don't know if he even likes guys or was just subconciously flirting with me that night because I was dressed as a woman, but I have a pretty big crush on him.

[kimmy p]

My turn. Nope, never attracted to a man sexually no matter what my clothes are currently. That being said, I do find several of the Gurls here to be quite attractive. I still am not interested in sex with them, but they manage the mask of femininity so well that I am attracted to the illusion. In other words they're pretty. If I did not know what was underneath the clothes then drool would insue. :o

[denise-x]

YES..YES..YES..........OMG YES!!!

All a guy has to do is touch my boobs and I melt in his arms.....and....I get very excited when I see a good looking sexy gal........so what am I? An over sexed nympho/lesbian? Or a crazy mixed up dolphin ? :devil:

Love to All

Denise

[Megan70]

A bisexual jellyfish???

[Kayla_CD]

I am most definitely attracted to men when I crossdress. In fact, I don't think I would want to be with a woman when I'm dressed (I have only dressed alone). Of course, I have also had fantasies about being with a man when I'm not dressed, so I think there's more to it than flipping a switch between drab and femme.

[Cara Allen]

But it gets more difficult, I mean, how do we know for sure who's the real "ME"? That contrast, that random juxtaposition. It could be easier to eliminate one of the two opposing sides, but many of us tried that, right? and it hurts really, after the CDing is over I feel repulsive about those feelings that contradict the usual "ME". But when I'm Diana, I enjoy that attraction with my soul... weird.

This could be a whole separate topic...in fact I think I will start it! Hugs, Diana!

[Joy Carter]

Nope !

[Dixie]

Most defaintly! I love being made love to by a man when I am dressed! I also love being made love to by a woman when dressed! When dressed I am in a constant state of arousal so what ever can put out the fire I'm game!:heehee:

[Janice1948]

Diana,

I have been dressing for 40 years now and never in my life did I ever think that I would be attracted to men much less date one. Over the years that has all changed. I went from being in the closet to only dating other CD's and then started dating straight men. My desire to dress is more intense than ever and my attraction to men has definitely come on strong.

I have no idea why.

Janice :happy:

[Vaness]

It took a few years but I consider myself bi. I've had a few encounters with men who were excited seeing me wearing women's lingerie. I was wearing a pair of black pantyhose and an uncomfortable thong when i had my first encounter with a guy. I did feel like a woman. I found myself imitating my girlfriend's behavior in bed. I felt I was being treated like a woman and I could predict the guy's behavior based on my own experience with women.

For what is worth, I like being in both roles. Now that I am in my forties, the difficulty is finding the right partner...

[Jennifer Brooks]

No. Still attracted to women 24/7.

[Laurelanne]

Hey good question, and some really neat answers Myself I am BI not actively but I am &have known that and been since I was 13 I am attracted to men MORE when dressed up. I was MORE active like that when younger as well and I still love the attention the cat calls etc., The Young man who tried to hit on me at the bus stop not too long ago I loved it of course: as a man if some young thing were to hit on me too I d be just as flattered MORE SURPRISED but flattered just the same.

[Merry]

I don't think so, many CD's was attraction.

[Raquel June]

I guess that depends on the guy... who knows.



Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? :rolleyes: Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments... it's all in your head, so if you are attracted to males when dressed, then you are either bi or gay... it's not rocket science!!!

That's certainly true to a large degree, but you have to look at the other side. What if you're a great looking dolphin and the other dolphins honestly don't know?

If a guy dresses up like a girl and makes out with another guy, does that make the other guy gay if he really didn't know going into it that he was making out with a CD? Obviously not, because mentally he is the same as a man who is only attracted to GGs.

Then you have to consider the vicarious aspects of sex. Sex isn't just about who you're attracted to. I get a huge sexual rush from turning a girl on and pushing all her buttons, but that's not necessarily about how attracted I am to her. I just like to know I'm driving her crazy. I know it sounds extremely narcissistic, and maybe it is, but during sex it's much more important to me to feel like my partner thinks I'm attractive than the other way around. Sex is more about getting inside her head and making her lose control.

I guess I really like being the a guy when I'm having sex, but I like to turn it around and try to experience it as the girl mentally. I really like being the active one and being in control but thinking about it from the feminine perspective.

So in that context, I'm not so much having sex with a girl as I am facilitating the girl having sex with me. It seems pretty backwards to think of it like that, because it can often be a pretty aggressive thing on my part (and a very passive eyes-rolled-back-in-the-head thing on her part) if that's what turns her on, but I think it's true. I'm just so consumed with what she's feeling that it becomes a borderline out-of-body experience.

I can speculate that if I was totally passable I could be with a guy and have it be a very non-gay thing if he didn't figure it out. That's not something that I'm terribly interested in pursuing, though, even if I were totally passable.

I do like guys being attracted to me, and I don't see it as a totally gay thing. I'm not really hung up on the concepts of gay/straight/bi anyway, though, so I really don't care.

[Roberta Rain]

Yes. Yes I am.

[Bobby Anne]

In my days of dressing I was guilty of dressing femme to the nines, the female personna and act equally followed and I did enjoy the attention by men either gay or str8. There was no way though that I would ever betray my spouse for some cheap fling that can end in dire consequences. Alway consider the so foolish act and the consequences.....They last forever. Enjoy of moment of adoration, be careful not to go to far though. Teasing can get rough and lead to accidents.

[Chrissie1_1]

I did have sex with one guy when I first dressed and only when I was dressed but since meeting my partner I have never been with another however I must confess to having the occasional urge to be the object of a guy's desire but still with my partner present. It's only a fantasy though and I don't have any thoughts like this when I'm not dressed..

[Roberta Rain]

I agree with Bobby Anne. Though I would have to say yes to the question, I have only ever slept with my wife and have no intentions of changing that. She is a sweet and wonderful woman. Too much good could be screwed up too quickly for so little benefit.

[Kathy Marie]

I was wondering, how many of you girls feel any sexual attraction to men while crossdressed. In my case... well... guilty.
The weird thing is I only feel that while cd, go figure

I've been bi-curious for a while now and if I'm dressed or not I fantasize about being a woman and having sex with a guy.

[mike47]

Being gay I would have to say that I feel that way all the time. I do have a really big urge when I am dressed though. Alot more than normal I would say.

[Krystyn]

Yes.... while en femme...I'm attracted to men...hopefully they are attacted to me...if not then we are both doing something wrong.

Would I do anything...yes...if it were the right man...have I found the right man...no!

Is there anything wrong with attraction...regardless of gender...hell no!

Luv ya
Krystyn

[AmandaM]

I've been bi-curious for a while now and if I'm dressed or not I fantasize about being a woman and having sex with a guy.

I have to be dressed. But, when I really think about it, I don't really like their bodies. Don't do much for me. So, why the urge? Maybe it's just the "idea" of having sex as a woman that turns me on. Hmmm, yup, sounds about right. So, I guess my answer would be "not really".

[KelliBennett]

When I am dressed I am very attracted to men. I love cute ones with a swimmers build. They drive me wild.

Would I have sexy with a man while dressed. Hasn't happened yet, but who knows. Would take the right man and me in the right mood.

[akaCathy]

I'm attracted to men regardless if I'm dressed or not.

[Sara Kat]

Yep. I've been with men and I plan on continuing this trend in the future. I love it! :)

[AnotherSarah]

Yes, I'm attracted to men when dressed!