cding turn on or need or both ?

[shirley1]

for me like most i've kinda got past the fetish side of dressing - now i enjoy the relaxation and comfort side of it - however i dont very often wear mini skirts or havnt for a while put one on tonite and i must admit it certainly aroused some of my original feelings - i was thinking to myself as i put my short denim mini on god how could i go out in this and not feel horny all nite ! especially with knee high socks and stilettos on - luckily i calmed down and the relaxation of being en femme came back quite quickly - but i just know for me there will always be a slight sexual thrill for me if i wear certain girly items - oh well thats life !

[KathrynTX]

Turn on, even after 25 years.

[shirley1]

no caus i am still the same person i was back then - i dont believe anyone really changes their reasons for cding - it starts and finishes (well it never finishes till your dead!) but but i honestly think most people just kid themselves its not a sexual thrill if it started off that way - who am i to know but sexual feelings just dont go away or change just caus you get older - you just learn to channel them a different way !

[Farrah]

It really depends on how I feel. Sometimes when I dressed it started out because i needed it, but the fetish would start to kick in.

[shirley1]

i apoligise if i gave the wrong response to someone 2 massages prior to this i must be a bit paranoid caus i thought they were having a go at me ! i have posted a few threads about how my cding started at 14 (25 years ago) and i just read the reply wrong maybe ! how many cders on this forum are a bit paraniod about what people think of them ! maybe i need to give this forum a rest for a bit caus to be honest its just confusing me and doin my head in now - i just need to meet people in the flesh for real i think ! sorry

[Stephanie Anne]

when I was a teen it was a turn on because it was sneaky. Now it is more about the clothes fit (male clothing for the most part is too tight on my hips).

That being said if I wear something slinky and sensual oh baby look out!

[Sandi jo]

Sometimes it can be both but mainly a turn on

[KathrynTX]

i apoligise if i gave the wrong response to someone 2 massages prior to this i must be a bit paranoid caus i thought they were having a go at me ! i have posted a few threads about how my cding started at 14 (25 years ago) and i just read the reply wrong maybe ! how many cders on this forum are a bit paraniod about what people think of them ! maybe i need to give this forum a rest for a bit caus to be honest its just confusing me and doin my head in now - i just need to meet people in the flesh for real i think ! sorry

No problem, hon. :hugs:

[Nicki B]

..but i just know for me there will always be a slight sexual thrill for me if i wear certain girly items - oh well thats life !

How old were you, when you first started dressing? :)

[deja true]

Sure, there will always be a sexual thrill. Early on, it's the erotic, naughty, can't -keep- my- hands- off thrill. But if we're thoughtful and questioning ,our motivation starts to mature, just as our minds do.

We'll never stop the endorphins flowing ( the pleasure hormones that our brains put out when we are pleased), but some folks do start to associate their dressing with other deeper thoughts; comfort, calmness, the rightness of what we are doing, the need to give expression to a long denied part of ourselves. That's sexual, too, but in a good way.

These feelings may start to supercede the earlier fetishistic-only feelings. They may not.

We all get something different from dressing. For some it'll always be about the sex. For others, it'll turn out to be about the gender. Either way, the mind, our most important sexual organ, is in control, usually.

deja

(more caffeine needed)

[Angie G]

Well some things just do that to you hun There is nothing worng with a good feeling :hugs:
Angie

[Alaceann]

It was always a sexual thrill when I was in my teen's and beyond, but as I'm getting older it's more about feeling good about myself and relaxing to unwind.
The erotic trill I always got is all but gone now.

[TGMarla]

35 years and counting. Still a thrill, still a turn-on. It's not the only reason I do it, but it's still a part of it, no denying.

[Cheryl Ann]

A need which becomes a turn-on once I give in to the need and dress.

[Carol A]

As a teenager I dressed because I hated being an ugly boy, no sex intended.
After I got married it was a sex turn on for the wife who to this day loves for me to dress up.
Sex we are both to old to worry about it but I dress everyday just because it seem the thing to do and beside I prefer to dress as a women as I can and will. :hugs:

[docrobbysherry]

Anything that consistantly cranks up my sex drive without Viagra, at my age, is a miracle!
I have some everyday dresses for Sherry to wear, but can't get past the,
" dress her up as hot as u can", thots that my mind wants to see!

[TSchapes]

I know I started dressing prior to knowing what sex was, It had to be around 4th grade. I'd dress in my mother's clothes and love the way I looked. It took me awhile to discover when kids called me a sissy, that that was intended as an insult. But once that finally hit home and the fact that I had few friends, I suppressed these feelings for years so that I would fit in. I couldn't act upon my fantasies and they became my source for arousal.

When I first dressed after college, it was like someone opened the flood gates. It seems abstinence makes the heart grow fonder, and your horniness stronger.

This is true today, if I don't dress for a week, yeow. Everyday, not so much.

Well Shirley, I think this has been more cathartic for me, than for you I'm afraid. I think we all over think this thing. My prescription is run a warm bath, put in some bubble bath, light a few candles and forget about it.

