teen boy stealing panties @ my wife's school

[bimini1]

She had an interesting conversation with fellow high school counselors about it today. Seems he has been snaching them from the girls locker room somehow. They immediately deemed him to be sick and in need of some serious help. She says what about the boys trying to push up and feel up on girls when they are saying stop and they won't stop, isn't that more of a violation than wearing panties.

Upon which they replied, he's not wearing those panties there is something else going on here. She replied he needs to get his own, the only violation I see is in the stealing, other than that who is it hurting.

The conversation apparently led to many angles throughout the day. The co-workers went on to say something about they recall the first days when girls were allowed to wear pants to school and just how 'out there' that was at the time. But they still maintained that the young man was 'sick'.
My wife held her ground, Gawd , sometimes she has more acceptance and a better perspective on this than me. When she told me about it the only thing I could manage to focus on was the co-workers opinion and the word sick, I am in need of a serious paradigm shift if I am ever to accept this in myself.

[Billijo49504]

Well you only have 5 posts, so maybe you're just someone with a vivid imagination. If not, don't you wear panties? Other than theft, what is the difference? Hmmm, A crossdresser that has a problem with a teenager wearing panties. I might be wrong, but something sounds fishy here. I would have loved to have panties that fit me, I used to barrow, with permission, from my GF. JMHO...BJ

[Kate Simmons]

I'm a little confused here. Why were the panties in the girls' lockers? Weren't they wearing them or were they "spares" that were stolen?:happy:

[battybattybats]

As the kid is going into the girls locker room to get them he's going quite a bit far to get them. I'd get the kid to counselling so he can direct the time effort and determination required to steal the items to be directed into a healthy direction, buying his own and heading towards self acceptance.

Of course we are assuming he's stealing them to wear. He could also be stealing them for religious purposes (such as voodoo) or for more direct sexual fetishism. Whatever the reason he's going about it the unethical way and needs to be directed to an ethical way of getting what he wants.

[sterling12]

Well, the kid stole the panties. No matter how we try and "spin" it, The vast majority of people would label him a thief. It also seems logical that he stole the panties from The Locker Room, or from The Girl's Lockers. Don't know if you have ever been "ripped off," but it makes you feel violated! It's as if you no longer have privacy and you feel defenseless. Once again, MOST people would label these behaviors as "Sick."

However, "Sick" meaning mentally unstable in this context is probably a loaded and vague term. No mental health professional would ever use that word, and it's likely that we are talking about a compulsive behavior. Question: "If he gets help from a professional and stops taking the panties....is he now unsick?" I figure the child is an unfortunate case, people/professionals who should know better, are now talking about him at school. He will forever be labeled within the school system, and he's going to go through a lot of problems in the future.

Remember, most of us "borrowed" panties from others when we were young. Almost impossible to buy your own when you have no money and your so very young. We were desperate! Is that mental illness or just a terrible burden to bear?

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Dee Jay]

I'm a little confused here. Why were the panties in the girls' lockers? Weren't they wearing them or were they "spares" that were stolen?:happy:

When I was in school we always had two pairs of pants when we had PE. This was so we could have fresh, non sweaty ones to change into when we got out of the showers.
The same goes for the gym these days.

I don't think this kid is sick. He's a teenager. He has a body full of hormones rushing around him.
It probably the case that this lad was not stealing them to wear them. He might just want to rub himself with them, or even just to smell them... Icky!!!!!!

There is a huge market for "used" underwear. It's not just teenagers, it's men of all ages.

Calling this kid sick is wrong. What he did was wrong, but he's not sick.

DJ

[Kelsy]

Calling the child sick is probably the worse thing you could do. It is funny that the so called progressives in charge of the school system are so out of touch with issues like this. Ask them if they think being gay is sick, not on your pc life!! incredible double standards and narrow mindedness. Stealing is wrong, Buy the boy a gift card to Vicky's Secret!!!

