I told my son!

[pntyhslvr2]

I had writen in about how to keep my son from just barging in on me when I was en femme and had so many responses on how to keep him out. Changeing locks, loseing keys, asking him to call first, asking him for his keys back, but, they were all just excuses. The advise I liked the best was to just come clean and tell him. I also wrote in and said I was greatful for all of the advise and that I liked the idea of just telling him. I had written in saying that I was just going to tell him and I finally did. We were just watching football like any other day. He was moving some more of his stuff out and I just said I had wanted to tell him something for a long time. I just said " If you have'nt Figured out yet with why I run off or why I take so long to answer the door sometimes, I'm a crossdresser". I also said that I've done it for a long time and only a few people knew about it. I said that I really didn't want anybody else to know. I waited for him to say something. He just looked at me and I thought what is he going to say. He just looked and said thats up to you. If thats what you want to do thats fine. It was over just like that. I was in shock that I took so long to tell him and he was very understanding. It was is if nothing had happened. He then changed the conversation and it was over. I let him know to call before he comes over and thats all there was to that. I'm so relieved that I told him. All of you here gave me the confidense to do it. I have some others to tell but they may be a little harder to tell. We'll work on that. Thanks....Terri

[Bobbie Jo]

Hi Terri,
Just read your thread. Sounded like your son was in shock hearing that you were a crossdresser. Did he ask you any questions about it? Did he ask you what you do when you dress. I may be new to this (telling friends) but I found, telling them quite a bit doesn't give them a bad impression of us and they understand it and feel better about their friend/son. I just hope he doesn't think bad things about crossdressers. Tell him the better side of it.

[trannie T]

I'd bet he has no idea what the final score in the game was.

[Vickygogirl]

I told my sister yesterday, and she was stunned !! Kept asking loads of questions, even rang back twice to ask more !! Parents are next on the list.

[DonnaT]

Congratulations on telling him.

Now the trick will be not to run when he comes over and forgets to call first. He'll either start calling, or not care how you are dressed and not call first.

[Sinthia]

Great for you. As I, and many others have said, honesty is always the best policy. A big gilt complex is now lifted from your chest, and you can be who you want to be without worrying what your son will think.

DonnaT, you are right. It is his castle, and he can wear whatever he wants, and does not have to run and change just because his son came calling. His son now knows that his dad may be in a dress when he comes over without calling. And this may well be an acceptance on the sons part.

[charlie]

He will call before coming over now!

[Mitzi]

Good for you!!!

My 3 "kids", all close to, or 50ish, reacted a bit more surprised, but not at all negatively when I had to come out to them (if I didn't my wife was going to, to explain why we were about to separate). They were concerned about the separation, but not the CDing.

The "kids" have treated us no differently than before. I have no intention of dressing in their presence.

My wife and I decided we were better together than apart, and life is good...

Mitzi

[Sandra]

Good for you :)

He may not have asked any questions then but just be prepared, the next time you speak to him for some, and just be as open and honest as you can.

[Nicole Erin]

Well this is a switch. Normally we are concerned about coming out to parents. Well for my generation...

So I don't know how grown kids would react, but maybe your son would rather not talk about it. You know with the whole GLBT thing, some people woulde rather pretend it does not exist.

SO... Don't say anything else unless he brings it up. Could you keep us updated on how things go with you and your kid?

[Lidia_tv]

A brave thing to do. I think the world of you for doing it

[Carrie]

Miss Terri,

Congratulations! That is a big step.
Be prepared, your son will probably have many questions once he has time to think about it.

Best Wishes!
~C

[Angie G]

Good for you hun:hugs:
Angie