Love Tracy

[Bev06 GG]

Hi there Shirley,
I dont think your on your own there. I think there are many CDs who get turned on when dressing. I used to do a Dressing service and whilst doingmakeovers for guys they often had to apologise and leave the room. It wasn't a problem for me but they were obviously very uncomfortable with it. I suppose we all have something that hits the button
Bev

[Amy Hepker]

I used to be turned on about dressing all the time, but now I enjoy it in other ways also. I enjoy looking acting and being seen in feminine clothing.

[Samantha43]

It was a HUGE turn on for me when I was in my teens and 20's. I would dress very sexy (****ty) and get a great deal of satisfaction out of it. Now that I am in my mid 40's it is more of a content feeling that I have when I dress. I never really get the "turned on" feeling I did then. Now I dress like a 40 something woman would. I love the professional business woman look.

I must admit that I still occasionally get the mini skirts out and have a little fun!

[Bev06 GG]

It was a HUGE turn on for me when I was in my teens and 20's. I would dress very sexy (****ty) and get a great deal of satisfaction out of it. Now that I am in my mid 40's it is more of a content feeling that I have when I dress. I never really get the "turned on" feeling I did then. Now I dress like a 40 something woman would. I love the professional business woman look.

I must admit that I still occasionally get the mini skirts out and have a little fun!

Well Samantha,
Take it from me, the professional business woman look is now more likely to be a trouser suit. Far more practical for getting in and out of cars, and every bit as smart as a skirt and jacket.
I have to dress up for work every day because of the nature of my job. I very rarely wear the really fem stuff.
Bev

[DonnaR]

It really depends on what I'm wearing. If I'm wearing a dress, pants suit or pair of jeans and a blouse or turtle neck, It's not much of a turn on. If I'm wearing a mini skirt, bikini or anything made of silk or satin, watch out.[EVIL

[Hermina]

It really depends on what I'm wearing. If I'm wearing a dress, pants suit or pair of jeans and a blouse or turtle neck, It's not much of a turn on. If I'm wearing a mini skirt, bikini or anything made of silk or satin, watch out.[EVIL

I agree with DonnaR, it depends. For me, it is a massive turn on if I'm dressed all ****ty, but not too much if just some conventional clothing.

[SatinDoll00]

I have to go with both.

I do it more often than not because I want to 'be Morgan' but I do find myself aroused more often than not as well!!

[shirley1]

How old were you, when you first started dressing? :)

i was 13 i think - or just short of 14 - i think i know where your going with this ! adolescence - i have never denied and never would that it was and still is a bit of a turn on for me - i did however have feelings before this (dont ask me what age) junior school - where i started to have feelings of envy towards girls - and i remember watching a tv drama play about late 70s about a guy puttin his moms clothes on while they were out - and it hit a nerve with me - but i guess i was just to young to make anything of it - i was still into watching starskey and hutch

ps maybe watching that television drama put the idea in my head a few years previously - never thought about a possible connection before - god thats strange - i also had a very domoneering mother - maybe i should have kept that appointment i had with a sexual therapist once - i dont know - its got past that stage now - nothings going to change who and what i've become thats for sure !

[Nicki B]

i was 13 i think - or just short of 14 - i think i know where your going with this ! adolescence - i have never denied and never would that it was and still is a bit of a turn on for me - i did however have feelings before this (dont ask me what age) junior school

Many of us are aware of it well before our teens - so the sexuality thing comes along afterwards and gets mixed up with it (we are sexual beings)..

My first memories are when I was 4, trying on my mom's stockings and shoes?

[Melora]

The question of this thread.. "Is it a turn on, need or both?", is a weird question for me.. The question is "Is it a Fetish?", I think, as a fetish IS both.
For me the INTEREST, started when I was very young, around 4 yrs. My mom gave me some pantyhose to play with, and I was fascinated at the time for a while..
In my early teens, I developed a "new" interest in womens clothing, like alot of us did, especially for Me.. Pantyhose.. I not only loved to look at them riding on the leggs of girls, I Loved the sensuous feel/texture of the garment, hosiery as well as other womens clothing felt when I wore them..
My late teens to early twenties I developed a huge mass of clothing to feed the Fetish.. Still being "Turned ON", but not really developing, or as another writer on this thread put it.. "motivation starts to mature", = A great way to say it.

My late 20's - early 30's and present, My "motivation has matured", to totally new heights, maybe because of more exposure on the Internet and such..
I have developed a new Fetish or at least an interest in this last decade.
I have been totally turned on by trying to emulate the female look and form.
It Totally "Turns Me On", when I can take some pictures after I have put to task my limmited makeup skills, as well as dressing up and ACTUALLY getting a few pictures that I kinda like. The Motivation for the "love of the feel of it", actually
has progressed into something totally awsome for me. So I can answer the question as a HUGE Yes.. It is Both..
Thanks in much to this Website..

[Kate Simmons]

I suppose it started out that way for me. As Nicki said, we are sexual beings and the issues get confused, especially with raging hormones. Since I have integrated my feelings, I no longer equate the two. Sex is beautiful in it's own right and for the most part it all comes off in the bedroom anyway and who I am is not determined by what I am wearing or not wearing. I no longer really need to dress but do it simply because I choose to and it is a form of art and expression for myself mostly. We are all different as individuals as much as we are similar it seems.:happy: