the femm side of me
02-01-2008, 08:30 AM
I dress for fun and for a sexual rush. I do get turned on, actually very turned on by dressing. After dressing and having sex while dressed I feel relaxed. It is a totally different feeling than after having sex in male mode. I will try to explain.
My wife and I struggled with it for years and it was not until the last year, that my wife insisted that I quit trying to hide it because it was interfering with our relationship.
At first she hated it and feared she would leave. I thought it was because she didn’t like it but I found out later that it was because she hated the way I acted when I was hiding the dressing. When I was not up front with it even to myself I was a jerk! I should point out that during the peek of my love/hate relationship I had with my self I used alcohol to escape the shame. I am sure you all know who bad that can get.
At my wife’s insistence we took it very very slow I started dressing in front of her. At first it was hard and I felt like I was hurting her. Over time she told me that it was not so bad and as a matter of fact when I dressed I seemed happier and more at peace. This had a positive effect on our over all relationship.
I have become happier, more understanding as a lover, and more accepting of myself. I have lost that love/hate relationship with myself that I had. I don’t drink nearly as much or as often and that is a good thing. .
My wife has seen me dressed and has gone shopping with me and for me. I have my own clothes and makeup. We have been slowly accepting that dressing is going to be a part of our life however she insists that it not going to control our life like it was.
So they rush I get has lots of parts to it. I love the lingerie, and make up and skirts and blouses. But mostly I get a rush because I no longer hide the desire to dress. Having it out now makes sex better and over all it makes me a better person.
Last week my wife told me that if she could have a wish she would wish that people men and women could dress anywhere anytime anyway they choose with out reticule. We were at the casino at the time. I said to her are you saying you would like to see me dressed here. Her reply was yes “it’s too bad you can’t wear your skit and heels because you would enjoy it and I want to see you happy”.
I wonder how many other wives feel that way?
My wife and I struggled with it for years and it was not until the last year, that my wife insisted that I quit trying to hide it because it was interfering with our relationship.
At first she hated it and feared she would leave. I thought it was because she didn’t like it but I found out later that it was because she hated the way I acted when I was hiding the dressing. When I was not up front with it even to myself I was a jerk! I should point out that during the peek of my love/hate relationship I had with my self I used alcohol to escape the shame. I am sure you all know who bad that can get.
At my wife’s insistence we took it very very slow I started dressing in front of her. At first it was hard and I felt like I was hurting her. Over time she told me that it was not so bad and as a matter of fact when I dressed I seemed happier and more at peace. This had a positive effect on our over all relationship.
I have become happier, more understanding as a lover, and more accepting of myself. I have lost that love/hate relationship with myself that I had. I don’t drink nearly as much or as often and that is a good thing. .
My wife has seen me dressed and has gone shopping with me and for me. I have my own clothes and makeup. We have been slowly accepting that dressing is going to be a part of our life however she insists that it not going to control our life like it was.
So they rush I get has lots of parts to it. I love the lingerie, and make up and skirts and blouses. But mostly I get a rush because I no longer hide the desire to dress. Having it out now makes sex better and over all it makes me a better person.
Last week my wife told me that if she could have a wish she would wish that people men and women could dress anywhere anytime anyway they choose with out reticule. We were at the casino at the time. I said to her are you saying you would like to see me dressed here. Her reply was yes “it’s too bad you can’t wear your skit and heels because you would enjoy it and I want to see you happy”.
I wonder how many other wives feel that way?