R U the same personality, male and female?

[docrobbysherry]

What I'm getting at is your personality. Many TS and TG individuals live as females full time. And many of u have been dressing and going out for many years. Most of u probably have only one personality.

But, what about those of u who dress only occasionally, and rarely or never, go out? Or anyone, when they dress?

I still feel like myself, (a very excited self), when I become Sherry. However, when I look at her pics, I see a sexy lady who is VERY different from Robert!
Sherry is conceited and self centered. She's an exhibitionist that thinks she's all that! Of course she's also a ****, with Robert. But so is Robert. Most men r. No difference there.
Robert tends to be shy and careless and insecure about his looks. He doesn't like showing off, or folks that do. Very different from Sherry. A GG just left a message on my/Sherry's web page. She said she was "intimidated" by Sherry! Well, I am, too! I still have a problem with the idea that Sherry is me!

Does anyone else experience a noticable personality change when u dress? Or am I just going schitzo? Help please?
RS

[Aeslyn]

Giddy as a school girl, hun.
Not just when dressed though. I do have some days, while dressed in plain male attire, that I still feel like a girl.
I act very different in some ways. Will is more serious and Aeslyn just likes to have fun. Will has a very imposing... well, character in general. A commanding presence. While Aeslyn is the shy yet smiley happy girl. She sits in the corner, but is always having a good time.
Geee, in writing this I realized for the first time how hard aeslyn is to describe.
Basically, Will is used to being in charge cause others just seem to follow and Aeslyn is just used to being.

[Niya W]

male side is the tame shy version of niya less happy

[Marvina Martian]

I'm pretty much the same person in either mode. It's easier that way!

[Dee Jay]

When I'm dressed, I'm the same person, just a lot calmer and more relaxed. Mannerisms, attitudes etc., stay the same.
What suprises me is in drab mode my clothing is very bland and boring, but my girly collection is much more varied.
In drab mode, I'll wear the first T-shirt and jeans that I find.
in girly mode, I'll take ages deciding what to wear. "Does this top go with this skirt?"... in drab mode I'll just throw anything on and not worry :)

DJ

[Kate Simmons]

Now I am. Years ago, when I was Heather, I was a girly shrinking violet type. Rich has always been an easy going mellow guy. When I came "out" as Victoria, I became sort of a prima donna and somewhat self centered. I didn't like that too much, so I became Ericka who was a no nonsense tomboy. Basically what I have done is combine the best aspects of Ericka and Rich as Salandra and am always the same now personality wise no matter which mode I present in. This keeps me out of a lot of trouble from both ends of the spectrum and keeps things simpler.:happy:

[Emma England]

I have the same personality, just more beautiful as a female.

[Dalece]

Pretty much the same in both modes. I'm still more femine in Dalece than in Dale. but still feel the woman inside me. I look better as a female than a man and have a lot of people compare my male pictures and say yech at the same time in dressed and out and they all say stay a girl.

[trannie T]

As a male I'm a sociopathic lout. As a woman I'm a sociopathic bitch.
Seriously I'm basically the same person, but I smile a lot more as a woman.

[Vicky_Scot]

When I am vicky I am more relaxed and at ease with life.

Xx Vicky xX

[Princess29]

I really dont change that much, if at all when I dress as Melissa as far as my personality goes. I am really not the least bit feminine but not overly manly either. I think that's why some people are surprised (those who have known me a while) when I tell them about Melissa

[Mary Jane]

I am the same in either mode. I am just me.I wish my wife could understand that. No matter what I look like or how I am dressed, I am still ME!!!!

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Both sides are starting to emerge and blend in during male and femme modes. Male mode I'm usually very conservative, boring, nerdy, geeky, clumsy, penny pinching ( I might buy a new shirt once a year for male mode). Femme mode more outgoing, high maintenance, whiny, loves to spend money and buy stuff.

Both do have some similarities, both sides are messy (my bedroom is littered with hose, bras, shoes etc. Both sides are also lazy (neither side likes doing house work or cooking). Both sides are not fond of chick flicks, although musical taste are different. Femme side does care more about health, and facial care and overall appearance.

[KimberlyS]

Per my wife, basically my personality, motions, jesters, how act and move are mostly the same. Currently in male mode I am more conservative and stuffy. But in femme mode I am more fun and more out going like I use to be, before life beat me up and down.

And I agree with my wife. I think maybe part of what has drawn my femme self out more is that my femme presentation of myself allows who I use to be, and still am within, to come out. A more fun and relaxed me not beat up by life.

KimberlyS - joe

[Deborah Jane]

Debs side is nicer!!:happy: Dunno what else to say.

