I Came Out To My Younger Sister This Week-end

[melissacd]

As a part of this new journey that I have started I have within the past year sat down and had a chat with my mother about my cross dressing and she, while surprised, is loving a supportive. I later came out to one of my sisters and she was fine with it.

This past Saturday I spent the day with my youngest sister and told her the whole story. I was nervous and unsure of what to expect. As I related things to her she asked me if the reason for my marital breakdown was an affair and I said that that was not the cause. Then she asked if I was gay and I said that I had had some bi-sexual experiences but that I was not gay, at most I might be bi-sexual, she was cool with that. So finally I said to her that I was a male to female cross dresser and her response was..."Oh, is that all...I have no issue with that and I still love you as my brother and that that will never change." I was so relieved.

The rest of the day went very well. I showed her my place, I showed her my wardrobe, I showed her my pictures and she gave me advice on things that I could do to be more passable. She expressed jealousy over my wardrobe, says that she loves my sense of style and said that she would enjoy taking me out with me dressed en femme. I have to say that I was totally amazed at her level of acceptance and in fact her embracing of this side of me.

I still have to tell my older sister and I am not so sure that it will go as well as what just happened with my youngest sister. I also have to tackle telling my children and I want to do that soon.

All of this is part of the journey to understanding who Melissa really is, what role she plays in my life and the only way to truly come to terms with that is to introduce her to my family so that it is no longer that dark secret. I have found that I am able to relate to my mother and to the two sisters that I have come out to at a much deeper level than ever before in my life and it is a good feeling. I have built such an emotional wall around myself all these years that I realize that it has made relating to people a challenge and the more I connect with this part of me and truly understand her the better I feel I will be able to be in this world.

It is a tough road to travel, but a necessary one.

Huggs
Melissa

[Kerrie Sifton]

Bold start Melissa, with luck both sisters and your mom will help you along on this journey. And too all the best with your children. Big steps.. and in heels it can be a bit wobbly at times... Kerrie

[lovelingerie6]

i have a older sister that worked a vs when she was in college, it was great anything i wanted i got and she used her employee discount so i have a bunch of lingerie from there

[Emily Ann Brown]

As one of your "old" sisters I am so happy for you dear. I remember how miserable you were way back when (come to think of it we both were).

Emily Ann

[Nicole Erin]

My older sis knows. We don't really talk much about it, and I don't know how she feels even tho she said it is not a big deal

My younger sister, I am sure she knows [someone probably blabbed by now, most of my family knows] but I don't care how she feels. She and I don't talk except at those family obligations. Even then it is not much.

[MarciManseau]

Well done, I'm so proud of you! And of your family. My sister is also very accepting and still one of my closet friends.

I hope it goes just as well with your older sister and your children.

Hugs, Marci

[Erica Lauren James]

Congratulations Melissa, thats fantastic. I really don't think you'll have very much trouble with your kids. Kids love their parents unconditionally. Like I mentioned before my two kids both know of me as well as see me and they would prefer to live with me ft, but I don't have the space yet.

Well again that's great news!!

Erica (Formally Kiera)

[Alicia_lynn419]

I told my youngest sister a few years back and my cousin... So far everyone has been great about ti... Still have 2 sisters that don't know, and I don't know that they need to know...

[Alaceann]

You lucky girl ,now get out there and do some shopping with your sister.:hugs: Maybe someday I'll tell my little sister.

[Eugenie]

This is great Melissa,

You must feel a lot better now that your mom and your younger sister know about your x-dressing.

I hope that I will find the strength to do the same, at least with my sister and my brothers... For my mom, she is now 85 and I don't think it would be a good thing to do to announce her that her eldest son is a x-dresser... Even though, I think that she has some doubts...

Being 61 now it makes coming out to my sister and brothers a lot more difficult. They have an image of their eldest brother that has been built over so many years...

I'm really glad for you that it worked so well in your case. I hope it is going to work as well with your other sister.

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Susan.]

Congrats, I will never tell my 2 younger sisters. But that is a long story.

But I'd be more afraid to tell them that I was bi-sexual than a crossdresser.:2c:

[Sinthia]

WOW!!! I am hapy for you that your Mom and little Sister took it so well. Now if you older sister is acceoting, you four can really have a 'Girls Night' of it. Hope Big Sis accepts Malisa also.

[angelfire]

Congrats Melissa! I'd say if you are afraid of telling your older sister, maybe have your younger sister there for support when you tell her. Maybe she could help, or at least give advice or an opinion on how she might react.

[Kieroney]

Well put, that's great you have such a understanding younger sister, always nice to get some support.

[Jilmac]

Melissa, it sounds like you have a good rapport with your sis and you mom. I wish you luck telling your older sis and most of all, your kids. You hang in there girl, the journey has only just begun. Luv and :hugs: Jill

[Angie G]

That's great and I hope telling the others go's as well for you hun :hugs:
Angie

[NatalieBliss]

These kind of of stories are always nice to hear, thanks for sharing! :D

[KandisTX]

As I have posted before, I have two sisters, both younger than I and both know. One has known since we were teenagers and the other found out when she was in High School. The older of the two was supportive and even gave me stuff to wear back then, now she won't even talk about it as if it were some evil dark secret (this attitude coming from an "exotic dancer" hello... pot meet kettle). The younger of the two is now one of my biggest supporters after wife and mother (all of whom not only support me, but provide me with items for Kandis of all types).

Kandis:love:

[melissacd]

I want to thank you all for your kind words and wonderful support. A couple of nights ago I found out from my ex that she had told my step daughter and son-in-law without my knowledge. She told me that my step daughter was not happy with all of this. I told my ex that I was not happy that she told my step daughter, that I wanted to tell her in my own good time and in my own way. I said that I had not noticed any change in her behaviour towards me and she said that my step daughter still loved me as a father and that that would not change. My ex also told me that the rest of her family would be totally upset if/when they find out about this side of me (veiled threat??? - I don't know).

Anyway, I went by my step daughter's after that and had a quick chat with her and she told me that she was upset that her mother told me that she told her, she said that she knew that I would tell her when I was ready and she said that she was fine with my cross dressing. She also said that her husband was fine with it too, that in fact he thought that it was cool. That being said she and I will get together next week to chat about this more and so that she can see my new place.

The story and reaction that I got from my step daughter was 180 degrees from the story that I was given by my ex about her reaction, it is perplexing that my ex would state it that way when it was miles from the truth and all I can take away from this is that she is projecting her feelings on others so that she can have her reasons for leaving me validated by others. My step daughter even said that she thinks that her mother is wrong about how the rest of her family will react because they all love me too. If/when I come out to them I guess I will find out of that is in fact the case.

In any case I am glad that my step daughter and son in law are okay with this and it is one more step forward in successfully telling my family. So far the only negative reaction to all of this has been my ex. I am not silly enough to believe that she will be the only one to react negatively, however, it is good to know that I have good support so far.

Huggs
Melissa

[tracigirl_tv]

Melissa, you have a great deal of courage in the face of a challenging situation. I admire you for that, and I wish you peace and happiness as your journey with your family moves forward.

[melissacd]

Traci,

Thanks very much for your thoughts. My whole life has crashed and burned because of cross dressing and my very selfish behaviours. I draw my courage from a need to start making things right, facing up to my demons, trying to redress the wrongs I have done and work on my short comings. Life will never get moving back in a positive direction if I do not face up to all of this, accept my role in defining all of this, accepting that it is an integral part of who I am and that that in turn affects others around me. They need to know how this affects my relationship with them, both in the past and going forward.

Huggs
Melissa

[gennee]

That's wonderful, Melissa. I pray that all goes well with the rest of the faimily.

Gennee
:hugs:

[deja true]

melissa, I'm so sorry about the turmoil you've been made to go through. But your ex is your ex for a reason. And your last post sounds like she's twisting the realities to maybe get back at you somehow. I'm afraid to say it, but you may have more damage control to deal with in future. Lordy, I hope not, but remember we're here.

rspect (for courage) and love

deja

[Lidia_tv]

Such stories are so nice to read. You are a very fortunate girl, and I must say I'm a bit envious, because my family - the female side - is rather conservative. Never had a sister, but my cousins are roughly my age and have no understading for crossdressing