Help With Wife

[girdlesa]

I am a closet CD from Spain,39 years old, i am married and my wife do not know...
I want to be your friend and that help me to solving my problem,i love my wife but ..... is a so sweet and wonderful being cd... but my wife not will be understand,:sad:

Sweets kisses for all dear girls :love:

pd, asap show pics ¡¡¡

[VERONICARH]

I have the same problem you have . I love to cd, but know SO would not understand. I am also in the position I can't tell anybody close by, due to my high profile occupation.

[Angie G]

I know hun I was in that spot. After talking to my wife she knows it's a part of me and who I am. she understands and is ok with my dressing. So maybe there my be hope she my be OK with it I never thought my wife would be. :hugs:
Angie

[Secret Sis]

I too am still trying to get the courage to tell my wife... I've been considering it for over six months now, but the time never seems quite right. She is an absolutely wonderful person who would be understanding once the initial shock wore off... Hopefully soon.... but it seems like I've been saying that for a long time now......

[Sandra]

,but my wife not will be understand,:sad:




Do you know for certain she won't understand? A lot of wives/partners do understand, it's being lied to and their SO's being deceitful for so long that makes them mad.

[Sandi jo]

Its better to be upfront or you'll never know how she really feels.My wife is well aware I love to dress.I'm not saying it will be easy at first but it always good to talk

[Shelly Preston]

You might want to read the link in my signature on telling your partner

There is always a chance you will get caught

So be prepared for that day as a there will be a lot of hurt involved if you get caught

[Amy Hepker]

All you can do is talk to her, it is better that you do not find things from your wife, she will find out sooner or later and if she thinks you were lying to her or keeping something from her she may not be to happy. You never know, she maybe more accepting than you think. It all depends on how much you LOVE each other. GOOD LUCK!!!

You will always be the way you are, can you accept her not wanting you around.

[NatieBe]

Hola Mija... Just wanted you to know that my wife is also from Spain and doesn't know. I'm not sure she would understand either. Si quieres mandame una nota ... Ella es de Madrid

[girdlesa]

Thanks heart, i am afraid wife cath me dressed ¡¡¡¡¡:sad:

[DanaR]

A lot of wives/partners do understand, it's being lied to and their SO's being deceitful for so long that makes them mad.

I agree, if anything is a relationship killer, this would be it. When someone lies to you, how can you ever trust them again?

[NatieBe]

Bueno..... Be honest with her, it's the only way..it will be hard at first but.... Tu sabes...Besos..

[RobertaFermina]

you don't have to tell her, just fall more deeply in love with her, and help her fall more deeply in love with you.

when you two are hopelessly in love with eachother, no revelation will seperate you.

be honest with yourself and you will know when telling this truth will help, and not hurt.

:hugs: :love:

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[girdlesa]

Bueno..... Be honest with her, it's the only way..it will be hard at first but.... Tu sabes...Besos..



Gracias cariño, pero es tan dificil.....:sad:

[NatieBe]

Me Lo dices o me lo quentas!!! LOL Estamos aqui siempre para ti.. OK?

[jaina]

I am a closet CD from Spain,39 years old, i am married and my wife do not know...
I want to be your friend and that help me to solving my problem,i love my wife but ..... is a so sweet and wonderful being cd... but my wife not will be understand,:sad:

Sweets kisses for all dear girls :love:

pd, asap show pics ¡¡¡

Tell her, you owe her that.
If she doesn't understand or won't accept you, find someone that will.

[unclejoann]

If you want to take the chance to tell her, that is honest but a big risk. Whatever you do, just talk -- DO NOT SHOW HER.

[TGMarla]

Hello. And welcome.

My wife doesn't understand, either. One time she said to me, "How can I understand it if you don't understand it yourself?" You know what? She's got a good point there. But she knows I do this, and seems to love me anyway. That means so much to me. I love her, too.

So that's probably going to be the bottom line after all the feathers fly. It's tough, or maybe even impossible to entirely keep a secret from someone you are sharing your life with. I didn't manage to pull it off. She found out, and she didn't like it at all. Still doesn't, I imagine. But I still dress....alot. And she knows that I do this. We're still married, and we still get along rather well, I'm happy to say.

Good luck with it.

[gennee]

Tell her when you feel comfortable about it. My wife was shocked when I told her three years ago but now she accepts my dressing. She borrows some of my clothing and jewelry. Easier on the finances :D.

Gennee

[Sheila]

I agree, if anything is a relationship killer, this would be it. When someone lies to you, how can you ever trust them again?

it's not always a relationship killer but it can put a big dent in the trust part of the relationship that takes a lot of healing .......... I know as we have been there, and occasionally revisit if things kept getting hidden.


Talk to your wife hun it may not be as bad as you think

[Sheila]

Tell her, you owe her that.
If she doesn't understand or won't accept you, find someone that will.

and there is a queue out there .......... where ????????????
Disposable wives again :doh:

[Raychel]

I have to tell you that I was scared as can be about telling her. But felt in my mind that this was something that she needed to know. When I told her she was very upset for a few months. But not so much about the CDing part. More about the fact that I had kept it from her and maybe not told her the entire truth at times in the past. It was WAY more about the trust issue then the CDing part.

For the most part she has excepted me. She knows where the key to my closet is and isn't afraid to go in it if needed.

I can't say that it will work for everyone, because every woman has differant opinions about it. But a good relationship is built around good communication and trust in your partner.

I will say that our relationship is much better now than it every was before.

:2c:
Raychel

[VeronicaH]

If they really love you they will understand.

Veronica :battingeyelashes: