Dating a man.

[Cheryl Ann]

A man in my apartment building recently discovered my "secret" because I was careless with some of my finer underwear in the laundry room. He smiled and sort of asked me out. He seemed nice, but how does a girl know if a man really is nice? If he does take me out, what should I wear? Where should I suggest we go? How far should we go? I have never dated a man before and have mixed feelings about all of this, but I still find it very exciting.

[Kate Simmons]

He just assumed you are a CD or you told him? It's up to you my friend but keep your guard up whatever you decide to do until you determine his intentions. If you do decide to go anywhere, my advice is to stick with public places until you figure it out. It's not only what a woman would do but is common sense as well.

[Deborah Jane]

I agree with Salandra on this one!! Good advice Sal!!
Just be careful Cheryl Ann until you know his intentions towards you, but also if it,s what you want, once you know him properly have fun:happy:

[Stephanie Anne]

But is he cute? I would just wear something casual on a first date. I would even go so far as just dress how you feel comfortable. If he only cares for you in girl mode be careful!

I agree someplace open and not too formal. Good luck and I hope you hit it off!

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

how old is he???

find out if hes married first....

he might be a bi married old guy.....:2c:

[Wendi0012]

Cheryl Ann first you must ask do you feel comptable dating a man and if the answer is yes. Then find a wonderful outfit that will both let him know that he's got you but still has to have respect for you. I would choose a place for dinner that allows for conversation and yet some privacy after all it's a fisrt date so you want to have fun.

This sounds like something really good for you and I am so jealous have a wonderful time and let us know how everything goes.


Love Always,
Wendi:happy:

[annekathleen]

That's one of my fantasies!
Going out in public with a crossdresser that can definatley pass in public.
It's be fun!
It can be as innocent as just two friends meeting for some drinks and some munchies.
Nothing has to happen.
I guess it's going to depend upon your sexual preferences and your unsettled curiosities,
The only thing that I'd want to be 100% sure of, is what are his sexual preferences and what are his curiosities that he's trying to settle.

[MJ]

it would be best to go very very slow on this , get to know him first build trust take your time . and make sure your safe at all times .

[Cheryl Ann]

Thanks for all the advice girls! He does seem nice but I will be very careful and go slowly. He is around my age, mid-20's. I did not actually tell him I was a CD but he seemed to assume it. He is cute and I think he is single.

[Eugenie]

I would suggest that in the end, only you will know the answer to your questions...

Of course, as has been said, you should be careful on the first date...

By and large, love should be the main motivation... This includes mutual respect, tenderness, and only then only if there is a strong feeling of attraction, the exchange can develop as an intimate relationship. At that point it doesn't matter if the two partners are male and female, two females, one female at birth and a transgender, two transgenders, a transgender and a male or two males... only the true feeling of love counts...

:love:
Eugenie

[Kristen Marie]

I'd be curious as to how he assumed your were a CD, but try to stay in a public place when you go out. The unfortunate thing is that he knows where you live so just be very careful....

[Julie York]

Don't have sex until the first date.



No. That's not right is it.



I'll get back to you.

[Ressie]

Is it possible that he just thinks your gay and not CD? One pair of panties doesn't make one a total CD. He may expect you dressed in drab for the date.

[docrobbysherry]

Please remember something important. Just because he is acting as the man and u the woman, doesn't give him ANY rite to take liberties!
Even if he pays for everything! Only do what U want to do!

[CharleneCD]

Is it possible that he just thinks your gay and not CD? One pair of panties doesn't make one a total CD. He may expect you dressed in drab for the date.

This was my thought also. You need to talk to him and find out what he expects and what he is after. By the tone of post I can tell your interested. If after talking to him everythings good, just go out and have fun.

[Ema1234 GG]

I was careless with some of my finer underwear in the laundry room. He smiled and sort of asked me out.

Why on earth would that automatically mean you're CD unless you told him. I do all the washing in this house, so just because I wash my partners male clothes, does that make me an FTM CD? You could easily have been washing your wife's underwear.

[UASIANGAL]

I was wondering, he saw you as a man and asked you out, so anyone thinks he is gay and wants to go out with a gay man? I mean, how do you know he likes to see you dressed as a woman? Maybe some chit chat before the big date would be better to know how to dress for the date. Do tell how things worked out and good luck!

[Mollyanne]

I personally wouldn't assume anything, being that you both live in the same complex I would make it a point to meet him and ask him one simple question---Do you want to date me as a woman or a man? His answer will tell you everything!!!!!!!

:love: Mollyanne

PS: Be careful; NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!

[Cheryl Ann]

Thank you all for your wise advice and recommendations! I might well be assuming things which are not true. There was also a sports bra besides panties which he saw. I am not married and do not have a girl friend but have no way of knowing if he is aware of that. I will try to summon up the courage to talk directly with him as CharleneCD, UASIANGAL, and Mollyanne suggested, and that should clear things up. I appreciate the GG perspective from Ema1234. This all is new and scary to me. I will be careful.

Hugs to all!

Cheryl Ann

[PatriciaT]

A man in my apartment building recently discovered my "secret" because I was careless with some of my finer underwear in the laundry room. He smiled and sort of asked me out. He seemed nice, but how does a girl know if a man really is nice? If he does take me out, what should I wear? Where should I suggest we go? How far should we go? I have never dated a man before and have mixed feelings about all of this, but I still find it very exciting.

Judging from what I have gathered on various forums, it could be extremely dangerous if he at first feels you are a real GG and then finds out what you are a CD. Hurt a male ego and your are in big trouble.
If he knows your are a CD and is willing to accept you for what you are and are interested in you in this sense it might be alright. It may be alright if he is a bit lonely and looking for interesting companionship.
The obvious question is whether the CD or the other person is gay and has such inclinations. If one side is gay and the other isn't, big problems could arise.
Basically this is a situation fraught with danger and as a general rule is to be avoided.
Patricia

[wannabie]

I was wondering, he saw you as a man and asked you out, so anyone thinks he is gay and wants to go out with a gay man? I mean, how do you know he likes to see you dressed as a woman? Maybe some chit chat before the big date would be better to know how to dress for the date. Do tell how things worked out and good luck!


She's got a good point. How do you know he wants to date a woman?
ask first.

[Autumndawn]

I had a wonderful night out a month ago, going to CD/TS friendly bars. My last stop is a popular place due to drag shows ongoing through the week. I hooked up with a very handsome man, and we shared a few dances together and I think "two" drinks. I was absolutely in girl heaven! I loved the one slow dance we did too. I have always, always, always considered myself to be heterosexual. The feel of his strong arms around me and his hands on my waist just left me with stars in my eyes!
He knows that I am a crossdresser, I am not that good at passing, but that slow dance was mesmerizing! I loved his pecks on my neck, and completely to my amazement I enjoyed kissing his during the dance... The sad thing? The place didn't play anymore slow dances after.:eek: We exchanged e-mails and have been corresponding that way since. I'd love to go out and be with him again, both our work schedules are just to crazy to allow it till spring.
He was so totally accepting of me, and I loved the feel of him against me while dancing! Is this just a really deep "pink" fog?

[LotusFlower]

As a GG I would say be careful and do a lunch or coffee date. Just a casual get to know each other. Take things slow.

[Cheryl Ann]

False alarm girls! Turns out he is only into GGs, but he was very sweet about telling me. Thanks to all of you for your help. Special thanks to the GGs who posted and messaged me. You are right, I do approach this more like a little girl than a mature woman (you know who you are!). But it is difficult for someone raised as a boy to see and experience life as a female, so we CDs have the excuse that we never got the training that GGs get as a matter of course.

Hugs to all!

Chery Ann

[Deborah Jane]

Thanks for the update Cheryl Ann...I,d wondered how things had turned out for you.