What do you all think about this?

[Darlene.]

Hi all,

This thread is an inspiration from another thread entitled change. Having read the responses there I was led to ponder the question:
Is cross-dressing (for some of us) a means or an attempt to be able to love ones self?

There are some things stated there that the author would like to see changed, that makes me wonder why they would not like to see that changed as they are? Why would it be necessary to change them should they become a woman and not as important as a man?

As for me cross-dressing has enabled me to love myself better, both as a man and when I am in fem, and I have no desire to change anything about the way I look.

I know we are all different. What do you all think about this?

[Melissa A.]

Agree, Darlene.

The whole me is she and he. I'm happy being both, and wouldn't change a thing.

Well, maybe if I could look like me at 26... maybe.

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[Marianne]

I'd say no, I don't need to crossdress to 'love myself'.

Regardless of whether I'm wearing jeans and a t-shirt, a three-piece italian silk suit, a leather mini-skirt and black halter top, a frilly dress or lingerie 'to die for', I'm the same person.

Now, if the questions was "Do I cross-dress to express myself?" then the answer would be a definite yes. While my innate intelligence, wry sense of humor, masterful command of the English language, comprehensive knowledge of a vast array of subjects, instinctual perfection of spatial awareness, incredible empathy and above all, my sheer unbridled humility remains the same, I do think, react and behave somewhat differently when dressed en femme. :)

Why? Because I can. Communication is very different in the two 'modes', but the inner feelings are the same.

[Sigrid]

While my innate intelligence, wry sense of humor, masterful command of the English language, comprehensive knowledge of a vast array of subjects, instinctual perfection of spatial awareness, incredible empathy and above all, my sheer unbridled humility remains the same, I do think, react and behave somewhat differently when dressed en femme.



Well said Marianne, but it's your modesty which I love about you most. :)

~Sigrid

[Julie York]

While my innate intelligence, wry sense of humor, masterful command of the English language, comprehensive knowledge of a vast array of subjects, instinctual perfection of spatial awareness, incredible empathy and above all, my sheer unbridled humility remains the same,.

Hey! You stole my CV!!



I don't need to cross dress to love myself. In fact I love myself better when I don't.

[Marianne]

Well said Marianne, but it's your modesty which I love about you most. :)

~Sigrid

I'm too modest to mention it tho! :o

[Marianne]

Hey! You stole my CV!!


Nu uh, I'm older, you stole it from me.

I think yours has the part about 'leaps tall buildings in a single bound' tho! :)

[Brandy_Marie]

There are some things stated there that the author would like to see changed, that makes me wonder why they would not like to see that changed as they are? Why would it be necessary to change them should they become a woman and not as important as a man?Hmm, well, see the thing is on the other thread I posted about wanting to change my hair. I still have the same problem with my hair as a male; it's just that I have a different solution to the problem. I keep it short enough that it doesn't get a chance to curl.

I'd imagine all of us have things we'd like to change about ourselves, no matter what the circumstances. None of us are perfect. Even if SOME of us would like others to think so. ;)

Love,

Brandy Marie Devereaux

[ChristineRenee]

I think for me it was more about the journey of finding out who I was. I spent so many years trying to figure out exactly who and what I was, and why I crossdressed and why I felt the need to do so. Once I discovered that, it helped me to fully realize the total person that I was inside. The actual NEED for crossdressing then...and notice that I did say need and not desire...it's necessity, that is, has become somewhat lessened. I know that I don't HAVE to do it to feel like Chrissie...yes it certainly helps to color in the picture, so to speak, but she is always there inside and a major part of me. To be able to dress is the icing on the cake for me.

Love,
Chrissie:)

[arula]

I think for me it was more about the journey of finding out who I was. I spent so many years trying to figure out exactly who and what I was, and why I crossdressed and why I felt the need to do so. Once I discovered that, it helped me to fully realize the total person that I was inside. The actual NEED for crossdressing then...and notice that I did say need and not desire...it's necessity, that is, has become somewhat lessened. I know that I don't HAVE to do it to feel like Chrissie...yes it certainly helps to color in the picture, so to speak, but she is always there inside and a major part of me. To be able to dress is the icing on the cake for me.

Love,
Chrissie:)

Ditto ChristineRenee, When I look in the mirror, I feel Arula asking to come out. Past life? Spirit world? This is sooooo exciting!!!!! XOX Arula