[darla_g]

since I'm pretty closeted at the moment I can't say anything about personal interactions, but I would imagine that I would be outgoing and friendly, but not forward or trying to draw attention to myself.

as for personal traits I can say my femme side has some big improvements. I become much more interested in appearance and grooming (not saying I'm a slob or anything normally ) but clothes and whether I've shaved perfectly enough is not what my male persona is all about. I think if anything I want my overall persona to just be that I a am a team player, supportive and competent. Its just that my femme side has more style! I noticed in the winter mostly while I am dressing it does have a positive impact on my male side. See it's all good!!

[VtVicky]

From my own perspective, since I don't go out dressed and get any feedback from others, I don't see any change. I feel like the same guy. I just like the feel and look of the clothes.

[jennydl]

From my own perspective, since I don't go out dressed and get any feedback from others, I don't see any change. I feel like the same guy. I just like the feel and look of the clothes.

This describes how I feel about it
jenny

[Eva Marie]

Interesting question and not as simple as it first appears. It causes me to wonder, "which is the more genuine me; the femme (illusion) or the masculine (reality)?". Because in the masculine mode I've had to assume, even force, an appearance commensuate with my position. I've had to be an assertive leader when I might have preferred to be a reluctant follower. It was a "sink or swim" situation; either fit the mold or else. Conversely, "en femme" I tend to mentally relax, at least somewhat, although the antennae remain raised. I'm less confrontational and avoid anything that looks like potential conflict. And I do some fairly "blond" maneuvers, like attempting wrong way on a one-way street during Diva Las Vegas. That being stated, however, I believe my personality essentially remains the same, but at the same time adjusts to the environment. I'll think more about this question.

[sami1952]

I feel like a female,i say around 60 % of the time,I guess that explains why i like to shop for women clothes when my so and i go sgopping.

[TaylorAB]

I smile more and am much more relaxed and happy en femme. In male mode, I tend to be more withdrawn.

[Angie G]

I think my personality is a bit softer as Angie :hugs:
Angie

[SweetCaroline]

Pretty much the same person in either mode.

I like to think of the relation between Pete and Caroline as I would think of the relation between Ice and Water. Two totally different properties, yet they are the exact same element. You can't swim in ice anymore than you can skate on water, yet if you examine them closely, you'll find out they are the exact same thing. The difference is not the element, but the outside conditions.

In other words, Pete and Caroline are as different from one another as water and ice are. Think about it.

[Oddlee]

Since I haven't really chosen a femme name (Lee has been used on/by both genders), I am tempted to say that Lee is (selected set of descriptors), while Lee is (second set), without admitting which was which. However, I really don't think I change personality with clothing. I asked the one friend with whom I've spent time in both modes. Her only comment was that I walk differently (it's the heels).

Lee

[Nicole Erin]

I tend to act a little different if I do not know a person.
The male is kind of goofy, but Erin is kind of prissy. Not horribly...

If it is with old friends or whatever, then it is the same. ALTHO I don't act as goofy, I don't make as dumb a jokes en femme.

[charlie]

Aside from standing straighter, walking differently and keeping my legs together, the personality is exactly the same when I am out in public. At home in front of the mirror, the fem Charlie is sexier, and more vain. Perhaps you should get out more Sherry!

[Who am I?]

My personalities are different. Zack is usually an ass who dosen't mean what he says but says it anyway. Eria is caring and pretty out-there and will stop and look at people as people.

[Rachel Morley]

I'm pretty much the same all the time. I tend to be kinda quiet, people tell me I am slightly softly spoken and my mannerisms are decided "gay" in boy mode! :eek:

[Pamela Julie]

After fifty years of dressing, I have only one personality in Pamela and that other guy. The Pamela personality is my only personality, no mpd here.:happy:

[Chari]

Basically, I think my personality is the same regardless of the packaging. However, my SO tells me her "girlfriend" is more relaxed, happier, friendly, caring, looks better, and smiles more in femme mode. I'll keep working to be the best of both sides!

Hugs, Chari

[Merry]

Sherry, everybody need some relax, for example, some people like listen music, some people like dance, some people like sing, some people like draw.....etc, your are like dress, these are same, so don't worry:hugs:

[KeriB]

I do adopt more "feminine" mannerisms as Selene, including being much more relaxed and less stressed about things. Again,m because of this, I do feel more creative in my writing, photography, etc... and to echo the point someone else made, I hate my drab clothes - they are boring hehe and I don't like shopping for clothes too much. But shopping for Selene? Exciting definitely! Just got a new pair of boots and a pink turtleneck this morning! I would be curious to see how I felt over a long term dressing, or if I were to do it full-time for a bit....

