In need of some advice

[AmberTS]

Ok, I know others have more than likely asked for the same type of advice I am going to ask but every question has a unique answer.

I moved back in with my mother due to her being Ill. I figured family was more important than self so i dropped my life and came here. Now when I was 18 she caught me in panties and I told her that I like to wear them. At the time she asked me if i was gay and I told her that No, i infact LOVE women. Years have passed sense then and she knows I still wear panties.

What she doesn't know is that i wear bras and pantyhose and stockings and a skirt. She also doesnt know that I want to wear more than just what Ive got. She doesnt know that I would ideally like to dress totally en femme when in the house (I couldnt dream of going out en femme as I do not pass by any standards nor would it be a good idea living in a small intollerant town.)

I cant for the life of me figure out how to tell her. The problem is compounded by the fact that my grandmother is going to be moving here in the next six months because her health is in decline and I will be needed to take care of her as well.

Is there any ideal way for me to tell her that I want to dress as a female? I know that when the grandmother moves in I will have to totally hide it but I would like the mother to know because I feel its important to be honest with her.

So yeah, Any advice would be helpful.

[Amy Hepker]

Be Honest and up front about it. Your mother probably knows anyway. She can only say no. I told my mother and it was not so bad. She said she figured I did anyway.

[raleighbelle]

Personally, I think the best bet is to try to just sit down with her and tell her, especially since she already knows part of it. However, if she is not real excited about it, I would respect that and not wear the clothes around the house, especially when your grandmother is there. Having said that, she may be fine with it, in which case, wouldn't that be fantastic?

Since she is already familiar with your panty interests, I don't think it should be so hard to discuss the rest. Certainly won't be a big shock like if the whole thing was new to her.

Then again, if they are both in poor health and you have to take care of both of them, perhaps you should get one of those old fashioned nurses uniforms! (sorry if that was in poor taste).

[sara-jean]

i think moms are pretty good at understanding their kids better than anyone.i`m sure she`ll be fine with it and could help with grandma.

[teresa jeen]

first off "back when you were 18" was how long ago? panties are a different thing compared to all of you.would it be better to tell mom or not? as for grandmom, shes got an image of her grandson that cannot be tampered with. if it takes being that man than i think i would go with that. our time is short, just last jan. i buried my dad. do you think he felt any different knowing i had on hose and panties? just like when we were younger, let them know only a little and hope they dont find out the rest.

[Eva Marie]

Mothers train us so well. Then we move through life with all sorts of guilt complex or however we wish to label these emotions. But, if you had instead been a genetic daughter, how would you handle the present dilema? If a daughter is how you wish to present (and you really do have to do this act correctly, don't you), then frame your response accordingly. Learn first-hand about the "mother-daughter" conflict issues. It's all part of life. Good luck.

[Cherry Lynn]

I told my mom several months ago when I was going thru a divorce and my ex was threatening to expose me. She just smiled and when I showed her a pic of me she said I made a pretty woman. Like the others say moms know more than you think and most accept their children no matter what they do. I have since dressed for my mom and she complimented me again and that really made me feel good.

[AmberTS]

first off "back when you were 18" was how long ago?

Im 26 now... though I look younger most say. Id love to wear more womens clothing as I really like skirts and dresses and silk shirts.

I guess im a lil afraid she will again think I am gay. I know shes got no problems with gays or crossdressers but thats when they are not her son. Im still unsure how to even bring it up to her that I crossdress and would love to fill out my wardrobe.

[brandie]

i am sorry for for what you are going thought but it is best to not let on what is going on in your life it might hurt more then you could ever think.

brandie

[Angie G]

I'm sure your mom loves you and it won't matter to her so just have a good talk and let her know how you feel and way won't your Grandmother except your dressing If she loves you I think she may :hugs:
Angie

[Christine Kelly]

It seems to me that you are doing quite a bit of nursing for someone so young. And the fact that you 'gave up your own life' for this makes me think that perhaps your mother and your grandmother AND your family could cut you a little slack and let you dress. Perhaps a nurses uniform to start?

Just a sincere suggestion.