half a crossdresser?

[stephaniex]

This is my first post, I seem to like some parts of cross-dressing, but not others. I enjoy it and I embrace it, but I seem to be somewhat different than others. I wondered if there are others like me, or if anyone can shed some light on my situation.

For example, I have no body-hair, I've done lazer treatments and have removed 100%. I like smooth skin, I wear women's panties exclusively, mostly thongs. Around the house I like to wear skirts, I use women's deodorant. BUT, I have very short hair, I have no interest in make-up, or actually appearing as a woman, I don't want fake breasts, I don't want to wear high-heels, or blouses. I like to have muscles, I don't want to slim down. In a perfect world I think I would like to appear to be a man, but be able to wear skirts.

This all started late in life, nothing happened in my childhood, it's possible I'm in denial, but I really don't feel that I am. My GF is totally okay with it, she enjoys my skirts, etc. It seems that I just enjoy the aesthetic or sensibility of it, more than any desire to appear as a woman.

Any comments? Thank you.

[Wickanne GG]

You are a cross-dresser, not half a cross-dresser.

By definition:
wear clothes of opposite sex: to wear clothes usually worn by somebody of the opposite sex

Many of the GGs I know do not have any issues with this.

The other characteristics you are referring to are “feminization”.

By definition:
1. make something suitable for women: to give somebody or something characteristics considered suitable for women
2. make somebody conventionally like woman: to make somebody behave in ways conventionally associated with women ( often passive )
3. medicine make male develop female sexual characteristics: to cause a man to develop secondary female sexual characteristics as a result of a hormone imbalance

Many of the GGs I know do have issues with this.

Just do what is right for you.

:love:
Wickanne

[CamillaCD]

So you are a bit more minimalistic than many here. In my book you still are a whole crossdresser. And a happy one too it seems. I wish I had a GF like yours.

Sometimes I too just put on a skirt to get the feeling of the air around my feet. I think it is great that there are so many ways to enjoy wearing clothes of the opposite sex. It would be boring if everybody did exactly the same thing.

[Nicole Erin]

People CD at all levels.

Being CD is something in your mind and heart, it is not about how much femme stuff you wear. I mean if a guy is dressed like a woman but is doing it for reasons like exhibition, then he is not really CD if he doesn't "feel" it.
There is no set standard for how much you have to wear or do to be CD.
Some people THINK there is, but one has to decide for onesself if they feel they are CD or not.

[stephaniex]

thanks,

the comments are helpful ...

Maybe it's easier just to consider myself a crossdresser, it doesn't matter to what degree, or exactly what I like to do compared to what others like to do.

[Nicki B]

Stephanie, don't measure yourself against others - just find your own level of comfort? :)

[kay2]

Hi Stephanie,
Sounds like your preferences are not that different than mine. I don't worry much about the titles. Some friends call me a crossdresser - some don't. My feeling is that the title others apply to me says more about where they are than where I am. Some say I'm a crossdresser if I am wearing a skirt, and everything else is drab. Some say I'm not a crossdresser when I have on a skirt, maryjanes, and have my nails painted pink. (This pretty much describes the range of my tastes - no wigs, makeup, forms, heels.)

There is a term, fashion freedom (FF). That is the title I like. When people ask me if I'm wearing women's clothes, I usually say "No, I'm wearing my clothes." Of course there are those that do enjoy full presentation as a woman, and CD is something they feel accurately describes them.

Welcome to the forum.

[Angie G]

Your level of dressing works for you and that's great. if that's all it take to make you happy go with it hun it's cool :hugs:
Angie

[SweetCaroline]

I agree with the others. You are what you are. All points of Cross-dressing/ Trans, have their stop points. And none are any better than others.

If you found happiness where you are right now, and feel like staying there, by all means, stay there. Tis a good place. :thumbsup:

Just don't forget there are other places along the road. They may be better or worse, but if they are for you, and you feel the need to seek them out, than know they are there for you.

[trannie T]

You asked if you were different from the rest of us; Of course you are. Nobody fits into a specific behavior pattern. We are all unique individuals with our individual needs and desires.

[teresa jeen]

it seems you dont want to wear anything female but want the attention that they get when in these outfits?!whats going on with that? i dont wanna do this i dont wanna do that ???

[Bravesoul]

I am much like you as well. I do not wear wigs on makeup, but I do wear panties and nylons all the time. I know I would make one ugly woman and have no desire to try and get there.

I say, if your happy with what you are doing, go for it. I like what I do, and my wife fully supports me, and what a way to live.:2c:


One the other hand, I sometime envy some of the gurls here cause they look so good. I, on the other hand, was hit with an ugly stick.:eek:

Be true to yourself.

But having said all that, this is a great place to hang out. Some great people here.

[sterling12]

There's a great big spectrum out there that includes most everybody. Since we all seem to have different definitions for what constitutes each sub-category, let's just call it the very wide spectrum for "Trans people."

The beautiful thing for you is that you will fit wherever you want on that spectrum. For today, and for whatever kinds of changes you want to make for the rest of your life, you can evolve and move all over the place on that spectrum.

If you really desire a label, you go ahead and look at the ka-zillion articles out there that already exist. Just Google "Transgender Spectrum." You'll have lot's of choices to make your pick.

Good luck with it, and learn to accept whomever you are. It's the absolute best strategy.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[JenniferMBlack]

Not alone there. I also am more or a skirt and panties only cross dresser. well at least when I go out a little more at home some times but not a whole lot. But no wig no make up just shoes and nylons and on occasion a night gown. so don't feel alone out there.

[Janet Bern]

From the looks of most on here we are all pretty much level 4 CDers. Everyone has their own comfort zones. When you get bored with the skirts you may want to try a bra or stockings. Pretty much like the feel of the skirt should make you ask "Hmmm, I wonder what a slip feels like or stockings feel like. You are lucky you have a great gf. As long as she is cool with it she may even move you to the next level. Good luck
Janet

[Mia001]

Hi,

I don't bother with wigs or makeup either.but I do wear breast forms, skirts and some other bits that I do like.

It's entirely up to you. You shold just crossdress in whatever way you enjoy best and enkoy yorself.

Mark.

[Jolene]

I am so glad to know all of you are out there. These posts here describe many of my traits of crossdressing. The important thing for any of us is to do as we feel comfortable and be thankful for all the support we have here.
Jolene :)

[docrobbysherry]

I don't believe CDing is a static place. I think most of us r continually transitioning in our Quests.

I started CDing only about 8 years ago. Just with a bra, ladies shorts, and an odd pair of shoes. But gradually moved on to nylons, proper hi heels, under garments, etc. Culminating with Sherry, in my avatar, 2 years ago.
However, I am constantly experimenting with ways to improve, alter, and vary her(my) looks.

Do whatever makes u feel good or tintilated when CDing. BUT, don't expect your CDing level to stay the same forever. I don't think it will!
RS

[idashine]

I too have gone the laser hair route and enjoy the feelings of skin with no hair. And yes every day there is a different color of pantie under my work pants. Every three week I have a pedicure with new color and can look at what I think is the best part on me. But, it stop here because I am a man who will always look like a man. What does not make me a half of a crossdersser is my mind, it is always thinking of what I would feel like in a pair of high heels or in a bright sundress and jewelry placed on my body. So, their are others like you and we each makeup the world we live in.

[amber 07]

I agree with Ida. A little bit at a time and you'll never know where it will take you. Thank god for Goodwill and Salvo's.

[occdresser]

your a butch crossdresser!:devil:

[Amy Hepker]

Face it your addicted to being a crossdresser whether you like it or not. There are times when I would like as you say just put on a skirt and go out, but let's face it people would really look at you strange, hey guess what you are like the rest of us. Just not to the same extent. Don't worry it will grow on you.

[Eugenie]

Of course you are not alone... Every crossdresser person has her own way of behaving. Some want to look as much as a woman as possible while other crossdress while keeping a grown beard...

Variations in Crossdressing are infinite...

By the way, as an individual person, it is likely that the way you crossdress will also be variable through time.

I scarcely used makeup untill a few years ago... I didn't wear a wig either... I didn't even think about going out in public places untill three years ago...

There is an evolution in our crossdressing as we face new situations and meet new people.

Diversity and evolution go hand in hand...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[kay2]

Several have commented/implied that Stephanie's desires will increase over time to include wigs, make-up, ... Some of the comments, perhaps intended with humor, and certainly intended kindly, are of the form - don't worry, you'll be wearing wigs and forms soon enough.

We are a diverse lot, with varied and changing interests. I don't feel that I am on a journey to pass or to become more feminine. I'm very happy with where I am now; maybe it will change, and maybe it won't. What I get from this wonderful forum is support and acceptance to be me.

[Michaella]

Your point "In a perfect world I think I would like to appear to be a man, but be able to wear skirts" is more or less what I have felt for a long time. I don't like the artifice of having to "pass" in order to wear what I want. I like frilly blouses and skirts, nail polish and nylons, etc etc, but I wish I could just be myself wearing them. I often have looked for opportunities to stretch the boundaries of what a male can wear, wearing lace blouses, or nail polish, or high heels, even occassionally wearing a skirt, while presenting very obviously as male. It was rarely a problem, and very pleasant, but I had to be careful to not try to do too much at once, and to choose the time and place carefully, and I was still anxious about acceptance.

Having said that, in the last year or so I tried, for the first time, going out totally en femme and passing--successfully it seems--and they were very pleasant experiences. Oddly, what it did was give me full licence to wear anything I wanted, without the anxiety of whether people would accept it. That is, so long as I was perceived as a woman, I could wear the skirt, nylons, heels, and so forth, all at once. Passing actually gave me some freedom. But it still means I have to present as someone other than me, and that is its own limitation. Very frustrating, isn't it?

Michaella

[Carly D.]

I think you are a crossdresser as well, although a well adjusted crossdresser... I think you are more of a "now" woman type crossdresser.. a "now" woman, a woman of the new millennium, is a woman that doesn't wear pantyhose or high heels either.. a very disappointing turn of fashion direction if you ask me but that's my opinion... to each his or her own...

[KimberlyS]

I am just a joe in skirt here. I only wear make and wig for going out. And hope some day I do not have to do that either. I currently on a daily basis mix and match male and femme clothes yet always present my male self. There are a lot of androgenyous femme clothes one can wear.

[darla_g]

hey whatever you're into....