[kimmy p]

Yup, same person. I simply get to wear clothes I like better while femmy.

[Eugenie]

I like to think that I have a different personality when I'm dressed "en femme" than when I'm in Drab.

However several times some women friends told me that I reacted more like a woman than like a man. And they didn't know that I was x-dressing...

I feel a lot calmer when "en femme" being dressed "en femme" has the opposite effect on my personality compared to driving a car... I become more aggressive... I mention this to show that the "external enveloppe" has a effect on how we feel...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Nancy Richards]

I believe that I take on a complete different personality when I dress up. But then is what I see from inside. Outside someone else would have to answer that.
Nancy

[Kales]

Hmm.. well, my strengths and passions remain the same between the two. Computers, art, cooking, cycling, movies, friends, etc (not in any order..). However I hide a lot about myself normally which I like to think I express (abit still by myself / computer..) more openly and truthfully when I am Kales :).

My favorite colour is pink. Such a simple statement yet I've never spoken it to anyone! Ha..

I still hide too many silly things that really make little sense to me these days ;).

[Angela Burke]

I'm pretty much the same whether I'm dressed or not. I don't put on any kind of act, that would look rediculous. The only differences are natural ones i.e. I sit differently in a skirt than in trousers and walk differently in high heels than in trainers.

[Danielle Hyatt]

I have a husband and we have three sons:eek:

[Linda C]

I think that I am the same or would be - I have never communicated with anyone else while dressed other than being on the phone - although I would like to at some point. I think that I would have to be the same - but maybe practice to try to be a little more feminine as not to freak anyone out . .

[DanaR]

When I'm dressed, I'm the same person, just a lot calmer and more relaxed. Mannerisms, attitudes etc., stay the same.
What suprises me is in drab mode my clothing is very bland and boring, but my girly collection is much more varied.
In drab mode, I'll wear the first T-shirt and jeans that I find.
in girly mode, I'll take ages deciding what to wear. "Does this top go with this skirt?"... in drab mode I'll just throw anything on and not worry :)

DJ

I'm this way too. In drab, I really don't care what I look like, as a girl I do.

[PameeSue]

I like this question, and respect all the answers given, such honesty! So it all gave me some courage to answer this one myself.
I gotta try to keep this short..
When in drab, he spends too much time in analytic mode!
I, on the other hand, am much more out-going, active, aware, forgiving,
sympathetic, empathetic and many other surpressed qualities.....notwithstanding the 'hot' flashes!! (so, he thinks that I am not all good! <giggles>)...whispering...he's a bit of a prude!
His guard is up all the time, and does not know how to have a good time.
He used to surpress me so much....now, I'm in charge! I'm not bitchy tho', but dont get me started....
It took a very long time before he realised he needed to relinguish control!
Now, I'm dressed all the time at home, but he goes out in drab to keep up the
pretences, 'sept for fem undies, he adores me for allowing him those secret
pleasures.....
He used to resent and feel guilty about my time, now its a healthy balance.
...I win, and he's OK with it.
I love the sway and feminine cockyness I have aquired.
He would not have responded to this forum.
I'm still bubbling to the surface.
Now he knows what it takes to get my nails to look good. He didnt care too much before, now he appreciates me better. I love the part of him that made the decision to let me out.
I have better posture, eat better foods and I look after his body better than he did!
I have much much better fashion sense, although I still have to send him out in drab to buy it.
He still controls the purse strings!
But I'm working on it......look out when I get that one tucked into my big girl
panties!

Suzie

p.s. Sherry....If you are going...r gone schitzo...learn to luv it hun!:love:



...somewhere down the crazy river.....

[Celeste]

I am so different when en femme my post even come out reflecting it.It took some getting used to.I would read a post a few days later and think,"I WROTE THAT".I just needed to get a grip on the fact that it was a different part of me responding.I feel different right to my inner core when dressed,its that very difference I see and feel in myself that keeps it fun and interesting.I want to keep it that way so that every time I come back to being femme,there will be something pleasant and new I've learned about myself.

[Bravesoul]

My personality is the same, but I feel much different on the inside, and I do different things when dressed. (nails, lotion, makeup).. I love the feeling

[Mary Jane1]

Not so much a different personality as a different perspective. Maybe you're looking as a woman with womens attitudes and feelings (as much as is possible).
I know when I'm dressed my best I feel livelier, more spontaneous and bubbly. Also softer, accepting and pretty. But that's not personality.

One thing I do find a little scary. I've been enhancing my breasts through natural means for over a year now with significant results. I took some pictures of them recently and when looking at them later on my computer got excited. I had to conciously remind myself it was just me. Novelty thing, I guess.

