friend ask me what do i do

[Rebecca piper]

:confused: hi all
A very close friend came to see me last week ( knows i am a cross dresser ) and me what do i do i court my son wearing my clothes he is a boy of 12 years old. I told her two take him out and buy some girls clothes for him and let him wear then in the house. what do you think and would you do.

yours rebecca :confused: :confused:

[Cathe TV]

Wow - wrong answer! Make him wear girls clothes? No, I don't think so. Tell your friend to sit down with her son and have a quiet, nonconfrontational talk about why he was wearing her clothes and what his motives were. Kind of like the talk many of us would have liked to have had if we were caught dressed.

[Claire B]

Hello Rebecca, I think you gave your friend some good advise. Yes she should purcase her son some feminine clothing. Making them avalibale for him. Also might suggest that your friend read up on the subject of cross dressing. That way if she has any questions herself. She may be able to get answers.

Hugs, Claire

[RachelDenise]

I'm pretty certain that most 12 year olds have little if any idea about what all this means. I agree with opening the lines of communication, but I think he probably has more questions than answers. I would agree with having his mom get up to speed with all the variations of dressing (CD,TV, TS, just curious) and hope they can make their relationship work! An extra bonus would be to have his own clothes if he wants them. You should feel free to help given your perspective.

[sarah]

Hi Rebecca,
I think this will bring all our dreams out .what we think might be tainted by what we would have liked to happen to us ,but then when we were twelve it would have been so embarasing to have been caught .So my sugestion based on how i would have liked it to happen if it was me ,it goes like this ...firstly being a mother i would choose the right time when we were alone and point out there is nothing wrong with what happened .that eliminates the guilt .then i would tell him how wrong it is that boys are not allowed to wear pretty clothes and suggest we could play dress ups together when no one else is around.giving a child the opurtunity to express themselves will only develop them into caring ,loving adults and that is surely not a bad thing..xxx

[Wendy me]

yes what cathy said .... forceing him/her to dress is like being punished like something was done wrong....

[Lucy Jayne GG]

I agree with Cathe,no need to scar the poor kid over this,Nothing good could come from forcing him to wear girls clothes,Who was that one serial killer...I cant think of his name,or what exatly he did,But I remember hearing about it on like American Justice,or Forensic Files...One of those shows,He was abused by his mom when he was a kid,She made him dress like a girl and made him wear make up and curl his hair,and she would make him go to school like that,and wouldnt allow him anywhere in boys clothes,and even had some girl name for him...It was really twisted...And one day after years of abuse he killed the old woman,or she died of old age or something,and he went on this murdering rampage killing women...Real sicko...But that,Though its an extreme case is what could happen from that kind of abuse.

I think if the mother sat down with him and talked about it,with out scaring the crap out of,And making him feel safe,then it would probably be easier for the kid,and if he wanted girls clothes,then she should give him the option of wearing girls clothes.

But at the same time he is only 12 years old,This could be nothing.Most little boys go through phases like that,some grow up to be crossdressers,some grow up to be mass murderers,and some grow up to be "normal" men who wear men's clothes and dont ever think about it again.

He's probably just trying things out,messing around and its nothing serious.
Just ply him with ice cream and see whats up,dont freak him out,theres no point other then to be sadistic.

Just my two cents,
Lucy J

[KarenNY]

Definitely don't force the kid as that could prove traumatic for him.
Absolutely sit down and talk with him and find out what his reasons are for crossdressing. Instead of freaking out, my mother sat me down and we had a little heart-to-heart chat about why I liked dressing up (I just liked how her clothes looked and felt). That led to her being more understanding and allowing me the freedom to express myself, in girls' clothing that fit me, at least within the safe confines of our house. I was extremely fortunate to have an understanding mother, and I hope your friend is as understanding with her son! :)

Karen :)

[Jennifer in CO]

Hope she would do what my Mom did for me - only it took till I was grown to realize it. She never ask, confronted or anything me about wearing hers or my sisters things.. wish she had but it didn't happen. Instead tho, she started buying most of my clothes at GAP and similar stores. ... no problem now, But in the early 70's they were just girls/womens apparel. I nevered caught on that my wild colored jeans with big bell bottoms or my lace-up Vee neck shirts were girls - just a clueless teenager waaayy back then.

Jenn

[KewTnCurvy GG]

What Cathe said, obviously going out and getting him clothes and MAKING him wear clothes sounds barbaric and inappropriate. It's a little like your son has a playgrrl mag so you go buy him a porn video. Let him take the next step, when he's ready and keep the lines of communication open.

hugs
kew

[Julie York]

Ah right NOW I remember your name.

You are part 1 and part 2 of How I Was Made To Cross Dress.

Interesting that after the trauma you went through, that made you So upset, that you now suggest this as a SOLUTION to someone's problem with their child of 12.

You smell like a troll or bloody self indulgent.

[Stephanie]

I agree with your advice of being non-judgemental about it and opening up the lines of communication but I wouldn't ever suggest forcing a child into doing something that they might not want to do. This child be TG/TS and may want to crossdress on a more or less regular basis but he may also have just been trying on clothes out of curioisity. Either way, I think your friend should just find a time to sit down with her son and talk about his feelings about wearing womens clothes and find more out about what he wants and go from there. This child is certainly fortunate that he has a parent who is at least somewhat knowlegable of and can better understand TG issues in a way that most parents, unfortunately, can't or won't.

[Sharon]

Ah right NOW I remember your name.

You are part 1 and part 2 of How I Was Made To Cross Dress.

Interesting that after the trauma you went through, that made you So upset, that you now suggest this as a SOLUTION to someone's problem with their child of 12.

You smell like a troll or bloody self indulgent.

what Julie said! :(

[Rebecca piper]

all i ment to say was get him some clothes so he can wear them if he would like to i did not mean to force him to wear them. i am haveing a talk with his mother this week and with the son as the mother as ask me to do so it is also a one perent family and the son is very close to his mother thank you for the good comments not happy from some other rebecca

[Julie York]

all i meAnt to say was get him some clothes so he can wear them if he would like to. I did not mean to force him to wear them. I am having a talk with his mother this week and with the son. As the mother Has ask me to do so it is also a one pArent family and the son is very close to his mother. Thank you for the good comments not happy from some other rebecca

If that is what you meant then fair enough. However, at least SIX other people read it the same way I did.

[Tamara Croft]

hi all
A very close friend came to see me last week ( knows i am a cross dresser ) and me what do i do i court my son wearing my clothes he is a boy of 12 years old. I told her two take him out and buy some girls clothes for him and make him wear then in the house. what do you think and would you do.

yours rebecca :confused: ;) :)
What kind of advice is that?? This is a 12 year old child. You can't go telling his mum to make him wear girls clothes, thats child abuse. The mother just needs to talk to her son about this, as there is probably a reason behind it.... maybe it's a cry for attention.

'What do I think?' I think that has to be the most stupidest advice I have ever heard. Yeah that's harsh isn't it.... but you imagine what that advice could do to that child in the long run. Think before you speak!

Tamara

[norbie]

This 12 year old child doesn't wan't to be a CD, proberly wouldn't even know what it means.
You could have told his mum that this is most likely a form of 'coming out' of childhood, coming out of puperty and most likely get interested in girls, so he immidiates the image.
Any advise at this age about Cd, TS, TG and so on could ruin this child for life.
Best would be to see his mum and talk to her that it could be just the first interest in girls and nothing serious. But don't encourage CD at this age, let him develope the natural way.
Just my thoughts,
Norbie :(