Kelsy

[DAVIDA]

Several years ago, we got a call from our oldest grandson's guardian. It seems that she had found a cash of panties in his room. She said that her panties had been disappearing for some time. I told her to bring him over. I listened to her and her fiance for a while(our grandson was in another room) and then went to talk to my grandson. I told him that if he was wearing them, we would go to the store and buy him some. He just said"Oh no Papa!" I assured him that if he did that it was no big deal. He said that he was selling them at school! I sort of laughed and asked what a pair of panties went for. He said $3 for clean and $5 for used! I did not ask for details.
I said that no wonder SHE was mad, panties can cost $20 for a pair of good ones!

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I need more info to make an informed decision on what is going on here but just on the surface I would say that the boy is wrong for stealing and he may have a problem there. He certainly can not be called sick with the little information we have been told, if all he wants is panties to wear or worship then that is not sick, it's normal in my book. The stealing is always going to be a problem so we need to find out what the motive is and deal with that. How many of us have been caught with someone elses panties as we were growing up? I doubt that many of us ever went to the store and bought our own panties so we had to get them from someone else and I also doubt that many of us ever asked permission first. This post comes from a self admitted panty raider from my early days, I do buy my own now.

[Jilmac]

First off, I'll have to admit that I stole panties when I was in my teens. To this day, I'm not proud of the fact that I had to resort to thievery, but at the time the only thought on my mind was to satisfy a craving. Was I sick? I think I was more stupid than sick. If I had been caught I may have faced even worse criticism because my teenage years were in the late fiftys and onto the sixties. Also, I attended A Catholic school and even though I never stole from the girl's locker room, if the school officials had ever found out that I loved wearing girls panties, I can only imagine what kind of guilt and shame would have been foisted upon me.

As for the boy who was caught, I agree, the only thing he is guilty of is theft. However, most schools nowadays have zero tolerance for any sort of misbehavior, which could mean the school might charge him with breaking and entering for being in the girl's locker room. As for staff labeling him as sick, I believe they are out of line and out of touch. The only school official who spoke out on the boy's behalf seems to be fully aware of the pitfalls of the compulsive teenage years. I say Hooray For Her! Luv and:hugs: Jill

[Tina Dixon]

What the kid was doing was wrong, but now we must analyze why he did it is nuts, problem a bet with his buds, who cares he's a kid.

[Nicole Erin]

First - if he is not CD and wearing the undies, it is probably still a sexual thing.

NOW, about the school recommending counseling, they ALWAYS say that crap. Schools get a bit of a kickback every time another kid goes to the psych. Give the kid a break, it is not like he started another shooting.

The only thing this kid did wrong was steal. If it is for CD'ing, I imagine plenty of other CD's ripped off their first garments from who or wherever they could manage.

I feel bad for the young man cause now his life is going to be hell at school. :mad: Sure he should not have done it but it bites to get caught with something like that. School is NOT the time or place to get outed, I know cause I was outed in 7th grade cause I had been caught wearing hose. NOT a fun thing while in school.

[bimini1]

Well you only have 5 posts, so maybe you're just someone with a vivid imagination. If not, don't you wear panties? Other than theft, what is the difference? Hmmm, A crossdresser that has a problem with a teenager wearing panties. I might be wrong, but something sounds fishy here. I would have loved to have panties that fit me, I used to barrow, with permission, from my GF. JMHO...BJ

No I don't care what he wears and yes I've raided some panties myself in my youth from my mom and then in college from my then girlfriends. I haven't got all the facts but it seems the young man was somehow caught with 15 pair of the "drawers" (a word right out of my grandma's vocab, lol)

But I'll admit there is a part of me that thinks it's all just so pitiful. My self-acceptance of this in myself is at times somewhat critical. I often wonder is it right/wrong and when I hear stories like this its makes me wonder even more.

If we are going above and beyond ourselves sometimes to try and justify a behavior that, and I could be wrong, the majority of people who don't do it or know about it deem as insanely wrong. Where I'm from I think most judge CD as one of the worst things a "real man" could possibly do. I come on this site from time to time to try and reassure myself it is not.

[Carin]

Interesting that everyone assumes he has gender issues. My first guess is that he is collecting trophies.

[Tina Dixon]

Interesting that everyone assumes he has gender issues. My first guess is that he is collecting trophies.
I think you guessed it:thumbsup: