Is the final fantasy - getting out? For you?

[Linda C]

Just wondering if we all need to get out of the house to reach the apex of crossdressing? Maybe it's just the thrill seeker in me but, over the last few months I feel like I want to get out and try my luck amongst the people - U? Just looking for a common answer - thanx :happy:

[Nigella]

There is no common answer, each of us has our own little line that will not be crossed.

There are many who dream of getting "out and about" but still live in the closet and will never achieve that dream, for whatever reason.

The big wide world is a scary place, especially if you dont conform, take it steady, blend in and the well the world is your oyster.

[Jennaie]

It was for me, I had to get out and "pass" as female in broad daylight. I don't understand why, but after I accomplished this, it was no longer a burning desire. I believe that it had something to do with being validated as female. It was for me, an unbelievable experience. I would not trade it for anything.

[Brenda1423]

It was for me, I had to get out and "pass" as female in broad daylight. I don't understand why, but after I accomplished this, it was no longer a burning desire. I believe that it had something to do with being validated as female. It was for me, an unbelievable experience. I would not trade it for anything.

My feelings exactly. It was a very nervous at first. Now I'm not as nervous and it's a lot easier. I wouldn't trade the experience for anything.

[Tracy_Victoria]

I think the ultimate acceptance is others seeing you as you wish to be seen, which is kind of difficult if your always stuck within four wall. Personally I just enjoy dressing as Tracy, and always have, yet I have no wish to be a girl, infact I love my Male life and what I have in it. (being Tracy is just a small part of the overal Me!)

Being Tracy is not about passing out, even though I have! But it's about just being me, and more about how I want to be seen at that time, (as a male I think i'm quite boring so it nice to dress up a bit) basically though I'm still a guy underneath, but if people think I am a RG, so much the better, thats why I made the effort in the first place.

[Regina girl]

This is somthing i would like to do at some time. Go out and be in the big scary world all dressed up.
Regina

[Kathy Renee]

Hi Linda,
I think the "all" in your post is the operative word. I think the final fantasy is different for each CDer; however, I suspect that they could be grouped into a few broad categories. Also the "final" suggests that it would be the end of the road. I have approached my CDing as an evolutionary journey. Getting out was just one more milestone goal. I do not want the journey to end so I have not set an end goal. Thank you for the post....it has gotten me thinking again about my journey.

[Joy Carter]

I don't pass in the slightest. But I don't let that get in the way of being who I am.

[AmandaM]

Yes, once I'm back to trimness, I'll be back!

[Deborah Jane]

I often think about the idea of going out, but maybe only to a club or something similar. I love being Debs and dress most evenings, but i also enjoy a lot of things in my "boy" life:happy: At the moment being Debs is just a very nice way to "chill out" and be myself, i,m not sure if taking it further would ruin that.

[janie2261]

Fantasy/goal/desire: passing as a female in sexy, revealing clothes in public and attracting the interest of good-looking men.

[Mitch23]

was the ultimate goal at first but has become routine now. always exciting and often nerve-wracking. and i have made so many special friends through it who accept me for what i am. now, i get a buzz from passing on my experiences to others and helping them to take their first baby steps

mitch

[Sarahwithanh11]

Yes, I want to go out and about more and more!

Only when I'm out of town though. Around here the regular life would get in the way!

[Lisa Golightly]

Every tiger that walks to and fro the cage dreams of being beyond the bars... Don't you think?

[charlie]

I only go to clubs now. I would love to go out and cruise through a mall, grocery store or any place in public and be accepted. A bit afraid now though.

[JoAnnDallas]

Going out in the daylight, enteracting with other people, being accepted as a female have always been long time goals of mine. I was always scared of doing it because I felt other people would laugh and make fun of me. Once I did go out in the daylight dressed and found it not to be as bad as I thought it was, I started going out more and more. Now I go shopping, eating, browsing and just enjoy going out dressed and being ME.

[Eugenie]

I answered "Its a goal for me".

Indeed it is a goal I have for every free time I can get.

It isn't a fantazy however... I achieve that goal whenever possible and enjoy it very much...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Raquel June]

I'm not sure how to answer this. I'd really like to be validated as passing in daylight, but I'm not that concerned about it. Most of the time I dress is because I'm going out, but it's just to a club or to hang out with friends.

I really don't have much desire to dress when I'm not going out. I don't really get anything out of wearing panties under my work clothes or hanging around the house in a skirt. That used to excite me some because it seemed kinky, but now I just want to look as pretty as possible and go out and socialize.

I definitely obsess over CDing, but I obsess over trying to put together a better outfit or do my makeup better or walk better.

[Angie G]

I've got to work on the wife to go shopping with me dressed I'd love it :hugs:
Angie

[Nicki B]

I think my goal is not just to get out, it's to be accepted as the person I am, in the real world, so your poll doesn't fit me? :strugglin

I think I'm lucky enough to say I've managed to do that for a few years, now?

[shauna 9]

I only go to clubs now.

[Kate Simmons]

It was funny. Despite all the hype and build up concerning "passing", my first time out was rather routine. I was after all doing it for a purpose which was to find and attend my first TG Org meeting. I Interacted with people along the way asking directions and no one looked at me "crosseyed' really. Kind of matter-of-fact and that is actually what helped me to go on. Since then, I don't consider interacting with others a big deal one way or the other even though most of my friends are of the LGBT communities. Even so, if they "read" me so what? I'm doing this for myself, not anyone else.:happy:

[quiet_time]

Yes I think going out would be the ultimate for me. However, I add a little to that as I want to go out and be completely and totally accepted as a woman. I suppose the real ultimate would be to go out and pick up an attractive, handsome straight man who had no doubts I was a woman.

[Emily Ann Brown]

I checked the "GOAL" answer, but I already go out to clubs and public in general. My reason for going out is simple.....I AM Em and I need to have a life. For me, living in the closet was denying who I am.

Emily Ann

[ErikaLeigh]

Someone named Emily told me once that going out is adiictive, She was right :D Once you go out you want to do it all the time.

[carolinebrookes]

Before I did it, I would have said that getting out was the ultimate fantasy. Now that I've been out and about for a few years, it is just part of me being me.
If it's to the movies, shopping or just for a drive and a cup of coffee, then it's all good. It breeds confidence and as such helps me to "pass" more than not.

Not having bricklayers hands and oversized feet also helps with the crossdressers chance of blending in with those around, however, need not stop anyone from going out and doing what they want to. Most of the time people don't care!

[Victoria Anne]

I voted 50-50 as my job is in the way but going out is not the goal for me rather just being myself doing what I need to and having fun

[JoAnnDallas]

Going out dressed was one of my goals. So was meeting other CDer's like myself. I have done both now and feel great about both. Yes it was scary at first but I quickly got over that when I realized that no one was yelling or pointing figures at me.

[Roberta Rain]

My first post on the forum. I've been CDing all my life. Most often it has been at home with no one around or (literally) in the closet. My wife really doesn't like it, but she puts up with it and has become more and more accepting over time. I've had CD dreams on and off for as long as I can remember. I've always felt somehow more complete in those dreams than in waking life. It isn't really a sexual thing for me. It is about feeling complete. It is about feeling like ALL of myself instead of just one face. I had never even met another cross dresser until recently, although I have passed a few on the street. Discovering this web site and forum was eye opening. I feel like: 'Thank goodness... I'm no longer alone in the world in this part of my life.' I recently went out and about for the first time... on stage at a benefit fashion show... and my picture made the newspaper. I did it again at Halloween, and have been occasionally painting my nails with a clear polish or otherwise pushing the lines in everyday life. Staggeringly, almost every one of my friends has encouraged me to continue... some encouraging me to do it every day. One of my friends let me know that her huband is a CD as well! I can't say being out and about is the apex for me at all, though. I'd just like to be me. Sometimes that means a guy in a skirt... sometimes that means very nearly passing. Sometimes it just means a little covert lipstick or clear nail polish. Even at work, I would say that for every single visitor that runs for cover, another (if not 2 more) becomes a customer because they notice the nail polish or whatever. My ultimate dream... the apex for me... to be able to casually pull on a skirt, wig, heels, or to put on makeup, and where them anytime I want. I have very little desire to pass. I'm 6'1 and 190 lbs with a square jaw... it's not likely that I could, although sometimes I feel like pinnochio... only wanting to be a 'real girl' instead of a real boy.
Here's yet another first... posting on the internet. I hope this doesn't come up alongside my name in search engines or anything.

[Dawn D.]

It's a continual goal for me. Every chance to go out is a new first!

Roberta Rain,

Welcome to the forum! Glad you found us. I must say that much of the way you describe yourself is very similar to my own thoughts. I too, would love to just go about my day en femme as a normalcy. Though, I find myself in stead wondering if I am going to be judged by others.

Ok.......Ok......., before everyone jumps my bones about worrying about what other people think. I have to say that it is just my own insecureties at this time and the wishes of the most important person in my life (my Wife) that keeps me from letting the carefree attitude happen. Workin' on it!! Therapy.....lots of therapy.



Dawn

[Genifer Teal]

If so, my fantasy ended 7 years ago. Wait, I'm still doing this. Maybe it's not over.

Gen

[JenniferR771]

i have been out shopping a few times. The fear was intense at first. But now I am almost calm, like last Saturday for a quick shopping trip. The fear is gone and so is the thrill. I still do not usually interact with people much--just shy I guess.

[Pamela Julie]

Inside my head, I am PJ 24/7, it doesn't matter how I am dressed. I can not give up my life at this point in time, so I will be in the closet the majority of the time. I will need to meet people in the near future that accepts Pamela as Pamela. I need at least one to be a gg that I can talk to on occasion as if we were sisters, cousins, or life long girl friends. I need to be able to pass in public, just as an average woman would be fantastic, a woman that a stranger forgets three minutes after seeing me would do just fine. I have completely accepted Pamela as my inner self, and my male side as a good person that I would like to have as a close friend. Everyone here has helped me confirm that my thoughts about Pamela are accurate and that she is a good person. Forgive the long response, talking things out helps me to get my emotions together.

Love Pamela:happy:

[linnea]

I think my goal is not just to get out, it's to be accepted as the person I am, in the real world, so your poll doesn't fit me? :strugglin

I think I'm lucky enough to say I've managed to do that for a few years, now?

I haven't managed to do this, but acceptance is definitely my dream and my goal.

[vikki2020]

In my younger days, I went out often, and it got to be routine,but always exciting.After a very long 'break", I got the urge to get out again,and for the last two years,I've pushed a little farther each time out.Going out is really the first step, not the final goal.It keeps getting better,and it's as fun and thrilling as the first time, just a bit smoother!

[Jennifer Brooks]

Option number 2.