Is your preference set in stone?

[stayfrosty55]

A guy can like girls, a guy can like guys, a guy can like girls dresser like guys or even guys dressed as girls. Some guys will like girls and even CDs, but wont go anywhere near regular gay guy. Being so young and new my attractions, feelings, and preferences can still blow around with the wind, but I want to hear from the more experienced. I have read the thread about whether everyone is gay,bi, or straight, but I would like to ask the additional question if you ever think about it. Wouldn't you consider the change from male to female, whether simply putting on female clothes or going through observations as a pretty strong decision? If you went back far enough in your life would you ever think your life would turn out this way? And if that is so...could it possibly be that changing your sexual preference isn't as unyielding as possible? Let me hear all of your thoughts

[Wendy me]

i not realy shure of what your asking .....but as far as did i ever think i would be were i am in my cding looking back to my begininning .....?????????????not in a million years
would i have thought i would be were i am ....not that it's a bad thing.. i am realy enjoying were i am ....as far as a strong decision .... for me it was not a decision but
more of a part of who and what i am....i realy think choise had little or nouthing to do with that

[Nyx]

I have always wanted to be a girl. I'm just starting to enjoy what I wasn't allowed to enjoy as a kid... As for sexual orientation... I'm into girls, genetic girls, nothing else, and that isn't going to change.

[Priscilla1018]

Hi Frosty,

I would have never imagined that I would be at this place in my life,that I would be this old.I was voted most likely to get the chair before I turned 21 in my High School.Nothing is ever cast in stone.Life is what happens when you are planning something else.I would never have imagined that I would be married happily for 24 yers so far or that I would tell my wife about my crossdressing.Lord,I love that Lady.

Love and Hugs,
Priscilla

[Julie York]

Hi Frosty,
.I was voted most likely to get the chair before I turned 21 in my High School.Priscilla

So what went wrong? :D


Frosty. I don't think it is cast in stone but I do think that if you are given the opportunity to explore ideas and urges that you do end up where you genuinely started. If you have a 'thing' about trying bi ideas etc or whatever then try them in some chat room and before you know it you've scratched an itch and think.....hmm ok that was interesting. Now..where was I?

If you don't investigate your own nagging urges and see what they really are, they then become bigger than they really are simply because they are taboo. If you hold them up and have a good look at them, they take on a different meaning.

To overcome temptation....give in to it. And then it becomes boring, or comfortable, and you can move on.

[Holly]

Hi Frosty,

I have no recollection of a moment it time saying that I wanted to be a crossdresser when I grow up. Don't even recall ever waking up on morning and saying to myself, 'Ya know, I think I'll crossdress today." It was just something that I knew that I had (have) to do. I think it's mainly a conviction of followuing our hearts and doing what we know to be in our own best interest. Hope this answers your question.

[Keri_T]

Hmmm that's a deep question stayfrosty55.

Well, no, I consider myself fairly sure of my preference (hetro CD), but there are times when I review what kinky things I've done to myself for sexual pleasure and think "Hmmm...I wonder..."

So, to answer your question: Yes, 95% set in stone, with a 5% out there for the "you never know" arena.

[Priscilla1018]

So what went wrong? :D


Frosty. I don't think it is cast in stone but I do think that if you are given the opportunity to explore ideas and urges that you do end up where you genuinely started. If you have a 'thing' about trying bi ideas etc or whatever then try them in some chat room and before you know it you've scratched an itch and think.....hmm ok that was interesting. Now..where was I?

If you don't investigate your own nagging urges and see what they really are, they then become bigger than they really are simply because they are taboo. If you hold them up and have a good look at them, they take on a different meaning.

To overcome temptation....give in to it. And then it becomes boring, or comfortable, and you can move on.

The 70s,I got stoned and I missed it.

Love and Hugs,
Priscilla

[Sharon]

It's not a decision I ever made -- it's just who I am. Although I am relatively happy with the way I am, if I had my druthers I would never choose this type of life, never being quite sure of what I am or what my next move will be. Besides, it's expensive as hell dressing for two. :)

[Marianne]

My preferences are not 'set in stone', they simply are.

I have a liking for fine wine, yet I drink beer most of the time.

I like smoking a good quality handrolled cigar on warm summer evenings, yet when the weather is bad I'll stick to cheap little cigars that I can take a quick puff at before I freeze or roast.

I like fine dining, but I'm not about to partake of chateaubiand with wild mushrooms and truffles every day.

I've been married three times (and have the scars to prove it), I have had only a handful (pun intended!) of experiences with a man.

I'm 'old-fashioned', not in preference, but in what I'm looking for in a relationship. The qualities of openness, honesty, truthfullness ,commitment, compatiability, shared interests and shared 'growing' (which means I'm open to learning new things), those are not dependent upon the other persons birth gender, percieved gender or current genitalia.

In terms of 'visual', I'm more attracted to 'pretty' than I am to 'macho'.

But I put that pretty low on my list, if I find it, it would be a bonus, not a 'requirement'.

[stayfrosty55]

Let me try and make this easier. What I was trying to say earlier is that crossdressing wasn't exactly what everyone expected they were going to do right? Some of you will say that you always knew since your first experience it was who you were, but for most it still is a big deal. Have you ever had a sexual experience that made you realize the same thing? An experience that made you feel like it was meant to be and so is your preference?

[Keri_T]

Hmmmm...I'd have to say no. (lol, well not yet anyways...)

[Like2BAspen]

I gave up an opportunity to experience what you are talking about. It is something that I regret. Not taking the opportunity. If it ever comes again I will embrace it. You don't get to many opportunities to meet some one nice that gives you what you need

[Katie Ashe]

I agree with Sharon, I am whom I am. I didn't choose the life it chose me. I feel, I always like girls, but yet wanted to be like them, I thought they had the best of both MALE and FEMALE worlds. Would I change, nope. If I was a girl, I'd still like girls. Unless Sean Connery stopped in and I was a girl. Anyways hope this is kinda what you were looking for. :rolleyes:

Katie

[stayfrosty55]

haha yes katie, something like that. I was just moving away from the personal feelings one gets from a personal reflection to what you might feel after a very strong encounter. Did you ever maybe dance at a tg bar and just had some sort of strange man/woman that danced with you and although you never did anything more and you never saw them ever again, you still feel like there was something very powerful between you two? It doesn't have to be dancing, just something similar. An encounter in person with someone that isn't someone you are generally looking for but still gave you increadibly feelings.

[derminator]

Nothing is ever set in stone... unless it is fossilized!

[Romany Moon]

I've always crossdressed, and never doubted that it was the right thing for me to do. Still, I was always looking for that American Dream. I married, had children, divorced, watched the children grow, and now have the opportunity to be who I am.Now that I am completely honest with myself, I also can admit that I like men. After years of saying that those few man encounters were just "flings", I can admit to myself, and more importantly, to others, that they are what I prefer.

[ChristineRenee]

Hi Frosty,

I had to reread your post a couple of times and I'm still not sure I have deciphered it all correctly...but then I may be a little slow on the uptake. But I will try to give you my views on it as I understand it.

CD'ing was something that just happened to me...beginning at the age of 12...and not something that I planned or really thought about a great deal even. It has stayed with me ever since and eventually progressed into a TG level status. Did I know at the age of 12 that by the time I was well into my 50's I would be at this stage?...never! I have a very strong female persona inside of me that basically controls the overall person that I am. I would suggest to you that if I was a much younger person than I am now, I might even entertain thoughts of pursuing GRS, however, that is not a course of action which I now, or at any time in the future, plan to undertake.

As for sexual preferences being carved in stone, I have had no interest in the past in having sexual relations with men. As of this wrting I have not changed my feeling in that regard. I would admit to you that I have desires and fantasies with respect to role reversal and gender bending when it comes to women...and exclusively now, with my wife. I would love for my wife to be much more open-minded when it comes to sex play than she is now and has been in the past, but I respect her feelings and do not push the envelope in the bedroom with respect to that. I believe that is something that should be agreed upon mutually between you and your partner.

I hope that I have given you my opinion on your post that you were seeking.

Love,
Chrissie:)

[Sarah Roberts]

You pose a fantastic question and I believe that nothing is set in stone.
Everyday we see things and meet people that maybe in the past wasn't what we were looking for then but as we grow and mature our tastes for food,
our style and personalities change and what we look for in others change.

I love to look at women and be with women. Their soft skin and senual look is what makes me want to sometimes be a girl. Just to have the oppurtunity to feel like that is great.

As for my sexual preference, again it seems to change with my mood and situation that I am in at that moment. When I first got on to these TG sites I was amazed at how incredibly beautiful some of these girls were and was fantasing about being with them anad wanting to meet them. I appreciate what these girls do and how they look.
I'm not in to men on men relationships but I have thought of making love to a guy while dressed in womens cloths or if I am with a couple and the heat of the moment and the feeling of two beautiful people entangled between me really turns me on. I have never been in those situations but recently a situation has arised with another very attractive couple that wants me to join them for some fun. They want me to join as another man and then have also expressed the thought of me dressed as my female alter ego. I don't want any regrets in my life when I get older so I will pursue this. I am very nervous but the thought of us all together makes me really excited.

Frosty, pursue what ever feelings you have at that moment, just make sure that it is safe for you and the other and just let loose and enjoy. You are very young and this is the time in your life when you get out and have fun.

Best of luck
Rosaria

[stayfrosty55]

How does everyone think about my topic? Pretty good for a 18 year old? Or am I just full of myself :p

[connie rotten]

no it is laid in satin :o