Is CDing Sexual for U?

[docrobbysherry]

I wonder how many CD for sexual reasons? This is not about satisfying yourself, just about your motivation for dressing in the first place. Quick poll to see who does and who doesn't. I'm in the 75%+ catagory.

Clean comments accepted.
RS

[Eugenie]

Well, x-dressing used to be only sexual when I was a teenager... :devil:

But now x-dressing for me is no more no less sexual than it is for a FaB (Female at Birth). When I'm dressed I don't think all day long about sex... I only do think about sex at special moments, like this is the case for a real woman, at least I guess...

The rest of the time I just enjoy being a woman, to the point that I sometime forget that I'm dressed as one...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Wendy me]

I never dress for sexual reasons

and not a CD.........just me being me............

[Deborah Jane]

No!!

[SandyR]

I did not vote. I mean if by "sexual" you mean I like to look and feel like a Woman, then its 100% of the time for me, but its also a major stress breaker, slows me down, and it just fun!

Hope this helps.

Hugs!

SandyR

[MJ]

I don't dress for sexual reasons

[Sarah89]

Well Its for sexual and non sexual reasons,
I mean it was the fetish of wanting to be feminine that drew me to want to dress, And I do get turned on when dressed,
but I also dress because I would like to be pretty.

Somtimes the sexual part of it takes over, and it creates boundaries, like , I just need to relieve myself, then the urge to dress goes away, and I want to get back to what I was doing before-hand - Which kinda annoys me because I would love to just live my life being pretty rather than feel horny while being pretty if that makes sence.
I Guess it would work out if I didnt have the stress of sneaking around with my CDing, but because im hiding it from my family, its more of a "Just get rid of the hornyness" type thing :S, then get back to whatever I usually do.

[Amy07]

Twenty years ago, dressing created a definite sexual thrill, and source of release. Over the years, dressing is just now part of me. It feels relaxing, and just normal, and exciting on a higher level in my mind.

[Krystyn]

Don't always dress for sex...it depends on who is with me at the time.

What I can say for sure though,when I do have sex while dressed...it is much more intense than when I'm not dressed.

Dressing is like viagra for trannies!

Krystyn

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

I want to be the pretty princess, not anything sexual to anyone.

Zara

[Samantha B L]

I do it for sexual pleasure primarily but once in awhile it's just for relaxation and just to be doing it for the hell of it. I'm not passable. But another aspect is that I do get a certain narcistic satisfaction out of my CD'ing.

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

wers the selection for "i used to but not anymore"????

when i first started out if i even thought of slipping on a pair of pantyhose i would get stiff,,now i need a crane and a 50 ton jack to get "up" (mental issues),,no viagra dont work..

[Ashley83]

Im in the 75% category.

Ive found that my dressing is usually closely related to the relationship i have with my S/O. Ive noticed that when our physical relationship is strong, i do not feel the need to dress at all. Then, when the physical part of the relationship goes into a slump, I feel the need to dress more often. She knows i am interested in dressing, as she has dressed me on a few occasions, but doesnt know the half of it....

[shirley1]

its both for me - started off that way - got caught dressed - no oppotunity to dress for years and years - converted into a fantasy in my head ! - now i live alone its developed into more of a need relaxation phychological boost - enjoyment whatever - its more than just a fantasy now - but there will always be a sexual side to it for me as well - unless i have my ball removed i guess ! no plans soon !

[Stormgirl]

sex? what is that?

[linnea]

When I began to CD, I think that there was more titilation in it for me than there is now. Now, I seldom, if ever, dress for sexual reasons (if by this, the question means do I CD as a way to sexual arousal).

[linnea]

Well, x-dressing used to be only sexual when I was a teenager... :devil:

But now x-dressing for me is no more no less sexual than it is for a FaB (Female at Birth). When I'm dressed I don't think all day long about sex... I only do think about sex at special moments, like this is the case for a real woman, at least I guess...

The rest of the time I just enjoy being a woman, to the point that I sometime forget that I'm dressed as one...

:hugs:
Eugenie

I wish that I had read this before I responded because I agree with it so heartily (as I often find myself responding to Eugenie's comments).

[VtVicky]

So, looking at the results of the survey, is this a reflection of the crossdressing community in general? Or, are more nonsexual than sexual crossdressers drawn to this forum?

Or, are many of us aged beyond our sexual prime to the extent that we are simply no longer turned on by previously sexually arousing behavior?

I, for one, experience a low level of sexual stimulation/arousal every time I crossdress. However, it is very infrequent that it leads to sexual gratification. (However, at my age, 62, it is always gratifying to know I can still be sexually stimulated.)

[silkenhose]

100% sexual for me always has been think it always will be

but hey works for me and my lovely wife....... funny thing is i think if i dressed for any other reason besides a sexual thing my wife would not be in sync with it....

and i do not pass judgement, think it is wonderful for whatever reason you all like to slip on something fem.........:hugs:

[docrobbysherry]

So, looking at the results of the survey, is this a reflection of the crossdressing community in general? Or, are more nonsexual than sexual crossdressers drawn to this forum?

Or, are many of us aged beyond our sexual prime to the extent that we are simply no longer turned on by previously sexually arousing behavior?

I, for one, experience a low level of sexual stimulation/arousal every time I crossdress. However, it is very infrequent that it leads to sexual gratification. (However, at my age, 62, it is always gratifying to know I can still be sexually stimulated.)

Vicky, I was quite interested in the number that dress for sexual reasons because so many posts r by TS and TG, etc. individuals. As a closet fetish dresser, I often feel like the odd man out here.

About 10 years ago, I was for all intents and purposes, "sexually dead". Then I began CDing. Culminating in the appearance of Sherry 2 years ago. She gets me hotter than any GG I've been with, in nearly 20 years. Now, at age 60, I am more sexually active than I have been since my 30's. And I have only CDing to blame, ( credit), with my renewal.
RS

[CarrieAnneEvers]

I get aroused when I dress at home, but when I go out in public dressed the arousal goes away until I get home and then the arousal starts again.:2c:

[Kate Simmons]

Nope. It's always been an identity thing for myself.:happy:

[Jennaie]

Well Doc, I dress to feel femme. When I feel femme i have sexual desires. I don't have to be dressed to have my femme sexual desires and I don't always have my femme sexual desires when I am dressed. but i always have sexual desire, femme or not.

[Vicky_Scot]

This may sound a bit strange but I think dressing for sexual arousal and getting dressed and getting aroused while dressed is 2 different issues.

I do not get dressed for sexual arousal.

Fetish - any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

I think if you get dressed to obtain sexual arousal then it is a fetish. As like men who put on a pair of panties or stockings for sexual arousal that is also a fetish and there is nothing wrong with that.

Now moving onto my next point. I do not know if anyone else ever feels this way but here goes.

On the odd occassion when I get aroused nowadays is when I am getting undressed. When the time comes to slip back into Bob mode the act of undressing can become erotic. Catching a glimpse of yourself undressing in the full length mirror seems to stir things up.

I never dress with the sole intention of getting aroused. I dress because it is who I am and what I do. No rhyme or reason to it really, I just feel that it is right for me and makes me feel whole. I am more at ease with myself, the world in general when I dress.

Anyways thats my little view on the matter.

Xx Vicky xX

[erickka]

A few decades ago, I would have answered a 75% yes, but now it has very little sexual pleasures, but a whole lot of expression of my inner self.

[Merry]

I want my boy friend do have sex while dressed with me.

[johnni]

It almost has to been sexual in some form being that we emulate the opposite gender. As for me, I'd say 25% it completely sexual and the other time it's just the way I like to be. Is it any better than to dress and relax. I love to be in full fem mode.

[Carroll]

I said under 25% because I dress because I like to. Its my wife that seems to get "going" sometimes when I am dressed

[debbeelee1]

Doc, maybe 33% of the time it's sexual and the other time is for relaxing.

[SarahHall]

I dress because I enjoy the look and feel but will admit that there are times when I enjoy having sex when dolled up.

[darla_g]

i read an article someplace that there are essentially two types of Crossdressers:
1. Lifestyle Crossdresser - dress for the pleasure and satisfaction of dressing. Primarily non-sexual in nature. Highly motivated to achieve the highest level of realism as the opposite sex
2. Fetishistic Crossdresser - dress for the sexual pleasure of garments and accessories of the opposite sex (ie. makeup wigs etc) with the full intent of achieving sexual pleasure.

I personally think this is too cut and dried to be realistic, there are probably those for which there are no sexual elements and those who stick panties on and think they are crossdressing and for them it is purely sexual! I think the line is usually between the two extremes and I know that is the case for me.
:devil: It may start 1 but 2 takes over most of the time!

[JoAnnDallas]

Thirty years ago, I would have selected the first option. Today, I now know it is more than that and dress mostly because it makes me feel good and is compy.

[Marie O]

I dress because I feel relaxed and love feeling feminine!

[DeeInGeorgia]

My crossdressing has always been part sexual, part other reasons, mostly loneliness or lack of physical affection. But there was always an undertone of something else. Now that I can dress fully and go out, the dressing when getting fully dressed or even when underdressing at work is not sexual, but is instead letting myself be free to be more of myself with less hiding.

Dee

[Lisa Golightly]

Well as a TS it isn't x dressing, but if I need too I'll happily go raunchy to get my prize.

[susancheerleader]

When I started dressing. It was sexual. But over time the sexual part went away and I now do it becasue its fun and I love the clothes. :love:

[chrissietoo]

I dress as an expression of my feminine self. :happy:

Sometimes that's sexy.
It's never the reason that I dress.

xoxo chrissie

[Raquel June]

I don't know... The word "sexual" is too ambiguous.

Even if you are totally celibate, you could in a sense call any sort of gender-based conformity in your clothing habits sexually motivated.

On the other end of the spectrum, you could say that sexually motivated means that your thought process involves a plan that hopes to conclude with an orgasm. In that case, CDing isn't sexually motivated unless you're dressing up specifically because you want to hook up (or masturbate).

I guess a good middle ground is to say that sexually motivated means you're trying to attract someone else (or turn yourself on), but I always want to attract other people. I am a sexual person no matter what I wear, and I want to attract people no matter what I wear, and if I suddenly lost all these feelings I would feel empty and non-human.



I want to be the pretty princess, not anything sexual to anyone.

Zara

Well, I can agree with that! I totally want to be a pretty princess. But I think I have a Madonna-wh*re complex (except it applies to myself), because I want to be sexual, I just act on it very rarely. I mean, I get a lot of offers but can't really bring myself to act on it because I don't want to be like that, but maybe I should...

[stormrider]

It is sexual when I am feeling sexually inclined, but more and more it is who I am.

Michelle

[KathrynTX]

Yes...........and I love it!! :love:

[shauna 9]

I get aroused when I dress at home,

[jeniinnylons]

I sometimes wonder to myself that if I were with a GG that was a Girlie Girl and wore the things I like to wear if I would have the desire as much as I do to dress.

Anyone else have the same thought?

[docrobbysherry]

I sometimes wonder to myself that if I were with a GG that was a Girlie Girl and wore the things I like to wear if I would have the desire as much as I do to dress.

Anyone else have the same thought?

Uh, YES, Jeni! I hope to test your theory one day!
RS

[Lidia_tv]

It certainly gives me this special sensual feeling, so I would answer yes in about 25% iof the cases.

[Lidia_tv]

I sometimes wonder to myself that if I were with a GG that was a Girlie Girl and wore the things I like to wear if I would have the desire as much as I do to dress.

Anyone else have the same thought?I DREAM about that.

[Vieja]

As some others have noted, early on sex was a reason for dressing but that was 40 or 50 years ago. Now it is more for the feeling freedom and release from tension that I dress. One day I may find the courage to dress and go out as a little old lady. That is a feeling that attracts me like magnet attracts iron filings.

Vieja

[bEEb]

I once was. But, we had too much to drink that night and things never were the same for us from that point onwards. Of course in retrospect it was never destined to be for a lot of other reasons.

[KandisTX]

In the beginning most of it was about the sexual arousal. As the years went by though, it became more and more about being, looking, feeling femme. While I must admit that some of my fantasies involve my being dressed in one outfit or another, it is not an all the time sexual thing for me. With a supportive SO who understands that sometime need to be "treated like a woman" in a sexual manner, and who actively enjoys that aspect of our love-life, it does help quite a bit, but my CDing has not been "All about sex" for many years past now ;)

Kandis:love:

[Raquelle C]

I sometimes wonder to myself that if I were with a GG that was a Girlie Girl and wore the things I like to wear if I would have the desire as much as I do to dress.

Anyone else have the same thought?

Hmm... I can relate to this. But there isn't a clear cut answer. Sometimes my envy makes me want to dress as she does with her sexy hip outfits and other times I am satisfied by having my GG dress girly and sexy for me. Sometimes more desire to dress and other times less. Although, for me if my GG didn't dress girly, I would probably have a stronger desire to dress.

[Stargirl]

"Wellllll" (she said, biting into a dainty cookie, and adjusting her necktie). "If I wish to include sexual pleasure with my crossdressing, I can do so. I can have a good time by myself, or engage an interlude with another human being. Nothing quite matches a step outside the vanilla zone." I hope I provided a good answer. (she said, running her hand along the red stocking, and taking a deep breath).

[Dragster]

I sometimes wonder to myself that if I were with a GG that was a Girlie Girl and wore the things I like to wear if I would have the desire as much as I do to dress.

Me too, but I guess one of my top fantasies is for us Both to be dressed like that, and yes, ultimately, it would be sexual.

Tony

[Laura Greenhall]

I think, really, I have Transvestic Fetishism (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transvestic_fetishism)

Laura

[KateSpade83]

I CD for sexual reasons, because I love the feel of wearing various clothes (like what's it like to be a cheerleader?), and because it's adventurous and amusing to go out in full drag.

[teresa jeen]

no its not sexual, as in where is he? for me its more relaxation and feeling like me, not putting on for another.

[Jennifer Brooks]

I Crossdress for sexual reasons, 25% to 50% of the time. Now that I have taken crossdressing to a higher level, the sexual % has gotten lower. I use to be at the 50-75% range.

[DawnRodgers]

When younger. I always dressed for sexual reasons. Only when away from home (I travelled on business a lot) and I carried a suitcase with Dawn's things. As I got older, the dressing in itself became a pleasure and imagining myself a woman, working around the house, typing a letter, etc. and looking the part was enough to give me the feelings and satisfactrion I wanted. Often webt out for a walk or a drive and couldn't imagine anuthing better. Now when I dress - again relatively infrequent - it is always for sexual reasons. And there os nothing better than to be a woman.

[Khriss]

When I've dressed to My own personal degree of satisfaction....

"tucking" would be pretty impossible ..
though one might relieve such "anxieties" about twice then...
I could be more femme ...in the line of My skirt ? :D "K"

[Celeste]

I would have to say yes and no.I don't like to draw lines or place limits on my sexual desires and want them to remain mysterious and undefined.Saying it's one way or another for me is comparable to wearing handcuffs.I like the fact that my sexual arousal can occur in either mode and stay uncategorized.Maybe I should have chose 50/50 but I felt the need to explain,If I can always keep it different and new according to my mood,I'll be happy.

[AshleyM]

I would say 50/50 at times I feel so sexy and that gets me aroused and other I just enjoy how good it makes me feel inside relaxed.

[LisaLedoux]

As I get older the sexual aspect decreases. It still exists but now I dress simply because it is what feels "right" since I am a woman mentally if not physically (although I am working on the latter).

[JacquiUKTV]

Lisa's post #60 describes something close to my own situation.

In earlier years, and for various reasons, it was all about sexual arousal.
But that seems to have dissipated more than somewhat...once again for "various reasons". I'm left with a "habit-pattern" which holds little-verging-on no particular value.

As I type this, (unusually these days) I'm dressed....something I do from time to time as a kind of test. Nothing exotic, long dark-auburn wig, mauve deep roll-neck sloppy cardi., calf-length brown "boho" skirt and pale-grey flat slouch boots....no make-up...couldn't be bothered.

I feel quite comfortable, but would also do "en homme". To be quite ruthlessly honest, I feel a slight preference for dressing as "Jacqui" but it ain't a life-bender anymore.

For me, the dressing thing is pretty much "flat"; I feel neither especially attracted nor repulsed. It's just an ephemeral choice as per the moment.

My belief at the moment is that I probably fall into the category of "technically transsexual"..."certainly" if Cogiati is to be taken seriously...and I'm quite OK with that.

I suspect the whole CD thing was a desperate attempt to bring out something which might have been addressed in other ways?

Just a few reckless thoughts....:hugs: to all, J.

[Sallee]

I not sure I understood the question. Is dressing sexual. I think for me when i was young it certainly was at least it often lead to solitary masturbation. Not so much any more but I certainly think there is hint or more than a hint of sexuality in it. I have heard many deny it. But it think it is like say you've never masturbated every one has it is natural. NOt to get to freudian but Ithink there are lots of things that give us (humans) satisfaction and that could be considered sexual. I think I heard Dr Ruth say once that nothing was better than sex and then she added "well, Maybe skiing" Being a skier I know what she meant but the same can be said for lots of things and xDressing is certainly one of them. Things that turn us in could be considered sexual.

With all this being said it think the sexual aspect of CDing may be the difference between CDs and TSs. It is a fine line that has to be treaded on lightly.. I didn't mean to ramble:hmmm:

[Dalece]

I CD somtimes for sexual reasons I just feel better dressed as a woman it feels more natural to me than being a man. my tendencies have always been femine. as far as sexual if it happens it happens and I hope he loves me as a woman.

[tvducker]

Sherry, you share my feelings completely.

[Margo Paulse]

Back in my teens & twenties, I was in the 75%+ category.

[susan2010]

I always get aroused when I dress, but now that I'm dressing more often, or a least underdreesing a lot, I find the arousal/sex thing isn't as important.

[Mary Jane1]

Being dressed may enhance sexual desires I'm already feeling but dressing never initiates those feelings. And once and sexual desires are satisfied my need or wish to remain en femme doesn't change at all.

So no, I don't dress for sexual reasons. I dress for feminine reasons. I dress to be pretty and to feel closer to and contiue getting to know the woman inside me.

[TGMarla]

I dunno. I guess so. Dressing certainly arouses me in many ways, and that can include sexual stimulation. But there's more to it than that, I think. I find being dressed can also be very peaceful at the same time. It makes me happy. And I find it arousing. So both.

[annekathleen]

When I was younger, wearing womens underwear was purely sexual for me.
Now its a way of life. I wear panties all of the time, but I dont get the sexual arousal from wearing womens panties like I did when I was younger.

[DanaR]

I don't dress for sexual reasons either!

[PameeSue]

When I was younger it was <sneaked>100%, then back into drab mode and I'd feel guilty about it....
Now, 40 years later, and dressing 24/7 at home, my sex-drive has only waned marginaly, I dont go back into drab mode anymore...and I dont feel guilty hardly at all.
But when my imprinting takes over I cannot deny it without pent-up concequences.
All day long with stockings feeling up my legs, flirty skirt bathing and swathing around my legs, sexy panties clinging tight, waist cinched, bra hugging my breasts, something in the middle just gotta give.....:blushing:
So its 50 -75% now....probably closer to 74.5%
I dont have to plan or escape for that time anymore....it kinda happens now, whenever.

Suzie P

[dakota_ann69]

I can honestly say that I don't dress for sexual reasons, it is more of an escape for me. What I mean is that I am a recovering porn addict and when I discovered that cd'ing helped me to escape from that kind of habit I was hooked.

[LilSissyStevie]

Of course, silly!:love:

I started out crossdressing as a young kid because I wanted to be a girl. CDing was an escape for me. There was nothing sexual about it then. It became a fetish later after I reached puberty. I guess that's a backwards "progression" from many here. Today I dress to get excited not to relax. If I was any more relaxed I'd slip into a coma. :heehee:

[audrey-lynn]

I'm 64 years old and dressing has always been a way for me to get aroused. It's a feeling I hope never goes away. But I also dress because I love feeling fem. I'm am always at least undressed, and would dress fultime if the wife would approve.

[flacindycd]

All I can add is that sex is fantastic when I am Cindy...its been that way for over 25 years

[mike47]

I might not be getting dressed for the sexual reasons. But once I have everything on I sure do feel sexy and get aroused. I really enjoy the feeling of the stockings and thong. The dress/skirt and heels. So the beginning is to make me happy and enjoy the feel but the end results are the sexual ones. It always feel great when I am dressed.

[leggy_tiana]

No, but I thoroughly enjoy the sensuousness of dressing. The feeling of femininity surrounding every part of my body is very sensual and romantic, but I think that is a big difference from being sexual.

[Danille]

I'm in the 75%+ catoregy too. There has always been a heightned sense of arousal when I dress up. I hope it never diminishes.
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[curiouslooker]

I hope my question isn't wrong but, I was just curious if it's normal to get aroused when dressing?

[RobertaFermina]

No question is wrong, so yours is fine!

If you search past postings for this, you will find that it is frequently so among crossdressers.

For myself, it isn't exactly so. I get emotionally energized without any physical arousal.


:rose: Roberta :rose:

[BETH H]

Hi curiouslooker and welcome i've been dressing for a while at first it was sexual but though the years it just a love of wearing the clothes it's relaxing and relieves stress but still from time to time it does get sexual just do it for what ever makes you happy

beth

[Amy Hepker]

Yes, it was for many years, now I just enjoy wearing and looking like a girl.

[Erica Lauren James]

No it's not wrong. What is wrong?

For me though it is not a sexual thing, I just love to emulate women. Dress like one, act like one to the best of my ability.

Now that's not to say that I wouldn't love to make love to a woman while I was dressed as one. One day I suppose.


Erica

[Linda C]

Let's see, you take a guy - who normally is over horny (most anyway.. ) - put him in dress and heels - then maybe some makeup and perfume - guess what the outcome is going to be?? - It gets me pretty charged sometimes - how about you? You didn't answer your own question... ? :happy:
This of course is just me speaking for me... :devil:

[Jennifer Brooks]

Let's see, you take a guy - who normally is over horny (most anyway.. ) - put him in dress and heels - then maybe some makeup and perfume - guess what the outcome is going to be?? - It gets me pretty charged sometimes - how about you? You didn't answer your own question... ? :happy:
This of course is just me speaking for me... :devil:

Yeah, what she said! I love lingerie and that is what I have a lot of so I guess I can say it is a sexual thing for me.

[franvonceder]

It's always been a sexual thing for me - but that does not mean I am aroused most of the time I am dressed.

Fran.

[christid66]

where's the selection for "i used to but not anymore"????
I'd have voted for that as well

[Dana_38]

I must own up to the 75%+ category. Dressing is a a fetishistic pastime and a source of arousal and release.

[Bexles]

For me the dressing itself isn't sexual but I do occassionally get aroused by other's responses to me being dressed, the compliments, attention and affection is really nice :happy:

But most of the time I dress up when I feel a bit down as it makes me feel more desirable which lifts my spirits in much the same way some people wear a suit to feel more empowered.

[Nicole Erin]

The only article that is sexy to me is pantyhose.
For dressing en femme, it really doesn't arouse me, unless it is some wh^re outfit like my black mini, but most of the when I CD I am more of a proper lady.

I will say this tho - it is easier for me to GET aroused when I am dressed.

[shirley1]

when i dress i dont get that turned on any more used to when i was younger - its more of a relaxation thing now i enjoy it - but i still can get arroused by the thought i dressing in my head like when you read erotica stories - maybe its cause for years when i couldnt dress i had to make do with the fantasy side of it as my only outlet !