[DawnRodgers]

Definitely two different personalities.
My male self is independent, tends to sarcasm, always has to win, argumentative, hates to dress up - kind of typical male.
My feminine self is quiet and sweet, prefers to let a man take the lead, always wiling to compromise, loves to dress completely, feminine - makeup, skirt, blouse, shoes. A completely different personality and mind set. Kind of typical female.
Dawn

[jennifer41356]

I am more cheerful and outgoing as a girl than as a guy:love:

[KandisTX]

Kandis tends to be a whole lot more sensitive than my male side. Then again, we have determined that Kandis is my submissive side and ***** is my dominant side. So, I would say yes there is a differance in personalities.

Kandis:love:

[Nigella]

I recently had cause to take a step back and take a long look at myself.

I was asked to list the traits of both Nigel and Nigella, both good and bad. Well I have never been to good at doing that sort of thing. It did make me realise one thing. Although there are two names above, it is still the one person. Both of them make the whole, some traits are stronger than others, depending upon the situation, but for all that all I can say is I am me.

[RobertaFermina]

I'm beginning to feel that I'm not the same guy, if I don't spend some time as Roberta every now and then. I've been getting those impatient, macho, know-it-all impulses more and more......Goddess Help Me !!

:rose: Mr. Hyde? :rose:

[DanaR]

I'm pretty much the same too.

[Katie Ashe]

I would have to say no I'm not the same person.

My male side is a serious perfectionist, bitter, angery, isolated, rebelous, DTA, always did what is expected

My Female side is more understanding, more tolerant of others BS, loving, open but cautious, at peace with oneself, more independant

I don't even like the same things. I'm not skizto or anything, but when presented and raised as male by close minded people, your expected to do and act a certain way at all times, every day is a pretend to survive. As an adult I couldn't take the pretending anymore and put my foot down, more like into a paper shredder :rolleyes:, but I can be myself and act natural, what ever that may be. I'm trying new thing, going places and doing things I never thought I could. I hope this answers your Q. :hugs:

[Lidia_tv]

Basically the same, but with a different prefix, and perhaps a bit more mellow as a female

[dakota_ann69]

I haven't really taken the time to notice a change. I feel that I am the same person whether Dakota or my drab self. I still look in the mirror and wonder who the freak is with all the makeup on?

[Carrie]

I'm a GG - here is my observation about My Girl: My Girl does have a different personality when she's femme. I can tell just over the phone. In girl mode she is happier, funnier, talks more, worries less and is more open. In boy mode, much of the time she is uptight, worries more, is guarded and moody. My Girl is a female impersonator (drag queen) so maybe that makes a difference. She says that her girl side balances her boy side – I believe that. I couldn’t imagine her any other way!

~C

[Jenny_J]

James - Logical, left brained, thinks like a computer kind of guy. Not exactly Mr. Optimist either. Could care less about clothes. No fashion sense whatsoever. Does loves a good barbecue or steak house. :D

Jenny - Definately the intuitive, sensual side. Wants to explore the world around her, trying many different things. Loves pastel pink with a passion but enjoys other pastel colors. Sensitive and caring and nurturing. Imaginative. Beautiful inside and out.

Both however are present at the same time to one degree or another.

[Jennaie]

I'd like to say yes, but my friends say no.

[Bobbie Jo]

A couple of weeks ago i thought it was time to tell my friend that lives 2000 miles away from me that I was a crossdresser. I broke the news to him, he laughed and then we talked and he accepted me. Well he told his wife who i've met and she wanted to see me. Well I got dresses one night and got on the computer. We both have web cams , and my buddy wanted to see me ,it was no problem. Then he called his wife in, to my surprise she kicked him out of the room and we sat there an talked for about 2 hours. We talked about all kinds of girl stuff and she's even going to send me some clothes. We became real close that night and she's a real good girl friend. My friends are over 20 years younger than I am and i'm really surprised that they excepted me so fast. I do think i'm different when dressed and I love talking to other girls about girl stuff.

[jennCD]

I guess I'm just me no matter how I dress...
in drab I'm not the most masculine guy around and in drag well, I'm not really as femme as I'd like to be.
As long as my twisted sense of humor doesn't change, I think I'll be ok.

:)
jenn

[victoriamwilliams1]

I think I am different.

[Billie Jean]

With the exception that I become an insatiable nymphomainac and have no one to seduce. LOL Billie Jean

[annekathleen]

I've never tried to figure out if I'm the same personality as a male and as a female.
I know I have a different side of me as a male. ( I have a part of my male personality that explores my bi curiosities )

The personality that I have as a female? Is really unknown.
I never share that side of me with anyone else.
My female side is spent in solitude.:daydreaming: