Has A Therapist Ever Asked You To Come To Your Next Session En Femme?

[Soulless&Shallow]

OR have you had a therapist support your crossdressing?

[Kate Simmons]

My therapist was always impartial and neutral. Crossdressing or not was always left up to me and my comfort level.:happy:

[MJ]

oh yes after my 3rd visit my Therapist said next week i want to meet Marissa . only problem was mj was not out in the real world . well i did meet her as mj , and after that meeting was when i went full time .. and had no regrets

[JennMW]

She didn't have to, I started out that way!

As far as I was concerned, it was the only way to prove that I was serious!

But then I had already accepted myself and went to the therapist to obtain my first letter.

[Sinthia]

That would have been difficult to do as I went during work and I could not work dressed, working with ten other guys. The therapist never asked me to dress, but she frequently said that 'crossdressing was not illegal, it was ok to do so, and that I could do what ever I wanted, and that if I was happy wearing panties, a bra and a dress, then by all means, put a dress on.'

[KateSpade83]

I went to my therapist in drag to partly surprise him and to show how I will shop in drag so that I don't get a gay reputation. He's ok with it and said I'm passable, and he guessed it was me in the waiting room.

[Stormgirl]

I don't go to therapy sessions.

[Jenna1561]

First and every visit since has been as Jenna. My therapist has never seen my male side.

Jenna

[linnea]

I don't go to therapy either, but if I did and the therapist asked me to come to sessions dress, I would do it.

[Carroll]

Never been to one, even though I have been told many times I should. Thats because my wife is Bi-Polar and has other mental issues

[Billijo49504]

I don't go to one either. If I need to talk to someone, my wife or the dog or the cat are always available. My wife is almost as understanding as the other two....BJ

[Laura Greenhall]

I do not attend these things; I am happy to prance around the house, knowing I am doing it in the strictest of secretivity

[teresa jeen]

hey, i got an idea!!! im paying you blah, blah, an hr. why dont we go shopping???you wanta see me at my finest? or just drop by the house and see. your not paying me to give you the answeres im paying you! boy wouldnt that go over huh?

[Nicole Erin]

I used to go to a therapist [actually a clinical social worker] when I thought I was TS. It was just to get on HRT. She did ask to meet Erin. NO big deal, I went in as Erin after that.

I quit going cause one time I had to take my then 3 year old on count of no babysitter, and she asked my son "So what makes you cry?" like she was wanting to see if he was abused or something. His response was "When I get spanked for doing something bad".
After that I never went back to her.

[curiously_c]

I've never been to a therapist, even though it would probably be the best thing for me. I've had things in my head for years, plus the new found love for womens clothing is simply to much for my poor bi-polar self to take. :)

I don't know if I could go in femme mode though, I haven't really established that part of me just yet. :shrug:

[Alicia_lynn419]

When I WAS in therapy, I went twice dressed for my Doc. She always told me I was welcome to come dressed however I felt most comfortable.... It was awesome. She made me feel quite at ease. We have since moved on, but Dr. F was AWESOME! I miss her....

[Sharon B.]

After my divorce I went to one a few times and he ask that I bring the clothes in but I never did and shortly there after I stopped going.
He never said anything just let me do all the talking, never made a comment, nothing.
Decided that if I done all the talking and never heard a comment one way or another I could take a walk in a park and talk to myself and come up with a reason as to why I do it and what I need to do.

[yms]

Hi

I told my therapist about my crossdressing after I told my partner Lori. I had been seeing this therapist for several years, going back to my first marriage, but CDing never came up.

I went to a session crossdressed once. I didn't tell him I was planning to, but we had talked about it prior to that and he didn't seem to care one way or another. That was early on and I never did it again. He got to see it and that seemed to be sufficient.

I think I would be concerned if a therapist insisted a little too much that a crossdressing patient come to sessions crossdressed. In my case I was not inhibited about discussing my CDing. I can imagine that if a patient discloses it but is then reluctant to discuss it, a therapist may try to draw the patient out. But I think a professional should know when to back off.

I guess the question is: if a therapist is trying to persuade a patient to come to sessions crossdressed, what signs would you look for that suggest that maybe the therapist is not acting in the best interests of the patient?

[jeniinnylons]

First I made sure to get a appointment with a female figuring it would be easier to tell her then another male. I went to go see one for marital reasons but told her right out. She was very supportive and told me there was nothing wrong with it. She even told the now ex-wife there was nothing wrong with it and asked her why it was ok for her to wear pants.

[Dawn Marie]

I'm just going to my second session with my therapist Monday. If she ever asks me to come dressed I would be more that happy to come. If I could just get past my wife, she has me going there to stop dressing. That will never happen.

[Teresapantyhose]

My therapist supported the dressing. I did go semi-dressed one time. Wore sweater, tights, shoes, bra, but no skirt. Live in a conservative area and she said that I was really pushing it coming in as I did. I was able to wear pantyhose or tights if I wanted to after that and a skirt under my pants but couldn't show anything to fem in the lobby. I told her I initially got rid of all of my Teresa belongings and she actually yelled at me for purging. Good luck!!

[mollytyler]

Took over a year before went to therapist as Molly. It was more the encouragement of my sister and Mom that gave me the courage to go, Had been out and about as Molly mainstreaming well before that,,,but it was just the thought that going to someone who I have bared my soul to on many issues that made me a little hesitiant at first. After that first visit it was 90% thereafter as Molly for the next two years, In fact I think going as Molly helped acellerate the process and no need for therapy on many issues....being yourself helps the revelation process

[KimberlyS]

I was never asked by the therapist to come enfemme and I never asked to do it. I just showed up one time enfemme. I had the opportunity to do it and I was going out enfemme after wards anyway. So it just made the going out afterwards easier.

I think I kind of surprised her a bit and some others in the office. It was Christian based counseling group part of a seminary school. Long story.

[KandisTX]

Never asked to, but I did show up at my second or third session as Kandis. She was glad I felt comfortable enough with her to come in dressed up. It was an exhilerating experience I can assure you.

Kandis:love:

[Deborah Jane]

I had a lot of issues after splitting with my wife, [things from my past included] crossdressing was just one of them. My therapist helped me through a tough time and also made me realise crossdressing wasn,t the the issue i thought it was. The offer to go to sessions as Debs was always there if i wanted it but once i,d accepted my femme side i didn,t feel the need to go there "dressed up".

[CaptLex]

I went to my therapist in drag to partly surprise him and to show how I will shop in drag so that I don't get a gay reputation.
I guess I'll never understand this . . . why do you care? :p

[tifftg]

I was seeing a therapist for a couple years. She specialized in transgender issues as well as helping me with some personal non-dressing related issues. I went enfemme one time and she took some pictures. I was glad I did, but so nervous. One of the few times I went out dressed in my home town back then.

tiffany

[Priscilla Ann]

After my divorce I went to one a few times and he ask that I bring the clothes in but I never did and shortly there after I stopped going.
He never said anything just let me do all the talking, never made a comment, nothing.
Decided that if I done all the talking and never heard a comment one way or another I could take a walk in a park and talk to myself and come up with a reason as to why I do it and what I need to do.

I love this answer!!!


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If a therapist asked me to come to a session dressed en femme, I would be tempted to say "Why? You looking for a date?"

[docrobbysherry]

Now that I have this site, I don't need one. I hope!
RS

[Stephanie-L]

I have only had two sessions with my therapist and have not gone en femme yet. She has been supportive of my CDing, and even about the possibility of my getting breast augmentation. I plan to go to a session en femme in the near future, though I am not sure if I should ask her about it first or just show up as Stephanie. It seems several of the girls here just went as their femme selves and usually had positive reactions, so I am seriously considering this.........Stephanie

[Cara Allen]

After my divorce I went to one a few times and he ask that I bring the clothes in but I never did and shortly there after I stopped going.
He never said anything just let me do all the talking, never made a comment, nothing.
Decided that if I done all the talking and never heard a comment one way or another I could take a walk in a park and talk to myself and come up with a reason as to why I do it and what I need to do.

Hi, Sharon!

That sounds like a Freudian therapist to me. Those guys will mess you up. The theory is that you will take the impartial silence as a rejection. The processes of "transferrence" and "projection" kick in, and you start spilling your guts, and he learns about your neurosis. he becomes the person who was the instigator of your problems. There is no consideration of biological determination of problems. Freudian therapy is not only NOT 21st century, it's not even 20th century.

I think it's hogwash. In the absence of good information, anyone fills in the blanks. When I was young, I went to a Freudian Psychiatrist for years. I learned nothing. I later went to a kind understanding communicative therapist and learned more in three sessions than in all that time I wasted with the Freudian.

Get a different doctor! One who understands gender, and you will be very, very happy. The validation and increase in self awareness you get is worth the price of admission.

[tommi]

The first therapist I seen asked if I would be more comfortable showing up dressed, the crazy part is I was there to get control over.
That was seven years ago my wife has since insisted that I go again this time I researched therapist founf a women who specialised in glbt issues as
well as couples therapy. After just one session I'm so much more at ease
but I still will not attend dressed.
One of the reasons I enjoy dressing is strees relief I do not leave my house dreesed other than to go for an occassional drive. Going to the therapist dressed would just be to much for me.
I do think in some cases they just want to see what reaction we would give them over having the opportunity.

[janet1234]

because I am content with being a CD:happy:

[black leotards]

I saw a counselor for a couple of years a long time ago. I did dress for her regularly, although I never added any makeup. She was very understanding and helped me understand myself a lot more. Funny thing was for a while she worked in a church. I used to change in the washroom and had to be careful that I wasn't caught. :2c:

[noname]

She was very supportive and told me there was nothing wrong with it. She even told the now ex-wife there was nothing wrong with it and asked her why it was ok for her to wear pants.

That therapist is my hero! Logic. Shocking Logic. That's a rare find these days.

[Katrina]

I guess I'll never understand this . . . why do you care? :p

Good point! <sarcasm> Because being TG is so much more accepted by society than being gay. </sarcasm>

[Victoria Anne]

My first session I went dressed in pants a drab button down shirt and heels fresh from the nail salon and carring my purse as always , she has since suggested that I be more out going in my presentation (ie going out more where it is safe) , the only drab attire I have now are shirts and work shoes.

[Eugenie]

Thanks for this very interesting thread.

I'm considering seeing a therapist and never thought that I could be asked to come "en femme" to a therapy session...

Your sharing of experiences has been extremely helpfull in making me see various aspects of this subject.

I will tell you how I reacted if the therapist asks me to come dressed "en femme"...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Soulless&Shallow]

Thanks for this very interesting thread.

I'm considering seeing a therapist and never thought that I could be asked to come "en femme" to a therapy session...

Your sharing of experiences has been extremely helpfull in making me see various aspects of this subject.

I will tell you how I reacted if the therapist asks me to come dressed "en femme"...

:hugs:
Eugenie

I'm pretty much in the same situation as you are, and it seems so many people here are more experienced in a great many things. I decided to ask, to help me with picking a therapist and what might be asked of me when I do.

Everybody so far have given great answers and offered a lot of insight on the subject. Thanks for your input everybody.

[susancheerleader]

I've never been to a therapist. I probably should though! :heehee:

[Maggie Kay]

I go en femme 24/7 but when I go to sessions, I doll up just a bit more. Let my hair down, lipstick, nicer clothes etc. After all, sessions are the only place I can go to be fully me and say whatever I want to an impartial listener. He uses Rogerian methods so he will rephrase my comments and state them back. It is supposed to bring more stuff out but for me it serves to externalize my thoughts and to hear them from someone else I can understand them better.