transgendered only please! what do you come to this forum for?

[suzannecarr]

hello transpeople, i personally come to this forum for support and to understand why i do the things i do, why i like the things i like, and why i see women now and instead of thinking man id like to #$^% that, i notice whether her shoes look comfortable, whether she wears base and how much, whether her skirt matches her top, sometimes want to ask what color is your hair its so pretty! or basically any other form of envy i can think of! is the the modus operandi of most here, in other words in a nutshell is this the reason your here! oh yeah and i really dont come here to argue or put down others, thats a key for me, i figure that we get enough of that from our own spouses in many cases , and would get that if we came out to many of our families and friends, so thats a big thing for me too! does anyone feel the same way! does anyone feel as though at least sometimes this site is skewed more towards the feelings of spouses or do they feel as though this site is equally supportive of both! i sometimes feel as though in our envy , and not identifying with our natural gender we sometimes put the gender that so much would rather be or in some cases that we dress as on a pedestal! kinda like gay people glorifying madonna or barbara streisand or something, anyway lost the point again, the main question i have here is are the reasons i stated at first the main reasons for others and if so or not explain your point of view , please dont make this about proving your case or anything like that after all we all have our right to believe or see things as we do and i dont think its about proving a point, at least ive never felt that way i do however think we should stick strongly to our beliefs because sometimes thats just about all we have!! suzanne

[Mariah]

serfing, like I always do :)

keris

Edit: err sorry missread the title and stuff, I come here so that I have some support through everything.

[Fab Karen]

Transgender is an umbrella term. The word trans alone is meaningless as a label.

[Nicole Erin]

It is nice to be able to have some chat or communication with other sisters who can relate to being CD/TS. That is the main reason I like this forum.

The people I have spoken with [messenger or phone], the subject of CD'ing does come up but often it we chat about whatever...

This really is the best place to ask for help with CD issues and whatever.
There is a group here in Indy and one of the leaders of it is also a member here so it is a good way to contact her.

Plus, with such a big and diverse group like this, one can find out about almost anything. Yeah sure there are "search engines" to research but it is more fun and easy on a forum.

This place can be a source of inspiration. Even if but over a web page, we can kind of help each other with things.

The point is, this place has a lot to offer. I think pretty much anyone could benefit in some way, no matter what the issue at hand.

[Kate Simmons]

Well, if I have a thought or a point to bring out , I usually post a thread. I do read many of the other threads and don't always comment but sometimes do. I certainly don't know everything about CDing and generally learn a lot. I especially like reading others' views even if they do not agree with the majority or even if I do not agree with them. I respect them nonetheless and respect everyone here.

Really, how can we know how others feel about something unless they tell us? While we talk a lot here about fantasies and feelings , the hard truths of life bleed over as well and to put it bluntly, sometimes we need a good swift kick in the a** to really understand something, at least I do and I appreciate that.

All in all, the Forum is a positive experience for me which brings me to one of the main reasons I come here which is to see how all my friends here are doing and to read their latest adventures and experiences.:happy:

[TerriM]

When I was a teenager in the 60's I thought as many of us thought that I was alone in my feelings or that I was sick or something. I would read anything I could get my hands on that related to the subject and what I did read wasnt very happy reading. I never could tell anyone and didnt till I was 26yrs old and she was another CD. This forum and CD support groups, one in particular saved my life.

Terri

[Julie York]

does anyone feel as though at least sometimes this site is skewed more towards the feelings of spouses or do they feel as though this site is equally supportive of both!

Ooh golly gosh . Nice one.
:D

The general idea is that it is supposed to be supportive of anyone with a Cd/Ts/transgender agenda, problems, issues, etc blah etc whether they are a woman or not, or a CD/TS.


However, if you mix GGs into the formula you get a state of tension because of that 'goddess' syndrome, which is like introducing a female to 20 drunken guys on a night out. Some CDs go gah gah and act like they've had their brains removed at the slightest whiff of pheromones that doesn't smell like a rugby club changing room.

The main problem, from an unsupportive point of view, is not that there is a bias but that when someone is feeling suicidal you REALLY don't need an arse kicking from a fireman, "I have to pick up the bits of brain from the railway line you selfish ****er." "Have you ever seen a real fire! Do you have children!"

It's a matter of insensitivity. Big boots. Lack of understanding. And wanting someone to beat the crap out of because of personal issues, rather than any bias as such.

Oh yeah. To answer you question. Why do I come here? Because I wanted to undertand 'it' all better and make some sense of it. And I have, to some degree.


Why do I still come here?

Habit.

[Sandygal]

Just to remind myself that I'm not alone.

[suzannecarr]

Transgender is an umbrella term. The word trans alone is meaningless as a label.

i dont understand am i illiterate and you are correcting me, if so, then sorry for the grammar issue but seems you missed the point of the whole thread!
to respond to salandras remarks:
i have to agree with julie york on the kick in the ##*$ thing, im sure most of us get enough of that on a daily basis without running into a personal vendetta or someone who is having a bad day or week, year or life, to take things out on us who are here mainly for support and understanding! i just cant see how trying to find a weakness or trying to find a reason not to like someone (seems to be the aim of some here!) is a productive or helpful thing to do, it might help the person initiating the punishment, (short term) but in the long run it helps nobody! i know of several girls from this forum who no longer( or are thinking of it!) coming here to this forum, and i am not sure if thats a good thing or not! there are cliques in every walk of life but i d hoped that we "transpeople" ( new word, will be in thesauraus soon im sure!) need to stick together , learn from each other, and handle our business at home as best we can! thats my :2c:!:hugs:

[bimini1]

Sometimes to have a pity party because I am feeling sorry for myself and to wallow in my guilt.
Sometimes to remind myself I'm not alone and there are millions of men like me.
Sometimes to have some fun talking about it all.

Sometimes I feel depressed and am looking for a spark, a good word to build me up back into confidence. Sometimes coming on here depresses me more than I was before I logged on. But most of the time it lifts me up.

If I could just free my mind once and for all. Sometimes for me its good to get away from other's opines and leave the web alone. So my mind won't be colored by anyone else's opinion but my own.

[docrobbysherry]

As a fairly recent CD, I know a little about the aspects of CDing that I have personally experienced.
But, unlike my teen daughter, who thinks she KNOWS IT ALL now! I know I don't!

I come here to learn from other CDs. Many of whom have life times of experience.
Plus, there r SO MANY different aspects of dressing and of CDs.
I think I learn something every time I sign on here!

[Celeste]

I just find it really interesting to see others viewpoints on the subject of cding.It's all the questions you've never been able to ask anyone else and all of the insights you haven't thought of yet, given by people who try to care for each other.Here it seems there are those who will take time out of their day and extend it to others.

[AmandaM]

I come here cause I'm in the closet publicly. I am also able to say anything here. I can share my thoughts and dreams. I can vent my frustrations. I can discuss my feelings about maybe being TS. I can discuss the times I have been attracted to men as a woman. All the things that would be weird to talk about in person. :o

[Stephanie Anne]

I is a pink troll but I come here beause it makes me feel a bit more human to know there are others that like women's clothes (or the reverse for trans men, you guys are awesome!) nd a re just a bit like me.