Changes in everything and tense

[courtney44]

I have gone thru alot lately, including quitting a job and missinform of a new one. The past week or so, I have been tense of the point of wanting to dressup, but my problem is that we live with a friend of mine that dont know about me and I some days wonder how things would go if he knew. He has no job, so he is here near 24/7. Some of the things he says make me think I would loose a friend if he knew. He is a country/southern type. Have any of you had this and what did you do to work thru it?

[Sarah Doepner]

It sounds to me like you need to get some privacy so you can dress without letting your roomie know for the time being. I would take my time doing a little (a lot?) of education on your roomie before coming out. Once you are out, there is no going back, so you need to be sure it will all be on your terms and in your favor. Otherwise, you could be in for more tension as well as looking for a new place to live.

[courtney44]

I undrestand that, thanks. If you read back,, I have told my gf. She has worked with me in what looks good and what dont. Just that we bearly get time to have the house. Someday we plan on getting our own place. But till then, I feel so limited.

[EllenTheWonderGirl]

but always hiding something, always worrying about something, always considering others feelings rather than wondering why they don't consider mine would drive me insane. Absolutely insane.

Please don't let fear be your guide through life.

[Marvina Martian]

You could stage something....

Get your GF to make a bet with you or argue with you about something while he is right there. The loosing side of the bet will be that she will dress you up one day a week for the year and make you clean the house or something like that. You will have to work out the details, but make sure that it is stated that it consistent and for a long time.
This way he will be like, oh man, that sucks to be you and you will be like, oh ya, it does :heehee:

There are so many ways to go about this that it can be very fun planning it if you make it so. Then executing the plan will be even more fun. She could be like, the first time I'll make you up but the rest of the time you will have to do everything yourself from then on out, once you have lost the bet and are getting the terms of your "punishment".

On holidays like Halloween you will have to dress and hand out candy and if you have a party you will have to be the hostess. On her birthday she can have a party and you will have to serve her, fun stuff like that.

You can be very creative with this and be allowed to dress if you just put some thought into it and commit. I have seen this work before so think about it ;)

[StayceeCD]

How about just locking yourself in your room! If he knocks.. Oops.. Sorry.. Had my Ipod on couldn't hear ya! :D


Get your GF to make a bet with you or argue with you about something while he is right there. The loosing side of the bet will be that she will dress you up one day a week for the year and make you clean the house or something like that. You will have to work out the details, but make sure that it is stated that it consistent and for a long time.
This way he will be like, oh man, that sucks to be you and you will be like, oh ya, it does :heehee:



Although THIS sounds like MUCH more fun!!! :heehee:

[DemonicDaughter]

Coming out to anyone about any secret is a scary thing. You just never really know how they will react. But living in hiding is even scarier to me...

[Jamie001]

If he finds out and as a result decides not to be your friend, then he never really was a friend to begin with. Friends that cannot accept you "as you are" are not real friends and it is best not to have them. This is one of the true acid tests for a real friend.



I have gone thru alot lately, including quitting a job and missinform of a new one. The past week or so, I have been tense of the point of wanting to dressup, but my problem is that we live with a friend of mine that dont know about me and I some days wonder how things would go if he knew. He has no job, so he is here near 24/7. Some of the things he says make me think I would loose a friend if he knew. He is a country/southern type. Have any of you had this and what did you do to work thru it?

[teresa jeen]

if you have more friends than you can count on one hand there not friends just accuaintences.a true friend would accept you anyway. not to mention its your house Duh. ask him to "go out" for 3 or 4 hrs to give you time to be alone.