Shopping all the clearences

[laceyjessica]

OMG the past three days have been a blast. scarry but a blast, i have been shopping the JCpenny and sears clearance. I have purchased 8 holiday gowns, 4 skirts and 7 blouses. I have also purchased 18 new bras and various matching panties. In addition i finally purchased 4 new pair of shoes 1 pump, i1 flat. i strappy pink flat, and 1 2/5 inch heel. The only thing is I have spent alot of money and lied to my family that I have been working overtime when I have been running around shopping. I feel me going towards wanting to go out in public but i want the help of a nice GG(anyone interested?) I am in maryland close to baltimore and I want to go out but I dont know how or when because my wife who hates my dressing and me keeps close tabs on what I am doing. Looking for friendsly advice of my sisters who have been through this. When my wife gets upset with me she goes right to my lingerie drawer and cust a few pieces. If she found my new purchases she would flip especially because she told me all she can handle is me wearing panties. Wait till she find out I have all these outfits new and old with 2 wigs shoes etc. It may be the straw that breaks the cammels back. Please looking for advice sas to my next step

[badkitty667]

Well, here's my advice:

Slow down there girl!

You are forging a straight path to disaster. I totally understand why you are doing it. Your wife is unsupportive and perhaps if I may be so bold, a petty individual. However, you know that by lying, shopping for items that disturb her, etc... You are only setting yourself up for one crazy battle royale. :gg:

Please, please, please take a moment and take a deep breath. Do you want a divorce? Because to me this behavior is indicative of a person who is desperately seeking a way out. I think in your situation, after reading your last post, this might be best. No sex in 6 years? Don't sleep in the same bed? She cuts up your lingerie and has outed you to a therapist for what I presume she believes is a 'mental illness'? Yeah. I think I'd have the Yellow Pages open right now flipping through A for Attorneys.

What's happened is your patience has run its course, and six years is pretty good. :titanic: Time to abandon ship. Now is the time to start planning your exit. You need to decide how aggressive you want to be on custody, possessions, etc. You need to know that this will get dirty. That everyone will hear every little piece of dirt she knows and invents. She'll probably start out with the panties and end with you shagging the cocker spaniel. Its just the world of divorce. Also, you might want to consider where your life is going. Are you going to remain as you are, or are you going to make a transition?

Like I said, slooooow down. Have a plan before you burn all your bridges. 0.02

[Shelly Preston]

I dont understand why you bought all those outfits unless you want to get things right out in the open

It could get real messy

Best advice

You hide your stuff for now and negoiate a time when you can dress so she does not see it

[laceyjessica]

i am sorry i must be rambeling but this is 30 yrs pent up and i think i want out but am scare and have been to take tha first step. i have been out many years ago and some teenage girls read me maybe that is why I am scared. Anything in my life i do in a hurry when i was in school study a little get by with a "c" go out dressed dont go for the gusto just hurry and go out and get read. I am spinning and i am soooo scared will i will land

[deja true]

Hey, lacey, you'd better slow down!!! You've opened 3 threads in a couple of hours and this one, all about you and your shopping spree does not speak well for you after your initial call for advice in the "What Should I Do?" thread earlier.

As a matter of fact, this thread of yours makes ME feel foolish for answering in the first one! You asked for serious help and advice, then posted threads that seem to ignore it!

We're here for support to folks who are genuinely concerned with their issues, not to help you justify a selfish and self-absorbed life!

Sorry if this a little harsh, but the tone of some of your posts throughout some of these threads indicates to me personally that you need a slap upside the head...

deja

(Whoa!, here's another one at 5:44, that's all about you. Take it easy,before you break something!)

[laceyjessica]

i feel like the damn opened when i wrote the first one i have never spoken to anyone before and i want to ask every question please accept my apologiese

[deja true]

Apology accepted , hun, but given the impending family difficulties you talk about in "What Should I Do?" , think you should be getting serious about that subject full-time until you've sorted it out.

Enjoy yourself, but not to the exclusion of your real life responsibilities.( an important subject that comes up here often.)

(a modicum of) respect & love

deja